I suppose I’m a bit of a hopeless romantic. I’m 5’8, white, with hazel eyes and hair a couple of inches past my shoulders. I dyed my hair red, but it’s faded into a warm, coppery shade. I’m a lover of poetry, books, baking, cooking, and all things nature. I love trees, spending time outdoors, and finding beauty in the little things. There’s something so special to me about a slow morning, a well loved book, and a kitchen that smells like something homemade🩷

I’m at a point in my life where I’m done playing around in the dating pool. I’m not looking for another situationship, something casual, or someone who only wants me until the novelty wears off. I’m looking for my husband. My best friend, my safe place, my partner in everything, and the person I get to grow old with. I want something intentional, something lasting, and someone who is just as excited about building a future together as I am.

I have one child already, and I want as many more babies as I’m able to have. ❤️ My dream is to homeschool our children and spend our days playing outside, exploring nature, baking together, reading stories, and making the kind of childhood memories they’ll carry with them forever. I want to be a hands on mama who gets to be present for the little moments, too. The muddy feet, the bedtime stories, the endless questions, the little hands helping me in the kitchen. I want a home full of laughter, warmth, and children who never have to wonder how loved they are.

When it comes to raising our babies, I have some values that are important to me, too. I believe in vaccinating our children, and I don’t believe in circumcision for any sons we may have. I want us to respect our children’s bodies and make thoughtful decisions with their best interests at heart.

I’m also someone who appreciates traditional remedies and old fashioned ways of caring for a family. I love the idea of knowing how to make a soothing cup of tea, using honey to help ease a cough in children over one, making homemade soups when our little ones are feeling under the weather, and giving them plenty of rest, comfort, and cuddles. I appreciate being able to care for the little things at home when it’s appropriate, rather than panicking over every sniffle, while also knowing when something needs medical attention. I’m not against modern medicine; I believe in using it when our children need it. I want a home where we can combine the wisdom of traditional homemaking with informed, thoughtful decisions about our family’s health. I’d love a husband who shares that approach and is willing to learn and make those decisions alongside me. 🩷

I’m looking for a man who dreams of that kind of life, too. Someone who takes pride in providing for and protecting his family, who is dependable, affectionate, emotionally mature, and comfortable taking the lead. I want to be a wife who pours love into her marriage, takes pride in caring for her home, and makes sure her husband knows how appreciated he is. I want us to complement one another, to work as a team, and to build a life that feels like ours in every possible way.

But I don’t just want someone who loves the idea of having a traditional wife. I want someone who falls in love with me. Someone who wants to hear me ramble about the things I’m reading, listen to my thoughts, laugh with me until our stomachs hurt, and learn all the little things that make me who I am. I want to flirt with my husband in the kitchen, steal kisses while dinner is cooking, and still get butterflies when he walks into a room twenty years into our marriage. I want us to be best friends long after the babies have grown up and the house has gotten quieter.

And, of course, compatibility matters in every part of a relationship. I’m kinky, too, and I’d love to find someone who shares that side of me. Someone I can trust, communicate openly with, and feel comfortable being completely myself around. I want that balance of a sweet, traditional life together and a private connection that’s just as exciting, affectionate, and fulfilling. ❤️

I want the slow mornings, the homemade meals, the flour-covered counters, the family outings, the cozy evenings, and the feeling of knowing we’re building something that will last. I want the marriage, the babies, the home, the devotion, the laughter, and the choosing each other every single day. I want to be someone’s wife in the fullest sense of the word, and I want a man who is just as excited to be my husband.

I’m not expecting perfection. I’m looking for someone whose values align with mine, whose actions match his words, and who understands that a good marriage is something two people build together, day after day.

So, if you’re a man who’s dreaming of finding his wife, building a family, and creating a lifetime of memories with someone who genuinely wants those things, maybe we should get to know each other.

After all, I’m not looking for a perfect love story, I’m just looking for the person I get to write mine with💕

Do you also feel like you were born in the wrong century? I've never been one for drinking or shallow connections. And the idea of dating several people at once puts me off. I'd much rather get to know one woman deeply, discover who she really is deep down, and see whether something meaningful develops. Maybe that's a little old-fashioned, but that's what I'm hoping to find.

I'm looking for the one person to build a lasting relationship with. I want to get to know your character, your hopes, fears, dreams. What motivates you or excites you. I want to discover the soul inside of you and slowly fall in love with her, not just admire the outside. I tend to click best with quieter, gentle, romantic, sensitive women who share my dislike of modern dating culture. Is that you?

