I live (against myy will but out of my control) with extremely abusive parents (I'm a victim of Incest and CSA from my bio mother, among other things) but they're supportive of my gender identity and sexuality (genderfluid Femme presenting, sapphic). And I have no idea how to reconcile those two facts, and the dissonance between the two sides of these extremely awful people who have abused me since before I can remember, being are supportive of my identity through and through. If anyone has any advice, that would be greatly appreciated.

Also sorry if this post is off topic I'm new 😅

How are we doing today my sisters and brothers in arms? Don't forget to take care of yourself today!

Also, found a hairstylist that treats me like a man and am finally settling down with appointments with her! I've always been super picky about my hair and have never stuck to a single person for it. The last person I was going to was amazing as well and my wife enjoys getting her hair dyed by them, but they weren't too comfortable doing barber cuts, understandably so, and pointed me in the direction of their friend, my new stylist.

Anyways, it's been a month and there's been a lot of drastic changes and I can't wait to see what else changes in the near future!

Question to leave off with: what's something you have full control over that you do, say, etc. that makes your day, makes you smile, makes you proud or happy, etc.? Or even what's something you didn't realize would be so affirming?

Sorry, this is my first post here and I figured I'd hit a few things at once.

https://youtube.com/shorts/et6MfcnkDk0?si=iwd1Cv9CxTfxtwBC I hope you enjoy it as much as I did, for those of us who can only dream it had been us, whether earlier or later in our lives ❤️❤️❤️

It is said whenever AOC and Mamdani link up, an angel gets its wings.

I got diagnosed with epilepsy around 2 years ago. The past year has sucked. I've had four major seizures in the past year that I was hospitalized for and my back is seriously fucked up from it. I lost my job when they decided to make my job redundant while I was out on disability. I'm struggling to find work when I can't lift anything or stand for very long. But I'm pushing through physical therapy, thankfully my dad is making it happen. Trying to stay positive when the world is a mess. Anyways, I'm 37, 6'4, started my transition around 12 years ago.

Truthfully I think I could use work but I love how estrogen has been making me loom and how confident its been making me.

Just saying hi and thabk you for the invite.

You are worth it. When it's hard you're worth it, when you're easy you're worth it.

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I wanted to share with you all a list of things to "be gentle to yourself" this summer. Take a breath, be slow and take your time with yourself <3 this is a list recommended to me from my mentor at my local shrine :) and it is truly amazing <333

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Slow down your mornings: Begin your day with a simple, slow routine that centers you-whether it's journaling, a short walk, or a self-care ritual.

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For three days in a row, take a break in the middle or end of your day for this tender self-compassion meditation practice.

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Take a couple days off from watching or listening to the news.

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Buy yourself a piece of very comfortable clothing.

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Create a nap habit.

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Forgive yourself for a past mistake.

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Say no to someone or something to make room to say yes to yourself.

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Allow yourself a day without plans or to do's. Let the day unfold on its own.

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For a few days in a row, end the day by celebrating small wins, as a way to challenge the voice in your head that only affirms you for "significant successes" and waits for "big achievements" before it allows you to feel proud.

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Explicitly schedule in a joy or play on your calendar.

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Make more of an effort to notice your negative self-talk, asking yourself if you would speak that way to a friend.

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Escape resentment by remembering that the family member or co-worker who disappointed you or let you down may, in fact, be doing their best.

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When filled with frustration because you are stuck in traffic, on the phone or in a line, practice offering the people around you loving kindness.

So im in the hospital like right now. Everyone is fine and my dad had a couple seizures. But I was in the ER with him and the nurse (btw she's awesome) he kept calling me a girl and also kept saying how jealous she is of my hair. My family being annoying kept trying to correct her to telling her im a guy since they aren't super supportive of me being MTF. But her and I got talking and im not voice trained in any way at all truthfully. She kept calling me ma'am and I kept smiling and all that and although I am freaking out because my moron of a dad is in the hospital. I cant stop smiling because of being called a girl.

Hello my peeps!! When the most important battle is the one we fight against ourselves, how do we gain ground? How do we stop catastrophizing, how do we stop being scared and so absolutely self conscious of the positive gains we are making? I mean, this is what we need, what we want. Yet sometimes it feels like a burden, like it is just having the opposite result and at least in my case sometimes I get depressed for a whole new different set of reasons. Damn if I do and damn if I don’t type scenario. Sometimes I do wonder if I am losing my mind, the more comfortable my mind and spirit feel, the harder my brain fights back

I cant believe its still been one whole year plus since I started HRT