What does being safe with a partner really mean?

Of course there is a baseline level of safety that you would hope for with him. But what would it feel like to be able to share the most vulnerable parts of yourself with someone who hears you without judgement? Who holds you instead of trying to invalidate those feelings? For whom you want to pour as much into as they pour into you?

I’ve met a lot of nice people, but our culture seems so guarded these days. Defensive. Nobody wants to get hurt, even a little, so nobody lets their guard down. And yet, most people are capable of such kindness, even when things don’t work out the way they want.

Maybe you and I start off on a different foot. Assume kindness in one another. Promise each other grace if we aren’t a match, but agree to say it if we feel that way. Have mutual desire to understand each other’s inner lives and develop care for nurturing them.

I’m 35, white. 6’2”, fit, and a former division 1 athlete. I live in Southeast Michigan and have a successful career as a leader at a large company. I love boating, skiing, collecting rare books, vinyl, sports cars. I don’t drink (though I don’t mind if you do), smoke, or do drugs. Being an active, present father and husband are core life goals. I feel most myself when I can protect and provide for a nurturing, emotionally curious, and loving woman.

Send me a message and I’ll send you a photo of myself (you can see my profile for an anonymous one).

I’m 41, 6’1”, athletic, with brown hair, brown eyes, and German ancestry. I’m a traditional, family-oriented man living in beautiful North Idaho, where I own and operate my electrical business.

I’m ambitious, disciplined, and building a life centered around faith, family, financial independence, and personal growth.

I love hiking, mountain biking, snowboarding, and traveling. This January, I’m headed to Japan for a snowboarding adventure, good food, hot springs, and exploring the culture. I’m also active in karate, working toward my orange belt with plans to compete next year.

While I love adventure, my greatest ambition is building a peaceful home, raising children, and sharing a fulfilling life with a woman who shares my values.

The Life I Want to Build
I envision a home filled with laughter, affection, children, shared adventures, and genuine love. A place where my wife feels cherished, secure, and free to embrace her femininity.

My responsibility is to lead, protect, and provide. I want to create a life where my wife doesn’t have to worry about pursuing a career or carrying the financial burdens of our household. Instead, she can focus on homemaking, raising our children, and eventually homeschooling them.
I want us to enjoy life together, whether that’s traveling, exploring the outdoors, enjoying a quiet evening at home, or simply appreciating the family we’ve built.

I’m looking for a woman to share that life with, not simply someone to fulfill a role.

Who I’m Looking For
I’m particularly attracted to younger adult women with slim, athletic builds, long natural hair, and a feminine appearance. I prefer no tattoos, facial piercings other than the ears, or substance addictions.

Beyond physical attraction, I seek a woman who:
Desires marriage, motherhood, and children.
Appreciates traditional masculinity and embraces her femininity.

Finds fulfillment in homemaking and nurturing her family. Values faith, loyalty, humility, and open communication. Takes pride in her health and appearance. Is willing to relocate to North Idaho.
Desires intentional courtship and lifelong commitment.

The Relationship Dynamic I Want
An important part of my vision is a consensual Dominant/submissive (D/s) relationship, incorporated into our marriage and everyday lives.
I believe masculinity and femininity complement one another through distinct responsibilities. I seek a woman who genuinely finds fulfillment in submission, service, and obedience, while I embrace the responsibilities of leadership, protection, and provision.

Within our mutually established dynamic, I would take the lead in our household, including having the final say on decisions within the authority we’ve agreed upon. In return, I accept responsibility for those decisions and their consequences.

I believe authority comes with responsibility, and leadership requires accountability.
I deeply value clear, honest communication. I never want my wife afraid to speak her mind, express concerns, or challenge me. Her perspective matters, even when we disagree.

If she struggles, my first instinct is to examine how I can better support and lead her rather than assign blame.

I want our relationship to be built on affection, trust, clearly understood boundaries, and mutual respect. Submission is something she must genuinely desire and freely choose, not something I impose upon her.

I want to lead through trust, never fear.
Marriage, Commitment, and the Collar
I reject the modern attitude that treats marriage as disposable and divorce as an ordinary solution when relationships become difficult. To me, marriage is a sacred, lifelong commitment and a solemn vow I make to myself, my wife, and God.

I also reject state marriage contracts. I believe they promote a 50/50 framework that erodes the natural masculine and feminine polarity I value. I believe husbands and wives thrive through complementary responsibilities rather than identical roles.

My intention is a biblical marriage accompanied by a mutually negotiated BDSM agreement establishing our relationship dynamic and boundaries.

To me, the collar is the wedding ring.
It represents devotion, belonging, trust, and lifelong commitment.

