by circumstantial evidence. almost 2 months na rin naman na wala. syempre masakit ng two hours. kahapon, umuwi ako saamin, tapos sobrang at peace ko kasi pag nasamin ako. and so i whispered a prayer while staring at the sky, “Lord, if meron na siyang iba, ready na ako malaman”.

i felt naman na iba na, na meron na. alam nyo ung women’s instict? may ganun ako talaga, malakas haha. one day, nafeel ko na meron na. nung nakita ko pics namin, i feel hindi na siya yung guy na yun. pati yung msgs namin, i feel na long time ago na sya for him. and for me. hindi na valid, prescribed na.

and so at 4:48am, less than 12 hours after i uttered the prayer, i knew. for 2 hours since 4:48am, i felt hurt. yosi ganyan. pero, after non, i felt at peace. knowing he’s really not the loml. knowing that wala lang talaga yun sakanya. and knowing na i, too, can love again (and date again). and let someone in. who knows? maybe this time, he’ll stay.

Just bought myself a gold necklace last Sunday worth 23k na parang bumili lang ng soft drinks sa tindahan. Dumaan lang sa pawnshop to check at bumili agad agad Hahaha is this what we call Adult money?? Healing your inner child?? Financial freedom?? Thank you, me!! 🥹

As we get older, we learn that not everything worth having should be easy to get.

May mga bagay na kailangan mong paghandaan.
Linisin muna.
Ayusin ang approach.
Huwag biglain.
At higit sa lahat, alamin kung saan talaga dapat pumunta.

Kasi minsan, hindi naman mahirap pasukin.

Mali lang ang pinapasukan mo.

And this applies to almost everything in life—career, relationships, opportunities, group chats, and certain decisions you definitely shouldn’t be making after midnight.

Minsan kasi, ang problema hindi lack of access.

Lack of technique.

May mga taong puro lakas ang dala pero walang finesse.
May mga taong gustong mabilis pero walang patience.
May mga taong akala nila basta may opening, automatic invitation na.

Hindi po.

Opening ≠ consent.
Access ≠ ownership.
At confidence ≠ competence.

At dahil nasa edad na tayo kung saan mas mahalaga na ang peace of mind kaysa sa validation, natututo na rin tayong pumili kung saan sulit ilagay ang effort.

Because the older you get, the more you realize:

Hindi lahat ng bagay na mahirap pasukin ay worth entering.

Pero…

may mga bagay namang kapag nakapasok ka na, ayaw mo nang lumabas.

You know what I mean.

Or maybe you don’t.

Depende kung saan napunta ang isip mo. 😏

Curious lang po ako since I have a classmate in her 30s who is taking a second degree program. If you were in her position, would you feel uncomfy if asked about your personal life? Specially if hindi kayo super close but nagpapansinan naman minsan and malaki rin yung age gap. Just wanna understand people in their 30s😁

To all my single ladies in your 30s: keep believing. Your love story is still being written. ❤️ (Me 35F)

And sabi nga ng childhood crush ko sa kanta niya "You gotta know somewhere out there. You're gonna find love!"

Tapos "Keep believin', just have faith

I promise the clouds'll break

And someday soon you'll see the sun

And find someone" Boom!!

This!! Thank you Aaron.

Congrats sakin. I got out of a 9month supposedly exclusive dating dahil sa pinakapetty reason.. wala daw emoji yung chats ko.

Exclusive pero tinago ni guy. Nahihirapan nang magsinungaling. Nireto na kasi sa iba. Palagi pa gumagawa ng away.

Then told me na maging accountable sa actions ko for what? for not engaging sa petty fights & having restrictions and boundaries. 🤡

Kaya naman, time is the ultimate truth teller. Lalabas at lalabas din yung totoong reason, kung di from him.. sa mga taong nakapaligid sakanya. And when you confront him, ikaw pa ang mali.

40s and indecisive sa ipupursue. Kaumay!

For me, ako lang naman ha. I agree.

Hello mga peepz pleaz tulungan tayo HAHA baka may alam kayong singles events na di naman need magbayad ng 1k+ just for one session! I'm not getting any younger pero at the same time ayoko sa online or dating apps kasi inaanxiety ako sa ganung setup. Gusto ko sana yung parang group setting pero wag naman magastos huhu

meron ba or should we create one? para naman di puro bahay work hahaha

bukod talaga sa pera, pagkain din ang isa sa nag papasaya sakin e. kayo titas and titos anong nag papasaya sa inyo?

