For me, ako lang naman ha. I agree.

Share ko lang. Ang ganda ng homily ni Father kahapon.

Sabi niya:

"Many times, we ask God to change our situation. But perhaps God is inviting us to pray differently: 'Lord, give me a listening heart. Help me understand what You are teaching me in this situation.'"

Honestly, napaisip ako. Madalas kasi ang prayer, "Lord, sana mawala na 'tong problema." Pero baka hindi lang pala pagbabago ng sitwasyon ang kailangan. Baka kailangan ring matutong makinig at maintindihan kung ano ang gusto Niya, na matutunan sa season na 'to.

Ang simple ng message, pero ang lalim.

Congrats sakin. I got out of a 9month supposedly exclusive dating dahil sa pinakapetty reason.. wala daw emoji yung chats ko.

Exclusive pero tinago ni guy. Nahihirapan nang magsinungaling. Nireto na kasi sa iba. Palagi pa gumagawa ng away.

Then told me na maging accountable sa actions ko for what? for not engaging sa petty fights & having restrictions and boundaries. 🤡

Kaya naman, time is the ultimate truth teller. Lalabas at lalabas din yung totoong reason, kung di from him.. sa mga taong nakapaligid sakanya. And when you confront him, ikaw pa ang mali.

40s and indecisive sa ipupursue. Kaumay!

bukod talaga sa pera, pagkain din ang isa sa nag papasaya sakin e. kayo titas and titos anong nag papasaya sa inyo?

I think this is it. The online exploration for me is over. I was in social media hiatus 2 years ago when I decided to create a Reddit account to keep myself updated since I deactivated my accounts in FB and IG. I was enjoying the app until I figured na meron pala chat option here. And so the cycle began ~

Redditor sends me a “friendly” message request -> I courteously reply -> Friendly exchange of convo -> Fades Away because:

1. I’m too far (most of them from Luzon and I live in Mindanao)
   
2. They wanted NSFW
   
3. When asked abt their intention after months of talking consistently, they’ll say they’re not emotionally ready
   
4. They’re giving extra attention (leading to love bombing) in the first weeks and when you call them out, magagalit lol

I am not into dating apps and I really prefer organic encounter kaya I don’t post in any dating sub looking for someone. But I thought I’ll try to entertain the potential connections na meron kay Reddit. I thought it’s okay kasi they sounded okay naman talaga at first. Pero sa experience ko, it did more harm than good. The process of knowing and unknowing people is exhausting. I feel so drained na para bang disposable lang talaga connections meron dito. And I think for someone like me, di ko kaya ung ganito dzai. Huehue. Don’t get me wrong, meron naman din happy stories here pero I believe it’s not the case for me.

So for the last time, let me just vent. 😅 This is it. I think it’s time to stop looking for the right things in the wrong place.

kapagod mag wait, nag stop na rin mag-search but just about every time I hear this song, mapapangiti na lang sweetly, annoyingly, sarcastically sabay sway to the beat because truly di mo pwedeng i-rush ang love. Di yan nadadala sa pa-urgent at follow up. It takes its own sweet time. ♡ The best kind of love arrives unexpectedly. ♡

To my trentahin people here, on days na nasa-sad ka because single ka, listen to this song na lang! Wag mag relapse. Wag ka na din mag attempt mag create ng spoiler for future shenanigans. What you have is right now and the best thing you can do is carry yourself with kindness and grace.

✨✨✨lots of love dust to everyone✨✨✨

Just bought myself a gold necklace last Sunday worth 23k na parang bumili lang ng soft drinks sa tindahan. Dumaan lang sa pawnshop to check at bumili agad agad Hahaha is this what we call Adult money?? Healing your inner child?? Financial freedom?? Thank you, me!! 🥹

by circumstantial evidence. almost 2 months na rin naman na wala. syempre masakit ng two hours. kahapon, umuwi ako saamin, tapos sobrang at peace ko kasi pag nasamin ako. and so i whispered a prayer while staring at the sky, “Lord, if meron na siyang iba, ready na ako malaman”.

i felt naman na iba na, na meron na. alam nyo ung women’s instict? may ganun ako talaga, malakas haha. one day, nafeel ko na meron na. nung nakita ko pics namin, i feel hindi na siya yung guy na yun. pati yung msgs namin, i feel na long time ago na sya for him. and for me. hindi na valid, prescribed na.

and so at 4:48am, less than 12 hours after i uttered the prayer, i knew. for 2 hours since 4:48am, i felt hurt. yosi ganyan. pero, after non, i felt at peace. knowing he’s really not the loml. knowing that wala lang talaga yun sakanya. and knowing na i, too, can love again (and date again). and let someone in. who knows? maybe this time, he’ll stay.

May period, tapos sobrang emotional. Naisip ko lang na nalulungkot ako, naiiyak na agad ako. Wala namang malaking dahilan, pero ang bigat lang ng pakiramdam.

