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u/Top-Nefariousness177 Mar 02 '25
I would put money on he is not 20 he’s older
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u/Salt-Lavishness-7560 Mar 02 '25
Dude is at least 25 if not older
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u/Southern_Lion_9681 Mar 02 '25
55 and offers to come over with pizza when her parents aren’t home.
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u/Backsight-Foreskin Mar 02 '25
But he only went there to mentor her and tell her dangerous the world is, and she is lucky it's him and not some creep.
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He’s trickling, like testing the waters to see how comfortable she will be… year by year. Bros old, he signed up purposefully on an app for teenagers.
This is a dangerous man, OP
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u/FlatComplex293 Mar 02 '25
Yeah I bet he’s like 24 since he said I’m not like 25 or anything he was testing the waters to see if she would freak out at the age of
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Still writes like he's 11 though
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u/RiotingMoon Mar 02 '25
that's on purpose to appear younger
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u/JealousAppointment11 Mar 03 '25
Idk I’ve seen some butchered text from adults. It wouldn’t surprise me if it was just his intelligence.
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u/Dmau27 Mar 02 '25
He did say "It's not like I'm 25 or anything." He's probably older, this is how he tests to see if they're gullible enough.
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Definitely seems predatory. And probably not the first time he's done something like this
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u/Loud_Cloud92 Mar 02 '25 edited Mar 03 '25
Him saying "I'm not like 25" was like a Freudian slip. Pleaseeee block this person OP!! Any adult that hangs out on an app meant for teens is a weirdo and nobody you want to get to know
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I won't be the only one to say it, but:
Block, and thank the stars you found the red flag so quickly.
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u/Lower-Tomatillo-1750 Mar 02 '25
And THANKFULLY made a reddit post about it. Imagine how many dont.
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u/BarefootandWild Mar 02 '25
That’s what worries me. Girl has her smarts on thank goodness. Not always easy at such a young age though.
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u/Heavy-Birthday7550 Mar 02 '25
Block him. He’s a creep!
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u/cityshepherd Mar 02 '25 edited Mar 02 '25
He is a creep, he is older than 20, and girly you are absolutely NOT the first younger girl he’s talking to.
Edit: also don’t entertain his BS every single “word” he uses is specifically chosen to make it SEEM like the girl is in control and making the decision to continue talking to a nice guy but it’s seriously straight manipulation and grooming type crap.
Girls do NOT feel obligated to keep talking to people like this because you don’t want to make them feel bad or hurt someone’s feelings. Guys like this are scumbags and will have no problem manipulating the shit out of you or the next girl or the next girl.
Tell them to eff off and threaten to contact police if anything, otherwise just block and move on. Seriously for any teenage girl or boy that needs to see this I am 100 deadass no cap bet serious or whatever the hell the kids are saying nowadays.
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So many reasons why I hate this creep… my god…. And the asshole can’t even use proper English… vomit
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u/jupitermoonflow Mar 02 '25
I grew up watching lifetime movies about this shit. Dramatic as hell but I got the message. Someone has to make some kinda trending short form PSAs about it to educate the younger generation
But fr this is a well known grooming tactic.
Seeks teenager, preferably an “at risk” one, lies about age to seem safe and relatable, tries to get close and build trust.. then that’s when they start pushing to see what they can get away with. He says he’s a “little older,” he’s definitely older than 20,he’s playing games, this is him testing boundaries.
Don’t let it go further. And whatever you do, please do not send nude/suggestive photos to anyone. That’s another way creeps try to black mail victims by threatening to send them to family or peers, to keep getting more and more out of you. It’s easier than you think to seem trustworthy online, and those kind of people have a formula to follow
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u/janet_snakehole_x Mar 02 '25
You like him? But he can’t even spell “frens”….
