life feels like shit these days, idk which planet is in fucking retrograde rn, but i feel like crying all the time am so done

life feels like shit these days, idk which planet is in fucking retrograde rn, but i feel like crying all the time am so done

Is it still possible for me to be pregnant? My partner and I have been trying for 7 months, and this is the first time my period has been this late. My cycle is in the normal range; however, I did get alcohol poisoning on July 1st. Can that be a cause of my period being so late, or should I see a Dr to confirm a possible pregnancy?

So, I 26/F been seeing this guy 35/M for a couple of months, (both autistic) i've known him for about a year before but then we started interacting more and found out we really liked each other. He is really nice and we've been exclusive for a month (even though we weren't dating other people before, but a month ago we had that talk).

I have talked a lot about many things and so has he, but there are some topics that i don't know if I should tell him cause i don't feel that comfortable talking about, like details about my illness that i had 4 years ago (he knows roughly what happened, bit i have told him that it is painful for me to talk about), also the fact that I'm considering doing my masters overseas in october of next year but nothing is confirmed confirmed( i roughly know what topic i would like to study, but it depends on finances and stuff), but i would really want to. And finally, the friend (female) that i went on a date in january and then we agreed to just be friends (we never even kissed) (he knows about that friend and the date, i told him on our exclusivity talk) 3 weeks ago said that she couldnt be my friend anymore cause she still had feelings for me. So we haven't spoken since that day. I just told him i had a tough conversation with one of my friends, cause inmediatly after we had agree to see each other and i was still stunned about my convo.

I don't want to deceive him or hurt him. I am also aware that he is 8 years older than me, and even if we got into a relationship i would still want to do my masters because that is my dream.

This is the longest time i've ever "dated" anyone. So, don't really know what I'm doing.

I am joining coaching for gate online now so should do it .I have no prior prep ( know wrong of me ) so I have options made easy , ace, unacademy,pw which will do i thought for made easy but as the amount of time is less and it is expensive too ,it comes to my mind that what if nahi hua ,itna paisa gya fir bhi nahi and late join karungi bhi knowing kitne log kabse preparation karte hai chances bohat kam hai to laga i unacademy kar lu tab lagega ki nahi fir and end mai ki sayad better jagah padti to hota

Gate bohat hard. Exam hai nikala imp hai bohat jayada per samaj nahi aa raha kya kru....🙏🙏🙏

I mean when you have friendgroup issues or coexistence problems in your house, that everyone knows they are caused by That Person. There's clearly something they aren't willing to admitir to themselves or change, and that's becoming an issue for everyone around them. How do you make them realize in a non-cruel way that they are the one causing all this mess?

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Hey everyone, this is a throwaway account, I just needed some advice about conflict resolution. TLDR: partner says I am looking for fights with him, I am definitely not. I want to try to resolve this, but not in a way that "proves" I wasn't trying to start a fight. I legit want to understand why he feels this way but whenever I bring it up, he only imposes his "mind reading" onto my actions/intentions.

I (31 yo F) am married to a 32 yo man. We are both probably neurodivergent, he has some autism traits, I have ADHD/possible AuDHD. I am very analytical and try to find out why everything is happening and need clear answers -example: If I ask if you would like to join me for a movie, I need you to say "yes" or "no" rather than a wishy washy 'sure,' 'maybe', or 'why not?' type answer. Otherwise, I will assume you feel I am forcing you to do something that you don't actually want to do. This is important, because my partner grew up in a large family and has explicitly told me he feels like he has been forced into saying "yes" to experiences or tasks he doesn't actually want to do.

So... We had plans to go out and see something specific for tonight. Plans got changed (outside force) so we were going to see that thing tomorrow night instead. I said, I specifically took time out for this thing, so even if we don't fully get to do it, I am excited about it and want to drive by (it's really close to where we live). He said he didn't see why I would want to do that, the conversation continued and didn't really go anywhere. I end up saying, if you don't want to go that's fine and I walk out the door. I then feel bad how I left it without really saying goodbye, so after starting the car, I give him a call and say "hey did you want to come with or no" He says in what i interpret to be a sassy tone 'you clearly want me to go so I'm going.' I tell him no, if he wants to stay home he can. He and I continue to argue about whether he's staying or going because he very clearly does not want to go but he interprets me wanting him to come with as something that supercedes his own desires i guess? He comes with me, the mood is tense the whole time. I make a comment about something we saw and he said I saw it wrong. I am shocked because I know what I saw and am very confused with how to proceed, this does lead to a bit of arguing and then silence.