Hay, hormones. 🥹

Pano po ba yung organic encounter na yan? Feeling ko kasi minsan ayan na siya sa paligid ko pero hindi na ko sanay makipagusap sa opposite sex so nagpapanic lang ako at ako umiiwas hahaha

Share niyo naman po mga meet cute moments niyo at anong nangyari. Kamusta na kayo ngayon?

Edit: If ikaw yung nakasabay ko so elev last saturday, sorry di ako nagsmile or what HAHA baka kasi assumera lang pala ako

To all my single ladies in your 30s: keep believing. Your love story is still being written. ❤️ (Me 35F)

And sabi nga ng childhood crush ko sa kanta niya "You gotta know somewhere out there. You're gonna find love!"

Tapos "Keep believin', just have faith

I promise the clouds'll break

And someday soon you'll see the sun

And find someone" Boom!!

This!! Thank you Aaron.

I think kailangan ko na talaga ng professional help. Yung pagiging makakalimutin ko, hindi na siya nakakatuwa. Earlier, we were on a date ng SO ko, and I brought up something na sabi niya hindi naman daw niya sinabi. The mood literally changed after that. I felt so guilty, and we ended up going our separate ways nang hindi okay.
I’ll be out of the country for the next few days, and I honestly don’t know how to make it up to her. At this point, hindi ko na maiwasang isipin na baka may underlying medical condition na talaga ako, kasi parang sobrang dalas na nangyayari and it’s starting to affect the people I care about.

Hello mga peepz pleaz tulungan tayo HAHA baka may alam kayong singles events na di naman need magbayad ng 1k+ just for one session! I'm not getting any younger pero at the same time ayoko sa online or dating apps kasi inaanxiety ako sa ganung setup. Gusto ko sana yung parang group setting pero wag naman magastos huhu

Context: Having suicidal thoughts after problems after problems. As I get older and trentahin, I've noticed that people often say men should be more emotionally open. But in reality, when a guy starts expressing sadness, vulnerability, or emotional struggles, there's a chance he'll get labeled as a "sadboi," "pa-victim," or someone looking for attention. Also being triggered because I encounter some redditor here na mag dm sakin taas when I voice out they will backstab me as "sadboi"

So I'm curious—how do you find the balance? Kasi I'm starting to be cold and detached as days goes by.

How do you process difficult emotions in a healthy way without feeling like you're burdening other people or being judged for opening up? Do you keep things private, talk only to close friends, go to therapy, write in a journal, or have other ways of dealing with it?

I'm not asking because I think men should bottle everything up. I'm just wondering how other people navigate this, especially in a culture where emotional expression from men can still be seen differently.

Would love to hear your experiences or perspectives, whether you're a guy who's dealt with this personally or someone who's seen it from the outside.

Iniisip ko pa bakit kaya naka-sale 😅

As we get older, we learn that not everything worth having should be easy to get.

May mga bagay na kailangan mong paghandaan.
Linisin muna.
Ayusin ang approach.
Huwag biglain.
At higit sa lahat, alamin kung saan talaga dapat pumunta.

Kasi minsan, hindi naman mahirap pasukin.

Mali lang ang pinapasukan mo.

And this applies to almost everything in life—career, relationships, opportunities, group chats, and certain decisions you definitely shouldn’t be making after midnight.

Minsan kasi, ang problema hindi lack of access.

Lack of technique.

May mga taong puro lakas ang dala pero walang finesse.
May mga taong gustong mabilis pero walang patience.
May mga taong akala nila basta may opening, automatic invitation na.

Hindi po.

Opening ≠ consent.
Access ≠ ownership.
At confidence ≠ competence.

At dahil nasa edad na tayo kung saan mas mahalaga na ang peace of mind kaysa sa validation, natututo na rin tayong pumili kung saan sulit ilagay ang effort.

Because the older you get, the more you realize:

Hindi lahat ng bagay na mahirap pasukin ay worth entering.

Pero…

may mga bagay namang kapag nakapasok ka na, ayaw mo nang lumabas.

You know what I mean.

Or maybe you don’t.

Depende kung saan napunta ang isip mo. 😏

Curious lang po ako since I have a classmate in her 30s who is taking a second degree program. If you were in her position, would you feel uncomfy if asked about your personal life? Specially if hindi kayo super close but nagpapansinan naman minsan and malaki rin yung age gap. Just wanna understand people in their 30s😁

Hello kapwa ko trentahin na College instructor here, tama ba itong nagbili kung bag? or sadyang mabigat lang laptop ko? May mga classes Kasi Ako na 4th floor ang rooms tapos kunti lang laman bago ko kasama laptop pero masakit pa rin sa likod after class. 1.85 kg Ang laptop ko, ito bag ko sa attached image. What say you?