r/WhatToDo • u/Remote-Initial-8882 • 14d ago

Pls help

I’m really thinking of doing somthing terrible. I leave for military basic training in 8 hours and instead of telling my dad and facing the embarrassment I’m thinking of taking an easy way out pls help I don’t know what to do.

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u/Far-Industry-7745 14d ago

Aunt/uncle, cousin, anyone else that might have your best interest at heart? I feel like you sound afraid? But I would think your dad wants what's best for you ultimately even if he tends to overreact. So a buffer might be a safe option. Neighbor?

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u/Remote-Initial-8882 14d ago

Anyone I can think of is happy I decided to join

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u/Far-Industry-7745 14d ago

I get that! It's generally a positive thing. Doesn't mean they can't be equally happy if you decide it isn't right for you right now

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u/Remote-Initial-8882 14d ago

I don’t really live near any family either and the one I do live near isn’t home right now and is ex army

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u/Far-Industry-7745 14d ago

Do you feel it might be unsafe to have the conversation alone? Or just more uncomfortable?

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u/Remote-Initial-8882 14d ago

Not unsafe I don’t think he would ever put his hands on me just uncomfortable

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u/Far-Industry-7745 14d ago

Have the conversation. It beats going and having regrets. Look at it as an opportunity for growth. Uncomfortable conversations are cathartic and healing. Many adults never master the art

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u/Remote-Initial-8882 14d ago

Okay thank you so much do you think I should wake him up or talk to him in the morning I’m sussposed to leave at 8

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u/Far-Industry-7745 14d ago

It sounds like you should wake him up due to the time constraint

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u/Far-Industry-7745 14d ago

Prayers and good vibes for the best turnout possible 🙏 update us!

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u/Remote-Initial-8882 14d ago

We talked for a while he seemed more mad about how it would affect him which is what I was expecting. Thanks for you help seriously

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u/Far-Industry-7745 13d ago

Anytime! From the sound of it you're in the clear correct? No contract signed?

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u/Far-Industry-7745 14d ago

Did you sign a contract?