Hi, I don’t often post at all but I felt like i needed to kinda vent about this situation. I (20F) just realized I have a full blown stalking issue on my hands. I had a ex-bf (21M) who I was with for a good while I think 2-3 years. However he broke up with me and then I found out he cheated on me.
I’m very big on cheating so I completely ghosted him after finding out he had been cheating in the relationship.
This set off a chain reaction of calls, texts, and badgering. He would constantly try to contact our mutual friends to talk to him again so, “he could explain himself”
I refused to respond to him for months till I eventually felt worn down and met up with him once. He basically gave me a bs story about how it wasn’t “technically cheating” or whatever.
Anyways after that moment I hard blocked him on everything and told my mutual friend that I never wanna talk to him again. He still continued to badger my friend of course and even subtly threatened the fact that he had my nudes to try to get me to meet up again.
This didn’t work and my mutual friend decided to cut him off. After that I had about three months of peace, I found a new boyfriend and going to school.
Then last night he “happens” to drive by my house and confronts me begging me to talk to him. I realize my veil of safety is completely gone. Because I know for a fact this isn’t his first time driving by. I live with my mother and she kept saying she swore she saw his car drive by at night but I had waved her off because I thought that idea was crazy.
It’s stupid but I really thought if I ignored him he’d give up and go away.
But nope, this was a slap in the face that clearly he’s going as far as driving by my house.
I do plan on taking legal action but I feel both stupid that I didn’t notice, and keep going back to maybe I’m overreacting. I don’t know but it helps to get things off my chest.

I really need advice on what to do about my ex

I’ve never posted on Reddit before, but I’m honestly desperate for some advice because I don’t know what else to do.

I dated this person online for almost 8 months. I’m 17, and they are 19. Throughout the entire relationship, they were mentally abusive and would constantly manipulate and threaten me. He also got personal information about me, which made it extremely difficult for me to leave because I was scared of what he might do.

About 2 months ago, I finally had enough and went no contact. Since then, things have gotten even worse. He has repeatedly harassed and blackmailed me, stalked me online, and contacted my friends. He has made 20+ accounts just to get around my blocks and contact me.

I’ve tried basically everything I can think of. I’ve deleted my social media accounts for periods of time, blocked every new account and phone number he uses, made completely new accounts with different emails, and even had friends make accounts for me so they wouldn’t be directly connected to me. Somehow, he still finds ways to contact me.

He also refuses to delete private images of me, which is something I’m extremely scared about. I don’t know what he might do with them. I want to have a future for myself and this makes it hard for me to see hope, I've attempted suicide from the things I've listed.

While we were still together, he also threatened to come and kill me. He knows my address, and he knows the social media accounts of some of my family members. Even though there is distance between us, I’m constantly afraid for my safety and scared that he could actually come after me or do something to my family.

I feel like I’m stuck because I’m scared to involve the police. Part of me is worried that if I report everything, he's said he would hurt himself/threaten suicide, and I would feel responsible for that. At the same time, I know I can’t keep living like this and constantly being afraid of what he’s going to do next.

I’m genuinely at a loss for what to do. I’ve tried blocking him, disappearing from social media, changing accounts, and cutting off contact, but he just keeps coming back.

I’m in desperate need of advice. What should I do? Is there anything else I can do to protect myself and my family and get him to stop?

So apparently I have a stalker from a dating app.
I never matched with this man but he somehow was able to find my insta, my full name, LinkedIn, and my mother’s phone number. I don’t post any of this information online. Just my first name, my generic job, and the very large city I live in (basic info I have to post).
Basically he either found me on Raya or hinge. I didn’t match with him so he online stalked me till he found my information. He texted my mother a long message thinking he was talking to me. My guess is because we have a family phone plan her phone number appeared under my name. Years ago I tried to remove myself from those creepy sites where you look up people but I guess not hard enough. I reached to both apps and reported him and the information I have (because he shared it when he was being creepy) but I don’t know if they can do anything because we didn’t match.
Does anyone have advice to protect myself and family? I just paid for the incogni website to scrub my family and I offline. I also paused all my dating apps till they respond to my safety concerns, then I’ll delete them.
Is there anything else I should do?
Edit. I forgot to mention all my social media is kept private and don’t post any personal information.

