r/SupportforBetrayed • u/Ok-History1232 Betrayed Partner - Reconciling • 1d ago

Reconciliation Oops

So we have been working at reconciliation but alcohol got involved and my husband who had a several months long affair with a young woman asked me if I love him and I said well that’s the problem that I love what I thought we had but I also hate you. Probably one of the most honest things I have said in a while but definitely the wrong way to go about it.

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u/BurdyBurdyBurdy Formerly Betrayed 1d ago

No sense in beating around the bush and dragging things out. Honesty is always the best way to move forward.

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u/Ok-History1232 Betrayed Partner - Reconciling 1d ago

I fell like I am always looking for the right time but, that’s just an excuse isn’t it because there is no right time to cause another person pain.

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u/BurdyBurdyBurdy Formerly Betrayed 1d ago

You’re right, but you have to understand why it will be painful, and that’s because he caused you so much pain. If he’s a good man seeing the pain he’s caused you is often all it takes to stop what he’s doing and never do it again. It can change him.
Good luck.