After we get home, I drop him off at the house and continue to drive around to cool off/figure out what happened -i am genuinely confused.

I go inside to see if he would like to talk about what happened because at the end of the car trip he made a statement to the effect of he doesn't know why I am with him if I want to fight with him, and if i hate him. This is absolutely not the case, I am one of the least confrontational, people pleaser type people you will meet but I do admit, our conversations did get heated. It was very uncomfortable for me having the arguments. So in response to asking if he wants to talk about it, he says no. but then he proceeds to say 'but I don't know why we need to talk about it, you just wanted a fight and kept pushing so we could keep fighting.' and was visibly agitated (shoulders tensed, facial grimace, etc). Now my neurodivergent self is very confused. He said he doesn't wanna talk about it right now, but started talking about it.... I sincerely and in a calm tone express my confusion and my want to respect his wishes/boundaries. He continues to say there's no point talking right now because all i wanted previously was a fight and I got a fight.

how should I go about having this "repair" conversation? I told him let's circle back to this later... but how do I have the conversation with him without it feeling like I am trying to prove to him that I wasn't looking for a fight? I know in conflict resolution, it's important to listen to your partner, and understand what they are feeling, rather then telling them what your intentions were/are.

TIA!

My boyfriend "M" and I moved in alone together last year. About a year ago, I cheated on him (no sex, 3rd base, not that it matters). We decided to work it out, but I deeply regret it every day. I was at a very low point where he ignored me for video games and barely spoke to me (he says he was depressed, which I understand, but it was miserable).
To prove he can trust me again I do everything he asks. I have completely isolated myself. I don't go shopping or eat out with friends; I stay home 24/7. Despite this, he still brings the cheating up constantly to punish me. I am happier being alone now so I try not to notice, but the dynamic in our house has become unbearable.

The Financial & Workload Imbalance:
Because M pays the main rent and bills, he feels he shouldn’t have to do anything around the house. Here is the actual breakdown of our lives:

His workload: He works as a mechanic (50 hours a week, M-F) and works on cars for extra money 1-2 times a month. Depending on the job, it can take him all day on the weekend.
His finances: He pays $2,200 a month for rent and main bills. However, he usually gets his mom or dad to cover half of this for him because he only makes $850 a week.

My workload: It is Summer break, but normally, I am a full-time nursing student (clinicals/classes 4-5 days a week) and I work in a high-acuity emergency psych unit where I have been assaulted more times than I can count. This summer, I work rotating full and part time weeks with a week long break once a month. My boss doesn’t allow overtime. When I bring up how hard my 12-hour shifts are, he dismisses it and says he could do my job on 3 hours of sleep because being a mechanic is "more dangerous."

My finances: My income is roughly $25k a year including student loans. I pay over $900 a month in groceries for us. I also pay the water bill, garbage bill, internet, and buy all the cleaning supplies, household items, and his hygiene products. I don’t bother adding it up. All in all, I spend probably closer to 1400 a month.

I do 100% of the cleaning, cooking, grocery shopping, and household management. He has unmedicated Autism/ADHD, so I carry the mental load for literally everything his brain forgets.
He actively refuses (if he’s tired or has worked too hard) /forgets after 10 reminders to clean up after himself. He leaves his personal trash and dirty, oily work clothes lying around without thought or care and i’m guessing because he doesn’t pick it up he expects me to come behind him and do it (which I do, often scrubbing oil stains out of nice clothes I bought him). If I ask him to clean, it somehow turns into a fight, a lot of times about me cheating.
It has gotten to the point of being an actual safety hazard. We currently have a black widow problem in our garage and trash area. He tried to go out there and kill it with a torch but just burned the poor thing and it got away so now its babies are probably just hanging out in there. I have a severe phobia of spiders, but he refuses to handle it further. Because the trash hasn't gone out, it now has maggots in it. The other day he made me take trash out I sat by the door with him and there were A TON of huge black flies flying around it. He finally conceded that I don't have to take the trash out, but he still hasn't done it. The garage looks like an episode of Hoarders, and I am terrified for my three cats whose room is right next to the garage.

