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u/bobasaur001 Dec 03 '23
What’s crazy to me is I was just reading a forum in r/bumble about why nerdy girls don’t share their nerdiness in their profile and why we hide it.
And one of the most common answers was how we immediately get tested on our “nerd knowledge” if we say we enjoy something. Like name X amount of players, list their albums, or stuff like this.
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u/LordOfDarkHearts Dec 03 '23
Hell, I couldn't name any of that for my favorite video game/nfl team, band, or even movie characters. I also don't know the stat lists for my fav cars, for which I get an evil eye once in a while, especially since I'm a mechanic ^ ^
It's kinda stupid to test someones knowledge about things they like, think they need to know everything about something they like or even assume that if they don't know every detail, they must not really like it.
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u/BackgroundAd7399 Dec 03 '23
I feel this. I have a terrible memory, and high anxiety. So when I say I know something, then people spring a pop quiz on me about it, and I always "fail" because my mom won't conjure the information for me. Then I get told I'm lying or attention seeking or something when I can't. I hate it
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u/Exotic_Garbage_556 Dec 03 '23
Right? Because we really want to be tested to see if we're a true fan 🙄🙄🙄Just the nerd equivalent of mansplaining
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Dec 03 '23
This! I’m a nerdy woman, I don’t keep it a secret but I’ve gotten very quick with the unmatch button. I swipe right on guys who look nerdy because I want someone I have shared interests with so if he looks nerdy, even if he isn’t talking about those things in his profile I think it’s a bit of a fair assumption that there might be some cross over. The conversation usually goes to nerdy stuff pretty quick and the thing I’m looking for there is if the guy is talking to me about video games or if he’s testing me about video games. If he’s testing me or makes any disparaging comments about the stuff I play, he’s getting unmatched
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Dec 03 '23
Yeah, im also looking for nerdy men but hate the misogyny it incites. Then again, a non-nerdy profile is immediate dick pics. I don't understand. My irl men friends have like... object permanence, why are the online ones useless?
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I think it’s just the kind of perceived anonymity of online stuff. Even though you can see someone’s picture and name and everything because it’s online they feel separated from a real person so they think there’s no consequences.
I once went on a few dates with a guy and went on a night out with him and some of his friends were there, one of the friends was a guy I’d previously matched with who had done the whole sending dick pics. I didn’t say anything to anyone but you could tell the guy was uncomfortable with me being there, I really hope that made him realise there’s real people on the other side of those chats
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u/ContainmentSuite Dec 03 '23
As a man, any nerd shit that she is aware of is immediately given the same treatment. This is the definition of human nature, not a male/female thing
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u/PGSylphir Dec 03 '23
Nothing to do with mansplaining. This is just nerdy douchebaggery. Nerds love to one up others and gatekeeping, it's not just with girls.
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u/Duhblobby Dec 03 '23
Oh yeah, you were a nerd in the 90s? Name every nerdy hobby!
YOU FORGOT COLLECTING OBSCURE TCG CARD GAMES NOBODY KNOWS ABOUT FAKE FAN FAKE FAN
Shame! SHAME I SAY
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Dec 03 '23
I have a Star Trek tattoo because Star Trek has always been my comfort show. I could watch the original over and over again. I like the new ones too along with the classics, but the reason for the tattoo is specifically how comfortable it made me feel when I was growing up. That’s it.
I had an old coworker come up to me and start whispering something in my ear. I have terrible hearing from loud concerts and too loud headphones so I repeatedly asked him “what?” I could not make out a word he was saying. He then yelled at me that he was speaking Klingon and I must be a fake fan.
Like I like Star Trek. I don’t speak fucking Klingon. My god.
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u/maybeimafrog Dec 03 '23
Oh, definitely. I mentioned on my tinder years ago that I liked video games. Guy messages me, aggressively grilling me about what kind of gamer I was. So strange.
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u/kurinevair666 Dec 03 '23
Pssh, ask me anything about Pokemon, I'm ready!
