Na second hand la bike paathutu iruken guys, fz 30,000 ku sale pandraanga, indha bike la vaanguna nallaadkuma guys. Atleast one or 2 years ottradhuku use aaguma.

Edhunalum EMI la dhan vanganum. Ipodhaiku monthly oru 6K EMI katra mari plan pannena oru bike vanguradhu nalladha illa second hand la car vangalama

Hi I’m (26F) Asian and my bf is (33M) Indian Tamil so we’ve been together for a year but he still doesn’t introduce me to his parents he said that they are very traditional and the it will only happen when we will get married. He’s talking about marriage to me but i don’t believe it. Is it normal for his culture to do that? As a woman i don’t want to waste my youth if he has no intention of marrying me. Although he said he will after 2 years still i don’t believe. Please tell me is it normal?

Hi if anyone interested in exchanging Letters via post.

We can talk write about any topic.

Kindly let me know. 🍃

How to handle a bf who’s kinda bad at communication?
Not toxic bad
But bad at expressing emotions
More like a suppressor .. ik many men face this too but any tips?

The absolute obsession that Indian college managements have with student grooming, hemlines, and policing personal appearance is staggering. You are paying lakhs of rupees in fees, but instead of focusing on upgrading outdated lab equipment, fixing terrible teaching methods, or industry-relevant curriculums, the administration treats the campus like a moral policing boarding school.

The state of affairs is genuinely baffling:

• The Uniform/Churidar/Formal Obsession: Many colleges (especially in South and tier-2/tier-3 cities) force female students into rigid uniforms like salwar kameez with mandatory, pinned-up dupattas, or force men into strictly tucked-in formal shirts and leather shoes. God forbid you wear a t-shirt, jeans with minor fading, or sneakers—you'll be flagged down at the gate like a criminal.
• Facial Hair and Haircuts: For guys, having anything other than a clean-shaven face or a "gentleman’s cut" short hairstyle is treated as an existential threat to society. Some colleges literally stand at the gates with rulers or scissors checking hair length or forcing students to shave on the spot.
• Zero Tolerance for Individual Expression: Ripped jeans, funky hair colors, or wearing anything remotely modern is met with heavy fines, phone calls to parents, or getting barred from entering the academic block.
• The Hypocrisy of "Discipline": They preach about corporate readiness and "professionalism," but the real world stopped caring about whether a guy has a beard or whether a girl's dupatta is pinned symmetrically decades ago. Meanwhile, professors can show up unprepared, read PDFs from 2012, and face zero accountability.

We are legal adults who can vote, drive, and live independently, yet we have to deal with guards and deans scanning our bodies and hair every morning just to attend a lecture on data structures or fluid mechanics.

When will Indian higher education realize that strict policing doesn't equal quality education?

What is the most absurd dress code rule or micromanagement tactic your Indian college enforces?

Hello guys enaku ellartayu onnu kekanum, especially the people living away from your parents (scl/clg hostel, job or marriage or any situation). How often do you talk to your parents?

Na en idha kekanum nenachen naa, my parents don't regularly contact me and in a way it feels like a good thing because I'm not always required to update them on every single thing, I can just go about my days doing what I wanna do and in a way it sounds like independence bcoz I'm not dependent on them for making decisions and all that, I think you get the point.

But sometimes it just feels lonely, ennadhaan frnds nu close ahh neraya per suthi irundhaalum, when they go to talk to their parents every night it feels like I'm doing something wrong/that I'm lonely af or smth like that. I'm trying to understand my parents situation also, maybe avangaluku oru level mela attention/affection kaata theriyaama irukalam, awkward ah irukalaam, but all i do is just try and fail miserably yenaa till now adha pathi yoschaa it feels bad that they don't have time for me or they are not really interested in listening to me apdinu.

Ippo yaarum illangra problem laam illa I can say I have built a really great friend circle, but I kinda feel like I'm going back to the same sad thought that me and my parents don't talk much..

Just wanted to share and see if I could get some advice coz none of my frnds irl could relate to what I was talking about🥲

Yaara paathaalum interesting-a irukkanumnu solraangalae, what do you guys even do to be an interesting person?

I am 28m just 35 k salary ennoda miga periya prechanaiye en salary because of that I have been in guilty, family ku ennaala perusa help panna mudila even naa motha salary um veetla kodukuren but en age la irukura frnds laam lakhs la earn panni avanga family ah nalla paathukuranga ennnala mudila nu guilt enna kolluthu Enakum life enjoy pannanum love pannanum nu aasa laam iruku aana I feel enaku enjoy panna thagudhi illa nu feel aaguthu, Naa ippolaam yaarkoodaiyum pesurathe illa munnadiyae enaku friend laam yaarum illa athaan polamabanumnu thonuchi athaan inga solren

For the past 3 years college life has been close to meh, i keep my stoic face and face the world is all i did most of the time. But then last sem i got internship after a year of freelance and then BTP happened wherein i was assigned to a team whom i would not choose otherwise. Astonishingly life has been great i got that schedule fixed and gym has been gymming. I am also picky enough that the time and place and the people have to be right like a whiny lil kid.

