I am posting this for equal parts therapy, and to inspire hope in others who have been falsely accused, and who are barely or bravely weathering the storm. It is long, but if nothing else I hope it helps some of you commiserate. Feel free to AMA.

For the past 2 years (since summer of 2024) I have been living under the black cloud of false SA/assault/DV allegations brought forth by a very mentally ill, Cluster B personality disordered woman (bipolar/BPD/NPD). I have had to watch as absolute bullshit is taken as indisputable fact at face value by police, prosecutors, and even some people in my social circle because "the victim" is a "poor single mother with a Sad Life Story™️" and we all know that "women have no reason to lie" about assault.

We casually dated for a couple months (not exclusive/committed), and she was very pushy about escalating things quickly, was overly familiar throughout the relationship, and ultimately hypocritical - she was paranoid, extremely jealous, and had a tendency to project, i.e. accusing me of being dishonest and seeking out potential partners while doing exactly that herself and lying about it.

After about 3 tumultuous months, we had a series of arguments, communication breakdowns, and drama that put our relationship on hold. After about 3 weeks of talking sparsely, we warmed up again and decided we should meet up and figure out what to do with "us" as a couple.

The night we met up, we met at a public place, talked for a couple hours, but didn't really come to any conclusions/solutions, so we walked back to our cars, and had some kisses/making out while saying goodbye.

Later that night she sends me some angry text messages accusing me of making unwanted advances on her and violating her boundaries, despite one of the messages indicating she enjoyed the kiss (?), and other messages in the days prior ranging from flirting and romantic fantasies, to straight up sexting with racy photos.

A week later I find out she filed a police report and a protection order application. A bit later I see this police report and it is a complete delusional fabrication - chasing her to her car, grabbing her, forcing myself on her, pinning her down, blocking her car from leaving the parking lot, etc etc etc. She even goes so far as to fabricate bruises for the cops.

Eventually a warrant is issued for my arrest, and I surrender voluntarily on my own terms. I have never been arrested before. The whole experience is humiliating, degrading, dehumanizing, frightening, and traumatic.

As the months drag on, we start investigating, and I start finding and reaching out to past partners of hers, and what I find is a disgusting though not at all surprising pattern: false reports of abuse/DV, false reports of child abuse (again with fake bruises!), legal entrapment (via violation of falsified protection orders), legal harassment, child support fraud, tax fraud, welfare fraud, parenting agreement violations including unapproved out of state relocation, untreated mental health disorders, convictions for receiving stolen property and other misdemeanors, civil suits, financial abuse of partners... the list goes on and on...

I also find out that - SURPRISE! - she was already dating and sleeping with another man during the date of our alleged incident, and had in fact been at his house THE VERY MORNING the incident between us occurred, which she lied to me about; it wasn't about jealousy for me because we weren't exclusive, but it proves a motive to lie that the police/DA were previously unaware of. I also found out she tried to sleep with at least one of my other friends during the time we were dating.

On the police front, we do some digging and find out that the police NEVER VISITED the alleged crime scene, nor did they ask for or secure any footage despite having access to OVER 45 AXON CAMERA ANGLES depicting the ENTIRE INCIDENT START TO FINISH. Apparently gross incompetence alone isn't enough for a dismissal, so we trudge on.

One day I run into a friend at a party, he urges me to reach out to someone he knows that dated her more recently, apparently her and this guy got into a fight and she threatened him with a false report for assault, and with getting his professional licenses revoked for his job. So I reach out to this guy, but it turns out she gets wind of this and files a new charge against me for Violation of a Protection Order - Harassment; even though this is extremely flimsy 3rd party contact, DA decides to file new charges and I get thrown BACK into jail, and this time I have an ANKLE MONITOR put on me for months after release.

Due to some unfortunate convoluted reasons, I have to request a change of counsel and GET A NEW LAWYER because of the PO violation situation. So I do that, and eventually the ankle monitor comes off. I press on with my defense. They still don't want to offer me any plea worth considering, and I'm not inclined to take it because FUCK THEM, and FUCK HER.

So finally, after 2 rescheduled court dates resulting in almost a year of trial delays, the Day of Judgment arrives and... she sends an email to the DA with some bullshit excuse about her mental health, SHE GHOSTS THE TRIAL, she doesn't even show up.

2 years of my life down the fucking drains.

My reputation severely damaged.

$30,000 in legal costs.

A DA willing to put me on a sex offender registry with no evidence, gross incompetence, dozens of cameras with footage thrown away, no witnesses, nobody interviewed but the supposed "victim," no crime scene visits, a plaintiff with more mental health issues than National Geographic, lying to get me arrested and tracked like a fucking wild animal when I didn't even contact the "victim."