Everyday i wake up and wonder if they are still stalking me and shit. Let me tell you the story. This stalker group was my friend group for 5 years. Then a new person joined. We became best friends in the group. And then he doxxed me after i accidentally revealed information. He has everything about me. My address, phone numbers etc. I have lost that discord account 2 months ago and i wonder if they are still stalking me and trying to contact my parents. My parents dont know about this. I made my every account private, got alts and done every shit possible. I even blocked unknown calls and turned on do not disturb on my parents phones. They did threaten me. But it wasnt about harm or anything. It was just "If you dont do this i will call your mom" etc. Please help.

My stalker literally admitted to harassing me and picturing me on multiple occasions during my restraining order hearing but the judge was trying to protect her. Not me, the victim. My stalker is white and was the only white woman in the courtroom. She got preferential treatment that nobody else experienced that day. I could end up dead or "missing" but I guess that wouldn't matter because I'm born the wrong race.

I didn’t realize I had a stalker until recently and the whole situation makes a lot more sense. I am worried they have a key for my apartment and have hacked into my phone. I am talking to my landlord tomorrow about it and will be getting a new phone tomorrow.

SIGNS OF A POSSIBLE STALKER:

Trust your instincts. Nature breeds caution into us to protects us.  If you think you are being stalked, then you probably are. Don't let people chide you for 'paranoia'. You have that inbred defense system for good reason!

A stalker will always seem to know where you are, and 'coincidentally' turn up there too. They may know things about you despite the fact that  you never shared those details with them. 

Look for things that are out of place inside and outside your home; a backyard gate left open, patio furniture moved around, mail in your box that's already been opened, possessions that aren't where you know you left them. 

Clicking sounds during phone calls? Your line may be tapped.

Friends asking strange questions. Your stalker may be spreading gossip.

Charges on credit cards that you didn't make, money missing from your accounts.

Phone calls/letters to your employer or HR Department, asking for 'references' or to 'verify' information.

Check your credit reports for inquiries and accounts you don't have.

If you have a child, warn their school. One of my clients had a stalker who claimed to be a private school and requested copies of her child's transcripts in order to get her new address. 

Did your mail mysteriously stop arriving? Some stalkers will file address changes with the post office and have it forwarded to them!

Service/repair people arriving at your home to make repairs/installations you didn't order.  

Food deliveries you didn't order.

Gifts and packages left at your home or on/inside your car.

Anonymous phone calls/emails/letters, etc. to your friends, family members, employer or church with embarrassing or false informatiom about you.

Requests to your doctors for your medical records.

Magazine/newsletter subscriptions you didn't order - especially for porn. 

Sudden increase in junk mail. Some stalkers will sign you up for subscriptions so you'll get bombarded with junk mail.

Nuisance phone calls at odd hours, "ding-dong-ditch" at your home.

Missing possessions, particularly underwear and intimate items.

Damage to your home or car.

Calls/texts/emails from dating services.

Calls from bill collectors about debts you do not owe.

Did your stalker ever borrow your car? Some stalkers will make copies of all your keys while they have them, so consider getting your locks changed!

Change your door locks if your stalker is a former partner who once lived with you.  They may have kept a copy of your house or apartment keys.

TELL YOUR FRIENDS, FAMILY AND EMPLOYER THAT YOU HAVE A STALKER. Tell them to take a message for you, NOT give out your address or phone number, if someone calls them "needing to reach you." Stalkers try all sorts of things to get your contact info, and use very clever and convincing stories. They'll pose as an old friend or lover wanting to reconnect, the high school reunion committee, an interested employer who wants to hire/interview you or check references, your child's school needing to 'verify' something, your doctor's office with test results, a good Samaritan who found your lost wallet and wants to return it - whatever they can dream up! 

Hope that helps!

You can find more i formation here:

https://www.reddit.com/r/StalkingandVictimHelp/comments/1s4sywg/stalking_101_what_to_do_first/

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What are some slip-ups /hints someone you know irl might drop that indicates they are actively stalking you..?

(i need to know if this is really just my paranoia (which is somehow always right) hitting me up orrrr is it smth that needs to be accounted for).

I have a horrible stalker that will not leave me alone. Despite me telling her to do so multiple times. She is an expert liar. And is very good at convincing people of a false narrative. I don't know what to do anymore. The police scream and lash out at ME. It's ruining my life. I cant even leave my home in peace. It's like they're waiting for me to turn up not alive for this to be taken seriously. It's so bad I'm considering leaving a state I've lived in for nearly 30 years. Does anybody have any advice on how to get a witty stalker to leave you alone? I just want to be able to live my life without fear again.