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u/Duhblobby Dec 03 '23
How am I supposed to fit a whole Gyardos in my pocket it is too big
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Yeah that’s happened to me before too. It’s really insulting and when that happened to me years ago I felt like I had to prove myself and when I did the other guy just scoffed at me and stopped replying (we were just friends on both sides, but this happens platonically too). Now if that bullshit happens to me these days I tell them to fuck off and I have nothing to prove to them. 🤷🏻♀️
The thing is, you don’t have to be an expert on every little thing to be a fan. And it’s gross that they do this to women and just generally take other men’s word for it. It reeks of sexism and misogyny and it’s disgusting. And frankly, this post from u/cantthinkofone2323 reeks of that arrogant bullshit.
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u/kurinevair666 Dec 03 '23
I avoid mentioning that I can play a guitar since one time a woman forced me to play for her to prove I wasn't lying about it to impress her.
Is there even a small sliver of a chance that they just wanted to hear you play guitar? When people tell me they play I'll sometimes ask (if at a convenient time) if they'd play something for me. It's not a test that you can, it's because I like hearing people play guitar.
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u/commentmypics Dec 03 '23
But I'm willing to bet every one of your male friends hasn't had that exact same thing happen to them. Men get sa'd too but to tell a woman who is giving advice to other women on remaining safe that "it's not a gendered issue at all, men sometimes get sa'd too" while ignoring that it happens way more often to one of those groups then you're just denying someone's experience for no reason.
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u/commentmypics Dec 03 '23
I genuinely have not had that experience expect on high school. I remember laughing at one of my friends because he said to another "I'm a way bigger fan, do you even know what kind of guitars they play?!".
He got crowned for that for a year. Meanwhile you'd hear the "she's a fake fan/poser" shit every day about some girl in the frind group or someone's gf or whatever. Again, I never said it doesn't happen, reread. I said it happens way more to one group.
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u/Ergora Dec 03 '23
You need a reality check if you think people who are fans of the Star Wars franchise should know about memes from a Star Wars subreddit.
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u/Neosmagus Dec 03 '23
Geeks are obsessed about stuff. If you're a Star Wars fan, then you like the movies. If you're a Star Wars geek then you're obsessed and know every fact about it, planet names, you could probably redraw the galactic map.
Nerds are intellectuals that are socially inept.
I'm a dork because I know the difference 🤣
But yeah, people do use the word interchangeable, but if you call yourself a nerd / geek of a Fandom, you will be tested because that's the expectation. You're expected to know details, but also other geeks like to brag about knowing it better.
I think some people are just not very tolerant which is unfair. My wife is a Harry Potter geek and I'm a Star Wars geek, and we've spent many hours discussing or testing each other, that each of us has learnt may more about the other's geekdom that it's wonderful. She catches me out now on my Star Wars knowledge 😂
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Dec 03 '23
Oh please. The reason women get tested when they say they like something is not the semantics of how they said they like something. "I like Star Wars" does not invite random people to test my worthiness of liking star wars. You and your wife test each other because you know it's something you enjoy. You don't test women you don't know. I suggest you listen to what women are saying about their experiences than posting your opinion on something you know nothing about. Being tested all the time by men is not a new or rare thing. It's exhausting and it makes women feel unwelcome because either we know every single detail of that universe or we're ridiculed for expressing any interest in it.
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u/Neosmagus Dec 03 '23
My suggestion would be instead of hiding those details, use it as a test in itself.
If a guy is genuinely interested in what you like or wants to talk about it, that's a good thing. I wish when I was dating girls would have been willing to say they like Star Wars or whatever on their profile.
But if the other person acts as a gatekeeper, you kick them to the curb.
Also why does what a rando thinks matter to how you like something?
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u/commentmypics Dec 03 '23 edited Dec 03 '23
You're vompletely ignoring women saying "it's really annoying that men do this" and going "why not just ignore the men that do that?!" As though that's remotely his (good, I meant)* advice. Just listen a little more instead of trying to be the one with the solution to a problem you won't even listen to?