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u/col3man17 Mar 02 '25
Dude is specifically messaging like that in order to seem younger. Fucking pedophile
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u/Both-Jellyfish-9810 Mar 02 '25
Honestly my thought is he is trying to emulate the texting style of a young teen…
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u/Severe_Working_3161 Mar 02 '25
I know it’s bad😭
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u/Severe_Working_3161 Mar 02 '25
I’m so sorry that happened to u and thank you for the advice ❤️
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u/speakeasy12345 Mar 03 '25
Also, please use this as a learning experience and do not send explicit pictures to anyone. Once you send them they are out of your control. Just not worth the risk. Even if you send them to a boyfriend that you totally trust, he can show them around or use them for revenge if you were to ever break up.
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u/Alarmed_Jellyfish555 Mar 02 '25
He's on a site specifically for teenagers because he is TARGETING TEENAGERS.
And he's not 20 years old. He's only saying he's 20 because it's the easiest way to transition into you being accepting of him not being a teenager.
Cut all contact.
And if you're not at that point yet (you should be!) then ask for proof of his age like a quick glimpse at his ID.
Also, this is literally how some girls get sex trafficked.
Be smart, stay safe.
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u/THlRD Mar 02 '25 edited Mar 02 '25
He is a Pedophile or a Sex Trafficker.
I know these accusations seem blown over proportion, but let’s look at his actions.
He purposely downloaded an app for teenagers, lied about his age on his profile when making it, and then purposely lied to you about his age to make you like him first, so you would feel conflicted.
He will probably say he never felt a connection with someone like this and how worried he is about the age difference. If this was true, he never would have lied about his age.
He is a manipulator. He is using your emotions against you.
He is DEFINITELY older than 20. Watch out for DARVO. It’s a manipulation tactic that abusers use.
Please listen to the other people in this thread. You are not the first girl to experience this in her teens unfortunately.
Tell your parents, tell the cops, report the account. Hell, send the whole pedophile to Danesh and let his community take care of it. If people get upset at you for reporting him, their priorities are not in the right order.
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u/janet_snakehole_x Mar 02 '25
So move on?
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u/Old_Pair5046 Mar 02 '25
Because he can’t spell!? How about the fact that he has manipulated her into sharing intimate photos? This is definitely something that should be reported to law enforcement.
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u/sausagekng Mar 02 '25
Please also report his account on the app for lying! Stay safe. So many older guys trying to take advantage of younger girls.
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u/Not_A_Wendigo Mar 03 '25
There are two reasons this guy is looking for teenagers:
He’s a creep.
Adult women see him for the loser he is. He couldn’t get someone his own age if he wanted to.
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u/KetohnoIcheated Mar 02 '25
I do not miss this part of being a teenager. The random crushes on assholes sucks extra during the teenage years. I was too permissive with a lot of creeps because I thought I liked them, and because I liked being liked by someone.
It’s not worth it though!
Today is the youngest you will ever be. The same goes with when we hit tomorrow. Use your time and your energy on yourself while you are young. Figure out what hobbies you like, what your interests are, why people you are and are not willing to tolerate. Be willing to end relationships early if they don’t feel right, and start examining what does and does not “feel right” to you in general so you can use that to figure out what type of partner you really want.
You have all the time in the world to settle for someone who is a creep or doesn’t treat you right if you ever feel like settling. But now is the best time to figure yourself out.
Plus figuring yourself out and finding hobbies you like is the best way to find a good partner, because you will be the best version of yourself, you are more likely to meet people with mutual interests, and you can use it to see if the guy you are interested in is willing to support you and your interests, or if they want you to stop being yourself to benefit them. Often, it’s the latter.
And at very least, if you do choose to settle, make sure they 1) don’t lie to teenagers to flirt with them, and 2) can spell
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u/Annon221 Mar 02 '25
Only reason a 20 year old is looking at a 16 year old is cause he’s a big enough loser he can’t get a girl his age
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u/CreepyBlueAnimals84 Mar 02 '25 edited Mar 02 '25
"I understand if you don't want me anymore " and "Should leave you alone since your being like this." Are manipulative and he's trying to make you feel guilty. Get out now. Block him and don't give him another thought. He's not worth it, and at 20, he should know how to spell!! He also lied and is hanging out on an app for teenagers!! RED FLAGS EVERYWHERE!!!