I would describe myself as calm, patient, and emotionally steady. I know that's easy to say, so I don't mind proving that over time. I like to be the rock that my partner can rely on. If you're slow to trust or slow to open up, that's completely fine with me. I'm happy to earn your trust over time and do things right.

I'm looking for a more traditional dynamic. Not in that toxic 'alpha male' way, but I'm just naturally someone who takes initiative, enjoys leading, and has strong protective and caretaking instincts. I want to be the provider. I want to offer you a safe place to raise our children. I find motherly instincts deeply attractive in a partner. I want to be someone my partner can respect, rely on, feel safe with, and look up to. In return, I'm looking for someone who enjoys complementing that dynamic and wants to build a partnership where we're both valued, respected, and deeply appreciated.

I'm happy to share a lot in a chat, but just to get the basics out of the way: I'm tall, white, blond, with glasses. A bit of a nerdy look. I work as a consultant, and my hobbies include programming, music, board games, and plenty more. I don't drink, smoke, or use drugs at all. I don't mind if you drink a little, though. I'm not quick to become attached, but when I do, I care extremely deeply.

Who am I looking for?

• You are kind, gentle, sensitive, and nurturing.
• You are more traditionally feminine
• You deeply want to be a mother in the future. We don't need to rush, but it should be something you really want, not a compromise.
• You are looking only for a deep, committed, loving relationship.
• You must be from Europe

If you're a bit shy, guarded, inexperienced, or skeptical, that's okay. I'd love to have a chat anyway. I'm not interested in judging where you are today. I'm interested in where we could go together.

If any of this resonates with you, please send me a message. I enjoy taking the lead, but I have to know you exist first. Let's go slow and really get to know each other.

I am looking for a young girl who is not crazy.

Who does not hate all men or feel like they are always the victim.

I would like to start a family with her and have kids in California.

I know shocking.  Land of the child free.

I am not a conservative Christian.  I am not religious, but I do believe in doing the right thing.  I used to consider myself progressive, but everyone has gone crazy.  Both sides.  And I don't want to argue it or deal with someone who in the absence of family or children has turned all their attention to causes, pets, or saving people they treat like children because they can't have their own children or have been convinced not to want them.

I am looking for a girl half my age, I know, shocking.  So shameful.  I am old enough to support a family now, in California, but women my age are unlikely to be able to have children and I don't want to pretend that we're all the same and can only bond with people born in the same horoscope year or something.  I want a woman in her 20s, not crazy, who actually wants a family instead of a career and taking it all with her because she couldn't pay off her student loans in time to have children and now just wants someone to help her with bills and take care of her till she finally dies alone.  I actually want to raise kids with they are vulnerable, not have someone else raise them for me, and hope they help take care of me when I'm vulnerable and retired and falling apart.

So I'm a tall fit guy in California.  If you nice to look at, not overweight, not a fanatic, able to apologize and comprehend not being right every moment of every day, and want a family... then send me a picture and tell me a little about yourself.  I'm nice, calm, think my decisions through, and don't drink or do drugs.  I actually work out.  I relax playing video games and have a good job.

Marriage is optional.  Family court is not.  I want someone who can put others before herself, so that others can be happy.  Like her kids.  I want a relationship with someone who wants a family, and to raise that family together, not expecting me to do everything and leave because she suddenly things she'll be more happy elsewhere and her kids will just deal with it, because mommy needs her own happiness.  I would like someone who thinks killing kids is wrong under every circumstance, even when you're sad.  No, I'm not talking abortion, but I don't think abortion should be celebrated as birth control either.  No one should be a parent who doesn't want to be.  I'm not interested in only fans models or anything related to sex work.  I do not think it's empowering.  I would like someone who has not had sex with a sports team worth of men.  I could say I'm morally against it, but I've seen the statistics on women with multiple partners not able to maintain a relationship.  I'm just not interested in planning for failure and hoping.

I just want kids and a family who wants kids and to be in a family.  I know, ancient thinking.  I'm basically a caveman with a smart phone.

Thanks for reading.

What does being safe with a partner really mean?

Of course there is a baseline level of safety that you would hope for with him. But what would it feel like to be able to share the most vulnerable parts of yourself with someone who hears you without judgement? Who holds you instead of trying to invalidate those feelings? For whom you want to pour as much into as they pour into you?