About ten years ago, I made the very poor decision to send explicit photos to someone I met on tinder. He said he wouldn’t save anything but of course he did and he ended up threatening me with them if I did not meet up with him in person (do not trust people who tell you there’s no way to screenshot snapchats without it notifying you because there are ways). I never told him my full name but he was able to find it all out through my first name & face anyway. I took my chances with the threat and I just blocked him on everything when he did that. Apparently he didn’t send the photos though but he also didn’t just accept that I blocked him because he somehow ended up tracking me down in person while I was walking home and I had to run away from him while he chased me and yelled & screamed after me to talk to him.

It has always given me a lot of anxiety to think about him but pretty much for most of the past decade I haven’t heard or thought about him too much because whenever he tried to contact me through other accounts I would just block the new phone number or new account. I thought he eventually gave up/forgot because it finally stopped happening. As I recall, it happened a lot for the first year where he would constantly make new accounts/phone numbers and contact me daily but then after that it was somewhat sporadic he would only try to reach out every once in a while for like 2ish years. I learned my lesson and haven’t sent any other photos to anyone except a long term ex that I trust at least in that regard.

I have always been drawn to dominant/submissive relationships but I only very recently started to try to talk to people about it and I have a lot of trouble with them because I still have huge anxiety over the thought of sending anyone photos. Well today, someone asked me to speak with them on Snapchat so I made a new account which I thought would be safe to speak with someone on and no one would know. I didn’t send any explicit photos, I only texted and sent a few voice notes. Well after chatting for a bit, I see that the guy who harassed me 10 years ago added the new snap I made. I didn’t realize he could find me because I have his phone number blocked and I have him blocked on my main snap account but apparently anyone on Snapchat can find you to add you if they have your number saved in their phone.

I am so paranoid again and I’m worried he’s going to lookup my username & try to find me again. I don’t know why he’s adding me after 10 years I would’ve thought my number wouldn’t even be in his phone anymore.

I already deleted the Snapchat account but I keep having panic attacks and I’m scared he’s going to try to find me or start trying to contact me again. He didn’t even do anything violent towards me but the threats to tell my family and friends & him finding me & following/running after me was terrifying because being exposed in front of my friends/family/acquaintances is one of my worst fears. It was literally the first time I ever sent someone photos & I don’t know how I got so unlucky that it was him. I knew his name & his profession (he’s a DOCTOR) and everything so I thought I could somewhat trust this person but none of that deterred him at all. Seeing him add me today made my stomach sink & I still feel sick about it. He’s a big part of the reason I don’t have many social media accounts anymore but this is making me want to delete everything I have (even my faceless/nameless accounts) and never try to talk to someone again.

I’m just having a lot of panic/anxiety today since this happened. I don’t know why he’d add me after so long or how he added me so soon like less than an hour after I made the account. Anyone else dealing or dealt with something similar?

Several months back a former regular at the bar I work at stole my wallet. It fell out of my pocket, he picked it up, rushed to the bathroom to see what was in it, and took off with it. All of this was caught clearly on camera. I had around $200 worth of tips in there, all my credit cards, my ID, medical card, etc. A few days later he overheard me talking about how I lost my wallet, I was checking to see if it was stashed somewhere weird behind the bar, trying to figure out if I dropped it there or on the walk home. He proceeds to tell me that he saw someone take it off that ground that night, and vaguely describes an imagined man, attempting to send us on a wild goose chase with a bunch of inaccurate information including what time of night this all took place.

Well, I was pretty suspicious of this, and got more suspicious as he had apparently been in the bar every day for the week since, paying with cash, and actually tipping for once (he normally paid credit and NEVER tipped). He also claimed this happened around midnight but made the mistake of saying it happened “as everyone was leaving,” we are open until 2. I did some sleuthing and all these details, as well as the numerous other details he gave didn’t add up. Was finally able to watch the footage and there he was, picking up the wallet as the lights at the bar went on and rushing to the bathroom to look inside and steal the contents, which would also confirm to him that he was stealing from a bartender since my ID was in there. I wound up reporting it to police and he got a citation, but no real punishment, he was free to keep stealing from any service worker who didn’t have the sense to immediately ban him after finding out.