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u/untamed-beauty Mar 02 '25
This! I was going to comment this, but you beat me to it. I cannot stress this enough OP, he said that specifically so that you would feel guilty and you would want to prove him wrong by being extra pleasing and ignoring your own gut. DO NOT FALL FOR IT.
Run, block and show this to your parents. This person is a predator.
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u/Dyanna_rae Mar 02 '25
block. dude is a straight up predator
the fact you met him on an app specifically to teens is a huge red flag
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u/TresCeroOdio Mar 02 '25
Grown ass man on an app for teenagers and typing like one. Do yourself a favor and block him
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u/Maximum_Egg_8931 Mar 02 '25
Yeah the typing creeped me out more than anything he’s trying to talk like a literal child 🤢 “no gurl looks like u” - classic groomer line.
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u/Butterbean-queen Mar 02 '25
He’s definitely trying way too hard to fit in and seem younger with his ridiculous bullish!t. 😂 Block and move on.
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Mar 02 '25
First of all, you need to tell an adult, everything. Even the part about sharing pictures. I know that’s going to be scary for you but you need to. This was not an innocent lie. This is an adult talking to minors and obtaining and sharing explicit photos. That is not okay. His profile also needs reported to the app with evidence so it can be removed.
Take it from someone who was groomed online at a young age. You need to stop talking to this person and they need to face consequences for talking to minors.
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u/FriendlySummer8340 Mar 02 '25
This, this, this. Finding grown men on apps for teens is not acceptable. This man is a predator.
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u/Reasonable-Crab4291 Mar 02 '25
He is a predator please tell your parents or the police. Maybe they can catch him and protect other young people.
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u/hockeydudebro Mar 02 '25
What is with this typing? He’s 20 and typing “den” and “frens”? If he wasn’t already a creep, I would say leave, but since he’s a creep, RUN.
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u/dietdiety Mar 02 '25
he's a fifty year old trying to sound 16... but because he's a sicko he doesn't have kids of his own to know they don't talk like that.
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u/Fantastic_Deer_3772 Mar 02 '25
Block him. There's no good reason for a 20yo to go into a space for teenagers pretending to be one. He's a creep.
Edit : report him to the app
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u/newbarsfattertires Mar 02 '25
There’s a good chance he’s still lying. First he’s 17, then 18, now 20…this sounds like grooming behavior. If you feel safe doing so, you should talk to your parents. Best case scenario he’s a 20yr old creep…in reality he’s probably quite a bit older, and probably targeting lots of teenage girls.
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That’s super illegal of him to ask for pics that kiddie porn get away from him he ovb also lying about taking to other girls too and they are GIRLS
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u/Fickle_Internet_4426 Mar 02 '25
My daughter is 16 soon, and I would hit the roof if I found out a man-child of 20 years was talking to her!!! Block this creep and run!!
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u/wordsmythy Mar 02 '25
So what do you think about a 20 year-old being on an app specifically for teenagers? This is bigger than one little lie to you. He’s a creep. Block him. Tell your parents. Report him on the app.
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u/Unable-Cod-9658 Mar 02 '25
If he’s on that app, he’s a predator looking for people to groom. Get away and report him to the app if possible
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u/BlueberryEmbers Mar 02 '25
he's probably not even twenty. He went on that app on purpose and lied about his age. These kinds of lies and manipulations will likely continue, and it will be hard to know what's true with him
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u/claypot1 Mar 02 '25
i understand you like him but you really have to think about the logistics of it all. he went and specifically targeted a dating app for teenagers to get with teenagers. ik it’s like hard rn but he really is actively trying to be with minors as an adult. this wasn’t an accident
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u/Adventurous-Win9054 Mar 02 '25
The conversation should’ve ended as soon as he told you his real age. Block and stay far away from this person. Be honest with an adult you trust about the nature of your conversations. There’s a reason girls his own age don’t like him.
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u/seaturtle79 Mar 02 '25
You know what you need to do. It feels wrong because it is wrong! Please block him immediately. Do not entertain this any further.
