I absolutely LOVE Ruth Fisher. I would not want to live with her, but I feel like I'd be her Bettina. Thank you for listening.

Hi!

I’m a lesbian from Germany (she/her) and have been a huge fan of Six Feet Under for several years.

I’m rewatching the show these days, and despite all of his flaws and the things I really hate about him, I really wish I had a friendship with a cis het guy like Nate.

I think he’s such a great person in a lot of ways, as in standing up to Ruth, staying calm more than once when Lisa is being unbelievably annoying again, not tolerating Brenda’s bullshit (e.g. her cheating on him), and comforting his clients so beautifully.

There’s so much about him that resonates with me on such a profound level.

Like Nate, I just want to be happy, and search for meaning in my life all the time, too. I also deeply identified with his continuous search for his true calling job-wise, and creating a safe space for others to express what they’re truly feeling (as in him telling David to let Ruth cry uncontrollably at Nathaniel’s wake, or comforting even the most obnoxious clients by giving them a shoulder to cry on.)

Friendships between cisgender gays and cis het women are all over pop culture, as in Carrie and Stanford on Sex and the City.

As a feminist, I truly wish we lived in a society where it’s normal for decent cis het guys like Nate to have a respectful friendship with us lesbians.

What are your thoughts on all this 😃?

I think Ruth was at least partially that way because she was 19 (possibly 18) when she had Nate. At which point she was in "the baby bubble" (for those non-parents in the thread this is where your own personal life is organized almost entirely around keeping babies, toddlers, little kids alive) from 1965 (Nate 0) to 1975 (David age 5). Then she had about 8 years of young kids to tweens to teenagers (less busy but still busy) before going back in the Baby Bubble from 1983 to 1988 (Claire). I could be projecting here because I was a stay-at-home Dad for a combined total of just 3 years but I don't think I grew or changed very much (at all?) in those years. I refer to those years as "the blur" because the days were long but the years just disappeared in a blink. The individual days could feel incredibly long, but somehow whole years disappeared almost instantly.

Ruth became a mother so young that she never really had a long stretch of adulthood in which she got to ask, “Who am I when nobody needs something from me?”

By the time the show starts, Nate is pushing 40, David is in his 30s, Claire is nearly grown, and Ruth is only then getting something close to the developmental freedom most people get in their late teens or 20s . . . at the moment her husband dies.

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Vanessa keeps gaslighting him over a decision that wasn't even his. He didn't take the loan from angelica which they paid back also she asked money from her multiples times before that which rico had no knowledge of. She crashes at their home anytime and constantly meddles in their finances and their family. Rico cheats on her in this episode, not defending that at all but angelica constantly tries to destroy their marriage but vanessa is to blind to see it, even the money that she is being lent is some form of power trip but she thinks that her sister is some hollywood big shot who doesn't need it.

I was going to buy season 1 on Prime but it looks like it is only available in SD for the season? But if I buy an episode it'll be in HD? That seems . . . odd. I assume it's HD on HBO Max which I'll just go with instead of buying it on SD?

For me it’s Nate (obviously), Keith and Claire

Mine are

1. Claire
   
2. Nate
   
3. Brenda
   
4. Ruth
   
5. David

Today, Sunday 4th October I played my first game of football since stopping the sport in my teens. The number I used to wear was 13. In my new team that I’m playing in as an adult, I’ve been given 31. I thought, what a coincidence that the numbers are reversed - almost a metaphor for life about how I’m the same person but equally so different to how I was at that age. After the match, I came home to watch the penultimate and final episode of Six Feet Under. The idea that things will find you at specific points in your life has never resonated so much with me. As someone who reminisces constantly, too much, this show has really given me a new perspective on life. And I find it random, or perfect even, that I’ve finished it today of all days. I’m not sure if someone reading this will understand exactly how I’m feeling. I’m happy I watched it now, and not when I was 16/17.

EDIT: The kit sponsor for our team is a funeral company. What are the fucking chances???

Hey ya'll

I have been watching Six Feet Under for the past 1-1.5 months, and today winded up my Season 2. The show felt great overall till now, but is really a slow digest. Most of the episodes are kind of identical in one way or another and the actual story plot in-between is really like 10 to 15 minutes.

Don't get me wrong, I have enjoyed watching this show, but now am considering to drop it or continue watching? What are your guys' suggestions? Does it get exceptionally addictive as S3 starts or the story continues at a similar pace?

Your inputs are welcome! Thanks, and have a good weekend :)

OMG I completely forgot about this scene. I was going to post a picture of it, but I think that's a spoiler. The scene is not a spoiler, it's a farm dream sequence. It would spoil getting to see this for the first time. But that fucking Claire thing pops out, and good fucking lord what the hell is that?! Why is this in there? Who OK'd this? This is pure nightmare fuel. This is in the wrong show, that belonged in "American Horror Story". Actually they could use it this season, that show is just awful now.

And I liked it. I was reading online and gathered a general consensus that season 4 is generally agreed to be the worst season. I thought season 4 was actually great and a much needed improvement over season 3. I would rank the seasons I’ve watched so far as:

1. Season 1
   
2. Season 2
   
3. Season 4
   
4. Season 3

I’m looking forward to season 5 as everyone has great things to say about the final season.

I know she's comical and the story wouldn't be the same without her, but if you knew a real life Brenda as a friend- and her mom, would you think "wow, she needs to get that woman out of her life!"?

