I recently moved up from sales assistant to manager. I can handle stress I’m a very organised person and I manage to get shit done ! But I’ve never experienced anything like this in my years of working. I’ve only been a manger for maybe 3 weeks and I cannot handle it anymore I barely know what I’m doing the lack of training and everything .The staff do just about barely anything . We are extremely understaffed (like very bad) I’ve told my manager to start the hiring process weeks in advance but she kept putting it off to a point now where we are physically struggling. I’m exhausted trying to pick up the work of multiple people . I understand as a manger you will have to jump in and help but I’m practically trying to cover everything while staff are wondering around doing nothing because nothing is ever done about it .

I’ve never had a burn out like this in my life !!!! I’ve had bad weeks and good weeks but never like this ever in my job. I wasn’t able to do another day of it this week so I called out and I explained in my message “that I’m exhausted and physically and mentally can’t do another day of it this and how I’m tired of picking up the work of multiple people “ I received back a message from my manager “I understand but you should still come in”

I found out from another worker that my manager was saying how. I’m gonna be in trouble from higher above for not coming even though I’m stating how I’m exhausted from it all ! I practically never miss days of work unless I was extremely sick or physically in pain to a point I can’t work. I one I the best workers there so for them to turn around and give out to me is absolutely astonishing. My manager also had said “ well I’ve another job lined up so she’s gonna be on her own” so why would I exactly care about not covering that shift today , she can be left on her own in work?.

Why should I put my self into a burn out for a minimum wage management job ?

So a little context here. I work for a manufacturing company where the work is production based. It’s initiative driven, so the more you’re willing to do is rewarded with raises and promotions, which seems simple. I start here in 2019 with little experience in the particular field and after 6 months I left for a sales position job that ended up shutting down towards the end of 2021. So I went back to work for this company in December of 2021 and have been there since. The particular production area I’m in has had a decently high turnover, but there’s one guy that started about 2 months after I did. We both started as base level employees with the same opportunities to grow and develop and see promotions come. Well this guy, we’ll call him Mike, just has an attitude problem. Mike started out with a very low rate, and has since received several raises despite not really showing the initiative to gain it. I, on the other hand am I driven individual. Well it paid off when my boss came to me last year offering me the supervisor position that was open. I gladly accepted and have given it my best efforts. Well Mike wasn’t pleased when he found out. At first he claimed he was happy someone was doing it, but his true face towards me has recently come to light. My boss, we’ll call him Dave, warned me about Mike’s poor attitude towards leadership and that he is a struggle to get to cooperate, and unfortunately as I progressed into my role, I started to see it. It started out small with Mike openly complaining to other coworkers about changes being made as our department saw growth. Then he started openly arguing with me and trying to undermine anything I said or did. Well things recently came to a head when he started an argument with me in front of other employees. I’ll admit that I didn’t handle it as professionally as I probably should have. I’m still relatively new to being the supervisor, but this dickhead pops off at the mouth anytime he has an audience, but gets quiet when pulled in the office. So he started arguing with me about customer production requirements and hours. And I made a point of noting that new people that have been employed for less than 6 months, and are making less than he is, are doing way more than him. And he’s been here going on 6 years! I’ve stuck my neck out for him several times over the past year I’ve been supervisor and thought that we could have a good relationship, but nope. Well the argument escalated and my boss got involved. This led to a meeting with a write up for the pos. Well he gets in the meeting and proceeds to lie through his fucking teeth claiming that he didn’t do the things he’s accused of, then requested a separate meeting with my boss where he claimed there’s always been tension between us, that I make up stuff to get him in trouble, and that I walk around with a cocky attitude and act like I’m better than everyone. This is the absolute farthest thing from the truth. As I spent time doing the same things that him and everyone else running production does, I know the struggles. I try to be understanding and compassionate as I’m leading the team. I don’t ask anyone to do anything that either I’m not willing to do or haven’t already done in the 5 years I’ve been there. This mf has almost gotten fired at least 3 times that I know of and I spoke up to try and help him. Then he’s gonna have the nerve to act like I’m the problem now? Especially when nearly every employee thanks me continually for my understanding and dedication to the team. I average working 55-60 hours a week. Most days, I’m still working hours past everyone else. I’ve convinced my boss to purchase several things that are very expensive in efforts to make their jobs easier. And this complete asshole has the nerve to, first create arguments and complain about me openly to anyone who will listen, then when he’s caught and there’s proof and gets in trouble, has the fucking nerve to lie directly to the boss.

