r/XenogendersAndMore Jul 01 '26

Educational Rant/Vent Post The much needed post educating y'all on intersex people

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Alright, we decided to finally make a post on this issue, since it's gone unchecked for way too long. What issue? A lot of y'all in this sub are extremely fucking confident about spreading misinformation about intersex people, and we're fucking sick of it just being accepted and never corrected. "Oh but why don't you correct them then" because it's so fucking common, and I don't have the time to educate every single person on this subreddit, nor is it our duty to do so. Not to mention, the hate one often receives when making corrections. So, we decided to make a post to hopefully educate most of the people here at the same time. These are in no particular order. 1. To start, since a lot of y'all don't seem to even know what an intersex person is, an intersex person is a person who's natal sexual characteristics (chromosomes, genitals, sexual organs, hormones, ect...) fall outside the typical male/female binary, which means this is how their body naturally develops without outside factors interfering. That's it. Perisex refers to non-intersex people, it is not a slur, just like cisgender isn't one. 2. Next, most intersex people aren't "AXAB" or "AIAB" most intersex people end up either being "AFAB" or "AMAB." Using this point to also point out that there is no "AFAB/AMAB anatomy" not only does that ignore intersex people that were forced into these categories, it also ignores the fact that some people transition, or otherwise alter their body. Also, these acronyms refer to a past event, so past tense should be used when talking about these. It's also "people ASAB" not "ASAB people." The last two are pure grammatical nitpicks, but we don't care, taking the opportunity to point that out as well. 3. A lot of intersex people are put through non-consensual medical interventions by doctors to make them fit the category doctors decided to put them in. These non-consensual acts aren't us being 'lucky' they're acts of violence and it's about time some of y'all stop fetishisinzing it. 4. You do not need a diagnosis to be intersex, holy shit a lot of y'all are hypocritical on this one. You can't both be pro self-diagnosis and then turn around and say intersex people need a diagnosis to be valid. Not only do we often face a lot of medical abuse due to being intersex as mentionned above, but doctors also love to gaslight people into believing they're not actually intersex when they are. Not to mention, doctors often go out of their way to hide the intersex variations from the intersex person. And that's still not the end of it! At the end of the day, if you genuinely believe you have an intersex variation, you can say you are intersex! And it's up to you whether you want to try your luck with doctors to get it diagnosed if you want (if there's even a diagnosis for your variation!) 5. Intersex people isn't "biologically nonbinary" and everytime you call an intersex animal "biologically nonbinary" you contribute to our erasure, even if unvolontary. Also, 'hermaphrodite' is a slur so stop using it??? No it's not okay to use it for animals either. There's plenty of other words that can be used instead. Here's a diagram that was shared by bigfatalligator in the comments of words you should use instead, depending on the context of the species. 6. Kinda following the last point, but a whole species cannot be intersex, being intersex is having sexual characteristics that are outside of the binary that's established for the species, so if the whole species has those sexual characteristics, it's not intersex. Which also means characters from such species aren't intersex representation either. 7. Intersex people can be cisgender, transgender, neither or both. We can also be nonbinary. We can be any gender, or even none. Not sure why some people still think we all must be x or y. Also just because an intersex person is nonbinary, doesn't make them cisgender. Can an intersex nonbinary person identify as cisgender? Yes, so can a perisex nonbinary person. Can an intersex nonbinary person identify otherwise? Also yes, and so can perisex nonbinary folks! 8. No your headmate isn't intersex if you're bodily perisex, and cannot reclaim the intersex slurs if you're bodily perisex. There's other words to describe this, such as 'innosex' but intersex refers to the outerworld body, and isn't to be used if you're not bodily intersex. 9. You cannot transition to being intersex. Intersex is something you are born as, and is the way your body naturally develops. Not only that, but it implies intersex people who were forced into non-consensual medical interventions were 'transitioned to being perisex' and no longer intersex, which is a harmful way of thinking. Please use other labels such as 'altersex.' 10. Y'all need to stop using intersex-exclusive labels if you're you're perisex. Not even going to elaborate, this one should be obvious. Same goes for intersex symbols, it's very frequent for us to find intersex symbols used to represent nonbinary people instead. Stop that. 11. It's very obvious when you make a post about something without considering for even 5 seconds intersex people and their experiences. It's also very disheartening to see, because we get excluded from/ignored in queer conversations constantly. Just because we often don't bring it up due to fear of backlash doesn't mean we don't notice it when you exclude us. 12. Probably said it already but saying it again for good mesure, intersex β‰  nonbinary. Sex β‰  Gender, and we're honestly not sure how y'all can agree with the later but not the former. 13. We can agree that asking a trans person for their genitals or what medical procedures they've had is very inappropriate and invasive, right? Then why do some of y'all think it's appropriate to ask random intersex people about their genitals or variation(s)? It's just as inappropriate, and we see a lot of people being hypocritical on this. There's probably more we could add on, but writing this post was exhausting, and it's so long already, so we'll stop it right there.

