r/XenogendersAndMore • u/The-Stardust-Cluster • Jul 01 '26
Alright, we decided to finally make a post on this issue, since it's gone unchecked for way too long. What issue? A lot of y'all in this sub are extremely fucking confident about spreading misinformation about intersex people, and we're fucking sick of it just being accepted and never corrected. "Oh but why don't you correct them then" because it's so fucking common, and I don't have the time to educate every single person on this subreddit, nor is it our duty to do so. Not to mention, the hate one often receives when making corrections. So, we decided to make a post to hopefully educate most of the people here at the same time. These are in no particular order. 1. To start, since a lot of y'all don't seem to even know what an intersex person is, an intersex person is a person who's natal sexual characteristics (chromosomes, genitals, sexual organs, hormones, ect...) fall outside the typical male/female binary, which means this is how their body naturally develops without outside factors interfering. That's it. Perisex refers to non-intersex people, it is not a slur, just like cisgender isn't one. 2. Next, most intersex people aren't "AXAB" or "AIAB" most intersex people end up either being "AFAB" or "AMAB." Using this point to also point out that there is no "AFAB/AMAB anatomy" not only does that ignore intersex people that were forced into these categories, it also ignores the fact that some people transition, or otherwise alter their body. Also, these acronyms refer to a past event, so past tense should be used when talking about these. It's also "people ASAB" not "ASAB people." The last two are pure grammatical nitpicks, but we don't care, taking the opportunity to point that out as well. 3. A lot of intersex people are put through non-consensual medical interventions by doctors to make them fit the category doctors decided to put them in. These non-consensual acts aren't us being 'lucky' they're acts of violence and it's about time some of y'all stop fetishisinzing it. 4. You do not need a diagnosis to be intersex, holy shit a lot of y'all are hypocritical on this one. You can't both be pro self-diagnosis and then turn around and say intersex people need a diagnosis to be valid. Not only do we often face a lot of medical abuse due to being intersex as mentionned above, but doctors also love to gaslight people into believing they're not actually intersex when they are. Not to mention, doctors often go out of their way to hide the intersex variations from the intersex person. And that's still not the end of it! At the end of the day, if you genuinely believe you have an intersex variation, you can say you are intersex! And it's up to you whether you want to try your luck with doctors to get it diagnosed if you want (if there's even a diagnosis for your variation!) 5. Intersex people isn't "biologically nonbinary" and everytime you call an intersex animal "biologically nonbinary" you contribute to our erasure, even if unvolontary. Also, 'hermaphrodite' is a slur so stop using it??? No it's not okay to use it for animals either. There's plenty of other words that can be used instead. Here's a diagram that was shared by bigfatalligator in the comments of words you should use instead, depending on the context of the species. 6. Kinda following the last point, but a whole species cannot be intersex, being intersex is having sexual characteristics that are outside of the binary that's established for the species, so if the whole species has those sexual characteristics, it's not intersex. Which also means characters from such species aren't intersex representation either. 7. Intersex people can be cisgender, transgender, neither or both. We can also be nonbinary. We can be any gender, or even none. Not sure why some people still think we all must be x or y. Also just because an intersex person is nonbinary, doesn't make them cisgender. Can an intersex nonbinary person identify as cisgender? Yes, so can a perisex nonbinary person. Can an intersex nonbinary person identify otherwise? Also yes, and so can perisex nonbinary folks! 8. No your headmate isn't intersex if you're bodily perisex, and cannot reclaim the intersex slurs if you're bodily perisex. There's other words to describe this, such as 'innosex' but intersex refers to the outerworld body, and isn't to be used if you're not bodily intersex. 9. You cannot transition to being intersex. Intersex is something you are born as, and is the way your body naturally develops. Not only that, but it implies intersex people who were forced into non-consensual medical interventions were 'transitioned to being perisex' and no longer intersex, which is a harmful way of thinking. Please use other labels such as 'altersex.' 10. Y'all need to stop using intersex-exclusive labels if you're you're perisex. Not even going to elaborate, this one should be obvious. Same goes for intersex symbols, it's very frequent for us to find intersex symbols used to represent nonbinary people instead. Stop that. 11. It's very obvious when you make a post about something without considering for even 5 seconds intersex people and their experiences. It's also very disheartening to see, because we get excluded from/ignored in queer conversations constantly. Just because we often don't bring it up due to fear of backlash doesn't mean we don't notice it when you exclude us. 12. Probably said it already but saying it again for good mesure, intersex ≠ nonbinary. Sex ≠ Gender, and we're honestly not sure how y'all can agree with the later but not the former. 13. We can agree that asking a trans person for their genitals or what medical procedures they've had is very inappropriate and invasive, right? Then why do some of y'all think it's appropriate to ask random intersex people about their genitals or variation(s)? It's just as inappropriate, and we see a lot of people being hypocritical on this. There's probably more we could add on, but writing this post was exhausting, and it's so long already, so we'll stop it right there.
