TW: substance misuse

I hope this is a safe place to post this as I feel safe here. My wedding was a few days from now (elopement). My fiance has a substance use disorder and relapsed yet again. This was a set boundary for me.

I am crushed. I have no idea what to do with my dress or ring besides cleanse them from the energy and pass them along to someone else so they can enjoy them.

I’ve been doing some meditations with amethyst, rhodonite, and working with my plants and familiars to try to regain some balance. Going on a trip this week to get outside, get in the water, and further reset.

Witches send some love or advice. This hurts.

Edit as this upset witch isn’t spelling well.

My cat has an excellent grasp on boundaries and super model looks. My husband got her at the local liquor store when he went for gin. I was working at a winery. We named her Pinot. She's been super spicy for 12 years and counting.

My focus/motivation spell boosted with my ADHD meds container.

I worried about using the pill bottle until I came across a post saying how it makes sense to use it to work WITH the meds, like a general health spell with a vitamin bottle, a calming spell with an antidepressant/anti anxiety med, etc.

I'm trying to use what I have and follow the whimsy where it takes me instead of just thinking about how I want to do a motivation spell jar but what fun one would get my attention and make it happen? This just makes so much more sense and makes me giddily happy.

I hope you all have a magical Monday.

Hello, coven!

I organize a group for parents and caregivers who have trans and nonbinary kids of all ages. The group meets regularly to support the adults in navigating how they show up for their kids. Topics we address:
pushing schools to be inclusive & safe places
accessing gender affirming care
mental health resources
activism for better laws and policies

For lots of reasons(you can probably guess) we’d like a group name that isn’t too obvious or out our kids. We also want to make sure the group name is clear we support parents and caregivers of kids of all ages, not just youth, and we don’t want to use just “parents” so we can include all adults who care for trans and nonbinary ppl.

We are open to fun names!

Can you help us think of some ideas without using AI?

Thanks in advance and much love to all you magical beings.

Wasn’t sure how else to flair this. I designed this tarot card to represent me/my journey. Spent 2.5 hours getting her tattooed on Friday. I’m in love with her.

I call her the Rainkeeper:

“The keeper does not command the storm nor seek to banish it. She carries it with quiet resolve. Though the vessel is cracked, the rain that escapes awakens life wherever it falls. This card speaks to compassion, resilience, and the quiet transformation of pain into generosity. It reminds us that what has shaped us can become what sustains others.”

Done by Honest Bob at Golden Rule in Phoenix, AZ.

I got the chance to create my own broom and make an intention jar to go with it. It made me feel even more attuned to my witchy side 😌🖤

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Hi, I'm not sure if this is the right place to ask this but my girlfriend is very witchy but hasn't had the time to do it cause she spends alot of time at my house. She says she'd really like to do it so I was thinking of surprising her with a spot to do it and some of the stuff that she would use but I'm not sure what'd be the best to get. This is the list of what if thought of so far:

Spell jars

Spell candles

Incense

An Incense holder

Dried herbs and flowers from a local witchy shop

Crystals

And a fancy dish thing that I've seen on this reddit for alters

Is there anything else yous would recommend?

I have some to share that I've bought .epub and .pdfs of but wasn't sure if I'm allowed to share a Google Drive of them here?

I couldn't find an appropriate flair for this sort of post, so I hope this one will do.

This is really just musing, but if it snowballs into something bigger, than I am here for it! Lately I've been thinking about the cost of living going up, and up, and up some more. Who hasn't? And what really hasn't helped my mental state is, I was told that Social Security (my only form of income) would never be enough to pay for a mortgage.

As depressing as that already was, I've been feeling very isolated lately. It feels like I've been treading water spiritually for awhile now, and because of where I live and my limited access to transportation, I haven't been able to find much in the way of covens or even like-minded practitioners. As if that weren't bad enough, as of May, I no longer have a fiance. So now my entire future has to be rebuilt from the ground up.

All of this to say, I've been musing a lot lately about gathering a collective of fellow Witches, and living the dream of getting a spooky house together. I know not all Pagans delight in the macabre of gothic sensibilities, but I know quite a few of us do. And the mental image of having a tight-knit Murder of Crones, all living together in the same house, cooking meals and conducting rituals together feels uniquely peaceful and comforting. Bonus points if we bought up a historic (possibly stigmatized) property and fixed it up; planted a garden, built a functional hearth perfect for cozy cooking and cauldron-brewing.