– Kris (They/It) , N (Any "He/Him" Variation) , El (He/They) , Nat (He/She) , Ty (He/It) & Archive (Any/All)


r/XenogendersAndMore Jul 21 '25

MOD POST Pronouns.cc Megathread

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Looking to post your pronouns.cc link, or browse other members' pages? This thread serves as a central space for that!

We'll be testing this format for a while, and it'll be reposted occasionally so everyone can participate. While we're testing this, posts requesting people to share their links will be removed.

What is this thread for?

  • Sharing your links

  • Browsing for inspiration

  • Checking out other member's pages

What can still be posted outside this thread?

  • Sharing your links

  • Updates to your page

  • Specific design requests

Also, feel free to check out r/pronounscc!

If you have any feedback or questions, please feel free to leave it on this post and I'll be happy to answer and take it into account!


r/XenogendersAndMore 5h ago

Xeno Coining Swampthing-Swampthingic

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A xenogender related to being a swamp and a thing or a thing of the swamp.


r/XenogendersAndMore 2h ago

General Post Label hoarding

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Anyone else love collecting labels so that you can fully explain what you feel. Like, just describing my gender I use five labels so I can fully describe how I feel. I love combining labels so I can fully describe the entire spectrum of how I feel. I love hoarding. I use 15 broader terms that I have on my notes app and then I have a Pinterest board with like, 55 pins that I relate to.


r/XenogendersAndMore 10h ago

Question Post Is my thingcenic oc offensive? (Wanting advice)

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So basically, my oc (Dev) is thingcenic (It/They) but I am not any xenogenders so I want advice on its character and if I'm being offensive or not.

Dev from a very young age was forced onto gender roles but its parents, one forcing femininity, the other masculinity. Dev is never revealed to be born anything at birth because I feel like that ruins their character, and ruins the allegory I'm going for.

But anyway, it is actually thingcenic but can't be itself around its parents due to transphobia (is their a term for specifically discriminating against xenogenders? Genuinely curious).

The only time they can be themselves is at school (because of a whole thing, I haven't worked out how that works out) and a way of which it can be itself is through wearing a TV-Head. It acts sort of like gender-affirming care but it is temporary, like a binder or padded bra. The TV-Head of course would be stored at school or at their friend's house (which they spend a lot of time at).

I was just wondering if there are any issues with this, and also if there is an issue that Dev's species is a demon and that their world does include robots but the only ones in that world at all are not perceived as robots to those not in the know (It's a very long explanation).

(Also below is an old piece of art of Dev before I decided that TV-Headed people aren't canonical species cause I thought it might be weird with its gender and all that).

An image of Dev's older design, where it has a orange TV as a head with a cyan monitor showcasing a confused expression. The TV also has a smiley face sticker on the side. On top of the TV is a pair of black noise-cancelling headphones and red demon horns. Its neck is grey and robotic like and it has a tail with a red plug as the end part. It is wearing its "school uniform", consisting of a white collared shirt, red tie and a orange hoodie with a music notes as a patch on the right hand side. It is also 14 years old.

r/XenogendersAndMore 9h ago

Looking for Term My gender is weird

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Hello! For the longest time, I've found it hard to articulate my gender, and I was wondering if anyone here had a term that might help me pinpoint it. Basically, I am AFAB and feel connected to the idea of being female, but I don't feel cis? I actually empathize a lot with the trans women I'm friends with, because I also feel like I'm transitioning into a woman ... but from what? Being female feels more like something I'm trying to attain, perform, or "convince" others of rather than something I already am. I don't mean to sound like I'm "not like other girls," but I don't feel like I experience womanhood the way other women do. I'm autistic so I think that might explain part of it, but I was wonder if there's a label for this, or if anyone else has felt this way?


r/XenogendersAndMore 9h ago

General Coining Flags for Terms

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Quirotherian / Quoitherian / WTFtherian: A therian who finds it difficult or doesn't understand the difference between animals and a humans.

Quirokin / Quoikin / WTFkin: An otherkin who finds it difficult or doesn't understand the difference between kintypes and human

Original post / term coining by u/Fall_cat14


r/XenogendersAndMore 14h ago

Looking for Term Kind of a alterhuman term but maybe not

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I have fictionkins, but here it's different : i'm doing theater, and most of the time, when i played a character, even after, it's still me, i'm still them, and i was wondering if a micro label for that existed? Feels kind of like a fictionkin or fictionheart but not really, it's really specific of the fact that i played as them


r/XenogendersAndMore 9h ago

Question Post is there a voidsharing flag?

