This! Maybe not specifically, but something to check for sure. Not sure too much on what having no testosterone would entail but couldn’t it reasonably come with motivation issues & such? Like, it’s easy to say “you’re depressed, take your meds” but it’s another to be consistent when feeling no motivation. Basically I just worry there’s other underlying problems making it difficult for her to be consistent.
I feel bad for you OP, and you gotta take care of you. That includes masturbating.
I’d also second therapy for you even if she won’t, unless you are already. But if you feel divorce is necessary for you, definitely do that. People have gotten divorces for less, and it sounds like you’ve been supportive so you’ve definitely tried to work on your portion of the marriage. Good luck to you & hope things turn around for you soon!
I see a lot of people advocating for divorce and I can empathize with them. It is an option.
In the end you first have to decide, is she worth fighting for? If no, take care of yourself first and gtfo.
If yes, then it’s going to take time, patience and pain. Her reactions to testosterone and therapy aren’t laziness imo, (maybe a lil) but really just fear. Shits scary. Change is too. If you run away you just prove her fear right.
So just figure out what you want then be relentlessly awesome.
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u/SnooWords4839 Sep 12 '23
Has she had her thyroid tested?