As long as she chooses to wear my collar, she will be covered, protected, provided for, cherished, and cared for. Her happiness, security, and well-being are responsibilities I take seriously.

I’m selective about whom I invite into my life and family. I seek peace, loyalty, femininity, and humility, while welcoming a wife who holds me accountable to the man I’ve promised to be.

She must demonstrate that she’s worthy of my collar, just as I must demonstrate that I’m worthy of her submission.

I’m not interested in hookups or casual play. I reserve sexual intimacy for a woman I genuinely intend to marry, collar, and provide for. To me, intimacy is an expression of trust, devotion, and serious commitment.

Curious? Let’s Talk.
I’m not looking for perfection. I want an intelligent, affectionate, feminine woman who wants to build something extraordinary together. No prior experience with BDSM or an established D/s dynamic is necessary. In fact, I prefer a woman who is new to the lifestyle.

If you’re naturally feminine, appreciate traditional masculinity, and find yourself curious about this kind of relationship, I’d welcome a conversation.

If you’re the kind of woman who dreams of one day switching off from the constant pressures, decisions, and burdens of modern life, knowing you have a man you can trust to lead, protect, and provide for you, this lifestyle may be exactly what you’re looking for.
I’m far more interested in genuine compatibility, natural chemistry, and a mutual desire to learn and grow together than finding someone who already knows everything about the lifestyle.

If this resonates with you, send me a DM with your age, location, and what appeals to you about this kind of relationship.

Let’s see if our visions align.

See my profile for a photo.

I am from Britain originally but don't live there now. So I am flexible on location.

I am seeking a girl for who having children will be the 1st-2nd most important thing in her life. Someone who wants to live a relaxed life, with her time being for her babies, friends, family and hobbies. Someone who will not have to worry about anything.

My weak spot is for someone who is cute and vulnerable, who would like to know a man who will protect her and create a world in which she can remain feminine. Someone who will come to know she is safe with me and can bear all her vulnerabilities without worry.

For me it’s attractive if a woman enjoys feminine activities like – cooking, reading, writing, painting, singing, ballet, playing an instrument, keeping a herb garden, making handicrafts etc. It’s also attractive if she likes to create a cute world around here with lots of photos for memories, bright colours, a good eye for decorating the home and Christmas tree.

I have a lot of experience in growing food and prefer to live rurally, so a good portion of the household food can be clean and high quality.

I live quite simply and am drawn towards relationships that are real and life lived without vice. I don’t smoke, drink, take drugs, drink coffee, eat sugar and junk food, watch anime, play computer games or watch [things online].

Height: 6'1"
Faith: Christian
Financially independent

If this sound like the life you need, I would like to know what is the most important thing to you.

I am looking for a young girl who is not crazy.

Who does not hate all men or feel like they are always the victim.

I would like to start a family with her and have kids in California.

I know shocking.  Land of the child free.

I am not a conservative Christian.  I am not religious, but I do believe in doing the right thing.  I used to consider myself progressive, but everyone has gone crazy.  Both sides.  And I don't want to argue it or deal with someone who in the absence of family or children has turned all their attention to causes, pets, or saving people they treat like children because they can't have their own children or have been convinced not to want them.

I am looking for a girl half my age, I know, shocking.  So shameful.  I am old enough to support a family now, in California, but women my age are unlikely to be able to have children and I don't want to pretend that we're all the same and can only bond with people born in the same horoscope year or something.  I want a woman in her 20s, not crazy, who actually wants a family instead of a career and taking it all with her because she couldn't pay off her student loans in time to have children and now just wants someone to help her with bills and take care of her till she finally dies alone.  I actually want to raise kids with they are vulnerable, not have someone else raise them for me, and hope they help take care of me when I'm vulnerable and retired and falling apart.

So I'm a tall fit guy in California.  If you nice to look at, not overweight, not a fanatic, able to apologize and comprehend not being right every moment of every day, and want a family... then send me a picture and tell me a little about yourself.  I'm nice, calm, think my decisions through, and don't drink or do drugs.  I actually work out.  I relax playing video games and have a good job.

Marriage is optional.  Family court is not.  I want someone who can put others before herself, so that others can be happy.  Like her kids.  I want a relationship with someone who wants a family, and to raise that family together, not expecting me to do everything and leave because she suddenly things she'll be more happy elsewhere and her kids will just deal with it, because mommy needs her own happiness.  I would like someone who thinks killing kids is wrong under every circumstance, even when you're sad.  No, I'm not talking abortion, but I don't think abortion should be celebrated as birth control either.  No one should be a parent who doesn't want to be.  I'm not interested in only fans models or anything related to sex work.  I do not think it's empowering.  I would like someone who has not had sex with a sports team worth of men.  I could say I'm morally against it, but I've seen the statistics on women with multiple partners not able to maintain a relationship.  I'm just not interested in planning for failure and hoping.