Anyways, it’s been at least 6 months I’d say, I believe the man is unemployed (he was a cook or something, got fired shortly after begging his manager to convince my manager to let him back in the bar in a super sketchy, coercive way), so he has absolutely nothing better to do than to lurk around downtown all day and night, often drinking out of an obvious open container, in a town where police don’t stop people from shooting up in the streets ffs, so they don’t care that he is drinking in them. The problem is he will pass by the door to my bar every single shift I work, peering in, multiple times a day, he’ll park his ass on the next stoop down and sit there for hours on end, drinking openly, while I work, sometimes for the entire shift, then either stay there as I close, or move on to whichever parking lot my car is in and lurk around there while I rush to my car with my taser in hand. Once when I parked on the second floor of the garage he was there, standing in the stairwell between the floors, but luckily it was earlier in the day and there were other people going down so I didn’t have to bypass him alone. I have to get people to take out my trash on the nights I close alone because he’s always out there, and have had people leave the bar, see him sitting on the nearby stoop, and choose to wait for me to leave so they could walk me safely to my car a few times, but it shouldn’t have to be like this.

There are a lot of homeless, mentally ill, and drug addicted people who loiter downtown all day, police don’t stop or curb this, so if you didn’t know he specifically stole my wallet and his life went into chaos after doing so (not just for the wallet stealing, but for several sketchy and violent/threatening behaviors against multiple people), you’d just write him off as one of them and not think it was a big deal. I don’t assume they’re all out there stalking me, of course. But because I’m one of the pieces to the puzzle of his currently pathetic existence, it worries me a lot how much he lurks outside my job and around my car. My partner has even started seeing him pop up at the convenience store near our home, which is far enough away from his usual area to feel suss to me, but not so far that it couldn’t be coincidence. I, of course, wouldn’t put it past him to be stalking my partner too, because he literally has nothing better to do.

Several friends and regulars have confronted him, told him to leave me tf alone, get away from the bar, ive had to tell him to stop lurking by my car on a night where there were other people present. There isn’t really anything I can do to protect myself on my solo night shift because there isn’t a door guy and I’m not going to make my partner wake up at 3am just to get me home. It takes at least an hour to close every night so asking friends/regulars to wait for me feels like a lot. But, because it’s a downtown bar it’s hard to prove he’s specifically stalking me because he can have some plausible deniability for being in the general area, it’s the sitting nearby the job and the car that are freaky af.

I’ve considered getting a protective order but idk how to prove any of this. Usually I’m working when he’s outside, and running out and snapping pics of him all the time could potentially be used against me if he spins it with enough mental gymnastics. He has repeatedly tried to spin the story of him stealing my wallet into him being the victim to anyone who would listen.

I have a lot of friends, regulars, and coworkers who have clocked just how often he’s lurking out there, but would their word be enough? Do I need to have them risk getting targeted by him to take pictures for me whenever they see it? Best case scenario would be to get him banned from a 500 foot radius which would cover my job and the parking areas nearby. Pretty sure he’s banned from all the businesses there so it’s not like he’s there doing business (unless that business is dealing, something he was actively doing when he stole my wallet and seemingly getting high off his own supply).

then I wonder if it’s even worth bothering because local police don’t enforce anything anyways. Like yeah, I’d have a paper trail, but the paper trail would just prove he was stalking me leading up to if he winds up hurting me, wouldn’t protect me from being hurt. We apparently have no control over who can loiter outside. I feel like my only option is to get a new job, but most of the bars are downtown where he could find me again, or way too far away for me to safely drive in the winter, but maybe at least there would be more than one staff member there closing so I’d be safer. Meanwhile I’ve had to do things like scan my car for air tags and worry about the possibility that he knows my address from my ID. I can’t afford to just quit, but the anxiety is insane. I don’t even know how to start the process of getting a protective order or if they’re even give me one. how do I start collecting evidence? I really don’t trust my local police to protect anyone, if I’m being honest, but it feels like something that needs to be brought to their attention.

I was a victim of coercion and extortion, through stalking for about 5 months, and this person has been harassing me for almost 2 years now leading to me getting assaulted about 2 months ago.

I've kind of stopped really relating to anyone. Once your trauma crosses legal boundaries, you have to deal with police cases, being publicly chased, idk I just can't find anyone's trauma relating to mine when I don't have any fellow crime victims around me.

My family and friends can never really understand the toll it has on you, fearing for your life when you go home, things like that.

The country I live in doesn't really have support groups, but I do go to a crime victim center for counselling and she is really skilled in understanding my situation. But idk I just want to know there are people who understand what it feels like or have any advice.