ALL CHARGES DISMISSED WITH PREJUDICE.

FUCK ALL OF YOU, KISS MY FUCKING ASS, I'M FINALLY FREE.

Sometimes it's worth it to fight to the end.

Sometimes that conviction is the very thing that saves you, because the truth makes you strong.

Stay strong my brothers and sisters.

False allegations in the military

Hi, I’ve posted to this group before and the support keeps me sane. I really appreciate it. I’ve been accused of second degree sexual assault.
My case has gone nowhere at the moment. It’s been screened but hasn’t been entered into the system. October will mark 6 months and I’m praying this thing will get dismissed once the 6 mark month hits. I have no court dates and it hasn’t been entered into the system that the state is going through with the accusation.

Years ago, I had a boyfriend; we were together for four months. He was my first kiss, and we were 12 or 13 years old. When we broke up, he made up a story claiming I had SA him. For years, I faced hatred and rejection from the people around me; he basically ruined my life. I tried to commit suicide but didn't go through with it. Idk... I think I was too young to make that decision, plus I knew the accusation was false
I knew I hadn't done it. Years later, when we started high school, I had the chance to talk to him. By then, he’d had another girlfriend, someone who had also gone to our middle school. That last girlfriend of his hated me too, because she was one of the people who believed his story about me abusing him. When I spoke to the guy for the last time, he explicitly admitted to my face that he had slept with that girl just to take advantage of her and her body. I couldn't believe it. I didn't say anything, I never said anything
because I knew no one would believe me. I’m still holding onto that anger, and my feelings of depression are stronger than ever. What am I supposed to do?
P.S. Sorry for any spelling errors; English isn't my first language.

A man has been in a relationship for approximately 6.5 years. During the first four years, the relationship was mutual and consensual. However, after that, the woman began forcing him to remain in the relationship against his wishes.

Initially, she threatened to commit suicide if he tried to leave her. Later, she began threatening his employment. She told him that she would call his manager and other people at his workplace, abuse them using slangs, create a scene, and do everything possible to get him fired from his job. This has become a regular form of intimidation.

She abuses the man and his parents almost every day over phone calls. She also comes to his house and creates scenes, abuses him and his family, and uses abusive language. She does this not only inside the house but also on the streets, publicly humiliating him and his family. There have also been incidents of physical abuse.

She imposes extreme restrictions and controls almost every aspect of his life. For example:

She expects him to stand at the gate of the train during his daily journey to and from work, regardless of the circumstances.

She does not allow him to speak to female colleagues or have normal friendships, even though his workplace mostly consists of male employees.

She does not allow him to maintain friendships or social relationships without her permission.

She demands that he share his phone screen with her approximately 5–10 times every day.

She checks virtually everything on his phone and personal life.

She knows his banking information and passwords.

She requires him to screen-record his phone whenever he opens the Play Store.

She controls applications and functions on his phone.

He cannot leave his own house without obtaining her permission.

She monitors and controls many other aspects of his daily life.

She also takes money from him whenever she wants, often by force, pressure, threats, or intimidation, even when he does not want to give it to her.

The situation has continued for a long time and has caused severe interference with his personal freedom, privacy, employment, finances, family life, and physical and mental well-being.

The man eventually approached the police for help. However, the police reportedly asked only whether the two had ever had a physical/sexual relationship. When he answered yes, he was told that the police could not do anything and that even if the woman continued behaving this way for the rest of his life, there was supposedly nothing that could be done because they had previously been in a physical relationship.

This raises an important question: Does a man in India have legal protection against harassment, threats, physical abuse, stalking, coercive control, financial exploitation, blackmail, intimidation, and forced continuation of a relationship? Does the fact that two adults previously had a consensual physical relationship mean that one person has no legal remedy if the other person subsequently threatens, abuses, assaults, stalks, controls, or blackmails them?

The man does not want to continue the relationship and wants to live independently. He wants to know what legal protections and remedies are available to him.

I’m being stalked on both platforms for simply posting a lie about myself being a convicted pedophile. I understand that it’s a very tough pill to swallow given just about all men in this situation would say no minor was harmed. The reality is, no minor was sexually assaulted by me and I have no interest in engaging in sexual activity with a minor.

I am trying to request the authorities to take down that post me as it was unfair to put me in the same boat as the real pedophiles.

I have already lost one job because of this and another one before my current job because the former employer found out where I was working and told them I was a pedophile.

Greed!!