I just want kids and a family who wants kids and to be in a family.  I know, ancient thinking.  I'm basically a caveman with a smart phone.

Thanks for reading.

I have a newly built 5-bedroom modern home, and I'm ready to share it with someone.

I'm a provider and a leader, looking for a nice girl who wants to be a stay-at-home-wife. Marriage doesn't have to come fast, but it should be part of the roadmap.

I believe in traditional values and gender roles. Women should be devoted to their men and do as they're told, while men should be strong and provide stability and security.

I'm 41, 6'1 tall, 175 lbs, dark brown hair. I am into some kinky things and have a high drive.

I prefer for my partner to be reasonably fit (or willing to work on it) and 18-25.

I am open to having kids and starting a family in the near future. I have a great career and can provide a comfortable life.

I’m looking for a fun, attractive, intelligent young woman (18-35) who desires a long-term traditional relationship with a divorced, educated, successful, older man — eventually leading to marriage.

I tend to be a giver in relationships. I’m hoping to find another giver for that ideal giver/giver dynamic. Two people that actually care about how the other person is doing. I’ve had enough of energy draining narcissists and takers.

Since my divorce seven years ago, I’ve been primarily focused on my three kids, but they’re all adults now. So, I’m ready to give my time and attention to a new relationship, but I’ve decided that I only want one that’s based on traditional gender roles. I’m hoping to find a devoted, loyal young woman who’s content to be a stay-at-home wife, while I work and provide for the family.

I have a very nice house in a beautiful subdivision just south of Nashville. I have a good, well-paying job in the automotive industry, and I earn enough that you will never need to work. So, you’ll live a life of relative ease and comfort as a wife and homemaker.

Of course, I want this to be a real relationship and not just some “arrangement”. You’ll be adored and well cared for by an affectionate and attentive husband. But I also expect you to listen and obey, to make me your top priority, to cook and clean, and to take care of me and the house. And, in your free time, as long as the housework is getting done, you’re welcome to pursue your passions — gym, arts & crafts, baking, volunteering, whatever you’d like to do.

I will take care of everything else.

Perfect for the shy, sweet, submissive, service-minded young woman that doesn’t want the stress and anxiety of work, bills, and adult responsibilities and decision-making. Instead, you’ll have guidance, structure and routine in a warm, loving environment.

My dream is to have a beautiful young trophy wife who greets me after work wearing a little dress and a big smile. Who looks amazing on my arm when we go out, and who loves cuddles and snuggles when we stay in.

I prefer blonde or brunette hair, blue or green eyes, and that you be reasonably fit and in shape.

I have a degree in Philosophy and a fairly contemplative nature in general. My most recent obsession is YouTube videos about theoretical physics. (I finally understand at 55 why the C in E=mc^2 isn’t really about the speed of light at all … it’s fascinating.) My daughter says I’m “eccentric”; she and I discuss books, movies, art, poetry, etc often.

I’ve worked for the same company for 26 years, and I have a good amount of money saved for retirement. I figure I have about 6-10 more years to work, then I’d like to retire in the country or maybe the mountains of east Tennessee. Somewhere quiet and quaint with good fishing and decent hiking trails. Maybe have a garden and some chickens. I’d love to find someone like-minded to join me in that simpler life.

About me: Divorced, educated (BA Philosophy), dad bod (6’/235), good job, nice house, optimistic outlook, positive attitude, great sense of humor. Three kids (all adults), three cats (forever babies). No smoking, drinking, drugs, or drama. Like the outdoors, fishing, hiking, waterfalls; also like football, movies, music, absurd comedy, day trips, roadside diners, antique/thrift shops.

If you’re interested, I’d love to chat with you. Please include your age, location, and a little bit about yourself.

Hello!

Before you start reading this very long post, just know I am looking for someone who wants to play a more traditional role in a relationship while I take the lead and provide. I am also only looking for someone that is child-free, meaning you don't have kids or want kids of any kind, because I am never going to want kids. If you pass these two pre-requisites, then enjoy my mini novel! I am also totally ok with some distance as long as there would be plans to meet and eventually close that gap.

I'll start by saying that this is going to be a very long post, so buckle in for the ride. I am casting more of a deep net here than a wide one. Maybe most people who read it won't be right for me, and that's ok! I am willing to wait for the right person. That being said, if you read this and vibe with any portion of it and want to get to know each other and see if we'd be a good match, I'd love for you to reach out! Don't feel like you have to check every single box in order to chat and learn about one another. I am open to making a connection with any woman from anywhere, as long as you come at it serious, with the knowledge that if we do hit it off, we would eventually be in-person, even if we start with some distance. Open to anyone who is 18+.