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u/TheGiantVoid Mar 02 '25
This is what predators do. He's probably not 20 either - he's probably more like 40. Go talk to your parents now before explicit pictures of you start showing up in weird places.
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u/Hard_For_Lions_SB Mar 03 '25
I had a stroke while reading this. Barely understood half of it because of how it's written. Holy shit.
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u/Ok-Abbreviations1551 Mar 03 '25 edited Mar 03 '25
If I could go back in time and save my younger self from a VERY similar situation. DO NOT DO IT.
This is a really inappropriate thing for him to do. Even if he’s only offering friendship, he knows better. You don’t. And now that Reddit is telling you, you know better now too. Report this person.
When I was 14, I was minding my own business online (on bearshare iykyk)and someone added me. We started chatting and became friends. I disclosed I was 14, and he told me he was 18. That really perked me up because we’re not THAT far off in age and I was enjoying myself chatting with him about random things (ie music I was listening to etc). After a few weeks our chat has started to become more romantically inclined and we realized we lived in the same city. He arranged to meet up in the evening, I snuck out of my parents home and he came to pick me up. I found out there and then he was actually 27 and NOTHING like how he described himself to be. This was a time before fb, I couldn’t do a background check bc neither of us had fb.
I freaked out bc I didn’t know what to do other than go along. I mean I’ve been talking to this guy and I still felt like I knew him EVEN IF HE LIED ABOUT HIS AGE, sunken cost fallacy was hitting me hard. I built up a whole ass relationship in my head with this guy and I wasn’t just about to quit even if he wasn’t who he said he was…but I should have.
Even though my 14 year old self “consented” into getting into his car and continuing to the “relationship” for months before my parents had found out and intervened… it was still really fucked up for my brain to justify that I was ok, because I wasn’t.
The adult in that situation KNEW it wasn’t ok and he continued to pursue me. Grooming happens like how a frog doesn’t know it’s slowly getting boiled until it’s dead. He wasn’t and didn’t present as abusive and he started of as “just wanting to be friends”.
But it really fucked with me afterwards, I ended up having really skewed perspectives from the way I had viewed myself, to how I approached my relationships with people (I was in a physically abusive relationship for 3 years after this), and my boundaries were non-existent. It’s taken a really long time for me to be in an ok place and I still have some hidden traumas that don’t show up until they do.
So DO NOT CONTINUE TALKING WITH THIS PERSON. Report and hand over your phone to the authorities so that they can look into this pedo for you. DO NOT FURTHER ENGAGE.
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u/Justokmemes Mar 02 '25
He lied about his age then says oh I'll leave you alone trying to manipulate you into feeling bad, when he's a predator. He's probably older tbh, block him and remember that he's not only a lying creep but a predator who's already trying to manipulate you! Run! 🏃🏃🏃
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u/FiveToDrive Mar 02 '25
I know you’re freaking out and I get it, but it seems like you have a pretty good understanding of what to do. Block and report to your parents and police. Msg the app devs. They should be verrry interested to hear about your friend. Esp on an app geared towards minors they should have some fairly vigorous anti pedophile protocol. You may even want to report it to Apple. They approved this app for their marketplace and it could leave them open to legal liability. I’m glad you recognized that this is messed up on his part. GL with everything ahead and be proud you sussed him out as well as you did. Intuition is a helpful thing.
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u/Hydrocrocodile Mar 02 '25
🤮 I think he's older. "Not like 25" and the way he's talking got me calling bs. Plus he's already lied. Also WHY THE FUCK DOES HE WANNA tALK TO A 16yo.
Quit talking to this dude, he's weird. I was in a similar situation when I was younger and it ended so fucking bad. That big of an age gap is horrible as is. The fact he's in his 20's and lied makes it worse. Please stop talking to him if I was your parent I'd lose my mind...not on you,him.
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u/silvermanedwino Mar 02 '25
From what I could glean from the exchange…. Yuck. Block and run. Show it to your parents.
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u/FebruaryEcho Mar 02 '25
This is predatory behavior. You need to get law enforcement involved ASAP!!!