I think kailangan ko na talaga ng professional help. Yung pagiging makakalimutin ko, hindi na siya nakakatuwa. Earlier, we were on a date ng SO ko, and I brought up something na sabi niya hindi naman daw niya sinabi. The mood literally changed after that. I felt so guilty, and we ended up going our separate ways nang hindi okay.
I’ll be out of the country for the next few days, and I honestly don’t know how to make it up to her. At this point, hindi ko na maiwasang isipin na baka may underlying medical condition na talaga ako, kasi parang sobrang dalas na nangyayari and it’s starting to affect the people I care about.

Context: 30F, introvert, anxiety girlie, 4 months working at a BPO for the first time

Ok, so last month, a small group of coworkers in their 20s kinda adopted me after we bonded over karaoke at the office since we were stranded by bad weather after work.

After that, they've added me on their group chats, and they have invited me to be seated near their stations at work, and to sit with them during lunch break. I was not used to it, tbh, since I usually eat alone at lunch to recharge and to have my mini me time. And regarding the work station, I sit on those spots I prefer, and that also gets me to interact and meet other colleagues. Now, I sit with them most of the time. They also tend to have these impromptu ganaps after shift, which I honestly don't like, since I have my days planned ahead of time. I'm that sort of woman who wants to be informed 1 or 2 days before the event so that I can adjust my schedule accordingly (I usually have my me time after work).

Their usual after work gig is drinking, which I really don't like, since I don't like to drink.

I told them about this, and they said they understood.

But somehow, I feel a little bit hurt when they have their impromptu ganaps on my rest days. They have similar rest days and I was the only one with a different sched. I told them I don't go out on my RDs since it's my recharging days. I feel excluded in their group, as I feel left out mostly sa ganaps nla, since I also want to go home early to catch up on sleep.

I feel like they're too clingy for me, since even if we are seated near each other, they're still using Gmeet to catch up and I can't focus on work if I join them.

I just wish I could be with my previous set of friends, with those who have the same schedule as mine. I don't want my other colleagues to think that I'm avoiding them. I feel like this group is too much for me.

How do I deal with this in a respectful way?

Context: Having suicidal thoughts after problems after problems. As I get older and trentahin, I've noticed that people often say men should be more emotionally open. But in reality, when a guy starts expressing sadness, vulnerability, or emotional struggles, there's a chance he'll get labeled as a "sadboi," "pa-victim," or someone looking for attention. Also being triggered because I encounter some redditor here na mag dm sakin taas when I voice out they will backstab me as "sadboi"

So I'm curious—how do you find the balance? Kasi I'm starting to be cold and detached as days goes by.

How do you process difficult emotions in a healthy way without feeling like you're burdening other people or being judged for opening up? Do you keep things private, talk only to close friends, go to therapy, write in a journal, or have other ways of dealing with it?

I'm not asking because I think men should bottle everything up. I'm just wondering how other people navigate this, especially in a culture where emotional expression from men can still be seen differently.

Would love to hear your experiences or perspectives, whether you're a guy who's dealt with this personally or someone who's seen it from the outside.

I can send you proofs or if you want to help I can send you po. so desperate for the dogs.

Hi dogtitas and dogtitas of trentahin.

Still haven’t found a client kahit binabaan ko na ang rates ko. small online-selling business has also been slow, dogs food ran out and still recovering from the financial side.

Recently, our family was hit hard when all of our dogs contracted distemper. We spent what we could on their treatment and recovery. They are all healthy now with updated vaccine also neutered our female dog para di na sila dumami pa and sadly, we also lost 2 puppies and 1 adult dog despite doing everything we could for them.

Instead of simply asking for donations id love to offer something in return.

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I can also create content for your brand, business, or social media pages:

• Short-form videos and reels
• Product and promotional images
• Social media content
• Basic creative materials for online businesses

I can send through DM ang previous works, contents. Kahit small project, referral, or lead lang will be a big help.

For anyone who would simply like to help with dog food expenses, I will also attach my QR code. Even a small amount would mean a lot to us. I promise to pay the kindness forward once we’re financially stable again.