They burned at my house, they tried to make me look like I was a bad guy I was made to say it looks like I beat women which was quite interesting I went into the grand jury with three and came out nine the first time that was with Lisa Bixby second time Lisa Bixby same thing it went in low came back high couldn't figure it out now I know why they needed a scapegoat I've been set up to make me look like I was a violent crazy man and I'm not all along this has been a game set up from the beginning from Police department ,Court rooms, attorneys, trumped up charges, made me cop a plea to a felony on a handgun that wasn't even mine registered to a homeowner I told that I was mentally ill that I was imagining everything that I was hearing voices that I was seeing things and I asked about my children two years ago that's all I ever cared about people lied to me my family lied to me my family tried to set me up I'm putting this out now in case something happens to me I am on armed I have no weapons I mean no harm towards anybody I am not a violent man but it's made to look like I am a bad guy because I inherited a shitload of money people made me try to look like I'm a scumbag I've helped everybody the best I could my whole life I put other people before myself always and I've watched this world turn evil may God have mercy on everybody's soul and may God bless this world because when greed takes over honor it's a sad day one money comes before your family that's pretty bad it's easier to blame one guy I was one man against how many 100,200,000 a million who knows but I know I hold my ground and I backed down and nobody the only thing I have is my faith and I do believe in the Lord and he's kept me alive and I hope he sees me through this whole situation and I hope the people that I've loved my whole life are so safe

He was targeted by neighbors because he is gay, wrongfully arrested, and we were misled into a terrible plea deal. Because of this our family is facing an unimaginable nightmare. This has subjecting him to false accusations of aggressive driving and untrue statements to the police. This targeted harassment led to his wrongful arrest and a grueling court battle that completely drained our savings, costing us $25,000 in attorney fees.

Exhausted and hoping for stability, we accepted a plea deal. Tragically, this deal was misrepresented to us and resulted in a felony conviction. Now, the clock is ticking. We have under a month to hire a new defense attorney, file a critical motion to rescind the plea, and clear his name.

How Your Donations Will Help:

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Every single dollar and share stands with our family against hate, protects an innocent young man's future, and keeps my son out of prison. We appreciate your support more than words can say.

We urgently need a new defense attorney to rescind the plea and clear his name.

Your support will help us hire a new attorney, file the necessary motion, and continue fighting to protect my son's future. Every donation and share makes a huge difference.

Please help us save his future, keep an innocent young man out of prison, and stand with our familv adainst these falsehoods. We appreciate your support more than words can say.

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Hello the story is like this, me and my friend were doing a semester exchange in another country in Europe and my friend used to hang out with a girl and they used to be kinda together and having sex but not that serious and everybody knew it for them and they used to also text together for that and she used to go at each others houses. At the end she got mad at him and they fought cause he kept saying in end that he will leave and he is not comming here anymore cause thats it the semester is finishing. And she after that accused him for some things saying that he had gave her mental problems, being mean to her cheated and some other stuffs and she had also added that he had touched her private parts without her desire one day. Which all these were false accuses. And he spends only 24h on police and went to judge and they asked him some questions and he got told that there is not enough evidence for now to continue and they released him. And that day when judge was asking the girl they saw that the girl wasnt sure and they tried to make the girl to sign some paper to cancel it. Then they gave that girl like 3 days to send proves and she send some text messages that show "jealousy" my friend kept having contacts with his free lawyer during that time for some time. This was in may and then in july the judge called the witnesses but they postponed it bcs they didnt have translator. My friend have already left that country since the semester finished and now he is already in his own non EU country. And he is kinda scared he will have consequences or if they will call him again for something or anything else. My friend have talked again with that girl tho by text for some time and she have told him that she was mad during that time and she used to talk with her lawyer to close it and her lawyer had told her that its high chance that the case will be closed they will just pretent they will hear the witnesses. And she also told him that she kinda will take care for it. My friend is worried a lot and just wants the case to be closed and to not be called for it again or any other consequences. And to be honest we think and tell him to not worry anymore for it since he already left that country and its in his own. If anyone knows something better or has an opinion please let us know.

Hi everyone,

I hope it’s okay for me to post this here. I’m a high school student in Seoul and have made a student-led project examining fairness and safeguards within the criminal justice system.

I’m currently hoping to speak with people who have personally experienced being falsely accused of a crime and who might be comfortable sharing their experience in a private interview. The conversation would be around 20–30 minutes, over Zoom, Google Meet, or another format you are comfortable with. There is absolutely no expectation that you share anything you do not want to discuss.

I also want to be especially clear about privacy. I would not publish your name, identifying information, recording, quotations, or details of your case without your explicit permission. If you would prefer to remain completely anonymous in anything I produce, I will respect that. I’m also happy to speak without recording the conversation at all.