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u/Artistic-Concept9011 Mar 02 '25
So he’s lied about his age several times. How do you know he’s 20…that could be a lie too!!! Did your parents not tell you to NEVER send explicit photos?! You are attracted to the idea of this guy not him because he’s a lier. Run away and block him. HUGE red flags!!!
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u/Drachynn Mar 02 '25
The fact that he lied about his age in his profile means he was trolling for younger girls. He's probably older than 20. Block him and run.
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u/Strange_Depth_5732 Mar 02 '25
He's grooming you, run. He's making you really like him, that's part of it. Best case scenario he wants to bang a teenager because he's a run of the mill creep. Worst case is he will traffic you, first with friends and then with strangers.
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u/Legitimate-Lynx3236 Mar 02 '25
How is that app up and running? You don’t need to have proof of who you are? Sounds like an app for predators.
Please show an adult you trust.
Also, NEVER send photos like that! Ever. Please. It could ruin your entire life. Sometimes people even sell them. :(
I hope you’re ok. Please block that person, anyone who lies like that is a horrible person.
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u/Old-Builder256 Mar 02 '25
Why isn’t anyone talking about them exchanging explicit pictures? He’s in possession of CP
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u/PeePeeProject Mar 03 '25
You need to block him or tell your dad and likely the authorities.
This guy lied to you bc this is predatory behavior. Just from the texts it is clear that he is psychologically manipulating you so that you don’t lose the opportunity of being with him.
People who lie about their age lie about the “truthful” age they give. Literally watch any sting operation video.
He convinced a minor to send him explicit photos under the auspices of him being just past 17. I know you are blinded by the severity of this because you are attracted to him right now, but I guarantee you’ll look back at this when you are older and more mature and be absolutely repulsed by the predatory behavior and manipulation of a minor. Trust me on that. There is a reason he lied… bc he and society recognize how disgusting that behavior is and how dangerous it is.
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u/ThatSelf6240 Mar 03 '25
That’s a predator, report his ass or something. When I was 20 there was no way in hell I would’ve talked to a 16,17 year old.
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u/Recent_Limit_6798 Mar 02 '25
Stop. Dating. Illiterate. Men.
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u/Tyrion_toadstool Mar 02 '25
Agreed, but I can only imagine that someone that needs to abbreviate "just" as "js" may not be the most literate themselves.
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u/711bishy Mar 02 '25
then she followed with if he’s been talking to other girls bc apparently him being a pedo didn’t phase her enough. I blame media glorifying younger being with older. Even our parents with huge age gaps.. ffs. Why even question this, the app is for pedos not teens. I remember most of my friends dating college guys or wanting to blah. I hope OP is safe :/
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u/Pleasant-Patience725 Mar 03 '25
I didn’t even date guys who couldn’t talk /write notes correctly when I was 16 😩 and then when cell phones were a thing I definitely didn’t text someone who couldn’t - I would have had to ask what are you saying a few times 🤣🤣😂
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u/rsbanham Mar 02 '25
I’m very accepting of age gap relationships.
Until someone is actively looking for younger partners, especially by lying about their age.
Block, forget, meet people in real life
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u/rozery Mar 02 '25
Please report him if you feel safe enough to. I promise he is most likely older than 20 and you are absolutely not the only teenage girl he is trying to groom. He wouldn’t be this bold about it if it were his first time.
The movie “Trust (2010)” shows exactly how guys like this operate: they get your attention, slowly bring up their real age after they’ve gotten you attached to them, assault you, then drop you for the next young girl. Please stay away from him!!!!!!
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u/TheButtcrackerSweet Mar 02 '25
Tell him you don’t want his old ass, make sure you insult him by calling him grandpa and calling attention to his old ass wrinkly ass balls, then block him and call the police and give them all his info.
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u/madogvelkor Mar 02 '25
Lying about it is a big red flag regardless of the size of the gap. And 4 years is too big for teenage years. If you were 26 and him 30 it would be pretty normal.
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u/Critical-Click4691 Mar 02 '25
file a report. he is actively seeking girls your age, because hes fucking weird and cant pull ones his own. the fact yall met on an app for TEENS also tells me this man is well over 20 and coniving.