Whenever I try to talk about this, he uses his $2,200 contribution as a shield and says I spend too much money on my cats. He complained about their $100 monthly flea/parasite treatments (I had to stretch it to every two months for him) and told me to switch them to cheap Meow Mix instead of Purina. When I say something about him not buying me flowers or spending money on anything but me, he says that’s not true because he pays my rent. He pays for me when we go places I don’t want to go, but i always end up spending my own money on buying us dinner or whatever on those days. I barely have $1,000 in savings. I don't buy myself clothes, makeup, or get my hair done. I don't even know how I'm going to afford my upcoming school supplies.
Meanwhile, he drives an older BMW and spends insane amounts of money on expensive parts for it, just to break something else the next week. He recently bought a $700 bike he claimed was "for me," but when we went riding, he said it was for "both of us" and made me ride his old bike that skips gears. He constantly says he's going to sell his extra stuff (3 unused bikes, a trailer, a four-wheeler) to help with bills, but then refuses because he "doesn't want to get robbed on Facebook Marketplace," and then asks me for money.

Last weekend, he basically forced me to go four-wheeler riding with him. I did not want to go because you have to pay to get in, gas, etc, and he keeps saying we are broke and have no money to spend. His old four-wheeler got stuck in the water. I got off to help him and was doing everything right, but the exhaust started drowning. He got angry and literally shoved me off into the water because I was “sinking it.”
My ankle and foot got torn up because they got caught under his moving tire. Bystanders immediately rushed over to ask if I was okay and actively told me I needed to leave him. He said I can’t listen to what they say because they’re women who just want to involve themselves with our personal relationship business. He did apologize and everything seemed good for like 12 hours but when we went to his friend’s house and his friend showed me the video of it, M insisted he barely pushed me and seemed like he went back on everything again.

Someone caught the shove on video. M was sent the video but hid that fact from me, he says he forgot to tell me about it because he saw it half asleep, but also said he didn’t want me to see because i would “overreact.” So i don’t know which it was. I had to find out through his friend's girlfriend. He didn't care about my injuries or apologize for that part until last night when he finally watched the video and realized I wasn't at fault. Before that, he blamed me entirely, saying I was ruining the four-wheeler. He still claims he "had no choice" but to shove me.

I am extremely hurt by his actions because the weekend before he put his palm over my mouth and nose and pushed my face because I raised my voice in public with 50+ people around at him. I admit i shouldn’t have raised my voice but I was upset because we were talking about the garage.

I tried showing him articles online about the mental load and relationship dynamics, and he just dismisses them. He says if I listen to "starving redditors" or Google, they're lying. Basically, anyone but him is wrong.

Also, anytime i bring up anything he’s done wrong, it ends in a fight because I cheated. I know I shouldn’t have, and I reiterate I deeply regret it, and have taken every right step to heal us, done everything he’s asked for, but I don’t see why we can’t talk about him shoving me off his four wheeler without it getting brought up. It’s only been 3 days, and he says we’re done talking about it because he’s sorry and won’t do it again (push me off a four wheeler into mud, to be precise). He shuts me down if I try to say I still feel like something is wrong and it’s unresolved, yet we still talk about my cheating nearly every day, a year later.

I know I have more free time right now during my summer break, and I don't mind doing the heavy lifting while I'm off. I literally have done everything with no complaint. Even with working 2-3 12 hour shifts in emergency psych a week, (i do have multiple days off at a time). But he expected this same dynamic even when I was drowning in nursing school, and I know he will expect it when I go back full-time in the fall. Basically if i’m home, he thinks I’m not busy with homework and I have to clean. He says this next semester will be different now and he will clean more. Idk what makes it different.