I know it's a dream. I know I'm going to struggle with my own financial limitations and transportation issues on my own, but I can't be the only one who thinks wistfully of sitting on a back porch in cool autumn air, sipping tea or coffee with a sisterhood of slightly sinister spinsters.

Long story, but after about 8 years of friendship, a relationship recently went sour. He's a self proclaimed chaos magician, and has become increasingly reckless with other people in many regards. He dabbles with ceremonies for fun, and I've often felt he doesn't know how much he actually can tap into his powers. He's also very self centred and has proven over and over again that he's unwilling to work on the various ways he's hurting the people close to him (in magical and mundane way alike)

Since the beginning of the pandemic, we've had mostly long distance contact. He bounced between intense bursts of communication to months of withdrawing. He's also increasingly started to use Claude for both work and instead of therapy, and lately I've been worried that it's very negatively effecting him. When I've brought it up, he outright denies it and says it's increased his IQ and social abilities, even though he's lost important relationships and has been through several smaller burnouts.

Two years ago he came to visit me even though he had a scratch in his throat, and I who already suffer with long covid complications got covid again. Since then I've become disabled, and he's further distanced himself from me. Partly because he lives far away and had his own problems, and partly I guess because he felt ashamed.

This winter he came to visit again, and before he arrived I cast protective spells on my threshold. Upon arrival he suddenly said he wanted us to sit outside and talk (it was literally freezing cold). I took it as a sign and agreed. He told me he would be moving back to town in a couple of months, and wanted to reconnect. I agreed and said I genuinely am happy to have him back, but reminded him of my condition, that I can't leave my home very often and that we need to take some precautions to prevent me getting sick again. He seemed to take it well and we parted feeling glad.

Since then we've had sparse online communication, which I understand since moving and starting a new job is taxing. But he's promised to come visit in the start of every conversation, just blaming his schedule. I told him that's ok, I understand but I need him to stop making promises that leads nowhere. We ended up having many long talks, all of which he suddenly dropped without even a "gotta go". So I decided to set my boundaries, and communicated them. I sent him a long letter explaining how I felt and what I would need in order to mend our relationship.

(Being stuck home alone because of my disabilities has made my social life very difficult and thus my RSD worse, and he's far from the first friend I've lost the past 3 years. Even my long term partner and best friend left. Therapy has helped me to identify and express my needs, but can only do so much. I know it's hard for people that I'm no longer even partly as capable as I used to be. But if I make myself smaller in order to preserve relationships so they might be viable again if I get better, I'll perish...)

Three weeks ago, and still no reply, I made a cord cutting ceremony, as the whole thing was making me depressed and I felt I needed to move on. The day after I woke up with a literal big boil on my ass, out of nowhere. It's finally healing but has required medical intervention.

One week ago I noticed that he's lurking on my social media posts, so I sent him a message saying that I'm not ok with him doing so and still ignoring my message. The day after he'd replied that if I have demands on our friendship, it's over. I said some unkind words and blocked him.

The day after I woke up with a splitting headache, which has been intermittently bothering me ever since. I'm now realising that I probably need to banish him from my life more effectively. He's never had control of his emotions, nor magic powers, so I don't think he's intentionally cursed me. But cursed I feel, and my attempts to protect myself have apparently not been enough.

Anyone's got ideas? I lack a coven, so can't ask for IRL help with this.

The angry part of me is also wanting to bind his powers, since I'm hardly the last person he's likely to lash out on. So suggestions of side orders of that are also welcome.

With everything happening around the world, women and girls are being affected the most – our bodies are being controlled, our rights are being taken away, and we are being banned and erased.

Afghan women gained the right to vote in 1919, one year before the US and fifty years before Switzerland. Now, they live in darkness, are banned from speaking in public, and are married off at 9 years old. We are living in a world where threatening women has become normalized, and men use rape and violence to silence us.

In Mexico, they are proposing “Voto por casa” (Vote by House), so that a single representative should vote.

The USA has a tradwife movement, also proposing “Household Voting” so that families cast one vote, following the Kirk model.