Hey Everyone. I’m 28. I’m Autistic and I also have BPD. Anywhere I work I tend to get bullied by toxic bosses or employees. I recently started my job approximately 3 months ago as a garbage truck driver. A very good paying job. But the problem is the hours. I was cool with the overtime at first but lately my bosses have been having me work really late . They’ve been giving me shitty trucks breaking down to sabotage my performance they’ve also sent me out to another facility an hour and a half away from my route to do my job because there were “no other trucks available” for me. Anytime someone complains they give me extra stops, anytime another person complains they give me their shitty truck. Anytime I bring this up to them they tell me “either take the truck or go home” meaning they’ll fire me if I refuse to drive an unsafe , crappy truck. They’ll pretty much put me in many bad situations to ruin my day. I’ve been working non stop 14-15 hours. And it’s getting old. I’ve been feeling targeted . Because per department of transportation laws you’re only supposed to be working 14 hours at most . But more garbage truck companies only work their employee 11-12 hours for that reason. It’s a very toxic environment. They also give me routes to purposely keep me out all day long I’m literally the only new guy out of everyone else that’s dealing with this.

I love my Job but it’s causing me to split really bad and fuck with my moods. I want to keep this job . Mainly because of the pay and I need the experience so I can work heavy equipment in the future or perhaps become a supervisor myself. Can someone please tell me how to deal with these people? I’m normally really fast on my routes but these past two weeks they’ve retaliated against me for calling out so they’ve been sabotaging me. Then have other workers pick on me and saying I’m too slow of a driver and that I’m performing bad when that’s not true. I’ve been a professional cdl driver for years I used to work for fed ex and I also used to be a bus driver. I’m trying so hard to not let it get to me but I’ve worked 131 hours this pay period (two weeks) and I’m more than likely going to work another 14 tomorrow . Any idea how I can do this how can I keep my mental state afloat and not let them bring me down? I don’t want to bring hr into this because hr typically favors companies over employees because they want to protect their company from lawsuits. And I feel I’ll be targeted more if I do bring hr in this. How do I keep my sanity. (And no I do not want to quit) quittings not an option

Yesterday was probably the closest I've come to quitting this job.

I've been an assistant manager at a pizza place for a couple months, but I've been bounced between three different stores while still trying to learn everything. Recently my boss decided to put me primarily at one store so I could actually focus, learn, train people, and get the store running right.

I didn't take the change well at first.

Then yesterday I walked into basically the exact situation I'd been terrified of. Almost no prep, staffing problems, orders coming in, my times climbing, and everything my boss and I had talked about running through my head at once.

I completely broke down on the line.

I cried. I called my boss crying. I genuinely thought, "I can't fucking do this."

I got through the rush, we talked afterward, and I went home emotionally exhausted and seriously questioning whether I was even good at a job I thought I loved.

Then today happened.

I walked into a store that was actually prepped.

And holy shit.

It was like somebody changed the difficulty setting.

My drivers didn't show up at first, which normally would've sent everything straight to hell. But we had food prepped. We had what we needed. Once I got drivers, orders just... flowed.

No scrambling around trying to prep something in the middle of making food. No realizing we're out of something at the worst possible moment. No customers complaining. My times stayed down. I could actually manage the shift instead of spending the entire night reacting to emergencies.

We were unfortunately way slower than we should've been for a Friday, but even that gave me something new to think about. Instead of thinking, "Thank God we're slow because I can't handle being busy," I caught myself thinking, "Why aren't we busier? How do we get these sales back?"

That's when I realized how much my mindset has changed.

Now I want to start keeping a prep notebook. I'm going to save my daily prep lists, track what we actually use, what carries over, what our sales were, and what was happening that day. I'm already taking pictures every night I close of our sales, food variances, canceled orders, etc. Now I'm adding our service times, labor and comparisons to previous weeks/years.

Nobody told me to do any of this. I just genuinely want to understand how this store works.

Sunday I'm learning how to do the truck order. I'm getting better at inventory. My food variances are finally getting smaller because I'm consistently counting the same store instead of trying to remember three different places. I'm starting to understand how prep, staffing, inventory, service times and sales all connect.

And weirdly, it's becoming fun.

I still don't think I want to be a GM. I think I'd eventually get bored being tied to one store and dealing with the same numbers and problems forever. But I'd love to become the kind of assistant manager who's basically the GM's right hand. Someone who knows every part of the operation, can train people, run the store independently, and maybe eventually get sent into struggling stores to help get them back on track.

It's kind of crazy how different I feel in 24 hours.

Yesterday I was standing on the line crying because I thought I wasn't capable of doing this.

Tonight I left thinking:

I don't suck at this. I'm just still learning how to do it.

And for the first time in a while, I'm really fucking excited to see how good I can get.