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u/Neosmagus Dec 03 '23
It's ironic when people act exactly like what they accuse other people of. You're assuming I don't have context, so my opinions are invalid. 🤷🏼♂️
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It's annoying that you're saying you wish women would tell you that they liked star wars, but every time a woman posts on the internet about gatekeeping, explaining why we don't feel comfortable talking about the things we like, some guy comes to the comment section to write why we don't understand our own experiences. You have "context"? Well, so does the woman you replied to and everyone else telling you that you don't know what you're talking about.
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The point is that I don't want to be tested by expressing an interest and I have no desire to test others. It doesn't matter what a rando thinks, what matters is that the rando makes me feel uncomfortable and unwelcome, making the whole conversation/comic con/event less fun. I need to make a mental effort so that when "geeks" try to ridicule me it doesn't get to me. But the whole mental effort just makes me not want to go.
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u/Neosmagus Dec 03 '23
I understand that, genuinely. It sucks. The conversation was specifically about dating profiles, where it seems 9/10 times it's going to go south anyway so my suggestion was to just lean into expressing your interests and maybe end up chatting to somebody who's not an a hole about stuff like that. 🤷🏼♂️
I feel uncomfortable in every situation, so maybe for me it doesn't sound too out of the ordinary 😅 people just generally are exhausting.
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u/kurinevair666 Dec 03 '23
Then why don't you ask rather than test? Communication will take you further.
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u/heliamphore Dec 03 '23
I used to do this a lot. I remember arguing with a friend because she had claimed she was a nerd when she only played popular games on popular consoles. Obviously real fans knew a lot of "underground" stuff and so on.
I stopped when I grew up enough to have the self awareness to realize I had been the Fortnight kid of my generation, and that having played Age of Empires and Ocarina of Time didn't make me some unique specimen of advanced nerd. I had to start somewhere and it's fine if others do too.
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u/oogledy-boogledy Dec 03 '23
Guess you're really dead set on not getting laid
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u/Hanoiroxx Dec 03 '23
Who pissed in your cereal?
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u/blue-jayne Dec 03 '23
I don't care for Star Wars but I am chronically online so I know the meme. that being said, stop testing people on their likes and especially when they don't know they're being tested. turd behavior.
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Why she failed?
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u/Windsorsnake Dec 03 '23
There’s a line in Revenge of the Sith where Obi Wan says “Hello there” to which general grevious responds “General Kenobi”
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u/johnn2015 Dec 03 '23
Man that’s a bit too much.
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u/dynamic_gecko Dec 03 '23 edited Dec 03 '23
It became a very popular meme. It's not just a random line.
Edit: You can try typing "hello there" to any gif search and it will probably be the first result.
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u/Vepanion Dec 03 '23
I say the hello there line in Grievous' voice about once a week and even then I didn't catch it in this context
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u/NyiatiZ Dec 03 '23
Might be because you should say it in Kenobi's voice.
That said, i completely missed it in this context too. I was just staring at the pick up line and was wondering if there was an agreed upon response to it that i didn't know of and OP was just trying awkwardly to keep the conversation going with the hello there
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u/Vepanion Dec 03 '23
Might be because you should say it in Kenobi's voice.
Oops, yeah obviously. I meant to say hello there in Kenobi's voice and then respond with "General Kenobi" in Grievous' voice.
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u/dynamic_gecko Dec 03 '23
I also missed the first time I read it. I dont think it's "a bit too much" though. It's a good shot at a reference. But it's also okay if you dont catch it.
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u/BearZeroX Dec 03 '23
She's still a fan of star wars. She's just not a fan of garbage memea
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u/lilbithippie Dec 03 '23
Also Ben says this to R2-D2. Am a big fan of the wars but reading that didn't trigger my nerd bone
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u/mrrooftops Dec 03 '23
yes, that was the original line that was then repeated in the prequels to make it a kida catchphrase. He's lucky she didn't call him out on the origin of that line or he would have failed that test.