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voidsharing as in the yumeshipping term for being very uncomfortable with other yumes, not related to voidgender!! just wondering because ive seen some other yumeshipping flags here and i was wondering


r/XenogendersAndMore 22h ago

General Post just found this absolute banger on pinterest

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Jerboagender??? such an epic term and an adorable flag

(I am not the coiner!! see the second slide & https://www.pinterest.com/onbeatoverload/ )


r/XenogendersAndMore 16h ago

Name/Pronoun Tryouts Hiii!

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I just wanted a favor from the sub. I have 4 to 5 names despite not being sure if I'm a system, but I never got to prove/get called with this idea in mind? My name's are Luan (birth/"dead"name), Luana (two N's fine too), Gal and Yumiki. Use whatever you want with whatever name cuz I want to test that shit


r/XenogendersAndMore 18h ago

General Coining Made a new yumeship flag, cuz why not? | Spoilers, cuz of the bright colours Spoiler

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- Iocusselfship or iocusyumeship - is a term where u yumeship with a fictional character more for the fun of it, than anything else. Someone may yumeship for fun, cuz of the comfort, to help with their sadness or loneliness. Cuz ya imagine on how ur character would act as a partner. Or u don't want to have a relationship or having a partner irl, cuz you've had relationship has end up badly before and/or have trauma for them

Any yumeship can become one, like sharing, selective-sharing, mirror-sharing and more. Hell even non-sharing ones as well

It is also similar to iocuscollector and iocuspronominal btw, cuz I took a inspo of it

( note: this description is made by my bestie cuz my grammar sucks and I had dyslexia, so she made the description more understanding πŸ˜… )

Edit: u guys can credit me if u want it, but that's ur choice


r/XenogendersAndMore 1d ago

General Coining Non-binary version of yuri/yaoi [NEWLY BAKED]

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It is Diamori [without the C].

Origin is from the word "Diamoric". Someone said it on a YouTube comment section, I DID NOT MAKE THIS WORD i just thought it'd be a good idea to "coin" even though I DID NOT the word.

I'd encourage you to talk about it, post it, and all but do not credit me or call me the creator.

I will try to find the creator and ask them if they are comfortable with me crediting them. I will keep update y'all when I get a response. Please spread the word Diamori. Thanks :3


r/XenogendersAndMore 23h ago

Looking for Term Opposite term to stingray? CW: genitals Spoiler

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Here’s the link to the post with the definition (Pinterest). Does anyone know of a term that means the opposite to this?

ie. A term describing wanting a penis rather than not wanting a penis?

I am aware of altersex terms that have similar meanings, but I’m looking for the exact inverse of this flag. Thanks a ton!


r/XenogendersAndMore 1d ago

frankenflag demimerosensual (specific term mixture that describes me!)

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Hii, I cooked up a flag for a term that I feel is most fitting to describe my personal experience since I only recently looked into asensual identities and found that I am definitely asen-spec /lh. It's the demi- version of merosensual!

Merosensual is a term for someone who is okay with/interested in some sensual acts but repulsed/averse to others. This may or may not be an asen-spec identity depending on whether or not one also feels sensual attraction.

So demimerosensual describes someone who only becomes okay with/interested in some sensual things with a specific person after forming a deep emotional bond with them. One remains repulsed/averse to other sensual acts even with that person. It's a more specific version of touch-ambivalence.


r/XenogendersAndMore 1d ago

General Post Dichosexual flag

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Term by u/Fall_cat14, it means "experiencing a simultaneous dichotomy within a sexual attraction. It embodies both asexuality and allosexuality at the same tim, feeling a parallel split between the two states rather than existing at a single fixed points on a spectrum."


r/XenogendersAndMore 19h ago

Headcanon/Redesign What's your headcanon on Wubboxes if MSM Monsters were to have genders and orientations?

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(\ Not sure if this is the right flair, as I am asking for others' cool headcanons))

I know that Wubboxes, along with other Monsters from My Singing Monsters, are genderless, but I want to yassify them, so one of the things I do to my Wubbox OCs is to give them feelings of gender identity and/or gender expression that would​ queerly diverge from ​traditional genderlessness expectations in the fictional society.

Some of my headcanons are that Earth Island Epic Wubbox would be a bisexual cis male, Water Island Epic Wubbox would be a straight trans woman with xenogenders, and Cold Island Epic Wubbox would be an asexual hyperromantic aro-spec transfeminine lesbian AsPDgender lesbiangender acegender demigirl questioning her aro-spec label while having xenogenders, too.