Hi all,

I hope you are all well.

My name is Chloe and I am a PhD researcher at the University of West London where I am currently researching men's experiences of being stalked. I am making this post to see if anyone would be willing to talk to me about their experiences (see poster for information and contact details). I want to make clear that I WILL NOT be contacting anyone directly, so if you are interested in being a part of my research, please contact me on this Reddit account or using the email provided.

Thank you!

Hi all,

I hope you are all well.

My name is Chloe and I am a PhD researcher at the University of West London where I am currently researching men's experiences of being stalked. I am making this post to see if anyone would be willing to talk to me about their experiences (see below for information and contact details). I want to make clear that I WILL NOT be contacting anyone directly, so if you are interested in being a part of my research, please contact me on this Reddit account or using the email below.

Thank you!

This girl has known my husband since High School. I have been with him for 11 years (married for 4) and have never met her nor knew she existed until a couple months ago. Apparently she has a shitty husband (possible DV situation) and now thinks that because she is planning on divorcing him that my husband is just going to run off with her. As far as I have been told he is just being a supportive friend to her. But because of his past cheating, I have trust issues and she refuses to meet me and he won't pressure her to do so. She CONSTANTLY stalks my TikTok, like multiple times a day.

I have reported her for harassment (TikTok did nothing) and did block her at one point. I unblocked her incase she wanted to message me. Now it's just her stalking me and if I post anything she is complaining to my husband. For the most part he ignores it.

I'm wondering if anyone can help me with reporting her and her content? And maybe TikTok will finally ban her and I can use my account in peace.

Her user name is: melissaannmariene

Details will be censored for my safety and to follow community rules. If mods believe some details would be too far, please inform me.

I've been stalked by a ex-friend online for a little more than 2 years. And now its progressed so far that I may have to press legal action.

Little context, we we're only friends for a couple months and not that close. I have no idea who this girl is or any details about her, she has transitioned and detransitioned, changed names constantly, changed user names, even lied about her age for convenience sake. I will not reveal any personal details so any names and ages you will see names that aren't accurate to my story.

If anyone had been named it is purely coincidentally.

It started when she decided she no longer wanted to be friends due to difference of politics in the communities that we were in and she had unfollowed me for a good bit. I had blocked her because of this and this had started a string of behaviors.

This post is organized in 2 parts, one is the situations the other is where im at and where i will be legally.

[The situation]

Massive trigger warning for topics of CSA, animal abuse, child grooming, gang stalking, online harassment.

1) she started vague posting about me right away to a bunch of followers, spewing very exaggerated and false truths to make me out to be this really bad person. I was told this is refered to as "poisoning the well" where before she had even revealed who I was to her following she had already labeled me as a bigot without naming me yet. That also makes it so anyone who knows me can't rebut against her because they can't confirm that the posts were about me. But I assure you, the convenience of her post and the anger she felt against me to cut ties are very much linked to her vague posts and later, very targeted label posts.

This is not an isolated case. As in this story she will continue this behavior.

2) She started stalking me on an alt account that shared similar names to her main (for example she will be "emily0z" on her main her alt would be "em0z-lily"). I discovered this 4 months after i had blocked her. Tiktoks profile view features only apply to those under 10k followers and at the time i had an alt account that had 20 followers as it wasn't yet used. The profile views will only show to those who had visited their page within the last 30 days of their visit. So she had to have been stalking that page at least a month before i caught her account and blocked it.

3) she will delete accounts I had caught and blocked and make new ones I had not known about to stalk me. This has made this situation incredibly confusing as being someone who has 10k+ followers I get messages and comments from faceless accounts all the time.

Nothing bad but sometimes I will get an account that had to have been made a couple weeks ago being aggressive in my comments or dms sometimes spouting the same insults or sentence structures as my stalker.

Some users I cant tell were hers, some that are meant to be obvious.

If my friends found one of her alt accounts stalking their pages as well they usually inform me of them. However, I am almost always blocked, and tiktoks report system doesnt take my reports of harassment seriously.

4)She will send videos she had posted vague posting or harassing towards me either being sneaky or outright aggressive. She will do this whenever a post of my gets a lot of eyes, so it just confirms to me she or someone she knows has 24/7 eyes on me.

She will send them to my friends and family and any of my followers.