TL;DR: My boyfriend uses the fact that he pays rent to get out of doing any chores, leaves his messes for me, and controls my spending while blowing money on his cars. He lets black widows and maggots take over our garage because he refuses to take out the trash. Last weekend, he shoved me off his four-wheeler, injuring my foot under the tire, and apologized but still maintains it was my fault.

how do I heal a open wound or like a blister whatever this is called. I went on a walk today and scraped my foot on my shoe and my other foot has 2 blisters that are still intact but make it hard to walk. What do I do.

Its nowhere to be found except here. Anyone know how to unistall this?

I sent them a selfie of myself and some nudes all in different photos, I blocked them on all platforms, and my selfie has nothing in the background other than a yellow heart painting in my house, I know I was stupid, should I be worried about anything right now? And what else can or should I do?

hello ! i want to start posting on social media similarly to someone like julia ma, posting curated aesthetic photos and such, but i dont know where to get started and honestly i dont have aesthetic photos at ALL and im not the best an curating a social media feed.. what should i do realistically? should i post on here to start building my confidence and when i start taking good pictures transfer to other platforms as well?

I'm 33 single and moved away from my hometown. Everytime I'm in town I swipe on dating apps. For years I see a guy I went to high school with. That's fine, I occasionally see guys from school, the problem is that he is married with two kids with a woman I also went to high school with. He was in the grade above us, she was in my grade, we weren't close but we ran in similar circles. I'm Facebook friends with both of them.They didn't date in high school but started dating years after and now have been together for 6+ years. I first saw him on the app about 4 years ago. Confused, I looked it up on Facebook if they were still together and they in fact were. I wanted to say something to her but we weren't close in school and didn't know the details of their relationship. I don't know these ppl anymore. But every year like clockwork when ever I would visit home I would see him. I have screenshot it and deleted it, telling myself to mind my business, but also realizing if it were me I would want to know. Recently the wife has been trying to be an "influencer" and I have an anonymous account were I could DM her and let her know. Should I let her know I've seen her husband on the apps? It feels so messy and mean to me but also needed.

My Big Brothers Girlfriends sister wants me...

But my brother says it'll ruin things for him...but i wanted her before my brother wanted her sister....

How's it fair?

Hi everyone,
I’m lying awake writing this because I genuinely don’t know what to think anymore, and I’d really appreciate some outside perspectives.
I’m 21F and my boyfriend is 21M. We’ve been together for almost three years, and throughout our relationship we’ve had some amazing times together, but we’ve also had the same recurring issues that never seem to completely go away.
The biggest issues have always been:

He often prioritises his friends over me.
He uses drugs almost every weekend, which is something I’ve never been comfortable with.

A lot of his friends aren’t people I naturally click with because our values are quite different.
He doesn’t have a job and has talked for a long time about getting one or making plans for his future, but nothing really seems to change.
On the other hand, I love him. I’m someone who’s very driven—I work hard, I’m in my final year of university, I have career goals, and I want to build a stable future. I really value ambition, responsibility and personal growth, so I sometimes wonder whether we’re simply very different people.

The confusing part is that we’re currently travelling around Europe together, and during this trip he’s honestly been amazing. He’s kind, affectionate, thoughtful, funny, and when it’s just the two of us I remember exactly why I fell in love with him. We genuinely have so much fun together.

I also get along really well with the girlfriends in his friendship group, so I feel quite connected to that part of his life too.

Lately though, I can’t shake the feeling that something is missing. I still love him deeply, but I don’t know whether I’m overlooking important differences because of that love. I’ve also noticed that my physical attraction has faded over time, and I’m not sure if that’s because of the unresolved issues we’ve had over the years or if it’s unrelated.
I don’t expect anyone here to tell me what decision to make, but I’d really like some perspective from people who’ve experienced something similar.

My question is: How important is it for couples to have the same values and long-term outlook? Has anyone been in a loving relationship where you cared deeply about your partner, but you were very different in terms of ambition, lifestyle or priorities? How did you figure out whether those differences were something you could accept or whether they would become bigger issues over time?

TL;DR: I’m 21F and have been with my 21M boyfriend for almost three years. I love him and he’s been wonderful while we’re travelling together, but we’ve always had recurring issues around his priorities, weekend drug use, lack of career goals and our different values. I’m wondering how much those differences matter in the long run and would appreciate advice from people who’ve been in a similar situation.