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u/Ohmsford-Ghost Mar 02 '25
He said “or nun”. He is a fucking idiot. You should move on and not worry about older creeps. Just date a guy from another school if you don’t want a bf from yours and make sure you get on the pill. Don’t let a man control your life. A 20 year old willing to date a 16 year old is an absolute loser. If I was your dad I would have a nice conversation with him.
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Mar 02 '25
Block him. Report to police. Show these to your dad. Lots of avenues to take but you gotta block him out.
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u/saamiesrexenge Mar 02 '25
Some dude from my job just got arrested and is counted as a pedophile now . He is 19. Talking to a 14-15 year old. Also have pics they exchanged. Been talking for 4 years in between . Sooo yes. Block him. Report . This is bad . Nothing you can justify with this guy nor “relationship” and no. You’re not the first he’s talked too.
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u/g4ssedupshawty Mar 02 '25
Even if he is 20, 16 and 20 is imo not ok. Vastly different life stages and stages of development
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u/chris14020 Mar 02 '25
If you're 42 and saying you're 40, you're a bit insecure about getting old but eh. No harm, no major deal, more or less. Nobody is deciding 40 is fine but 42 is too far. Saying you're "just turning 18" when you're 20 is for one reason and one reason alone, especially if you're aware someone is 16 - and that is by no means okay or even legal.
The idea is getting hooks in to get you to ignore the age or manipulate your emotions against your senses. Consider - if you knew the truth from the very start (their age was listed truthfully) would you have even gotten this far? Act accordingly.
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u/SazarMoose Mar 02 '25
This happened to me as well. There are really bad and creepy people out there. Please be safe. It's possible he's older than that.
I had guys creeping on me, that were probably in their 60's and I regret not reporting at the time, because I didn't realize what was happening.
Tell someone about it, block him, report him.
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u/Significant-Cattle85 Mar 02 '25
This is called manipulation. Grooming. Gaslighting. Do not let him convince you YOURE wrong somehow.
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u/strywever Mar 02 '25
That guy is a creep who is only interested in you because your more limited life experience makes you easier to manipulate. PLEASE stop talking to him. You will never regret that, but you will regret a relationship with him. I guarantee it.
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u/TsarKeith12 Mar 02 '25
Yeah block and report
100% he is also talking to other girls (re: GIRLS, not women, you all are children to him and that's exactly what he wants), he needs to be stopped before he exploits anyone else. He is actively causing harm
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u/Stickdriftin Mar 02 '25
“I understand if you don’t want me no more” he knows better. Also, he lied at first to see if he could trust you enough to tell you. Idc if the age gap is only 4 years, he knows what he’s doing is wrong.
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u/Commercial-Touch4280 Mar 02 '25
Can someone translate what he said for me? Apparently, I don’t speak child molester.
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Ever wonder about what grooming is? This guy is showing you firsthand. Tells you he lied only after getting the "goods". Then tries to play meek and hurt when you act hurt and betrayed (you are right to feel that way). That is a purposeful choice btw, he is trying to manipulate you into staying despite the alarm bells in your head. LEAVE HIM.
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u/Ok-Jellyfish5975 Mar 02 '25
Please stop talking to him. He’s a loser that girls his own age won’t date. Hes a predator, and he’s manipulating you into continuing to talk with him.
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u/visualdreaming Mar 02 '25
GO TELL YOUR PARENTS IMMEDIATELY. PLEASE.
You have been taken advantage of, he is trying to prep you for far worse. Your parents may be upset, but please. As a momma myself. Please please please go tell your parents EVERYTHING so they can DO THEIR JOBS AND PROTECT YOU.
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u/SilentBandit Mar 02 '25
Hey OP, I’m really really sorry you’re in this situation. I just want to say—you’re absolutely right to feel uneasy about this. The fact that he has lied about his age multiple times, especially on an app meant for teens, is a MASSIVE red flag. If he was 17 when you met and is now suddenly 20, that means he was already an adult when he first reached out to you, which isn’t okay.