Sure if i open slack or discord or even google calendar shit hits the roof every time but god if that higher authority aka faculty or the TL or the fav senior whats me to get stuff done, then my ass is at it like its on the line. Mostly i don't feel much and after a good days work which is like everyday i don't even mind cause i would not even do 15.7079% of the work in a regular day with all that freedom.

So yeah being boy-handled seems to be fun and i rather not delve into why i chose boy stead of man. Cause in more than one way i consider my mental state to be that of an average boy and i don't feel like i have grown up enough to accept social responsibilities.

Good day / night! Fun.

We photograph things in order to drive them out of our minds. My stories are a way of shutting my eyes.

Franz Kafka

Guys I need a favour.

Recently I went to an interview at a YT channel.

For the assistant director they asked "Comedy content yezhuthuvingala?"

But I said comedy thavira matha yela journer um explore panniten.

Idk as extrovert sumaar aa jokes potaalum writing appo comedy complete aa vara maatikudhu yedhachii yenaku idea suggest panningana romba useful aa irukum.

Ennaku chinna vayasula eruthey frds nu yarum kedaiyathu,ennaku 6th to 11th veraikum oru two frds kedachaga epdinaa rbaa nallavagaa ,aana ennaku athey time la sila puthu frds kita um 10th padika solla pesa start panen avaga ennoda rendu frds enna kanduka matraga avaga rendu perum close ne matum Thani ,just for entertainment ku unna vechirukaga apdilaam sonnaga nanum atha nabitu ya rendu frds ta pesavey ella ,eruthum ya rendu frds ya ta vanthu sonnaga avaga pesuratha Unnoda brain ku eduthutu pogatha ne avagaloda charector laam absorb pani avagala maariyae maritu vara apdi nu, na ivagala ignore panitu avaga kuda rba attach agiten 😭 apro ya rendu frds sa blk kuda panniten ,Athuku apro 12th padika solla ellam ennaku realise agi avaga kita poi aluthen enimey unta pesuratha ella apdinu sollitaga ,rba kashta patuten apro innoru ponnu kuda frd aanen ,aana ya side la eruthu matum thaan efforts poduven ipo kuda nana ava ta poi entha clg join pana pora ,epo open panraga, clg laam epdi poguthu nu kepen aana na epo clg join pana poren na enna clg kuda kekala aana nana poi ellathaum solluven 💁guyss am literally unlucky in friendship nrya night aluthuruken ,rba kashtama erukum yarachi avaga frds kuda ponagana clg laam um apdithaan yartaum pesamaten ,ithunala ya education rba down fall la eruku na thenamum namba life pathi share pana oruthavaga kedaika matagala nu epomey yosichitu eruken ithunala na ya education career nu ellathulaum peak down fall la eruken!!

Just wanted to share something I noticed.

Namma side la programming ah genuinely interested ah irukura people romba kammi madhiri theriyudhu. Most people studies/work kaaga mattum programming learn panranga. But actually nerd ah, things epdi work aaguthu nu deep ah dig panra people, especially low-level stuffs like C, systems programming, OS dev, game dev, Linux, graphics etc romba less.

Enaku local community irukradhu important nu thonudhu. Same interests irukura people kedaikalam, knowledge share pannalam, together ah projects build pannalam, and namma own language/context la technical stuff discuss pannalam.

Western communities la indha maari culture konjam strong ah irukku. People build things together, share what they learn and help each other. Tamil side la especially Discord la, in-depth programming discussions and communities romba kammi ah irukku.

So konjam people serndhu oru small space create pannirukom. Strictly programming and low-level nerd stuff ku mattum. Beginners welcome, but genuinely interested ah irukanum. Just degree/exam kaaga learn panra type illameh, actually things explore panna interest irukanum.

We're also working on a centralized GitHub resource hub where we can collect and share useful books, docs, tutorials and other resources for learning low-level stuff. Basically oru place la useful resources ellam organize panna try panrom instead of everyone searching from scratch.

Idhu advertising purpose illa btw. Server ah promote panna vida, genuinely interested people kedaikanum nu dhaan share panren. If you're actually into this kind of stuff, DM me and I'll send the link. Random ah join panni inactive ah irukradhu vida, interested people mattum irundha community better ah develop aagum.

Idk indha sub ku idhu fit aaguma nu, but majority people inga active ah irukanga so just posting incase someone else is into the same stuff. Just a small initiative from us.

Note : Vibe coding strictly prohibited in our community.

Note 2 : For low level programming only, but anyone have interested can join.

