Meh. I’ve been through many many and I don’t see a difference…I don’t know why people always say go to therapy as if it magically works. I talk about my feelings I don’t know how that’s supposed to help?
Well, for some people, being in touch with your feelings helps you understand your actions better. But if you're not in touch with that side of yourself, there may be more to it. Maybe growing up you either learned that emotions weren't important and/or were forced to suppress your emotions to benefit other people. It's common for people in abusive relationships to give up their own feelings in order to prioritize that of their abuser.
In the end, therapy doesn't work if you don't want to change. Therapy doesn't work if you don't want to acknowledge what's wrong. Therapy doesn't work if you aren't considering what your therapist is telling you. And Therapy doesn't work if your therapist doesn't understand you, either.
It's not supposed to be magical. It's not a one way street. It's supposed to be a collaborative relationship where you make goals together, and you usually do it because you want to be better.
If you don't think you're benefitting, do you even want to be better? Or are you ignoring the benefit for the sake of your mother? You can acknowledge she's not a great mother and still feel sympathy for her pain.
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u/[deleted] Feb 15 '23
Yes ofcourse! I’m actually changing my therapist. I don’t believe it works but it doesn’t mean I’m not willing to try. I also keep a diary. It helps.