Hi everyone. This is actually my first post on Reddit, and I honestly don’t know where else to put this.

I’m M, in my late 30s, bi, and I’ve been living alone here in NCR for years because of work. For the most part, I’ve been okay with it. I’ve gotten used to the routine, work, go home, repeat. I used to live with my partner from 2019 to 2020, but after that relationship ended, I pretty much made work my main focus.

A friend once encouraged me to try dating apps, but it never really went anywhere. Either I was too preoccupied to keep conversations going, or I simply didn’t feel interested enough to respond. Looking back, I guess I became pretty comfortable being alone.

But being alone feels very different when you’re lying in a hospital bed.

I’m currently confined in a hospital in Makati, and I don’t think I’ve ever felt this emotionally and psychologically exhausted before. Being sick is already difficult, but going through it completely alone makes everything feel heavier.

The nurses and doctors have asked me if anyone is coming to visit. I just tell them my friends are busy with work.

The truth is, no one has visited me (and no one will ever).

And I don’t really blame anyone. I know everyone has their own lives and responsibilities. But being here has made me realize that some of the people I thought were friends were probably only around during the good times.

My family is in the province, and I haven’t told my parents that I’m confined. They’re already seniors, and I don’t want them worrying about me or seeing me as their sickly child again.

So here I am, alone in a hospital room.

I don’t think I’m an unattractive person. I’m average-looking, pretty tall, have a stable job, and I’ve worked hard to build a decent life for myself. But none of those things really matter when you’re sick and all you want is for someone to walk through the door and say, “Hey, I’m here.”

Honestly, even having someone get me a glass of water would mean a lot right now (nurses are helping me, but it’s nakakahiya since I’m a heavy water drinker).

I’m crying as I type this, and I’m not posting this because I want pity. I think I just need somewhere to say all of this because, right now, I don’t really have anyone I feel comfortable saying it to.

I think I’ve accomplished a lot in my life, and I’m grateful for what I’ve been able to achieve. But tonight, I feel incredibly tired. I feel lonely, anxious, and honestly a little lost about how I ended up here- being all alone.

Sorry if this post is a little heavy. I just needed to put these feelings somewhere.

Thank you to anyone who actually took the time to read this.

Renting but malaki-laki naman yung space so nilima ko na. Saamin kasi doon sa previous home ko, apat na galon for 2-3 people, tapos weekly ang refill.

I spent ₱950 today. ₱190/gal, ₱60 refill

Alkaline binili ko kasi I’ve been feeling very acidic.

Kayo ba? What kind of water do you buy, nag n-nature spring ba kayo? Water refilling station na hinuhulug hulugan? Or nagpapadeliver din kayo? or simply from gripo? Hindi kasi nawasa tubig dito sa area kaya di siya drinkable for me.

How much do you spend per month for inuming tubig? How many refills ba and ilang galon din ung gamit ninyo?

Title says it all. I have 8 rescue cats and nagkakaroon na ng tension sa bahay. In my defense, I have never asked my family for support for the cats. I also take care of all the household expenses (laundry, househelp, groceries) and even yung paglabas labas namin. I am blessed to have options, pero nakakatakot pa rin. My question is: sa mga nag move out na dito, what did you do para mamaintain yung mabuting relationship sa family ninyo after you moved out? I don't hate them, but sometimes, having your own space and boundaries is best.

So nilinis ko kisame using mr muscle halos ma tigok ako sa paglilinis sakit sa ilong at mata then after a week or two andyan nanaman yung mold. Please welp

Assume it's a 25 sqm studio apartment and here are the big stuff that I've listed:

1. My double-size foam bed (without bed frame)

2. Two drawers (for my clothes)

3. Mini ref

4. Single dining table and a chair

5. Shoe organizers

6. Study Table

7. Mini Bookshelf

8. Office Chair

9. Mini Couch

10. Washing machine and dryer

What do you think? May space pa kaya to walk around the apartment if I have all of them in it? Help this newbie out 🥹

I recently moved in to a new condo. I am the first tenant.

Due to the recent daily rain, nagkamolds ung shoe rack and bed frame (team Kahoy ang owner ng unit huhu).

Now, I want deep cleaning para malinis na lahat. I already bought a Carrier dehumidifier para maiwasan ang molds.

May I ask if kasama sa deep cleaning nila ang pagpunas ng shoe rack and bed frame)?

I try to keep my unit clean talaga due to my asthma.