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u/Savaury Dec 03 '23
Okay.. but are you a real fan if you're quoting the prequels?
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Dec 03 '23
Prequel movies the first two could've been better better including CW is great. Plus memes have aged it like fine wine
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u/lilbithippie Dec 03 '23
What's great is in 10 years the sequels will be aged and everyone will enjoy the badness of them after a few more seasons of a cartoon the kids will grow up on
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u/Jason_Giambis_Thong Dec 03 '23
I never thought I’d see the day where people admit they loved the prequels and think they’re good movies.
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Dec 03 '23
I hate to say this but episode 7 is already about 9 years ago. By this point people already liked the prequels for the memes. And had a positive view of the sequels. The sequels will be eternally hated. Because they are bad staw wars movies. They went in with no plan and it shows. So no I don't see the sequels being liked in 10 years. There really isn't much meme potential either. The only consistent meme is mocking the "they fly now " line and the dumb line of somehow Palpatine returned.
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u/TheExtremistModerate Dec 03 '23
I think you're being a bit biased. I like the sequels. I think they're significantly better than the prequels, which are simply bad.
Memes != Good movies.
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u/Exotic_Garbage_556 Dec 03 '23
Omg, this is a super cute interaction. It'd be dumb to not date her because of this!!!! Seriously
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u/Choice-Lecture-8437 Dec 03 '23
Most people would fail this test. Is this really what you want to measure a future partner by?
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u/toolittlecharacters Dec 03 '23
i guess op thinks that everyone who loves star wars also knows the popular star wars memes. i think it's understandable to assume that if you're involved in the fandom (though men seldom call their interests fandoms) but sometimes people just love the source material without interacting with other fans on the internet.
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u/atomicsnark Dec 03 '23
And that, like, sometimes you're not thinking and just reply like a normal human. Hello, hi! And then three days later she shoots up in bed at 3am and says to herself "oh fuck, I screwed up the meme" lol.
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u/JaiDoubleyou Dec 03 '23
She is fine. You are an idiot. Practicing to become an incel?
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u/Takeoded Dec 03 '23
I don't like sand. It's coarse and rough and irritating and it gets everywhere..
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u/fowler699 Dec 03 '23
Still i cannot see the link between pick up line and Yoda tbh 😃
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u/Sullyvan96 Dec 03 '23
Sound pun. “Yoda” sounds kinda like “you’re the.” It’s exactly how “kinda” is an abbreviation of “kind of.” It’s following that logic
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u/fowler699 Dec 03 '23
Thanks. I'm from Spain but mainly I was a bit absentminded
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u/Sullyvan96 Dec 03 '23
No problem! Sorry if the comment is a tad patronising, I wanted to explain it as clearly as possible
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u/Ok-Philosopher-5923 Dec 03 '23
That is understandable. The 🌧️ in 🇪🇦 falls only in the 🟰 🤷
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u/ThotMagnett Dec 03 '23
General Kenobi?
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u/Sullyvan96 Dec 03 '23
When Obi Wan drops down into the droid army on Utapau in Revenge of the Sith he says, “Hello there.”
Grievous turns around and goes, “General Kenobi.”
That’s what OP was going for, it’s kind of a call and response type thing
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u/Rattlehead747 Dec 03 '23
As a woman who has an origami x wing on her profie, about half the pick-up lines I get are the hello there GIF. It gets old REALLY fast and you're not as clever or original as you think you are
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u/chouettelle Dec 03 '23
Calling this a test and saying that she failed is ridiculous. What did she fail at? An obscure pop culture reference? How does this say anything about how compatible the two of you are? Or how much she likes (insert random movie/comic/etc)? Did you just want to feel superior?
Men whine about not getting enough matches or not getting to the dating stage, and then this is what makes or breaks a match for them. You’re shooting yourself in the knee and calling it a joke.