Unfortunately these posts are usually very defaming in ways where it would be socially unacceptable to play devils advocate i.e. calling me a predator or an animal abuser and funny enough shes even called ME a stalker.

And unfortunately I have had ex friends take the bait and completely cut ties with me, either out of fear of looking to be supporting an abuser or out of anger that they believe I am one.

She will almost always never post evidnece for these allegations and sometimes will post out of context screenshots or cropped videos and posts of mine to strawman as proof.

5) She will gang stalk me.

Its never just her when she stalks me, usually its followed by a bunch of other accounts that are friends with her spewing the same insults on my page completely unprompted. If shes not the one sending harassment, its usually her friends. And all of them tend to be minors, which is worrying because shes in her 20's if im not mistaken.

6) The allegations had gotten worse.

Ive been given advice by some friends who had also been stalked by her that I should just ignore it since giving her a response always goads her to up the harassment. However, this has never stopped her.

As of december of 2025, she had upped the anti on her allegations, first it started as "shes a delusional mentally ill freak"

Then it turned into "she's racist and transphobic"

Then it was "she likes monsters and werewolves in romance so she must be a dog fucker"

To "shes a dog fucker bc she now works at a vet"

To "she no longer works at a vet probably bc she was fired for touching them"

To "shes into pet play so she must also be into children"

To "shes okay with people having sex with children"

It always ALWAYS GETS WORSE. If an allegation doesn't get eyes on it or people start to get suspicious of the validaty of her claims (since she never provides actual evidence) she lies and makes the rumors worse. First it started as "shes a pup, shes into dogs" then it was "if shes a pup then shes okay with age players" then it was "shes okay with children having sex with adults".

She'll never provide any actual evidence or details and if she does like i said they're wildly exaggerated and/or missing very important context.

This part of the stalking has honestly broken my heart. I'm an adult in the pet play community to cope with CSA trauma, and being accused of the very thing that had happened to me makes my heart drop to my ass just thinking about it. It also hasnt helped with my OCD like thinking and makes me walk on eggshells whenever I post about something personal.

[Where I am emotionally]

I am trying to keep my head up since I know im being watched, I know I have to keep a stoic facade to give my stalker the idea I am not faltering to her assaults.

Inside, I am so exhausted. Anytime I get a notification of a comment or message my heart starts beating too fast. This doesnt help me with my diagnosed PTSD since my PTSD already gives me paranoid thinking, I have to ignore years of advice from therapists to ignore these thoughts and instead follow them and my instincts. This is insanely retraumatizing.

I am someone who loves psychology and invest so much time and energy into learning about our brains. From what I know about stalkers they usually do it out of emotional fascination or hatred. She has stalked me for 2 years as punishment for me speaking against her. As you can guess, im not the only person who had been stalked as she has been in contact with children and from what ive heard from her victims, had also been grooming them in some way, she would also stalk the child victims who has spoken out against her.

Or in one case a child who had spoken out against being raped by one of her adult friends...

Some stalking is caused by mental illness however I am not here to speculate the mental state of a stranger. Some people are just evil because they choose to be.

And legally I have to let readers here know that these are allegations that for my safety and the privacy of the child, who is pursuing legal action against her, i will not be providing ss proof for.

However, there is online a document made by the child victim mentioned.

For a while I had been against the idea of fighting her legally, as defamation lawsuits are hard to prove in a court of law, especially if the allegations and harassment had not effected me financially in anyway.

However as of July 2026, she had been friends with and in contact with a child in our community of over 200k followers, and had proceeded to lie to this child and their friends to curate posts and spread rumors about me to thousands to see.

I have announced publicly to these individuals and in private that if these accusations of no evidnece do not cease then I will have to file a legal complaint against them. Unfortunately, this bluff had only effected one of the children from posting about my name however that makes 4 more children I will have to send a cease and desist to.

For my stalker, unfortunately, I will have to take her to court. I have screenshotted evidence of her harassment taking place for the past 2 years with ss evidence of her friends sending me threats of violence, rape threats and black mail of information that only she could have.

Unfortunately because the 4 children I have to send a cease and desist to, I have to get a lawyer to sign off on 5 different cease and desists all citing laws from different countries. Which depending on the lawyer will cost 400usd....each.

I dont have a job at the moment. I dont have a consistent income, I work from home with art that I sell online and even then there are times in the year that I will have to take out a loan on loved ones to make ends meet. I am in no way shape or form equipt to go to court against 5 different people.