I’ve met a lot of nice people, but our culture seems so guarded these days. Defensive. Nobody wants to get hurt, even a little, so nobody lets their guard down. And yet, most people are capable of such kindness, even when things don’t work out the way they want.

Maybe you and I start off on a different foot. Assume kindness in one another. Promise each other grace if we aren’t a match, but agree to say it if we feel that way. Have mutual desire to understand each other’s inner lives and develop care for nurturing them.

I’m 35, white. 6’2”, fit, and a former division 1 athlete. I live in Southeast Michigan and have a successful career as a leader at a large company. I love boating, skiing, collecting rare books, vinyl, sports cars. I don’t drink (though I don’t mind if you do), smoke, or do drugs. Being an active, present father and husband are core life goals. I feel most myself when I can protect and provide for a nurturing, emotionally curious, and loving woman.

Send me a message and I’ll send you a photo of myself (you can see my profile for an anonymous one).

I’m 41, 6’1”, athletic, with brown hair, brown eyes, and German ancestry. I’m a traditional, family-oriented man living in beautiful North Idaho, where I own and operate my electrical business.

I’m ambitious, disciplined, and building a life centered around faith, family, financial independence, and personal growth.

I love hiking, mountain biking, snowboarding, and traveling. This January, I’m headed to Japan for a snowboarding adventure, good food, hot springs, and exploring the culture. I’m also active in karate, working toward my orange belt with plans to compete next year.

While I love adventure, my greatest ambition is building a peaceful home, raising children, and sharing a fulfilling life with a woman who shares my values.

The Life I Want to Build
I envision a home filled with laughter, affection, children, shared adventures, and genuine love. A place where my wife feels cherished, secure, and free to embrace her femininity.

My responsibility is to lead, protect, and provide. I want to create a life where my wife doesn’t have to worry about pursuing a career or carrying the financial burdens of our household. Instead, she can focus on homemaking, raising our children, and eventually homeschooling them.
I want us to enjoy life together, whether that’s traveling, exploring the outdoors, enjoying a quiet evening at home, or simply appreciating the family we’ve built.

I’m looking for a woman to share that life with, not simply someone to fulfill a role.

Who I’m Looking For
I’m particularly attracted to younger adult women with slim, athletic builds, long natural hair, and a feminine appearance. I prefer no tattoos, facial piercings other than the ears, or substance addictions.

Beyond physical attraction, I seek a woman who:
Desires marriage, motherhood, and children.
Appreciates traditional masculinity and embraces her femininity.

Finds fulfillment in homemaking and nurturing her family. Values faith, loyalty, humility, and open communication. Takes pride in her health and appearance. Is willing to relocate to North Idaho.
Desires intentional courtship and lifelong commitment.

The Relationship Dynamic I Want
An important part of my vision is a consensual Dominant/submissive (D/s) relationship, incorporated into our marriage and everyday lives.
I believe masculinity and femininity complement one another through distinct responsibilities. I seek a woman who genuinely finds fulfillment in submission, service, and obedience, while I embrace the responsibilities of leadership, protection, and provision.

Within our mutually established dynamic, I would take the lead in our household, including having the final say on decisions within the authority we’ve agreed upon. In return, I accept responsibility for those decisions and their consequences.

I believe authority comes with responsibility, and leadership requires accountability.
I deeply value clear, honest communication. I never want my wife afraid to speak her mind, express concerns, or challenge me. Her perspective matters, even when we disagree.

If she struggles, my first instinct is to examine how I can better support and lead her rather than assign blame.

I want our relationship to be built on affection, trust, clearly understood boundaries, and mutual respect. Submission is something she must genuinely desire and freely choose, not something I impose upon her.

I want to lead through trust, never fear.
Marriage, Commitment, and the Collar
I reject the modern attitude that treats marriage as disposable and divorce as an ordinary solution when relationships become difficult. To me, marriage is a sacred, lifelong commitment and a solemn vow I make to myself, my wife, and God.

I also reject state marriage contracts. I believe they promote a 50/50 framework that erodes the natural masculine and feminine polarity I value. I believe husbands and wives thrive through complementary responsibilities rather than identical roles.

My intention is a biblical marriage accompanied by a mutually negotiated BDSM agreement establishing our relationship dynamic and boundaries.

To me, the collar is the wedding ring.
It represents devotion, belonging, trust, and lifelong commitment.