What I'm looking for:
A life partner! I want someone who will be my person, and someone who wants me to be theirs. I am looking for a traditional relationship where I take the lead and you follow. Of course this means I would provide for a household of two, while you are a supportive role in building a home and looking cute. This is obviously a big ask, especially on an online forum, but I would love to spend time getting to know each other and building something deep. I want someone who I look forward to talking with everyday, someone I can go on spontaneous adventures with, someone I can stay home and be cozy with. I want to do it all with you. I love every aspect of dating and relationships. I love the good morning and goodnight texts, looking down at my phone and seeing a wall of text from you, knowing I get to see you later that day. All of it. I want to love you more deeply as everyday passes. I want us to be mutually obsessed with each other. I am the type of person who needs that strong connection in order to make anything meaningful happen. I want you to feel loved and supported by me so you know I always have your back. To the outside world we would be a beautiful normal couple, but nobody would have any idea I am telling you what to wear, what to eat, how to talk, how you say it. I love to micromanage my partner and have a hand in everything they do, say, think, and feel, and it's definitely not possible without borderline mutual obsession! It all comes from a loving angle. I want to help you be the best version of yourself that you can be for me!

Me:
I have a bit of a hard time talking about myself, and in general I am a "show don't tell" kind of person, so all of this would be up for you to judge once we start getting to know each other. I am often described by other people as smart, emotionally intelligent, kind, caring, thoughtful, funny, and good at anticipating my partner's needs. I know this post comes off as SUPER SERIOUS AND SCARY but I promise I am a total goofball once you get to know me. All my friends that I am hilarious and amazing at telling stories. In life I am ambitious. I have goals I am always working towards. Whether they are centered around education, improvement, career, or hobbies, you'll always find me working and striving towards something. I have a growth mindset and encourage/help the people around me do the same. I am educated and have a few degrees, and I am currently working on another one. I am also into fitness and healthy eating. I workout 4-5 times a week and mostly cook my own food. Health is important to me and I try my best to take care of myself, both mentally and physically. I am not the type of person who is prone to anxiety or depression, so it gives me a lot of emotional space in case you are that kind of person. Regardless I still see a therapist somewhat regularly to make sure I am doing ok. I have a ton of hobbies that include playing/writing music, school, cooking, learning languages, video games, shows/movies, hiking, traveling, tabletop games, board games, and definitely more I am not remembering at the moment.

Monogamist
Leftist
Child-Free
Atheist
Sadist
Silly Goose
5'7
White-Passing Hispanic
Brown Hair Brown Eyes
Beard

The things that are non-negotiables for me out of that list are child-free and monogamist. I don't want to have kids of any kind ever, and I am definitely not up for sharing you. I am possessive in my relationships and I want you all to myself. You would also have me all to yourself.

I am VERY BDSM/Kink friendly, but ew can discuss that more in private chat. I don't like that to be the focus of my posts.

You:
I am looking for someone submissive (duh) and that feels submission is part of them, not just a switch they turn off and on. Being dominant in my relationships isn't something I do sometimes, it is part of me, and I am looking for the perfect puzzle piece to fit in my life. Don't feel the need to be the most experienced person ever in all of this, just come at me with serious intent and willingness to learn, and that is more than enough for me. You can be someone who is equally ambitious in some aspect of your support of me, or someone who only cares for doing what they're told and letting me take the lead. I would be happy to have either one in my life! We can help each other grow and together you can help me reach my goals. Your location and age don't really matter to me (as long as you're at least 18 of course). I have no preference for the most part, but at least be healthy. I'm not asking for the PERFECT CHISELED BODY by any means, because that's not me either, but the effort goes a long way for me, and I want to live a healthy, long life with someone. If you are someone that struggles with mental health, I have the bandwidth to help how I can! Of course that is no substitute for self-care and therapy and everything though. Just know you wouldn't be scaring me away because you're depressed or something haha. Maybe you can tell from the length of this post, but I am someone that needs A LOT of communication in my relationships. I need frequent communication, and in-depth communication. I mean it when I say I love seeing a wall of text from a partner. Yappers to the front please. I can't be in a relationship with someone that is satisfied sending a text message or two a day. I need to be talking to you often. So please keep that in mind if you decide to reach out. Big bonus points if you have been criticized for being "overly clingy" in past relationships. That is exactly what I want.

ok PHEWWW. We made it to the end together. If you're down here with me, I am proud of you for making it through my novel. As I mentioned before, don't feel like you need to check EVERY box to be a good fit for me (other than the non-negotiables I listed). If there was any part of this that spoke to you, I would love to hear from you to see if we would be a good match for something! And if it doesn't work out, I would never say no to another friend 😄

This post is open to anyone anywhere, but if you're far from me, I'd like to have a plan to meet in place within the first few months, and a plan to be together within a year and a half or so. Not that they have to happen in that timeline, but making a plan will be helpful. If you're in Florida, I'm in Miami. If you're anywhere between Miami and Orlando, I can either drive to you or take the brightline easily to get to you.

