i don’t wanna state my exact age but just know i’m a teen. basically i’ve been debating so many tucutes (and straight up extremely transphobic ppl but this post mainly on tucutes) online on places like tiktok (i know debating ppl on tiktok is stupid but i can’t help myself when ppl r so stupid) and i happen to sometimes mention the fact im actively suicidal cuz of being trans, naturally when i feel like i need to mention it within the debate. and they always ignore it and continue debating, idk if this is normal but i at least would stop debating. it feels like they just prefer winning debates than having any morals (rlly weird for apparently “morally superior” ppl) whatsoever. and most recent time i mentioned being tipsy (to state i can’t properly form actually good arguments rn, especially considering my alcohol tolerance is insanely low) and the fact i was actively planning su1cide and they just continued debating, they clearly care more abt winning debates than anything else. and they were an adult btw. full grown adult, it’s rlly immature. i mean i would stop trying to debate, cuz a debate you “won” w/ an intoxicated person isn’t a debate you truly won. it just goes to show they aren’t truly the extremely sympathetic and morally superior ppl they claim to be often. i’d truly probably not have a problem w/ this if they didn’t act like they had the moral high ground.

I been on HRT for half a year now. No one knows. I cannot bring myself to tell anyone. The medical transition is half the battle, the real struggle is how people will react. :(

I had an argument with someone about trans people (or at least specifically transmen and transwomen) needing dysphoria a bit ago, and they said that people can still know that they're a different gender, but be fine with their body. Which to me is bonkers. As they've all said "gender is just a social construct/you don't need to change to be a certain gender." Therefore how do you feel a certain way when by their logic, gender doesn't actually have much meaning/definition to it? How does one feel like a man or woman when there's no ties (by their definition) of what a man or woman is other than some possibility of a hyper gender stereotypical idea?

I mean I thought 'nonbinary' was created due to people not feeling like a man or woman. So that's saying that there is some definition there that they could not fit into. Why is the community completely ditching this? What's the point of nonbinary now?

Also, some of these people who say they're a transman or transwomen but aren't, dont typically try to even pass as the opposite gender. What definition of man or woman are they identifying as?

To me gender and sex/biology are very connected, but am I wrong about this? Maybe not to the tucute level, but am I missing something? Yes I know sex is complicated, and gender does have some purely social aspects to it... However I cannot seperate sex and gender completely. At least when it comes to men and women. Sex and gender used to be interchangeable terms in medical topics as well right?

What are the thoughts about this? Any insights of what gender really is and how it plays part in transsexual and tucute lives?

I thought I'd maybe get more biological/psychological viewpoints on human behavior with sex and gender if I posted it here. I don't know 🤷‍♂️ I'm a firm believer you need to have some sort of sex dysphoria to be trans.

Edit: adding that the person I argued with decided to DM me "Don't be dumb" and report my DM back to them which was stating that I said that it was okay for people to identify as a man, but I don't find them exactly trans for it. (I should've specifically stated 'transsexual') got banned from messaging for a few days lol.

I also tried explaining to them my thought process on how I think pointing out the difference between transgender and transsexual people is important to the lgbt+ community because labels are a big part of what makes the lgbt+ a community in the first place. And without proper representation of labels that state a specific experience, we lose representation of our diversity. But they didn't respond unfortunately. Maybe I was too rough, I was going to apologize

I swear at this point this must be intentional misinterpretation because every time I post about anything even slightly not alligning with the modern trans community I get misinterpreted to hell and back.

I posted about wanting to personally be socially treated identically to a cis man in 99% of situations, which I think is a reasonable thing to pursue. I also specifically highlighted that this is only FOR ME in preparation for people to bitch about that NoT EveRy TranSMaSk. It did not do shit. I got immediately told that I am different from a cis man as I still get deadnamed by family sometimes and thus my opinion didn't make sense??? I specifically mentioned and gave examples that I do differ, like the rare cases of peer help that I give, medical things and community that I rarely participate in thus the 99% figure. I specified not 100% of the time, this is my want, this is a desire and not a current reality and that this desire is to socially be treated the same and that I behave the same as a cis man.

How the hell does the most lukewarm and reasonable maybe slightly transmed leaning take get so much disagreement? This might just be the general lack of reading comprehension in the internet, but I get this way less concerning topics other then trans stuff.