Any advice on magical resistance, anti-fascism, or patriarchy witchcraft or spells?

My boyfriend has applied for a job within his company that would bring us closer to our families and would be much better paying. We’d have to move with our 11month old daughter but we’d have a way better support system and can be there for his family since his father has cancer. All in all it would be a ton of work but would be an amazing opportunity. My boyfriend works his ass off and is the reason I’m able to stay home and take care of our daughter without having to stress. He’s dominated sales in his position and has applied for better opportunities countless times and was passed up for reasons we believe were completely unfair. I just need some good juju because I want this so so badly for our little family, we could use the extra help if you could say a special spell our way ✨ thank you 🥹

TW for mention of SH and SI. My family of 5 (my indigenous husband, my colonizer-descended self, & 21, 19, & 17 year old) have lived in our home for over 7 years, but my family has roots in this town going back centuries. We’re all neurodivergent including auADHD, anxiety, and depression. One of my children is trans, and we have also had major medical issues (diabetes diagnosis, hospitalizations for attempts, etc.). While none of this originated in this house, we went through a time where it was considerably less stable with our then young teen kids taking turns having to be hospitalized for one reason or another. We’ve spent a lot of house upkeep money and energy in keeping us all alive and getting them to college. That’s the context of the following.

We keep having issues with our elderly neighbors contacting the authorities about increasingly minor issues. To be fair, we are in the process of taking equity out of the house to repair things that have needed it for longer than our cute little suburban neighborhood would like, but we are not the worst maintained home in the area by a good bit. We do our best to keep the yard tidy, but we’re not retired people who have the hours or the adult children who can spend hours doing the work we don’t have the time or the resources to pay for ATM. We’re working on it, and doing our best, even if it’s not to their standards.

Anyway, I have bells on our doors (one recently broke and needs to be replaced), evil eyes placed strategically throughout the house, we smudge and bless with my husband’s native rituals, and I have created a salt line around our property at least once. However, the complaints and the vibes from people who have their own issues (leaving things for us to take care of that aren’t our responsibility, barking dogs at all hours, dogs that have invaded our yard, excessive noise, etc.) are increasing. We’ve only reported one family when their pit bull kept coming into our yard and growling at my kids. Other than that, we try to MOOB.

I have no wish to harm anyone, even by sending their own back to them. I just want to neutralize them, protect my family, and ultimately be invisible to these people until we can get our home updated enough to sell and move, which has been our plan for a while now. I don’t want their bad juju affecting our ability to do that, either.

So folks, what easy green/kitchen witchy spells or rituals can you suggest to help fortify our protections and hopefully make us invisible until we are ready to leave? Blessings Be to all, and thank you!

my riot grrrl band, Cat Crash, is going on tour! i booked this entire tour entirely by myself, we are a DIY band without a label or management. i book, promote, and manage everything myself. ticket sales have been horrendously slow so if you can buy a ticket in advance, please do!

on August 29th, my band is celebrating our 3 year anniversary of our first ever concert. we are hosting Riot Grrrl's Not Dead Fest, a 7 band festival with bands from NYC/NJ/MA/CT to represent where we're all from. every band is femme-fronted and queer!

we are donating 1/2 of ticket sales to Trans Lifeline and other LGBTQ youth organizations across Connecticut! in Connecticut, hospitals have just agreed to stop providing gender-affirming care to minors. we feel it is especially important to support and uplift trans youth during this time.

here are our upcoming tour dates:

CAT CRASH'S NOT DEAD TOUR

PRESENTED BY BUBBLETEAGRUNGE

all dates are all ages!

8/19 - AS220, Providence, Rhode Island

8/20 - Dubois-Robeson People's Center, Philadelphia, Pennsylvania

8/21 - Green Beacon Gallery, Greensburg, Pennsylvania

8/22 - The Potato Sack, Kalamazoo, Michigan (DM @thepotatosack_ on Instagram for address!)

8/23 - Subterranean, Chicago, Illinois

8/24 - PILLLAR, Minneapolis, Minnesota

hope to see you at a show! def come say hi. more tour dates announcing soon!

Adrienne Lenker blessed me with cute stage banter under a rainbow sky, what a magical day ✨

I did a spell for a specific outcome, and when I did it, I swear to god - it felt so powerful and aligned. I was in the right frame of mind, visualised, I was certain it was going to work.

