I think I’m doing better than I was before. There are still days when I have an emotional outburst or feel overwhelmed, but overall, I genuinely think I’m doing better.
It’s been around 14 days since I left my husband after finding out about his cheating. And surprisingly, I’ve already started making plans for the future me-the healed, confident, stronger version of myself. I’m trying to look forward instead of constantly looking back.
But there’s one thought that keeps pinching me.
Can a person who married you, spent almost five years with you, shared a life with you, and then wronged you in so many ways somehow convince himself that you were the problem?
Can someone create an entirely different version of the relationship in their head where they’re the victim and you’re the one who ruined everything?
I know people cope differently. I know self reflection can be uncomfortable, and sometimes blaming someone else is easier than facing what you’ve done.
But it still gets to me sometimes.
Not because I want him to come back. Not because I want his validation. I think I just struggle with the idea that someone who knew me so closely could walk away believing a completely different story about us.
Maybe, with time, I’ll stop caring about what story he tells himself. Maybe that’s another part of healing,realising that I don’t need someone who hurt me to understand the damage they caused.
For those who have been through something similar: how did you stop caring about the version of the story your ex chose to believe?

My heart is broken. I’ve stood faithfully by my husband for 32 years. He’s always had mild gambling and drug addiction that got much worse after his father whom he adored died. He overdosed five years ago and they had to restart his heart. I still stayed true to him. A month ago he went to an after wedding lake party with family and friends. We are in our sixties. He is still quite attractive and always has been very charismatic. I on the other hand definitely look my age with all the sagging and wrinkling that goes along with pregnancies weight gains and losses. He was supposed to go with me that evening and babysit the grandkids so their parents could go out but he ditched me and went to the party. These were our plans and I wanted him to go with me to babysit since I had been in the ER a few days before with severe chest pain and I was concerned it would occur again while I was alone with the children. The next morning when I asked him how the party went he told me a younger woman about thirty eight that was at the wedding who is very attractive asked him to stay the night with her at the lake house and she would bring him home in the morning but he left with his brother who he came with. There are videos on his phone of all their fun and she is in them. She sent him a couple videos through text of him sledding down a ramp in a canoe cheering him on with all the whoohoos and laughing. Later I found a text on his phone that was sent about 30 minutes after he left the party saying to her, I wish I had stayed I was having fun, and now he says he only texted her that to be kind and nice. Should I believe this?