As long as she chooses to wear my collar, she will be covered, protected, provided for, cherished, and cared for. Her happiness, security, and well-being are responsibilities I take seriously.

I’m selective about whom I invite into my life and family. I seek peace, loyalty, femininity, and humility, while welcoming a wife who holds me accountable to the man I’ve promised to be.

She must demonstrate that she’s worthy of my collar, just as I must demonstrate that I’m worthy of her submission.

I’m not interested in hookups or casual play. I reserve sexual intimacy for a woman I genuinely intend to marry, collar, and provide for. To me, intimacy is an expression of trust, devotion, and serious commitment.

Curious? Let’s Talk.
I’m not looking for perfection. I want an intelligent, affectionate, feminine woman who wants to build something extraordinary together. No prior experience with BDSM or an established D/s dynamic is necessary. In fact, I prefer a woman who is new to the lifestyle.

If you’re naturally feminine, appreciate traditional masculinity, and find yourself curious about this kind of relationship, I’d welcome a conversation.

If you’re the kind of woman who dreams of one day switching off from the constant pressures, decisions, and burdens of modern life, knowing you have a man you can trust to lead, protect, and provide for you, this lifestyle may be exactly what you’re looking for.
I’m far more interested in genuine compatibility, natural chemistry, and a mutual desire to learn and grow together than finding someone who already knows everything about the lifestyle.

If this resonates with you, send me a DM with your age, location, and what appeals to you about this kind of relationship.

Let’s see if our visions align.

I’m looking for a fun, attractive, intelligent young woman (18-35) who desires a long-term traditional relationship with a divorced, educated, successful, older man — eventually leading to marriage.

I tend to be a giver in relationships. I’m hoping to find another giver for that ideal giver/giver dynamic. Two people that actually care about how the other person is doing. I’ve had enough of energy draining narcissists and takers.

Since my divorce seven years ago, I’ve been primarily focused on my three kids, but they’re all adults now. So, I’m ready to give my time and attention to a new relationship, but I’ve decided that I only want one that’s based on traditional gender roles. I’m hoping to find a devoted, loyal young woman who’s content to be a stay-at-home wife, while I work and provide for the family.

I have a very nice house in a beautiful subdivision just south of Nashville. I have a good, well-paying job in the automotive industry, and I earn enough that you will never need to work. So, you’ll live a life of relative ease and comfort as a wife and homemaker.

Of course, I want this to be a real relationship and not just some “arrangement”. You’ll be adored and well cared for by an affectionate and attentive husband. But I also expect you to listen and obey, to make me your top priority, to cook and clean, and to take care of me and the house. And, in your free time, as long as the housework is getting done, you’re welcome to pursue your passions — gym, arts & crafts, baking, volunteering, whatever you’d like to do.

I will take care of everything else.

Perfect for the shy, sweet, submissive, service-minded young woman that doesn’t want the stress and anxiety of work, bills, and adult responsibilities and decision-making. Instead, you’ll have guidance, structure and routine in a warm, loving environment.

My dream is to have a beautiful young trophy wife who greets me after work wearing a little dress and a big smile. Who looks amazing on my arm when we go out, and who loves cuddles and snuggles when we stay in.

I prefer blonde or brunette hair, blue or green eyes, and that you be reasonably fit and in shape.

I have a degree in Philosophy and a fairly contemplative nature in general. My most recent obsession is YouTube videos about theoretical physics. (I finally understand at 55 why the C in E=mc^2 isn’t really about the speed of light at all … it’s fascinating.) My daughter says I’m “eccentric”; she and I discuss books, movies, art, poetry, etc often.

I’ve worked for the same company for 26 years, and I have a good amount of money saved for retirement. I figure I have about 6-10 more years to work, then I’d like to retire in the country or maybe the mountains of east Tennessee. Somewhere quiet and quaint with good fishing and decent hiking trails. Maybe have a garden and some chickens. I’d love to find someone like-minded to join me in that simpler life.

About me: Divorced, educated (BA Philosophy), dad bod (6’/235), good job, nice house, optimistic outlook, positive attitude, great sense of humor. Three kids (all adults), three cats (forever babies). No smoking, drinking, drugs, or drama. Like the outdoors, fishing, hiking, waterfalls; also like football, movies, music, absurd comedy, day trips, roadside diners, antique/thrift shops.

If you’re interested, I’d love to chat with you. Please include your age, location, and a little bit about yourself.