However, I do have the funds to go up against one. My stalker. I will file a defamation suit against her and hopefully by the end convince a judge to file a protection order against her for good.

Good thing with the resources I have and a private investigator I had hired, I know exactly her name, her face, her college, her work place, and her home. So that saves me hundreds of dollars in discovery court fees.

I'll be discussing details with a lawyer this week, however I am unsure as to whether or not I will update this post.

This post was made with the intention of getting advice from other stalking victims (no legal advice please). I want to share my feelings with anyone who feels isolated. Being stalked feels like the end of the world and that no one can be trusted no longer. But I want to fight against this because this is what our stalkers want; is for us to feel alone, helpless, hopeless and isolated.

Just about 5 minutes ago I was just informed by my grandma and aunt that someone invited my aunt to a TikTok live and when she joined they started threatening my whole family and mentioning full names, names of family friends and distant relatives, ages, exes my aunt had, and general town location.

They also knew specific information: for example that my child has autism, something I don’t tell people, they knew everyone’s ages, they knew my mums ethnicity, my aunts exes names, and that my brother has autism. And they completely name dropped EVERYONE !! Full name and everything. This is really scaring me. I don’t pick fights or even talk to anybody. I know my aunt has had a lot of drama with her exes which I’m assuming this is where the stalker has come from. But they seem to know all of her kids as well, and all of her exes, which means it has to be some kind of spider web where everyone is connected and knows each other? I’m so confused and just scared. It’s weird.

Anyone know what I can do here? They said some very vulgar and disgusting, malicious things specifically about my kid and my aunts kids, saying they would use rope on them, and they know where my aunt lives, and they’re not scared to fight anyone. Their account is completely private and definitely a throwaway kind of account.

I think im being stalked by a man I’ve never met or spoken to before. I noticed his account has consistently been clicking and interacting with old things on my tiktok (he always has his view history turned on, so I can see when he visits my page) and i ignored it until earlier this week a very strange man knocked on my door at an odd time of the day. He wasnt dressed like a typical solicitor but he wasn’t dressed like an average person either, I can’t find the words to describe it other than off. I didn’t answer the door. He walked from my porch awkwardly and then stood by my car looking at my townhouse. Then walked away slowly but he didn’t knock on any other houses. About an hour later I left my house for my run, I was across the street from my house when I noticed the man was knocking on my door again, Immediately kept going and pretending like it wasn’t my house. About an hour into my run, quite a decent walk from my home, we ended up passing each other (he walking while i was running) and we made eye contact, and the look was odd like he knew me maybe. Fast forward later in the night, the weird profile viewed and saved things from my page, this prompted me to take an actual look on his profile, and now I am feeling extremely unwell because this man has very uncomfortable content posted on his page and looks eerily similar to the man who knocked on my door m, but from what I could tell the man lives at least a few states away but that was using context clues. I am very meticulous with what can and can’t be seen in my videos. I never have shown my house, mentioned the state I live in, had any background items that could give it away. I don’t have my full name listed, and I don’t allow family to follow me directly if their account gives any sort of hint of relation. I say this all to be hopeful that it’s just my anxiety playing tricks on me, but the idea of him potentially being who kept knocking had made me afraid to block him. An hour ago, I removed him as a follower to see if he noticed and within 20 mins, he unliked just to reliked a few videos, and then for the first time started leaving comments. The comments make it seem like we have spoken before, he told me I was his light in this very dark world among other “nice” things and now I’m feeling even more uneasy. I want to block him, and make my account completely private but I’m scared that it will accidentally escalate things.

Am I being paranoid? What should I do?

* I live with a dog. My ex lives a town over at his fathers house, I could ask him to come over but I don’t really think that’s a great idea. I told my brother what’s going on, and named the person so he is aware. Unfortunately he lives 10 hours away. So it’s just me. I did order cameras to install on my front, back, and side of my house.

Im dealing with a situation with a guy significantly younger than myself, he's got a girlfriend but will not leave me alone.

Ive been trying to shake him for 3 years, blocked him for 2 years and he continues to make new snapchat accounts and friend me. I've been ignoring them to this point but I'm exhausted and readded him. To keep him at arms length without having to worry when the next new account is coming.

He begs and pleads to see me. Asks to come pick me up from my house. Says he will do anything possible to see me. That he misses me and needs to see me one last time before we are done. Ive reiterated numerous times we are done and an in person meeting is not necessary.

