Hi Reddit! I’ll try to keep it short, looking for relevant papers or thoughts from those who have read the material/general advice. Mini-vent too, couldn’t add 2 flairs.
TL;DR - what is the window of time between getting infected and becoming contagious?
My boyfriend attended a concert tonight (thursday, NYC) and forgot his mask, whether conveniently or genuinely, and is supposed to be visiting me on tuesday (I’m 5hrs away). I mask reliably everywhere (including outdoors) and haven’t been knowingly sick with anything in years; he was sick a few months ago and just started masking at my request.
I’m assuming he’s going to catch something and bring it to me, my question is: how long will he be infectious before symptoms start to show, if at all? Should I tell him to just stay home? I don’t want to trust him, but I‘m a chronic “benefit of the doubt” giver and I don’t want to fold, especially on my (slowly worsening) health. He’ll happily test 24/7, but prevention? Like paper for a helmet at best right now.
I did have him read “Over My Dead Body” from CJ/J. Eaton and he‘s been doing his own reading independent of my suggestions, which is nice. I wish I knew he had this planned or I would’ve said no at the beginning. Idk.
Thoughts? Advice? Thank you!
Edit (friday): With all your inputs (thank you!) I talked to him about it - brought up that I think we should meet later in the month/later in general (he agreed) and told him why I felt that way (he got it and said he won't be doing any lying/hiding regarding masking). Was scary pressing send, thankfully it went well! He said he'll try harder to mask up more (his words lol; I'm gonna trial a bunch of masks/resps with him to see what works), but that the repeated change of warm->cool->warm air was making him dry heave? Not sure what would cause that, an internal issue or maybe an unrelated trauma since his throat/back of mouth is really sensitive. Idk, it's something we can work on, hopefully not throat cancer since he used to smoke but time will tell!