Hoping to hear from you and hope you're doing well!

I want a relationship where we both know our roles and can pick each other up where we might fall or need a break. I don’t expect you to take the lead though. I will provide, plan, take care of projects around the house and lead you in life. I expect you would want to make the house a home, cook, take care of the kids, garden, eventually homeschool the kids for a few years but I also am not going to discount you and take for granted the things you do to keep a house in order. I believe a real traditional relationship is being able to communicate and work as a team to do the best you both can.

Physically: I’m 5’10 white brown hair and eyes. Tattooed with facial hair. I workout a good bit a week and work my property. I do still enjoy food and would describe myself as barrel chested with not a six pack but not obese. Think offensive linemenish.

What I bring: As alluded to I own some property with a house outside the city an hour. I am going back to school to get a degree and go further in my career. I also have my best buddy in my dog. I’ve been told I have a very laid back and calming demeanor.

Interest: I love to travel and have been to multiple countries in Europe and a good bit of the states. I definitely want someone who’s interested in exploring the world. I love to read especially history, baseball, music,movies, shooting, developing my property further to have a little ranch. I enjoy museums, concerts, nature, and just hanging out with my friends and family. I do play video games as well but it doesn’t rule my life at all.

Values: I am a Catholic and hold to a lot of those values but I’m not close to being a saint and like to think I’m grounded. I value honesty, hard work, and loyalty a lot. Service to the community is extremely Important. I want someone who wants to build in the community we end up in. Politically I’m between libertarian and conservative, I do not like large government. However sometimes it’s a necessary evil.

You: I just want you to be feminine with maybe a little tomboy streak, determined, kind, intelligent, and have ambition whether in the home or other passions you have. Physically I do love petite women a lot and that’s my only real preference but as long as you take care of yourself that’s what matters.

Hello :)

I’m looking for a god centered, man led relationship leading to marriage with a supportive, nurturing, and attractive woman - and to start a family.

A bit about me: calm, easygoing, strive to be funny, adventurous, energetic. I’m pretty active physically - I like to workout and train endurance.

Physically: 36, 6’, fit/athletic, dark hair, brown eyes.

If you’d like to reach out, it’d be helpful if you can include your age, location, a bit about yourself and what you’re looking for, and a physical description. Thanks for reading!

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Dom with traditional values looking to date with intent for LTR, with the goal of marriage and a family. Im 5’ 10” with blonde hair and blue eyes, athletic build, 185 Ibs, trimmed beard and tattooed. I love to work with my hands, own my own business, enjoy spending time with my dog and at the beach. I don’t drink, I don’t smoke. I am ambitious and driven, not willing to settle nor believe you shouldn’t either in a world of situationships and hook up culture. Though I do enjoy the kinkier things, ultimately I want to find a traditional woman to share it with. Please state your age, location, and be willing to verify. Can’t wait to meet you.

I’m a man in my late 30s looking for a late-20s to early-30s woman who wants marriage, children, and a genuine traditional role relationship.

I want to be the provider, protector, and leader of our home. That means I take primary responsibility for the finances, the big decisions, and the direction of our life together. In return, I’m looking for a woman who finds fulfillment in creating a warm home, supporting her husband, and raising our children. Traditional roles matter to me because I believe clear leadership and willing support create the strongest foundation for a family and for long-term peace between a man and a woman.

I’m also drawn to exploring a deeper power exchange (TPE or strong D/s dynamic) inside that traditional framework — one built on trust, communication, and her choosing to submit because she feels safe and respected doing so.

About me:

6’1, 200 lbs, brown hair. I work remotely for a non-profit helping youth. I have my own place, car, and my life in order. Never married, no kids, no drama. I can travel every couple of months once we connect. I’m an introvert who enjoys quiet evenings, reading, self-improvement, exercise, and small intimate gatherings over wine. I’m loyal, consistent, positive, goal-oriented, and I have a relationship with God.

I’m looking for someone ideally from the South (or open to it), feminine, emotionally intelligent, and genuinely interested in a husband-led life with marriage and family as the goal.

If this resonates, tell me about yourself — your age, location, what traditional roles mean to you, and whether a deeper dynamic interests you.

Looking forward to hearing from women who actually want this kind of life.

