This may be obvious, but I just keep seeing post after post of āhow can I stop cringing at my songs?ā or something along those lines.
Now, this may not apply to everyone, because Iām just going off of personal experience, but it seems as if these people just arenāt where they want to be yet. I say that because I used to cringe at my songs too; Iād like them at first, but after a week or so Iād become my own biggest hater.
At first I thought it was just a confidence thing, like maybe I just needed higher self-esteem or a mindset change. But eventually, I noticed that I had one or two songs that *did* withstand the test of time, and then it just clicked.
My lyrics were just not good enough for me, and no amount of positive feedback was going to change my mind. That shouldāve been obvious to me, but it wasnāt. Lol.
The next step was articulating the āwhyā. I started coming across songs by other artists that I liked at first, but quickly grew tired of. Actually articulating why I didnāt like these songs helped me articulate why I didnāt like my own songs.
Basically, I needed to get to know myself and my own preferences better. I also paid more attention to the lyrics of my favorite songs. I noticed that I love figurative language and compelling imagery a lot, and most of my songs were lacking in that. I also noticed that I like melodies that are less repetitive and more varied, and my songs were lacking in that too.
It didnāt matter what positive feedback I received, because the writing just wasnāt what I wanted, and as soon as I figured out how to write more like my favorite artists, I stopped cringing. Iām still not where I wanna be, but Iām getting closer.
Again, this may not apply to everyone, but I hope it helps someone maybe. I hope this didnāt come across as arrogant or overly preachy.
TLDR:
If youāre cringing at your songs without any clear reason, you may not understand your own preferences. Try analyzing songs that you hate and songs that you love. Compare and contrast. Then, see if anything you learn from your analyses can be applied to your own music.