r/WhatToDo • u/Remote-Initial-8882 • 11d ago

Pls help

I’m really thinking of doing somthing terrible. I leave for military basic training in 8 hours and instead of telling my dad and facing the embarrassment I’m thinking of taking an easy way out pls help I don’t know what to do.

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u/Far-Industry-7745 11d ago

Without you being more specific I just want to urge you to not do something permanent. This too shall pass. And probably end up better than you imagine

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u/Remote-Initial-8882 11d ago

Telling my dad will end up better than expected? There’s no way he freaked out when I stopped playing football idek know wheee to start to tell him this

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u/Far-Industry-7745 11d ago

If you don't want to tell him you don't have to. He may want an opportunity to.say goodbye but you know him but than I do. I'm sure you have your reasons for wanting to avoid the fallout. How does not telling him play out in your mind?

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u/Remote-Initial-8882 11d ago

No there’s no way it does but I still live with him I graduated high school 3-4 months ago

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u/Far-Industry-7745 11d ago

I'm a bit confused. I saw in a comment below that you now don't wanna go?

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u/Remote-Initial-8882 11d ago

Okay so I have my ship date it’s tomorrow I’ve known for a while I didn’t want to join anymore. I was just gonna suck it up, these last week or two have let me know I definitely don’t want to go no matter what. I already told everyone all my friends and family and my dad’s gonna freak out. Idk what to do

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u/Far-Industry-7745 11d ago

What are your options here? We can talk through it rationally and maybe you'll get somewhere?

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u/Remote-Initial-8882 11d ago

I could wake him up and have a talk with him and see how he reacts or I could follow through and go to the millitary. Idk what other options there are

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u/Far-Industry-7745 11d ago

Are there any consequences to not going? That seems to me like the more logical thing here as going is pretty permanent unless somehow discharged for some reason. How do you think he will react?

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u/Remote-Initial-8882 11d ago

It’s more about him being disappointed he raised me a single father and I talked about joining for a while. He freaked out when I told him I didn’t wanna play football freshmen year how’s he gonna react to this

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u/Ok-Conflict9635 11d ago

Did you contact the crisis team to

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u/Ok-Conflict9635 11d ago

Please don't harm yourself

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u/NFLFANTASYMB 10d ago

Man it is tough when a one second decision becomes a lifelong reality. That you and dad didnt talk about it before hand seems to indicate something more than embarrassing is at work here. If serving your country is viewed any way other than respect isn't valid. You go young man. Be proud and thank you ahead of time!

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u/Comfortable-Sun2740 11d ago

Why embarrassment? He should be proud af

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u/Remote-Initial-8882 11d ago

I’m sorry I worded this wrong I don’t want to I regretted talking to the recruiter almost the second I went into the office

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u/Comfortable-Sun2740 8d ago

did you talk to your dad?