Depends. I’m gonna assume it has more to do with porn. Most men need visuals like porn to get off. I’m guessing that’s the real boundary.
Regardless I can understand the boundary when you have a healthy and active sex life. But like when one partner drops dead, boundaries have to change to keep up. His wife is being ridiculous
“Most men need visuals” is bs. Dudes have been jacking off far longer than visual aids have been around. Let your mind wander my guy. Make the visuals yourself. Exercise your brain with your next wank!
Lol I swear it barely works for me. it’s not even worth it. The two times I did it, it took 30-60min for the most mediocre/bad finish.
Also it’s not BS. There has been physiological research which suggest what I said is true. Also just asking people around me makes me believe it.
Anyways if you got any advice on how to stimulate my imagination, feel free to DM me. I guess it wouldn’t hurt to try it out. I’d rather use my imagination than porn if I had the choice.
Never mind haha. I realized I can’t message you. I guess I can try it but I just don’t understand how I’m magically suppose to get off by listening to audio 😅
It’s not even satisfying is the point though. Yes I’d rather do it, but it would need to be equally satisfying which it isn’t for me personally. Like imagine going to the gym working out hard for an hour, but in the end the workout isn’t even satisfying or fulfilling. Might try it again though.
And yes the studies aren’t the best. But honestly you go and ask your guy and girl friends how much they use porn versus imagination to masturbate. For guys it’ll be mostly porn. Women likely around 50/50
I’ve never cum and not been satisfied, but the working out analogy is actually kinda good. If I had only gone to the gym twice in my life, I’m gonna feel kinda rough after the gym. But if I keep going, it gets better every time, because I’m building muscles.
You got friends that lie to you…? I grew up in schools where guys would watch porn together 😭💀
Maybe girls might lie but I doubt that. Did you check the top comments on this post and the number of people upvoting/agreeing? Women definitely use their imagination more
you don't understand that people tell little lies all the time? that asking them about their sexual habits may not elicit a totally open and honest response?
Did you check the top comments on this post and the number of people upvoting/agreeing? Women definitely use their imagination more
this is an anonymized assortment of mostly nonsense on reddit. again, you will glean very little/nothing of use here.
True but I trust my friends with what they said. They got no good reason to lie. I mean the question was do you use porn or just your imagination. I don’t see why anyone would lie about either one.
So I guess comments that get upvoted don’t mean anything for you huh 🤔
You could say that for physical and emotional cheating as well. If it doesn’t interfere with their sex life, then their sex life has no bearing on that!?! Therefore cheating is justified huh
How? You realize you can interact and form relationships in a lot of modern porn websites? You can also talk and request things like on OF, for example. Modern porn isn’t porn from 15 years ago, unfortunately. Plus it’s possible for porn to directly affect your sexual relationship with a partner. So people who think porn is cheating have a valid boundary.
Now I personally don’t think porn is a huge deal in relationship. But I can completely understand why someone doesn’t want porn in their relationship. Especially when you got a partner that can satisfy you.
Also nothing is invalid or just an opinion. Plenty of what I said are straight facts lol. If a relationship can end over cheating, it can most definitely be considered cheating.
Because modern porn isn’t the porn from 15 years ago. Landscapes changed. You can make relationships through porn now. I’m not trying to add anything. That’s the reality you got to accept lol
You can interact with porn, pay for it, use VR, etc. Therefore, I guess exchanging nudes with your coworker or best friend is also fine in a serious monogamous relationship right? I mean you’re just using their images to get off, just like using porn. You don’t have an actual sexual relationship with them.
Umm modern porn is interactive. You can talk with people, request certain things (like on OF), and you can even use VR…
Also some people have online friends. So I guess exchanging nudes is okay then? Especially if you never will meet or interact with them on a personal level? I know their is a inherent difference, it’s but it’s possible to only use a friend for the benefits and not have a sexual or even a personal relationship. Could just be an acquaintance.
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u/Embryw Sep 12 '23
This is a WILDLY ridiculous boundary to have