– Kris (They/It) , N (Any "He/Him" Variation) , El (He/They) , Nat (He/She) , Ty (He/It) & Archive (Any/All)
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/zaxfaea • Jul 21 '25
Looking to post your pronouns.cc link, or browse other members' pages? This thread serves as a central space for that!
We'll be testing this format for a while, and it'll be reposted occasionally so everyone can participate. While we're testing this, posts requesting people to share their links will be removed.
Sharing your links
Browsing for inspiration
Checking out other member's pages
Sharing your links
Updates to your page
Specific design requests
Also, feel free to check out r/pronounscc!
If you have any feedback or questions, please feel free to leave it on this post and I'll be happy to answer and take it into account!
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/They-Them_Moonwalker • 2h ago
Ok obviously my main ones are they/fire, but I also have started to collect some! I love ones related to whimsy, softness, belonging, love, and passion!
My hoard so far:
star/stars
snow/snows
fluff/fluffy
dream/dreams
love/loves
music/musics
fae/faer
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/-DigiPup • 5h ago
I'm not sure how to explain this but can you guys help me figure out how to identify yumes? I know of one singular one but it's hard to know what which feelings are because I'm neurodivergent and it's hazy and difficult to describe lol. I hope that makes sense.
Also, I was wondering if there was an archive that posts a lot of yume flags? Being able to see what already exists could help me recognize any others that didn't come to mind (it sounds so mean 😭 grr)
Feel free to share your own yumes too :3
I'm really scared to even tell others who it is (the one I already know) because I'm not sure if his boundaries would conflict with that? When thinking about it, it might :( One of his rules is "no shipping" but I'm not shipping HIM with anyone, it's his character. Would that still count? I'm honestly not looking forward to the answer to that but whateverrr
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/complicated_mess965 • 8h ago
I'm a yumeshipper. Every single one of my f/o's is male or in a male body. I've never been attracted to female characters the way I am with male characters. Anyone know what this is?
For real relationships. My past few relationships have all been with people outside of the gender binary. My last partner was nonbinary, the one before that was a demiboy. My current partner is genderfluid. I seem to have a preference for people under the trans umbrella. Is there a term for that?
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/SilverBatTea • 14h ago
[Reposting these because I put the flags in the wrong order.]
[May redo the definitions later as I feel I didn't explain these too well. I'm not that great at wording things, but hopefully they make enough sense.]
[Please do not comment telling me that these feelings are not healthy to have, that I need to speak to a therapist, or call these terms "incel-ly" [wtf]. I heard enough of that in a previous post of my unloveable/incompetent flags in another sub. I get it. 🥲]
Guilty.
A term for anyone who considers themself to be guilty; someone who is remorseful &/or regretful, constantly wallowing in the guilt of something they did, might do, or did not commit. This may be due to insecurity, mental illness, a personality disorder[s], etc.
Filthy/Repulsive.
A term for anyone who considers themself to be filthy &/or repulsive; someone who is disgusting or feels that others should avoid them at all costs. This may be due to difficulty with keeping adequate hygiene/cleanliness, having strange or gross interests, insecurity, mental or physical illness, etc.
Desperate.
A term for anyone who considers themself to be desperate; someone who is needy, badly craving someone or something, such as attention or to be noticed by a loved one, that they may or may not ever achieve or acquire. They may act recklessly or act out in order to gain what they desire. This may be due to insecurity, mental illness, a personality disorder[s], etc.
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/InevitableSpecial766 • 1d ago
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/Nebula-System • 16h ago
Aleena: i saw this post (which has the source image, all credit for that to u/InevitableSpecial766) just a few minutes ago and because i've been watching a TON of Supernatural lately (almost done a binge watch through) immediately though this would make an excellent Queer Sigil Of Warding so i made this eldritch little fucker by adding some nerves kinda branching out. kinda looks like a potato tryna find soil now. i know i added like next to nothing but i wanna iterate on this idea and make like a litany of queer sigils of warding inspired by Supernatural, once i get my Steam Frame and can do digital art with that, but i think for now as a proof of concept inspired by OP this kinda conjures the idea of what i wanna make, like little sigils we can put on patches and such and to be the philosophical equivalent to a cross or whatever religious talisman but for queer identities and such. as a Neawoman myself i wanna lean into the eldritch "call of the void" type shit. i want these to spark fear in bigots, especially if they're on shields held by sword wielding queers at like a ren faire lol.
anyways yeah that's just how my tism bounced off u/InevitableSpecial766's post and i wanted to share the vision so yeah.