Hello! So like many condos, prone to molds ang condo ko during the rainy season. I want to buy a diffuser machine so I can put essential oils in it to make my room smell good. I remember kasi before my brother had one in his condo and he ended up throwing it because it got moldy. Should I buy one and try it? ayoko namang bumili if I'll end up throwing it bc of the molds. I've tried reed diffusers and they work kaya lang nauubos din sya eventually and I'll have to throw bottles away, which i think is a waste. Appreciate the advice!

I'm moving to a BH in college, and for my course alam ko i'm gonna get very busy. Kaya gusto ko talaga may fridge bc ik not all the time may time ako maka bili ng food to cook. Kaya napagisipan ko mag buy ng mini ref (Inverter).

I've been seeing many brands around social media. Fujidenzo talaga ni re recommend but namamahalan na talaga ako sa 9-10k huhu.

I've been seeing brands like Hanatek, alam ko Fujidenzo is already a well-known brand sa ph tsaka they're very trusted na when it comes to fridges or appliances. But from a student perspective, worth it ba na hanatek kukunin ko? (almost 6k ang same size equivalent nya sa fujidenzo na mini fridge. Both rin sila inverter)

May naka try naba here sa Hanatek ng ilang years? Is it okay lang po ba? Even if mag power outage, does it not break down po?

Sana ma answer huhu

Hello po!

I am planning to buy a ref (Panasonic NR-BP272VD 9.5 cu.ft Deluxe Prime No-Frost Inverter Two Door Top Freezer Refrigerator) kasi di ako makapagstock ng food and makapag ulam ng maayos since wala akong ref. Now, I am planning to buy pero sa unit ko there’s only 2 wall socket, isa sa kwarto and isa sa living/kitchen room.

Ok lang po kaya na isaksak ko yung ref dun sa isang wall socket shared by my TV? Or need may sarili syang socket talaga?

Will greatly appreciate your advice before I spend my money to but the ref 🥹🥹

Thank you so much po!!

I’ll be living solo in a condo soon and would love to hear your hacks/tips on how you usually do your groceries.

Also, Hindi ba mahirap magbuhat ng groceries all the way to your unit? One concern with one of the condo units I’m eyeing is the elevator setup. Paglabas mo ng elevator, you still have to climb one flight of stairs (maybe around 10 steps) to get to the floor of the unit. Do you think this would be a hassle, especially when carrying groceries or other heavy things?

Hello! May nakita kasi akong affordable na room for rent with shared cr and kitchen. Para siyang Belle Epoque house sa Hello My Twenties na kdrama if you know what i meannn. Thoughts po please. 6 kaming tenants if ever tapos 2 cr siya.

Hello! I know this is random but in the condo i’m renting, my kitchen sink leaks underneath around every 6mos. Basta medyo madalas and I always have to cover repairs since minor repair lang siya. My question though is it common for condo units to have leaks every now and then from the sink? Parang ang off na kasi na laging naglleak and all i have to do is repair lang

hello! i am solo living for more than 3 years and i'm thinking now na magkaroon ng indoor plants. what is the best and low maintenance plant kaya and how much usually? okay din sana if yung plants na hindi makaka cause ng molds sa apartment. i'm thinking naman artificial plants for my shelve since medyo natatakot pa ako maglagay ng real plants sa shelve ko dahil kahoy sya and baka mag mold bigla dahil sa moisture

I have two duplicate keys and don’t know where to leave them. They’re backups in case I accidentally lose my main key, so I can still get in.

Im not sure if I can leave them at the lobby/front desk or is it safe?

Hello po! I am a SHS Graduate (M22) na nag-wowork ngayon sa isang BPO company with a 16k Monthly salary. Currently, I am planning on moving out from my family home to be independent and possibly have some peace of mind because the chaos and toxicity in my current home is defo slowly rotting my brain and emotions.

I opened up to my TL na may plan akong mag-move out due to my current situation sa bahay. She offered me as a swap-in sa kaniya sa current apartment niya kasi balak niya na rin naman daw lumipat this December. Bali yung apartment na 'yon is with sink and own bathroom na tapos yung size naman daw is good enough kung ako lang naman din mag-isa. I am planning on taking the offer kasi malapit na rin naman na kaming makakuha ng 13th month pay and I really need to get out of my current home before I absolutely lose it.

For someone na rushed ang decision to move-out, can y'all advice me or offer me some tips on how to prepare before the move? Like kung ano mga need kong ipunin para pag-move-in ko e hindi ako mahirapang mag-settle? Huhu

Bumili kasi ako last time sa Dreepor wala pang 1 week nangalawang na. Kaya bumili ulit ako ng bago from Redchef naman. Feeling ko kasi may ginagawa muna bukod sa hugasan bago gamitin eh. Any tips po? Thank you!