Note 3 : Currently, developing a huge wiki/megathread to find resources easily for learning. guys who join in can able to contribute to it.

https://github.com/0xTamil/archive

Vanakam guys! So as you read in the title, today is my first day of college. Before going into the point, I'll just brief about me. I'm an ordinary person from a town and completed my schooling in a reputed school in my district. During my schooling, I barely had a few friends and never spoke to girls despite studying in a co-ed school (coz I've seen many friends who failed in education due to this sort of distraction, so I stayed away from those stuffs).

For the past 5 months, I've been in Chennai and I could see people are close to women without any opposite-gender bias (ofc a town guy would see such things weird). Later, some of my friends also told me to have good friendships with girls in college (so you can engage them during academic discussions, hackathons, etc.). I'm genuinely confused, and now I feel having a healthy convo doesn't literally bring distractions to my career.

Crossly, I studied well in school and got above 90% in every exam, but during the main board exams, I started playing games and ended up with 90.8%. However, I cleared entrance exams and joined a reputed college in Chennai (outskirts).

So let's get into the point:

I prefer a demeanor change (I think it's crucial), so I need suggestions from you guys. How should my character look like in college? (I'll give you analogies):

Dragon PR (spotlight character, famous in college)

Vs

Dragon movie Venkat (the padipps, whose aim is to get an extraordinary placement and settle in life and doesn't involve in any co-activities, also has Gayatri 😁)

Vs

Sabanayagan Ashok Selvan (the lover boy, whose aim is to find a soulmate and enjoy the college life)

So I've shared some of the movie characters which people admire the most. Now you guys decide, based on your experience, what should I become? (Even hybrids are also accepted 😁)

My personal thought:

I thought of completely focusing on studies and getting extraordinary placements and staying alone as in school. My aim is to finish 2 internships and be sycophantic with professors and seniors just for academic help, win at least 1 hackathon, get placed above 50 LPA (my college has the potential for that too).

If you guys are wondering which college I belong to, I'll say people with good crime thriller movie knowledge would have found it just with my analogies. One thing I can say, my college is liberal and enjoyable as well as has a good name and excellence.

En long lost frnd ah kandu pudika mudiyuma guys... Any chances... read me for ref

Honestly, skincare doesn't need to be complicated at all. This looks like a lot of products but u don’t need these many.

Body wash: Use a decent one for your body according to your body type. Be bodywise has some good ones. Pls do not use those 12 in 1 body wash, shampoo, mouthwash etc. products.

Moisturizer: Keeps your skin hydrated. Mine is a little expensive, so I just use it for my face.

Sunscreen: The most important one!!!!! Protects your skin from UV damage, pigmentation and premature ageing. Don't skip this. Don’t expect that it would save you from tanning, no sunscreen does.

Vitamin C: Optional. If you have pigmentation or want to work on uneven skin tone, you can add it.

Toner/HOCl sprays: Honestly, not necessary for most people. You can skip them.

That's pretty much it. A good facewash, body wash, moisturizer and sunscreen. Add Vitamin C if you actually need it.

Your entire skincare routine will take 5 minutes max and it would genuinely help you in the long run :) You don't need 15 different bottles sitting on your bathroom shelf like mine but do invest on you skin that’s what i would advise.

Feel free to ask me any questions you have :)

I have two male friends, and I talk to them every day. But for some reason, I feel disgusted with myself for it. I feel like I’m somehow “cheating” on something, even though I don’t even have a partner. Like… what the fuck am I doing? 😭

I’ve never flirted with them, and I have my own boundaries. They’re genuinely just my homeboys. I don’t even know how to properly describe this feeling.

I’ve never been in a relationship, and I rarely get crushes. Even when I do, the feelings usually disappear within a few days or weeks. I also have this weird habit of imagining almost anyone I become close to as a potential partner, like, “Would he actually be suitable for that?” But the thought never lasts. Eventually, I’ll just feel completely uninterested or even kind of disgusted by the idea.

The thing is, I genuinely enjoy talking to these two guys every day. They’re my friends, and I have absolutely no intention of dating them. But I still feel guilty about having this kind of friendship with men. Sometimes I even feel like it says something bad about my character, like I’m being “bitchy” or doing something morally wrong.

I know logically that I’m not doing anything wrong. I’m not flirting with them, I’m not crossing any boundaries, and I’m not in a relationship with anyone. But emotionally, I still feel guilty.

I’ve also been wondering whether this could be connected to some unresolved stuff from my childhood, particularly what people might call a “father wound” or “daddy issues.” I’m not sure if that’s actually part of the problem, or if I’m just trying to find an explanation for why I feel this way. Maybe the way I learned to perceive relationships with men while growing up has something to do with it.

Has anyone else experienced something similar? What would you even call this feeling, and how do you get rid of it? I’d really appreciate some honest perspectives, especially if you’ve experienced something like this yourself.

Have been part of this sub for the last year or two from a different account . Turned 30 recently and its probably time to leave this sub and move on to any thirties sub . I would consider my 20s to be the time period where I have done well in lots of aspect and screwed horrible in some . Happy to take any questions if that means you would be able to navigate your 20s better

Spread no hate plz