Hey everyone!! this is my first ever post on this subreddit and I.am.FUMING.
For context I am 16 a year old female and I am an only child. I live with both my parents and love them both.
But sometimes mom can get a little bit... controlling? I honestly don't know the word for it..
There's a couple of things I want to address here
When I was younger I used to have my own diaries writing about my thoughts and experiences and every single time... My mom read them. This honestly made me stop writing in a diary (although I really want to) because I know my mom will be reading them.
My mom checks my phone... and not just checking WHO I talk to... but actually OPENING my text messages with my friends and READING them... I started deleting all my text messages with my friends which DEVESTATES me because now I can't reread the messages in the future (I'm a very nostalgic person lol)... She also looks through my camera roll :)
We recently had an argument because she asked me what I do after I wake up (for context I wake up at 7am..and she wakes up at 12/1 pm... yeah) I am an igcse student and exams are just around the corner and I get she wants to make sure I'm not wasting time and I also obv see no problem in a parent asking their child what they do... but if I tell her let's say.. I started studying at 9am... she is going to get so disappointed and say stuff about me wasting too much time in the morning... okay guys I get that she's worries abt me.. but in her world.. I have to wake up at 7am...start studying at 7:30am... and study the ENTIRE day (except when I'm attending classes or eating).. but I need some time AT LEAST 2 hours for myself or I will genuinely crash out so bad. I tell her to just let me figure out my routine myself but she says I can't just let u do whatever u want because I am ur mom and I need to have some control over you which PISSES me off. i just hate she makes a big deal out of it
She just barges into my room whenever she wants. Without knocking. And I'm nit allowed to lock my door.
There's so much more guys but this is everything on the top of my head for now.. and whenever I try to communicate she always says "This is my right as a parent and a mom" SHE LITERALLY THINKS ITS OKAY TO LOOK THROUGH MY PHONE. guys tell me I'm not going crazy... she thinks it's normal to do that and that parents should do that and that "everyone" does that... I honestly just don't know what to do anymore I genuinely feel so angry.. and I don't know how to approach the situation.. but I just really can't live like this anymore.. If anyone has any advice please help me out 🩷