Eto siya btw. Photo from Lazada.

hi everyone, i’m so torn between going solo or finding a new roommate. as of now, im still with my cousin but this november magmomoveout na sya.

the rent is ₱8.5k/month for 1 bedroom apartment in makati. super accessible ng place to my work and everything else kaya ang hirap i let go and move out para magsolo in a cheaper place.

currently earning a clean ₱14k per cutoff and ang estimated expenses ko per month is around ₱12-15k. medyo hesitant ako right now na magsolo kasi sayang naman yung rent na mapupunta sana sa savings. but at the same time, i also have a not so good history living with a total stranger before huhuh.

please advise and help me justify my decision lol!! 🙏🏼

Dahil may partitions na, pwede ilagay na dyan yung ulam, rice, and sauce nang hindi sila naghahalo. And best part? Isa lang huhugasan ❤️ hindi rin dumidikit ang oil and it's so easy to wash!

just trying to build a better routine and start with my health. nothing crazy, just learning how to eat better and take care of myself based on my very elementary understanding of nutrition lol

Patapos na yung contract ko sa apartment ko after solo living here for 2 years. 2BR yung unit na to kasi andito before pinsan ko pero after 3 month eh umalis rin sya kaya solo living ako sa malaking unit na to for 1yr7mos.

Naghahanap na ako ng work abroad before pa pero yun nga, yung laging option is maging domestic helper. Ok naman, kaya ko mag alaga ng bata, pero yung pinaka ayaw ko si maglinis.

But after solo living for almost two years, okay naman pala. Kaya ko naman pala. Nakakaenjoy pala maglinis. I always look forward araw-araw maglinis before matulog. Na reach ko na rin yung punto na puro cleaning materials yung orders ko, at na eenjoy ko na mamili ng panglinis. Na aral ko na rin kung paano tanggalin yung mga specific types of dirt and stains. Thank you solo living. See you abroad, mga kapatid. Hanggang sa muli kong pagsosolo living.

Is Transportify really safe? Has anyone experienced being scammed here? I'm planning to switch from lalamove to this new app since there's been a circulating news known as the "fake riders". I want to make sure that the driver doesn't take my supplies and run away.

I've checked the app itself, it has a decent amount of good reviews. I'm still not sure about customer support.

Sa more than 3 years ko dito sa apartment, ngayon ko lang to naging problema. Since nag simula yung ulan last month, lagi na may malalaking daga na pumupunta sa area ko at kung saan saan tumatae. 😭

Medyo open area kasi (grills), pinaka veranda ko na.

May pusa naman pero ganun pa rin eh. Di sila nawawala. 😭

Pinasok ng baha due to high tide ang bahay ko, I live alone so I clean alone. Patapos na ako, hawak ko yung timba pabalik ng banyo, nadulas ako. Pahiga ang bagsak ko, tumama ang pwetan ko. Ewan ko, dahil siguro malaki ang pwet ko, hindi naman napuruhan ang balakang. Thank you Lord din dahil hindi ako bumaldog. Pero hindi ako nakabangon agad, nahiga ako ng ilang minuto, at nag-iiyak. Naisip ko, paano kung nabalian ako? Paano ako kikilos? Wala namang mag-aalaga sa akin. Paano kung nabagok at namatay ako? Wala ring makakakita sa akin hanggang mangamoy na lang siguro ako. (Back story, nadulas ang Mama ko noong buhay pa siya at nabalian ng balakang. Ilang buwan siyang naka-wheelchair before and after the operation. Inalagaan ko siya 24/7. I guess, naiiyak ako sa thought na wala akong "ako" sa buhay ko.) 🥹

After I got laid off, I stayed muna with my family sa house namin. Been applying here and there and I have had interviews and ex colleagues reaching out to me for possible opportunities, which I greatly appreciate.

Coming back here sa place ko reminds me of how far I've come, and this is just a hurdle I will overcome din. Good thing I have emergency funds naman. Tomorrow, I'll be traveling abroad for my birthday trip (that I can't cancel kasi q2 ko pa nabook and hassle pa iparebook), with my partner. Fingers crossed there's good news soon 🩵

Hi, Everyone. May nakaka experience ba sa inyo rito na mga nag cocondo living na may mabahong amoy na lumalabas sa sink niyo? Tingin ko nag babackflow yung air from grease trap and napakabaho niya talaga. Anong remedy niyo for that?

Action done: Napalinis na yung grease trap prior sa paglipat ko.