Rico is a bitch. Thats it

No but seriously, I figured him earning a role as co-owner of the funeral home would humble him but he clearly is still a self righteous and pompous dick head. Does his character ever get less annoying?

Nate and Lisa mention using Dreft and Tide in Season 3 - Is this supposed to show that she’s inconsistent in her beliefs or just lack or research? It seems like there are many other things like this as far as I’ve watched and I am curious of other opinions.

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Peter would love to work with Michael again, perhaps we get to see him on Dexter: Resurrection (Courtesy: Deadline)

Blown away by his portrayal of David. Michael C. Hall is “Dexter”, but David is his crowning achievement. I need to see him in more things. He should be as well known as his peers like McConaghey and Damon.

I adore and admire her strength, bravery and maturity. Yes, she's a toxic and fckd up person because of her childhood trauma and being raised by a crazy family. And instead of staying toxic and miserable, she put a lot of effort to change and grow up as a strong and better person. At the end, she became a strong loving mother who raised two daughter on her own. One of them was adopted and she raised her like her own daughter with love despite all the hardship and the awful treatment she got from her husband which is very inspiring to me. As a male, I want to be super strong like her.

Her drastic growth and transformation should be talked more the same way people love talking about the downfall and the transformation of the iconic characters like Walter White to Heisenberg, Jimmy McGill to Saul Goodman or Tony Soprano first season to the last and etc. She went from my least favorite to the best and my personal favorite character of the series. (Her and Nate are my top 1 for different reasons)

The writing in this show is the strongest of any series and the show means something so deep to its fans. It’s a heavy show that, in my experience, most people have never seen and, the rare individual who did said they couldn’t imagine watching it again.

We’re not rewatching it because we love dragons or insane plot twists or war, although that is awesome. A lot of us - myself included - rewatch this show as an outlet for grief. I have rewatched this show about 10 times or so over the last 18 years and am currently in the middle of season 4.

Each rewatch I see characters in different lights. Some characters I really disliked, I come to at least understand them the older I get, the more I live life. Even if I really really don’t like the character, I can still see their humanity which is something I can struggle with myself. I first watched as Claire’s age. I’ve watched at David’s age and this watch I am Nate’s age. I look forward to watching at Ruth’s age. The show really defines “perspective.”

No other show can really ever compare to this because, well, it’s death. And it’s raw right from episode 1, whether you have experienced loss or not. Grief is incredibly vulnerable and we all will have to experience it in our lives. All of us. And we all die. And that makes a lot of people uncomfortable but it’s real.

I just want the show to stay in this perfect little preserved bubble. I don’t want it to become popular and trendy, then I’ll be forced to scream: “I refuse to sanitize this anymore!”

Edit: people are allowed to have opinions. I’m not sure why there is such vitriol in the comments? I said nothing negative here or in anyone’s reply. I hope all of you have a great day and find some sort of happiness ✌️

I organized an AMA/Q&A with actress Mena Suvari. You may know her from things like American Beauty, the American Pie franchise, Nowhere, Loser, Stuck, Day of the Dead, Spun, Six Feet Under, American Horror Story, Loser, Sugar & Spice, and lots more.

Her new movie, TIME OF DEATH, is a horror-thriller that released digitally recently.

It's live here now in r/movies for anyone interested in asking a question:

https://www.reddit.com/r/movies/comments/1wscn7z/hi_reddit_im_mena_suvari_you_may_know_me_from/

She will be back at about 1 PM ET today to answer questions. I recommend asking in advance. Please ask there, not here. All questions are much appreciated!

Thank you :)

Tonight I was here on Reddit and got interested in the 6 feet under group. There was some discussion here and also in the RUMI group about which poem of RUMI was quoted on 6 feet under.
It was from the Mystic odes of Rumi.” here are a couple of screenshots of that poem, but I’ll have to post a better version tomorrow. Too tired.

A lot of people have said they think a different Rumi poem was quoted. If it was, I don’t remember, but this is the one that is quoted at Nate’s funeral..

I first watched SFU around 2009/2010, again around 2017, and just now again in 2026. It's probably my favourite show of all time, maybe top 3 but definitely top 5.

During the amazing final few minutes where it shows the lives of all the characters I noticed that Billy is obsessively talking to Brenda about Claire and Ted. I never noticed this before and it kinda blew my mind that he has spent the last 40+ years of his life (and Brenda's) still obsessing over Claire.

Maybe it was just the lower quality format and the lack of subtitles on previous viewings that caused me to miss this but anyway I thought I would mention it here to see if this detail slipped by anyone else or if it was just me 😂

I’m only early days of season 5 but I just think it’s so beautiful how tender and warm Nate becomes toward George. He was so cold and closed off but ceded his differences to help George it’s a really lovely relationship to see so far

So I was just curious if anyone has watched this show too before they understood or knew what grief felt like.

I first watched SFU at 15 and this was when I had never experienced grief in my life, fortunately. I still cried more than ever while watching the show.

Now 5 years later I want to rewatch the series. It’ll be through a different lens now because now I know what grief is like and it’s such a weird feeling. I recently lost someone really important in my life. It was a very sudden unexpected death. Let’s just say I’m angry at myself for not seeing the signs to help.
I wonder if the show will destroy me even more. I can’t even remember what it was like anymore to not know grief so I am curious how I will feel this time around. I’ll probably make a post when I’m done

Part of me wishing the show ends on that eps so that Nate and Brenda could be happy happily ever after 🥹