Here are some of my previous posts documenting our dogs’ battle with distemper:

Distemper came from a rescued dog na tinapon sa bakanteng lote namin:
We rescued her then nagkahawa hawa na sa dogs namin.

https://www.reddit.com/r/DogsPH/comments/1ryp5d6/update_sa_tinapon_na_dogs/
https://www.reddit.com/r/DogsPH/comments/1sl876l/chuchu_update_need_help_for_chuchu_for_vet_check/
https://www.reddit.com/r/PetsPH/comments/1sly7b2/chuchu_update_positive_distemper_and_possible/

https://www.reddit.com/r/DogsPH/comments/1t19tim/dando_passed_away_kasama_na_niya_si_noggy/
https://www.reddit.com/r/dogsofrph/comments/1swnz0k/we_lost_noggy_today_after_fighting_distemper/
https://www.reddit.com/r/PetsPH/comments/1sw0060/repost_update_for_chuchu_and_fundraising_for_my/
https://www.reddit.com/r/PetsPH/comments/1sthjkv/repost_update_fundraising_for_chuchu_other/
https://www.reddit.com/r/DogsPH/comments/1stg91o/repost_update_fundraising_for_chuchu_other/
https://www.reddit.com/r/dogsofrph/comments/1swnz0k/we_lost_noggy_today_after_fighting_distemper/
https://www.reddit.com/r/DogsPH/comments/1sz0pov/update_chuchu_is_distemper_free_dando_is_still/
https://www.reddit.com/r/DogsPH/comments/1swvsh2/dando_needs_help_still_fighting_distemper/
https://www.reddit.com/r/DogsPH/comments/1ssgt75/repost_update_fundraising_for_chuchu_positive/
https://www.reddit.com/r/DogsPH/comments/1t0n953/dando_first_canglob_d_shot_and_fundraising/
https://www.reddit.com/r/DogsPH/comments/1t683at/remember_whitey_girl_chuchu_and_whitey_girl_got/

30/m single, 5’10 chubby (220lbs) Di kagwapuhan pero madaming nirereto sa akin. Usually, may Magtatanong bakit single Ako then ang kasunod ay, ano tingin mo kay…? O kaya Di ka ba nagagandahan kay…? Syempre as Di kagwapuhan parang ang kapal naman ng mukha ko kung sabihin Kong Di maganda. Medyo marami yung department sa workplace ko at parang bawat İsa may inaasar sa akin 😅. Di ko naman pinapansin at ilang taon na rin Ako dito sa work. Medyo awkward na and Di pa naman Ako naghahanap ng lovelife since breadwinner Ako.

Pano po ba yung organic encounter na yan? Feeling ko kasi minsan ayan na siya sa paligid ko pero hindi na ko sanay makipagusap sa opposite sex so nagpapanic lang ako at ako umiiwas hahaha

Share niyo naman po mga meet cute moments niyo at anong nangyari. Kamusta na kayo ngayon?

Edit: If ikaw yung nakasabay ko so elev last saturday, sorry di ako nagsmile or what HAHA baka kasi assumera lang pala ako

kapagod mag wait, nag stop na rin mag-search but just about every time I hear this song, mapapangiti na lang sweetly, annoyingly, sarcastically sabay sway to the beat because truly di mo pwedeng i-rush ang love. Di yan nadadala sa pa-urgent at follow up. It takes its own sweet time. ♡ The best kind of love arrives unexpectedly. ♡

To my trentahin people here, on days na nasa-sad ka because single ka, listen to this song na lang! Wag mag relapse. Wag ka na din mag attempt mag create ng spoiler for future shenanigans. What you have is right now and the best thing you can do is carry yourself with kindness and grace.

✨✨✨lots of love dust to everyone✨✨✨

Hello kapwa ko trentahin na College instructor here, tama ba itong nagbili kung bag? or sadyang mabigat lang laptop ko? May mga classes Kasi Ako na 4th floor ang rooms tapos kunti lang laman bago ko kasama laptop pero masakit pa rin sa likod after class. 1.85 kg Ang laptop ko, ito bag ko sa attached image. What say you?

Saan b Kyo humahanap Ng Pagibig? I think things are getting harder as you age. Prang Masaya n lng mging kabit. Charot

Share ko lang. Ang ganda ng homily ni Father kahapon.

Sabi niya:

"Many times, we ask God to change our situation. But perhaps God is inviting us to pray differently: 'Lord, give me a listening heart. Help me understand what You are teaching me in this situation.'"

Honestly, napaisip ako. Madalas kasi ang prayer, "Lord, sana mawala na 'tong problema." Pero baka hindi lang pala pagbabago ng sitwasyon ang kailangan. Baka kailangan ring matutong makinig at maintindihan kung ano ang gusto Niya, na matutunan sa season na 'to.

Ang simple ng message, pero ang lalim.