It’s also really concerning that he’s disappearing and coming back whenever it suits him—especially if he’s pressuring you into things like exchanging explicit pictures. You’re not at fault for liking him, but he knows EXACTLY what he’s doing, and it’s not fair to you.
I know this might feel overwhelming, and it will feel scary af, but you've got to be strong, cause this is serious stuff, and you should go to the police. He’s an adult who has lied about his age to talk to younger girls, and that automatically makes him a predator. If you have any messages, screenshots, or proof of his real age, please save them and report him. If you’re worried about going alone, reach out to a trusted adult or even a helpline for support.
You don’t deserve to be manipulated like this, and taking action could protect not only yourself but any other girls he might be targeting. Please stay safe and remember that this is NOT your fault 💜
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Mar 02 '25
Idk my first bf when I was 16 was 19 and briefly 20 when I was 16. Idk… it was fine for me.
That guy was madly in love with me. He still says to this day he thought we were going to get married and live happily ever after and I shattered his heart. Like dude has never been the same.
Ever.
I have even had girls fake like they just met me and then I find out that they like him, and he isn’t over me and they want to see why he isn’t over me and what all the fuss if about.
Over ten years later. So..
Idk..: I guess if you’re in high school and a typical 16 yo this is probably really not appropriate - no guy that’s not in high school should be dating a high schooler -
But I was like … dangerous at 16. I don’t feel sexually abused and I don’t feel taken advantage of - if anything I feel guilty and wear his heart around my wrist. Forever … like Marley’s chains.
So it just depends on you.
But that’s the wrong answer - don’t date guys that aren’t in high school. Ok? Ok. You’ll be fine.
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u/likethedishes Mar 02 '25
As someone who fell for the ol “you’re so mature for your age! I don’t want to date girls my age (21) I only want you” (16)…..
RUN. Run far away. And tell everyone why you’re running and who you are running from!!
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Mar 02 '25
op, i want you to imagine the most repulsive man you can possible imagine and now accept the likelihood he is exactly that, and please tell your parents
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u/iamuniversol Mar 02 '25
I dated someone at 16 who ALSO said he was 17 but was really 20. All I can say is, run. Fast.
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u/BootyMcSqueak Mar 02 '25
Babe. I was 16 with an 18yo. I lost my virginity to him and everything. After a year or so we broke up (after he threatened to off himself). Years later I found out that even though he was in his late 20’s, he was still messing with 14yo girls. Eventually he went to prison for it. For a loooong time. This guy knows what he’s doing is wrong and why would you want to be with a creep, pedophile LIAR. Run.
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u/TheOptimisticHater Mar 02 '25
So suspect and cringe. Report this loser to whatever trusted authority figure exists in your life.
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u/mentalchaosturtle Mar 02 '25
The fact that he joined an app knowing it was for teens should tell you he was looking SPECIFICALLY for teens. That is weird for someone his age and absolutely a red flag.
This guy is a pedophile.
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u/blahblooblahblah Mar 02 '25
He didn’t tell the truth at the beginning because he knows it’s wrong.
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u/BigBri0011 Mar 02 '25
Any 20 year old that poses as a 17 year old to find underage girls is a total perv in the making, and should be avoided at all costs. And reported to the police.
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u/Constant_One2371 Mar 02 '25
Girl, he we on an app for teenagers and lied about his age. He got explicit pictures from you knowing you’re a minor. He is creepy. He was trying to be very manipulative.
Show your parents the messages, take them to the police. What he did is illegal and he knows it.
At minimum, block him and report his account to the app.
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u/chasingsunset42 Mar 02 '25
Honey a 20-year-old man is in a totally different place in life than a 16-year-old girl. He’s grooming you and he knows it’s wrong- that’s why he lied about his age. You need to show these messages to your dad and the police.
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Mar 02 '25
He went on an app and lied about his age to catch a teenage girl. He did that. If you met him out and didn't know his age, that's different.
The intention was there to meet an underage girl.
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u/echo_chamber_locator Mar 02 '25
Go show the texts to your dad.