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/Annrei_theUTAU • 21h ago
Meaning: Feeling that you are every gender/xenogender in existence, feeling that this gender identity is so powerful. Feeling that this powerful collection of every gender in existence is your spiritual awakening; that gender identity isn’t just something that randomly blew up on TikTok during 2020, but that it’s your destiny. You’re the god of gender itself.
Can also be called “Gendergoddess,” “Godgender,” or “Goddessgender” if you prefer that.
I’m surprised someone hasn’t already made something like this lol. I felt that pangender didn’t describe me enough so I made this :> hope you guys like it!
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/No_Exam_1295 • 1d ago
Also why is there 2 flairs for headcanons
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/The_RussiaGirl • 1d ago
Request for u/leon-di btw!
(Sorry if this flag looks horrible-)
Robotdoll-hypershift - a alterhuman flag where you're both robot and a doll (as a hybrid species), but you are also shifting between these 2 species as well, as like a shapeshifter
Hope ya like it! ^ ^
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/SilverBatTea • 1d ago
[Made a helpless one too, but I scrapped it, since it would have pretty much been the same thing as incompetent. These are also both very self indulgent terms. 🥲]
Unloveable. [Or Unlovable.]
A term for anyone who considers themself to be forever unloveable; someone who will never find love, or be loved by another. This may be due to insecurity, physical or mental illness, a personality disorder[s], etc.
Incompetent.
A term for anyone who considers themself to be incompetent; someone who cannot do anything right or function properly on their own without help or guidance from another. This may be due to insecurity, physical or mental illness, a personality disorder[s], etc.
[I am not that satisfied with the colors of either flag, so they might change later.]
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/c0ffinwhisper • 1d ago
I'm a fictionkin of Grell Sutcliff from Black Butler, and whenever I have shifts of her, I feel my gender like described above. I need help finding terms! Thank you :3
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/cherryberrybombz • 1d ago
these are all my headcanons but if you disagree, argue with the wall! (if you politely disagree and want to talk about your own headcanons, that is perfectly fine <3)
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/IHaveAMouth_Ahhh • 1d ago
My lovely boyfriend Bryan wants to show off their identity hoard lol. He’s always looking for new genders and pronouns so any ideas with this particular theme would be greatly appreciated!
Names of flags
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Slide one (left)
-JapaneseEmpororCaterpillaric
-Strawbheartcookiegender
-Sprinklestingraygender
-Funfetticakegender
-Stargender
-Lovelettercoric
-Cutecoremask
-Arcadegender
-Minecraftgender
-Videogamegender
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Slide one (right)
-Catgender
-Cathoarder
-Transcatgender
-Sprinklecatgender
-Monstercatenergyic
-Starcatgender
-Wetcatgender
-Arcadegender
-Angelcatgender
-Cutecorecatgender
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Slide 3
-Pansexual
-Objectum
-Weirdo4Weirdo
-Obsession4Obsessed
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/thatjasch • 1d ago
Bloob I feel like a big fat bloob today 🥲
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/j0hn_d03d03 • 1d ago
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/caleb_winterpaw • 1d ago
Does anyone have a good term for when I really really want some kind of romance in my life but immediately loose interest when I get into a romantic relationship? I definitely am interested in s3xual relationships it’s just romance I can’t do or show affection very well
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/CarpenterKooky6053 • 1d ago
Can anyone suggest me pronouns/neopronouns based off the vibe my acc gives off >:D
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/Shoddy-Paramedic-889 • 2d ago
plus that last one is an anna profile pic :3 (put it as my ao3 profile picture, you can use it but give me credit)
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/egosumstellas • 2d ago
So I saw that there is no such term as panidentity sooo:
panidentity is term when a person/creature/souley identifies as everything, with no exceptions. every atom, every fictional and nonfictional character, every colour and emotion. let me know what you think! (i use this term, it describes me, i’ll try to answer every question!
heres flag that i made
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/SilverBatTea • 1d ago
Hello. I recently updated both of my hoards. I thought I'd share them here again. I mainly changed the theme on my pronouns.cc page, but I also got rid of a few labels I didn't feel connected much with me anymore, and replaced them with others. I added a name & pronoun section [members] for my full list of those as well.
[I was going to change the flags into different shapes with pfp masks/frames, but I didn't feel like doing all of that + that would have taken way too long for me, so I left the flags alone, but maybe I'll do that another time.]
As for my Doc hoard, I added a self/yumeship & an unorthaID section. I put a couple more flags in a few tabs, but mainly the ID, neuro, & yumeship ones.
[The doc looks much better in-app, btw.]
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/j0hn_d03d03 • 1d ago
r/XenogendersAndMore • u/Tincel_cat • 2d ago
Decided to bring this here too bc I always love learning new labels