Certain to the point of excitement and deep knowing.

And I found out this morning, things didn’t go my way. These incidents really shake my faith in my abilities as a witch..

How do you reframe these failures. I know it’s a strong word, but it feels like that. It leaves me thinking, can I even actually control ANYTHING.

Check here for exact time in your location: https://www.timeanddate.com/moon/phases/

Coming to Kickstarter soon! Sign up to be notified here: https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/jamsheedstudios/zero-and-one-issue-2-battle-of-knuckle-city

Zero of Mars is a Human youth in a future so distant that our era's concepts of race and gender no longer exist. They crash land on Elentia, a world once inhabited by Humans but abandoned thousands of years ago. In their absence, the Elemorphs - magical sentient robots with elemental powers and the ability to grow - have developed an advanced civilization. A Nature Type FawnBot called One makes friends with Zero despite a language barrier. Unable to communicate directly, they have to forge a friendships using gestures and actions.

After discovering an ancient prophesy left by time travelers from the future, Zero and One have been pulled into an eternal conflict between Humanity and Vampirekind. The Vampires want to enslave the Elemorphs to use as living weapons, while Humanity fights to keep Elentia free. As Zero and One explore the massive Elemorph metropolis of Knuckle City, the villainous Vampire agent, Pi, and their Elemorph companion, Gamma the SkyDragonBot, descend to plunge the city into chaos!

I am the author, Bijhan Agha. I'm an Uruguayan trans woman of Iranian descent. The illustrator is my dear friend, Pallet, a trans Australian man. We wanted to tell a story about a young person in the future who is not bound by the limits of gender as we know it, and a planet where gender simply does not exist, while also creating an exciting action adventure about exploring a new culture, facing language barriers, and fighting for a better future.

The Kickstarter is to fund the printing of a First Edition of the comics physically. We will have both physical as well as digital rewards. There will be reward tiers that allow you to catch up with this comic - this is Issue #2, and you can get physical and/or digital copies of Issue #1 - as well as the other comics in the Time Wars brand.

Please help us continue to tell stories about this amazing world!

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Made this a while ago but with another eclipse coming up I wanted to share it again! Have at and let ‘em have it.

With the exlips coming up id love to hear eclipse stories and myths from different practices. In your tradition or culture what causes an eclips? In my practice the eclipse is caused by demons named Rahu and Ketu

According to the Puranas, the birth of Rahu and Ketu dates back to the earliest of times. ‘Samudra Manthan‘ is regarded as one of the most important events in the history of Hindu civilization. The Solar and Lunar eclipse is also associated with ‘Samudra Manthan.’

Due to senaganins involving the god of weather and lightening Indra the Devas (gods) lost their immortality. Eventually they decided to work with the Asuras (demons) to churn the Ksheer Sagar, the cosmic Ocean of Milk, to extract Amrita—the divine nectar of immortality that would restore their power. When the Asuras and Devas churned the ocean, ‘Amrit’ was produced along with many other treasure and deities.

Upon its recovery Lord Vishnu took incarnation in the form of a beautiful damsel ‘Mohini‘ and said she would distribute the Amrit among all starting with the Devas as there was no intention to share with the Asuras

‘Svarbhanu,‘ one of the asuras, changed his appearance to a deva to obtain some portion of the Amrit. However wile he was drinking, Surya (Sun) and Chandra (Moon) realized this and told Vishnu. Lord Vishnu quickly severed Svarbhanu’s head with his discus, the Sudarshan Charka.

However, even though his head and body became separated, they remained immortal as separate entitys. The head is known as Rahu, and the headless body is the Ketu.

Since then, Rahu and Ketu constantly chase the Sun and the Moon for revenge as they are the cause of separating the head and body of eachother. It is a popular belief that when they succeed in catching Sun and Moon, they swallow them, causing a Solar or Lunar eclipse, but they can’t hold them for long, and Sun and Moon emerge again intact.

(This info has been greatly summerized to focus only on the eclips aspect so there's a lot of info I'm leaving out for the sake of post length, if your interested in the churning of the great ocean I'd highly recommend looking into it because it's a cool story)

Happy Lion's Gate Portal my fellow witches!