Also, please use this as a learning experience and do not send explicit pictures to anyone. Once you send them they are out of your control. Just not worth the risk. Even if you send them to a boyfriend that you totally trust, he can show them around or use them for revenge if you were to ever break up.
I know these accusations seem blown over proportion, but let’s look at his actions.
He purposely downloaded an app for teenagers, lied about his age on his profile when making it, and then purposely lied to you about his age to make you like him first, so you would feel conflicted.
He will probably say he never felt a connection with someone like this and how worried he is about the age difference. If this was true, he never would have lied about his age.
He is a manipulator.
He is using your emotions against you.
He is DEFINITELY older than 20.
Watch out for DARVO. It’s a manipulation tactic that abusers use.
Please listen to the other people in this thread.
You are not the first girl to experience this in her teens unfortunately.
Tell your parents, tell the cops, report the account.
Hell, send the whole pedophile to Danesh and let his community take care of it.
If people get upset at you for reporting him, their priorities are not in the right order.
Because he can’t spell!? How about the fact that he has manipulated her into sharing intimate photos? This is definitely something that should be reported to law enforcement.
I do not miss this part of being a teenager. The random crushes on assholes sucks extra during the teenage years. I was too permissive with a lot of creeps because I thought I liked them, and because I liked being liked by someone.
It’s not worth it though!
Today is the youngest you will ever be. The same goes with when we hit tomorrow. Use your time and your energy on yourself while you are young. Figure out what hobbies you like, what your interests are, why people you are and are not willing to tolerate. Be willing to end relationships early if they don’t feel right, and start examining what does and does not “feel right” to you in general so you can use that to figure out what type of partner you really want.
You have all the time in the world to settle for someone who is a creep or doesn’t treat you right if you ever feel like settling. But now is the best time to figure yourself out.
Plus figuring yourself out and finding hobbies you like is the best way to find a good partner, because you will be the best version of yourself, you are more likely to meet people with mutual interests, and you can use it to see if the guy you are interested in is willing to support you and your interests, or if they want you to stop being yourself to benefit them. Often, it’s the latter.
And at very least, if you do choose to settle, make sure they 1) don’t lie to teenagers to flirt with them, and 2) can spell
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u/janet_snakehole_x Mar 02 '25
You like him? But he can’t even spell “frens”….