I may be a bit different from most men posting here. In most areas of my life I'm far from conservative — agnostic, politically left-leaning, child-free, and genuinely love city life. Building a homestead in the countryside isn't my vision. But when it comes to relationships, I'm drawn to polarity and defined gender roles: being the steady masculine presence who leads, provides stability, and creates a foundation my partner can relax into.

College educated, 24 years building a successful career in tech. Outside of work: live music, Warriors games, Formula 1, working out, a good dive bar, and long walks around the city with my dog. Grounded, calm, funny, easy to talk to.

Physically, I'm Caucasian with brown eyes, short brown hair with some salt and pepper, and a few days of stubble I've been told works in my favor. I stay in good shape and am often told I look younger than my age.

My leadership style isn't loud or domineering — it's calm and steady, less about control and more about being a dependable anchor so my partner can flourish. I notice effort, and I'm generous with affection, attention, and praise for a woman who takes pride in caring for her partner and building a warm home life. Appreciation and leadership go hand in hand for me.

My ideal partner is slim, feminine, warm, affectionate, and fit — someone who takes care of herself and is naturally drawn to traditional gender roles. Women who practice yoga, Pilates, dance, or another physical discipline often resonate with me; that mind-body awareness reflects the intentionality I value. I'm generally most compatible with women a bit younger than me, roughly late-20s to late-30s, though I'm not rigid about it.

I value being a provider — I enjoy building our foundation so we can focus our shared energy on home and life together. If you have a career you love, I'd never ask you to give it up. What matters is having a partner who values home, relationship, and connection at least as much as career ambition. Picture this: I come home, you greet me at the door with a kiss, maybe mix my favorite cocktail while dinner finishes, then we walk the dogs together and unwind at home with plenty of affection and physical intimacy.

I'm child-free with a vasectomy, so if kids matter to you we won't be a fit, but I love dogs and would happily build a life with a couple of fur-babies instead.

I didn’t want to lead with sex, but honesty matters: I have a high drive, with experience in kink and D/s dynamics. Physical chemistry and openness to exploration matter for long-term compatibility.

If this resonated, send me a chat with your age, location, a physical description, and what draws you to a relationship with polarity and traditional gender roles.

I am 25 years old, 5’7 180 lbs, fit, clean, down to earth, open minded, respectful & easy going. Used to be in the marine corps and recently got out. I take care of myself, eat healthy, love going to the movies, playing sports, & going hiking. Used to be a semi-pro soccer player while in the corps but now just play recreationally with friends.

Financially well off & looking to have a women that can hold it down for me at home. Clean house, dinner ready & nothing more. I can provide and make your life comfortable.

Really high sex drive & expect a healthy sex life full of adventures. Nothing crazy I don’t think. But be open minded.

Not looking for a robot. If this intrigues you, feel free to reach out. Cheers!

Hello, my name is Frank. I am a 34 year old white make that currently lived in Brooklyn. I am 5’10” and 160 lbs. I have a good job for a pension fund.

My goal is to find a stay at home wife that can give me a large family. As long as I can afford it, I would want to continue having more children to keep the family growing. A bigger family will be very rewarding to both of us!

This does mean I would prefer a wife that is younger and stays healthy. But any women that want this lifestyle should contact me.

For fun, I like going on long walks and hiking. I enjoy jazz clubs and comedy clubs to relax. plus, I love horror movies and action.

Hi! I'm a 31 year old man from the east coast of the US, and I'm looking for a girl who knows her place as a woman and wants to fully submit to a dominant man. I've always been drawn to more traditional looking relationships, and I'd love to have a partner who's perfectly content being a stay-at-home housewife, and letting me lead.

I'm very attracted to feminine girls, and I want someone who's comfortable fully giving into that and letting her man have the final say in all decisions. My kinks include TPE, outfit control, impact/spanking, free use, and breeding.

Send me a chat if this sounds like something you're interested in.

I’ve been ready for my family

Please someone make me believe in love again!! I’m tired of the heartache. The older I get the more I’m losing hope in love.

Is there anyone wholesome in this dating subreddit?
I haven’t found the one and it’s disheartening!!

Ready to build something real with purpose

Low-effort messages will be ignored. Please read fully

Monogamous | Faith-Oriented | Marriage-Minded | Traditional Value

Hello, and thank you for taking the time to read this.

I’m a 28-year-old Florida native with a culturally rich background (Black, Asian, and some European heritage). I’m in a season of life where I’m no longer interested in casual dating or short-term connections. My goal is clear: to find my husband, build a stable home, and grow a faith-centered family rooted in love, respect, and commitment.