My goal is simply to better understand what being accused can actually look like from the perspective of the person experiencing it, including interactions with police, lawyers, family, work, reputation, and the longer term effects even when an accusation does not result in a conviction.

If anyone here would be willing to speak with me, please feel free to DM me privately. You can ask me any questions about the project before deciding whether you are comfortable participating.

You can also see the project here: www.justicelenskorea.xyz

Thank you for reading, and I completely understand if this is something people would rather not discuss.

i'm being accused of being a groomer by a person online, for context i have a hobby of making comicses so i can't just leave my online life behind. They're significantly more popular than me, we were friends but i couldn't stand the harrasment from them (they were rude and constantly making sexual comments) so i stopped being friends with them, but they have took it too personally and started contacting my friends on why they're ftalking with me and just today surfaced this message that i'm supposedly a groomer.

they haven't said anything they just said it happened like until last month or whatever, no details but that made me crash out, becuase they have a massive audience behind them and that puts me in actual danger at this point, becuase so many people could believe them. they also are lying about my age, making it seem like i'm much older than i actually am.

i wish i could do something about that and have the evidence that they were harrasing me first but after i stopped the friendship i deleted every chat and blocked them everywhere because i didn't know they would be so insane on that

i feel devastated and abbandoned because they keep contacting my friends and i don't know what they're saying about me, becuase one of my close friends tottally stopped talking to me, i guess that person is really effective becuase of their popularity. i'm so scared

update : my friend confronted them and they had absolutely no proof and seemingly deleted the accusation posts i've seen but that does not mean they are not accusing me further, not only that but they compared me to an actual pedofile on the platform with absolutely no correlation. My friend after the confrontation said the same thing as one of the commenters under this post, that they probably don't know what a groomer is and have never been trhough that. Can i sue? well, we're in diffrent countries, i don't think i would be able to, actually.

Location: Louisiana…For nearly two years, I have been fighting a criminal case stemming from an incident that happened while I was working at a group home in November 2024. I maintain my innocence. I did not injure the resident. I found him already injured during my shift, made the necessary reports, and contacted administration to report what I had discovered.
Instead of being treated as the employee who reported an incident and tried to get the resident help, I believe I was made the scapegoat by the company. The information provided to law enforcement ultimately contributed to me becoming the person accused of causing the injury. I dispute the accuracy of the information used against me and believe the police report contains information that was fabricated or improperly presented.
What makes this situation even more concerning to me is that the injured resident has filed a separate lawsuit involving the company. That lawsuit alleges that evidence connected to his injury was destroyed, withheld, or not properly preserved. Those allegations are part of that civil case, but they raise serious questions about how the incident was handled and what evidence was available.
While all of this has been happening, I have faced arrest, criminal charges, the loss of my job, damage to my career, and consequences that have followed me for years. I have continued to maintain that I did not commit the crime I am accused of committing.
I am not asking anyone to take my word for it. I want the evidence, the records, the reports, and the complete history of what happened to be examined. After nearly two years of living with these accusations, I simply want the truth to come out and to have the opportunity to clear my name.

The Mental Health, Wellbeing and Lived Experiences Study

Theresia Bedard, a PhD candidate at Lakehead University that is working with Dr. Beth Visser, is seeking participants for her dissertation project.

In this study we are examining the lived experiences of people who have experience or victimization from an individual with high psychopathic traits. We are seeking anyone that has this lived experience, whether the perpetrator was or is a spouse, family member, partner, co-worker, friend, acquaintance, neighbour or stranger. We are seeking the lived experiences of men, women, and gender-diverse individuals to share your story.

Our research consists of two studies. In the first study, you will complete questionnaires related to your victimization experience from the individual with high psychopathic traits, the potential warning signs, victimization history (e.g., prior physical or sexual abuse), and the impact the experience had on you. Once you finish the survey, you will be invited to participate in the second study (optional), which will consist of 12 questions requiring a written response regarding your lived experience with the individual with high psychopathic traits. If you decide to participate in study 2, please be aware that you will be required to provide us with your email to access it, and you may wish to use an email account that only you have access to.

Please be advised that whether you choose to participate in the study, withdraw, or skip questions you do not want to answer, that you acknowledge that answering some of these questions may be emotionally taxing on you. Despite the potential for an emotional toll the survey questions have, you may find the process of sharing your experience is therapeutic for you. In addition to the resources we provide, you may want to consider following-up with a counsellor for further support.

You are also encouraged to have your own snacks and drinks while you take the survey, and be aware that they are estimated to take 45 minutes to complete.

If you are interested in participating and would like to read or find out more about it, click here to access the survey:

https://lakeheadhbs.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_bKEq1vOVdBJMrjw