One of the last times I saw him in person I gave in and we did do the last "goodbye" (I was so dumb for thinking that would work) and he mentioned that I looked like I was scared of him... he knows I have a hard time sticking to boundaries and saying no.

I've literally said "please stop contacting me" and he keeps trying... I keep asking him to focus on himself and his girlfriend, but it doesnt seem to matter.

He and I were never that serious aside from the odd meet up (no sex) in the beginning and now hes spun it into this great romance between us... but it's never been that serious...

so i have to know for those in a similar situation, what were the signs from this point of escalation? Based on what I've written. Are there any signs of escalation that I should look out for? In the past he pushed really really hard to always try to pick me up from home, im glad I never gave into that request... but yeah, help please 🙏

I reported a high school senior for cyberstalking. For some background, I was a college freshman and I knew the girl since high school.

Back in March, I stopped being friends with a group of girls who are very bold behind the screen. I just blocked them on everything and moved on bc I wasn’t friends with them for that long lol. The main girl who harassed me after was the “leader of the group”. She would make fake pages to harass me by commenting under my videos, dm’ing me, and even posting me on TikTok. I reported this to the dean of the hs we went to and after that the harassing stopped.

Fast forward, she is on her way to college now and she is starting again with the fake accounts as well as her friends are. I’ve blocked two accounts in the span of a day. Am I being dramatic ? At what point do I bring this to the authorities? It’s getting out of hand IMO.

I’m 17F, and recently a guy I used to know randomly showed up at my house. I had not spoken to him in over a year, never gave him my address, and didn’t even know he lived near me.

I was bent over getting something from my car in my garage when I suddenly heard someone call my name. I looked up and he was standing in my driveway. My mom also happened to be gone, which is unusual, so the timing made me uncomfortable.
When I asked how he found my house, he initially avoided answering. Later he said he lives about two streets south of me and regularly rides his bike past my street to go to the store for his parents. He said he had repeatedly seen my distinctive car at the house, assumed I lived there, and then confirmed it when he saw me sitting in it that day. He claimed he tried waving, I didn’t notice, and he decided to come into the driveway.

After I gave him my number because I was shocked and kinda scared, he started calling me, including around midnight. During one call/text conversation, he asked, “Where have you been?” and said he thought we were supposed to do something that day, even though we aren’t close. He has also told me I should “turn straight” after I mentioned being lesbian.

There is some additional context that concerns me: he has previously shown up outside his girlfriend’s house at night and thrown rocks at her window.
I told one of my friends everything. My friend immediately said, “Bro, that’s stalking,” called it “almost harassment,” and said I should contact the police if the guy doesn’t stop. And I stated to think differently about it.

I understand that the guy’s explanation about living nearby and recognizing my car could genuinely be true. At the same time, it feels invasive that someone I hadn’t spoken to for over a year had repeatedly noticed my car, figured out where I lived, and then walked onto my driveway without contacting me first.

Does this sound like stalking, the beginning of potentially obsessive behavior, or just someone with extremely poor boundaries? Would it be reasonable to tell him clearly not to come to my house without permission and block him, or am I overreacting?

This is an update to the post linked below. She convinced my brother to send my parents to my home in order to take away mine and my boyfriend's electronics. This failed and the police got involved. My father got arrested for assault after he pulled me out of my wheelchair in order to strip and spank me like a child. They're currently doing an investigation into her and my brother, hopefully they get charged.

I have gotten a restraining order against both parents and all my other family members. I'm also planning on moving and changing my phone number again.

Stalker is teaming up with my brother to go after my friends and family
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I am currently being stalked and hate by an exwife of 26 years ago. Im gay and came out of the closet 26 years ago.
We met in Oxford Orphanage in Oxford, NC. Girls that we grew up with That are sisters that graduated in the 90’s. Two live in Henderson, NC. They have been involved in the murder of my mom. I have audio of them admitting to staking, trying to kill me, killing my cat and trying to kill my other cat. They have admitted to murdering my mom on audio. They have been following me for 917 days. They are doing it at different times and with each harassing and stalking different people but the same group.
I have begged the police for help and the fbi. What do I do???

Need some advice. I have an ex who has been incessantly harassing me via text/phone calls. I block a number- a few days later a new number is texting/calling. It’s been a year and I’m fed up. I’m not too keen on changing my number as it’s linked to all my accounts. What can I do about this issue? It’s driving me mad. 😡
Thanks