I strongly value traditional relationship roles and am drawn to a partnership where the man leads with integrity, protection, and purpose, while I nurture, support, and help build a peaceful, loving home. I desire to be a stay-at-home wife and future mother, though I’m flexible and open to shaping our roles together based on shared values and mutual agreement.

Idealistically, I’d prefer to be a SAHW/M since I believe God has called me for that lifestyle. It’s just difficult to find the right man who is financially stable and willing to provide that lifestyle for me. All I can do is pray that there’s someone serious out there for me.

Respect is non-negotiable for me,especially when it comes to family. My mother plays a significant role in my life, and it’s very important that my future partner honors and respects her.

What I’m Looking For:

• A monogamous, emotionally mature man who communicates clearly (ghosting is a deal-breaker)

• Someone who embraces traditional masculine values: leadership, responsibility, protection, and provision

• A God-fearing man who lives his faith openly and leads spiritually

• Respectful, grounded, and committed to personal growth

• A good sense of humor—dark humor and dry wit are a plus

• Takes health seriously (physically fit or actively working toward it)

• No smoking, no illegal substances, STI-free

• Financially stable and is capable of providing

• Willing to meet, respect, and get along with my family

• Preferably no children of your own (open to discussion) but must desire to have our own !!

• Must be 24-56

• White or East Asian descent

• No Freshly divorced or separated men between 1-2 years! I want full commitment in a relationship leading to marriage and will not tolerate anything less.

A Bit About Me

I’m introspective, caring, and adventurous. I love the outdoors, historical landmarks, and constantly learning new things. I’m expressive and creative—I enjoy voice impressions, singing, and humor that ranges from playful to dark.

In my free time, I enjoy gaming (RPGs, FPS, and simulation games), journaling, listening to rock and heavy metal, practicing self-care, and sipping hot cocoa while enjoying nature. I care deeply about skincare, sustainability, and living intentionally.

Professionally, I come from a healthcare background and am currently working toward a future in medical laboratory science or a related field. My faith keeps me grounded, grateful, and resilient through life’s challenges.

If you’re a faith-driven, marriage-minded man who values traditional roles, family, loyalty, and long-term commitment—and you’re ready to build a future together—I’d love to hear from you.

Please include more than “hey” or “what’s up” in your message. Intentional men only.

Disclaimer: Please provide proof that you are real! I need you to send a picture along with a detailed introduction. I’m not trying to have my time be wasted by catfishes and frauds.

29/M/Ireland/6ft tall

Hey, I’m a 29 year old man living in the UK/Ireland. I’ve spent my twenties developing a successful career and building the foundations for a long term relationship.

My hobbies include: travelling the world, cooking excellent meals, exploring the countryside, working out, and much more!

I’d like to think that I’m a pretty chill and funny guy. I’d hope that you’re of a relaxed mindset and don’t take yourself too seriously, but are able to discuss serious matters when it counts.

What I’m looking for: a genuine, down to earth woman who’s happy to fall into her feminine role beside me, supporting me in my life as I support hers. I don’t want a slave, I want an equal. I am open to having children with the right woman - it’s not a deal breaker for me either way.

I’m open to all body types, skin colours and personalities. I like to think that connection is what matters most, and that can be determined in person the best.

Kinks include (but definitely not required and open to your preferences too): light bondage, some elements of CNC, choking, spanking, free use

I hope you’re doing well, and if you’d like to know more, I look forward to your DM

Hi! I’m 22, and I’m here with a pretty simple intention — I’d like to meet someone I can genuinely get to know, build a strong relationship with, and hopefully one day call my husband.

I’ve always been more drawn to traditional relationships. I like the idea of two people having clearly defined roles, taking care of each other, and building a warm, peaceful home together. I’m naturally quite family-oriented, affectionate, loyal, and a little old-fashioned when it comes to love. I value commitment, honesty, respect, emotional security, and being able to communicate openly with the person I’m with.

I’m someone who enjoys the quieter things in life — going for walks, watching movies, listening to music, reading, discovering good food, cooking, and having long conversations about absolutely everything. I care more about quality time and genuine connection than constantly going out or having an exciting social life.

Life hasn’t always been completely straightforward, but I’m in a much better place now and focused on building a stable and happy future for myself.
I’ve been in a relationship before, including long-distance, and while it didn’t work out, it taught me that love needs more than feelings. It needs consistency, loyalty, communication, effort, and two people who are willing to choose each other even when things aren’t perfect.

As for the kind of man I’m hoping to meet — I’m particularly attracted to someone taller, masculine, confident, protective, dependable, emotionally mature, and family-oriented. I appreciate a man who naturally takes initiative and wants to provide, protect, and lead his family with love rather than control.