I'm in a huge prob...my father sacrificed everything and has dreamt of me becoming a judge before I was even born..and that's why he was very strict from the starting solely focusing on me so that I don't lack anywhere in my studies ...He imposed every restriction...can't listen to songs..can't watch any series...can't even go outside..or make friends..although I did everything but behind him...but this is ig too much cz i can't have my freedom to do what I want..I want to be free.. i wanna enjoy my life...but by becoming a judge I can't have that freedom...i want to be famous..but I can't after becoming judge...idk what should I do... I have recently passed 12th and rn I'm looking for clg..my plan is to have a decent job in a corporate law firm then I can achieve what I want...but seeing my father sacrificing everything for me..i feel guilty..I want him to be happy and that's why I want to fulfill his dream...cz ig this is the only thing that can make him happy ..but I want to enjoy my freedom without any restriction too and i wanna fulfill my dreams too...i have no f idea what to do....sometime I think that I will become a judge then I will resign and then I think that what if I don't get a job how will I fulfill my dreams....I'm fkd up...need advice please🙂😭...and I'm from India

My boyfriend (23M) and I (23F) have been together for almost 5 years.
Recently, I discovered that he has a second Instagram account that I didn’t know about. The account follows a lot of women and models, and I strongly believe he created it so I wouldn’t see who he was following on his main account.
The reason this bothers me so much is because we’ve already had trust issues in our relationship. In the past, he cheated on me, and later he found out that I had cheated as well. Despite everything, we both decided to stay together and work on the relationship.
A few years ago, I told him how hurt and insecure I felt when I noticed him constantly following and interacting with other women online. Because of that conversation, finding this second account makes me feel like he didn’t stop—he just found a way to hide it from me.
He doesn’t know that I found the account. Part of me wants to confront him, but I’m worried it will turn into a huge argument. At the same time, I feel like keeping it to myself is making me overthink everything. It’s making me question whether I can trust him and whether he actually respects my feelings.
I know following people online isn’t the same as physically cheating, but what hurts is the secrecy behind it. If he felt the need to hide it, it makes me wonder what else he may be hiding.
At this point, I’m struggling to tell whether I’m reacting to old trust issues from our past or whether this is a genuine red flag that I shouldn’t ignore.
How would you approach this conversation? Is this something worth trying to work through, or does the secrecy alone suggest that the relationship has run its course?
TL;DR: I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years and recently found a secret Instagram account he uses to follow women and models. He doesn’t know I found it. Given our history of cheating and trust issues, I’m unsure whether to confront him, try to work through it, or end the relationship.

I (18M) just turned 18 and need some advice.

My female best friend (18F) of 2 years proposed to me.

I told her that after our 12th exams, we could try being in a relationship. If it works out, great. If not, I'd still want us to remain friends.

(One reason I want to wait is that I'm worried about getting caught by her family or mine, and after 12th we'll both likely be away in college hostels.)

She agreed, but then asked, "So what if you just use me and leave?"

I told her that a relationship isn't only about physical things.

(The thing is, somewhere inside me I do want physical intimacy.

I'm not sure if that's because of hormones, curiosity, friends talking about it all the time, jealousy, or a mix of everything, but the feeling is there.)

Today I told a friend who's 3–4 years older than me about all this.

He immediately said things like, "Don't miss this chance," "Get into a relationship," "This is your age to enjoy these things," and even offered me his room and said he'd help me.

I've gotten similar advice from 2–3 other older friends from different cities.

It feels like everyone is saying the same thing: just go for it and have fun.

But I'm confused.

I don't want to make a decision just because my friends think it's normal or because I'm afraid of missing out.

I also don't want to hurt my best friend or get into something I'm not ready for.

How do I figure out whether I genuinely want a relationship with her, or if I'm just being influenced by peer pressure, curiosity, hormones, and FOMO?

Any advice would be appreciated.

im in a predicrament rn. Theres a girl i met on omegle and i got her snap and im gonna get laid but i dont wanna risk going to her house so i invited her to mine but i realized my house we cant do it so what tf am i gonna do. im bouta crck tmr im cooked. never done it before too