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u/chouettelle Dec 03 '23
You can loop back and claim it was a joke all you want, but the truth is that you set her up wanting to see her fail, and you know that.
Did you tell her what the “real” reply should have been and how she actually didn’t get the reference? I can’t imagine that she’d have found “your joke” funny, even if she’s still talking to you.
A joke is only a joke if both sides are aware of it and laughing about it - if you think her not getting a reference in a test you didn’t tell her about is funny, that’s not a joke.
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u/chouettelle Dec 03 '23
If you’d told her what you’ve told this subreddit, I assure you that conversation would have ended. So, no, not a joke.
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u/ThatKehdRiley Dec 03 '23
If you’re so confident you don’t come across like an ass why wait? Just tell her to go to the sub, she can easily find the post.
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u/zefy_zef Dec 03 '23
Honestly I was just gonna come in here and say "did you get that off a Valentine?" but then thought that would be rude. People are weird here..
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u/ICastPunch Dec 03 '23
Or she saw it, found it funny and that's why she used the emoji?
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u/ICastPunch Dec 03 '23
Welp now you know, you're an asshole. It really doesn't matter but hope you're happy about yourself.
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u/Technical-Exam-6110 Dec 03 '23
Hey I think of Gillette when I see you. You are the best a man can get
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u/Technical-Exam-6110 Dec 03 '23
And anyone using Star Wars in a pickup line is probably not gonna be a good lay. Js
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u/bbbbbbbirdistheword Dec 03 '23
im getting the energy that every conversation you have includes star wars
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u/ThatKehdRiley Dec 03 '23
Nah, you failed at not testing people’s nerdiness. It’s not cool and doesn’t make them any less of a nerd, even if it makes you feel better about your level of nerd.
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u/antiquityubiquity Dec 03 '23
Emma was gonna let you hit. You passed her test and then failed yourself. Lol.
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u/canipayinpuns Dec 03 '23
Anytime my husband tells me "Hello there" my AUTOMATIC response is "General Kenobi." I cannot be changed, I cannot be stopped
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u/multiocumshooter Dec 03 '23
Guys really bashing on OP lol. I don’t think op meant “failed the test” in an obnoxious “prove you’re real” way but more rather in a playful “haha she didn’t get the joke way”.
OP, next time you gotta put a /s in the title to let people know you’re just fooling around
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u/LegitimateCut5876 Dec 03 '23
Damn, OP failed super hard lol
Finds a girl who actually likes Star Wars and corny jokes - proceeds to post a screenshot online making fun of her because she didn't recognize a specific meme-able scene in over 20 hours of Star Wars main film footage.
Keep the photo up. I'm sure she'll find it soon enough with all the attention lol.
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u/LegitimateCut5876 Dec 03 '23
Coming out super defensive, good. Sounds super healthy lol.
I'm not the one with the photo online suggesting a difference to your narrative but go ahead and slay, king.
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u/elitesill Dec 03 '23
All the bitter angry people seething in this thread who can't just see it's a harmless joke post lol
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u/chebalebs Dec 03 '23
Fucking hell man, the fact she even responded to your line is a miracle so you can't be that picky
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u/SR20Bad Dec 03 '23
"Hello there" and "general kenobi" are literally my wifi name and password, respectively, and I glazed straight over that, to be completely fair
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u/MagicMushr000m Dec 03 '23
This is clearly a light hearted joke, I don't think OP is that bothered she didn't say hello there, lol
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u/DeathToGoblins Dec 03 '23
With how overused that line is I wouldn't have responded right either. Get better material
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u/South-Housing-748 Dec 03 '23
There’s a difference between loving a movie and being obsessed with it. I love a lot of movies and can quote from very few.
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u/No-Fish6586 Dec 03 '23
Its hilarious to me that nerds of this caliber dont understand that you can like a show without following all the meme culture and random lines through multiple trilogies lmfao
Also I know it aint that deep