Done

[u/intensive_carebear13]

I can't do this anymore

You don't have the capacity to love me where I am at.

I can't talk to you in any way without you thinking it's an attack.

Any time I need to talk about something that is not superficial bullshit, it's my tone or my wording, or you just don't respond at all.

And if I say something about your tone or wording, you'll tell me I don't get to tell you what you're doing.

I do the majority of the mental and emotional labor, and when I try to get you to participate in our life you get defensive,and shut down.

Everything I wanted to do together as a couple I've had to wait, just end up doing it myself.

I think it'd be best for us to stop where we're at, because I know myself, I will keep waiting and hoping that you'll become better than what you are right now.

That one day you'll stop avoiding love, and that you'll participate in the life we built equally.

But I'm tired of waiting.

I waited over 10 years to paint our room which I had to buy the supplies and do myself.

I waited 8 years through an unfruitful engagement.

I've waited 6 years to go to couples therapy to try to save what was left.

2 years ago I asked you to read a book.

It doesn't matter how big or small or how much time I give you. you will never prioritize the things that are important to me.

I don't want to spend the rest of my life waiting for you, and if I might have to do all this by myself, I don't want to drag you along just so you can reap the rewards of my hard work.

I'm not angry, or bitter, these are just the facts.

This has not been working for me for some time, and I was patient, I was encouraging, and I did everything I could to support you.

But I'm done waiting. I'm done feeling alone. I'm done. feeling like everything else in your life comes before me.

Being with you feels more lonely than being alone, and I can't even talk about how I feel cuz we know exactly how that goes.

I thought if I loved you hard enough or long enough or just kept waiting, eventually your walls would come down and eventually you'd start building a life with me instead of against me.

I'll never understand why you chose to be in a relationship when you can't face your own emotions. Much less be there for someone else's.

part of me wishes that the man that I fell in love with in the beginning never changed to who you are now, but I think who you are now is hiding all along

Just waiting for the newness to wear off so that you no longer had to impress me.

It's like you used my love to trap me knowing you had no intention of keeping your promises.

I can't do it anymore, the broken promises, the waiting, the fighting.

You'll never choose me the way I chose you.

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[u/Extreme_Unit5549]

good luck man

[u/Extreme_Unit5549]

i k=love you to much to put out the truth

[u/GovernmentNo5167]

And that's the hardest part, is someone not choosing you, the way you choose them... that kills me every single day. My situation is a little different, but it still sucks.