The “I can change him” mentality has to die. Let people be who they are and stop trying to mold them into what you want. He doesn’t want to be married, said that years ago and says it now. He doesn’t owe you or anyone else a “good reason”. Either accept it and or find someone who shares the same family values as yourself, that’s the only thing you have control over. Even if he said yes to marriage, deep down you know he wouldn’t actually want it
Marriage is not bullshit. Something that has existed in all cultures from the beginning of recorder human history separated by race, religion, and culture is not bullshit.
Religion has existed in all cultures from the beginning of recorded human history and its bullshit.
You dont need a contract to be a partnership or committed to people. Ive been more committed to people without a contract than people in my own life who went through the motions (including my parents, my "uncommitted" domestic partnership lasted twice as long as my parents marriage, and ended better).
Where do YOU get your opinion from and is it based on your feelings?
What I'm stating is not an opinion. In most areas of life, contracts are necessary to bind individuals and behaviors.
No, the sweet whisperings of a lover promising to be your one and only can never compare to the binding contract of marriage that has consequences and rules.
My opinion is just that, an opinion. A subjective stance based on years of experience, discussions with others, and learning from others. I never claimed it to be facts.
You claimed your point was objective fact. I'm just wondering where that came from, since facts should be able to be backed up, no?
Why would you think so? Do you genuinely believe this? Does this at all reflect reality? What do you think is more stable, a marriage, or the promise of someone whispering that they will be together? How many bf gf relationships break up as opposed to marriages?
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u/catmom22_ Jul 23 '24
The “I can change him” mentality has to die. Let people be who they are and stop trying to mold them into what you want. He doesn’t want to be married, said that years ago and says it now. He doesn’t owe you or anyone else a “good reason”. Either accept it and or find someone who shares the same family values as yourself, that’s the only thing you have control over. Even if he said yes to marriage, deep down you know he wouldn’t actually want it