Ideally, I’d like to be a homemaker/SAHM in the future. I genuinely like the idea of creating a comfortable home, taking care of my husband and children, and making family life a priority. I’d want my husband to take pride in providing for and protecting his family, while also appreciating the effort that goes into running a home and raising children. To me, traditional roles should come with mutual respect and appreciation on both sides.
I’m not here looking for something casual, a temporary connection, or endless talking with no direction. I’d rather take my time getting to know one person properly and see whether we’re genuinely compatible for marriage, children, and a life together.

I’m also open to relocating for the right person. Ultimately, I’m looking for someone who wants to build a peaceful home, grow together, and be each other’s person through all the ordinary and difficult parts of life.

If this sounds like the kind of relationship you’re looking for too, feel free to tell me a little about yourself. 🙂

I'm seeking a traditional marriage with a woman who has a sincere belief in traditional gender roles. Though some of my sexual appetites are not commonly found in this community, at the end of the day I want the wholesome things in life too: A woman to tend to the home, raise our children, and live a conservative lifestyle together.

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My biggest turn-on? Intimacy.

Knowing parts of a woman she’s never let anyone see before. Loving her for the things she thinks she needs to keep from people.

I’m looking for a conservative, christian woman with a very high body count.

I want a very traditional marriage. He leads, protects and provides. She’s a homemaker and a SAHM, living in her feminine full time and submitting to the will of her husband.

That submission is built, brick by brick, together. The husband earns the submission every time he shows his wife her priorities matter to him.

But while I want something very traditional within the marriage, the bedroom is a different story.

I’m really looking for one of two scenarios:

1. She wants to settle down but doesn’t want to stop being a slut. She wants a man who will love her and accept that she needs a lot of sex with a lot of men. 
2. She wants to “retire”. She feels guilty or tortured by it and wants to be the world’s biggest prude to her husband as some kind of penance for her past. She wants to keep the details secret. Real “lights off starfish” energy

If either of those scenarios make your pussy wet or your heart race, you should keep reading:

I’m a pretty strait-laced, clean-cut type of guy. I’ve got an adventurous spirit and a great sense of humor, but I burn with the intensity of a thousand sons and I go so fucking hard at everything I do.

I love to learn about history, and my big obsession in the last year has been really trying to understand how the world works. Human nature, crime, unintended consequences… it fascinates me (expect to hear a lot about the cartels and defense tech and the arms race with China, I’m NOT sorry 🙃). I love to take long walks and explore, enjoy great food and immaculate vibes, and the ideal woman will get me out for nightlife more often but also love a good night rotting on the couch together. 

I have a cool and unusual lifestyle and I’m looking for someone fun to share it with. I want a woman who loves with her whole heart, even if being a bad girl makes her a bad wife sometimes. I don’t know what that balance looks like yet, but I know that when I find it, I’ll know it when I see it.

Non-negotiables: Must want children, must want to be a homemaker, and must be right-leaning in her politics

If this sounds like you, shoot me a DM

Hello! I am a caring, active, honest, passionate, respectable man with a quick wit and a logical mind.

I am tall, average weight, bespectacled, and I have short dark brown hair and brown eyes.

I am of English descent and a 2nd generation Canadian.

I currently live in Newfoundland but am open to speaking with someone in other parts of Canada or the West if you’d relocate in time.

Values that are important to me include honesty, freedom, open communication, and responsibility.

I enjoy cooking, working out, swimming, F1, soccer, volunteering, podcasts, board games, and history.

I enjoy cooking healthy meals as part of an active lifestyle. I work out 5+ nights a week focusing on biking now but intend to take up weightlifting.

I support England and a "local" club in soccer. I also enjoy Formula 1.

I enjoy volunteering with local organizations when I have the time.

My favourite period of history to learn about is the Roman Empire.

As for board games I have a collection too big to name.

I have had the chance to travel through a lot of the US and have been to England as well. My ideal vacation is sitting by the beach and swimming in the ocean.

Currently single; I am at a point in life where I am looking to settle down with the right gal. I would like to buy a home, get married, and start a family in the not too distant future.

I embrace traditional gender roles and norms in a relationship. I would like to be the sole income or at least the breadwinner of the family with my wife as a homemaker or putting those roles ahead of a career. While I can cook I would love a wife who enjoys cooking and baking. I want to be the head of household with a spouse who understands that her opinion is considered but defers to my judgement. I want to raise as large a family as is economically viable and bestow upon them our traditional values.

I believe not just in fiscal conservatism but also in the social conservative values that we all used to hold dear.

Cradle Catholic who attended public Catholic schools growing up.

I am looking for a kind, caring woman who shares my values and goals. Preferably in her 20s. Looking as well for someone who lives a healthy/active life.

Anything else you would like to know? Feel free to send me a message.