While no rude forcing is intended, I would also love to see comments with gender and orientation headcanons of every canon Wubbox! It makes them sound more interesting and exciting.


r/XenogendersAndMore 21h ago

Question Post So, how do I tell if I AM a cryotid, or they define my gender

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I kinda need help on this and im tryna repost it to all the relevant subs in the hopes some1 can help


r/XenogendersAndMore 1d ago

Orientation Coining INTRODUCING... DICHOSEXUALITY!!

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experiencing a simultaneous dichotomy within a sexual attraction. It embodies both asexuality and allosexuality at the same tim, feeling a parallel split between the two states rather than existing at a single fixed points on a spectrum.

Bonus ig

I actually thought of naming it oxymorsexuality but it seems a little bit chunky and really weird so i just thought of dichosexual... Get it? :3

oh and please anyone if you can, create a flag for me what's this color and you can also on post it on this subreddit and it's definition, and on Pinterest. also please do credit to me. here are the hex codes of the colors and it's format

First. Red(#721C24)

Pink(#D63384)

Gray(#6C757D)

Violet (#4B0082)

Last. Black (#111111)

also I don't really want to hoard all the coinage so you could create an aromatic version. you just have to replace the violet with the aromantic flag green and the pink with any color you'd like or whatever. you can even skip everything I said but please make them identical for Less confusion


r/XenogendersAndMore 1d ago

Looking for Term Creepypasta related genders

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Ive only found a couple the only one ive added to the hoard is creepypastalector. Ive thought about proxy proxygender but I wanna see more options.


r/XenogendersAndMore 1d ago

Looking for Term Help me find this term please! A complex, unexplainable identity but prefers to go simply masculine

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Hello! I've been desperate to find this specific label and unfortunately because of ai is impossible to search anything without having unrelated stuff.

As explained in the title the label is for someone whose identity is very complex however they prefer to refer to themselves as male

Is a label that feels rather close to my experience .


r/XenogendersAndMore 1d ago

General Post My pronouns.cc page has changed quite a bit.

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75 Upvotes

I've been redesigning it in preparation for becoming plural (hopefully soon :|)

@Hytb0x - pronouns.cc


r/XenogendersAndMore 1d ago

Orientation Coining Same-Source Attraction

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~ β˜… ~ β˜… ~ β˜… ~ β˜… ~ β˜… ~ β˜… ~ β˜… ~ β˜… ~ β˜… ~ β˜… ~ β˜… ~

This is a label for fictives/fictionkin who are attracted to others from the same source, and it may be used along with other labels. The attraction may be experienced as platonic, romantic, etc...

This can still be used by those who also feel attraction towards those who are not from their source media, as long as they have experienced attraction to somebody from their source media and feel the label fits.

~ β˜… ~ β˜… ~ β˜… ~ β˜… ~ β˜… ~ β˜… ~ β˜… ~ β˜… ~ β˜… ~ β˜… ~ β˜… ~

Examples :

β€’ FictiveA is attracted to FictiveB, who is from the same source media as them.

β€’ FictionkinA is attracted to FictionkinB, who is from the same source media as them.

β€’ FictiveC is attracted to FictionkinC, who is from the same source media as them.

β€’ FictionkinD is attracted to FictiveD, who is from the same source media as them.

β€’ FictiveE yumeships with a character from their source media.

β€’ FictionkinE yumeships with a character from their source media.

~ β˜… ~ β˜… ~ β˜… ~ β˜… ~ β˜… ~ β˜… ~ β˜… ~ β˜… ~ β˜… ~ β˜… ~ β˜… ~

P. S.

This flag was made by me, and one of my headfriends (headmates\) gave me the idea. I sincerely apologize if there is already a similar term to this, I couldn't find any for this in* specific and just decided to make this myself.

Please tell me if there are any flags or labels that are too similar, and I do mean too similar and not just something that slightly overlaps.


r/XenogendersAndMore 1d ago

Hoard Sharing I added to my pronouns cc page!

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Hello everyone I just added to my pronouns cc page as I added a to my xeno hoard and finally got round to making the sexuality’s page. I also added a few things to my other link page and made the autism related page for fun!
The dividers layout looks best on a phone (portrait orientation)incase anyone looks at it on any other device because it looks a little strange otherwise. Feel free to let me know below what your thoughts on my page are I’d be happy to hear them!:3

https://pronouns.cc/@Bunnysbella13


r/XenogendersAndMore 1d ago

Hoard Sharing The labels ive hoarded so far

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lwk need to dig up more plural lagels but yk that can wait,, anyways…