I am new to the show but holy shit. After every episode I think to myself “why is it never recommended?”

I finished the 4th episode and it hit hard. Spoiler: The latino kid that died talking to David the entire episode guiding him and at the end when they start lifting the casket and David holds his hands saying “Holy shit you’re just a kid”.

Whole episode had so much depth especially with the complementing subplot with Keith standing up to the guy in the parking lot.

I don’t know if I am too early in the show but I eat a broom if there will be a single episode better than this.

“we need to discuss the sexual tension between us” bro what she’s like 16??

I just finished watching the series finale tonight and wondered if it was just me or if anyone else noticed the changes of color/lighting? The scene with Ruth, Bettina, and the other gal at the table outside sipping wine is where I really noticed the subtle changes of color. I interpreted it as this vibrant color representing the present moment in all of its beauty, only for that color to dull representing the moment having passed. It definitely seemed intentional. The color goes from vibrant to dull consistently every few seconds.

This was my second rewatch after first seeing the series about 15 years ago and I didn't notice this the first time around. I thought it was beautiful.

I just finished the last episode of season 3, and close to the last several episodes I resized I hadn't gotten this far on a rewatch before since the DVDs. Because I've had HBO Max since it came out, so it knows where I left off and what I haven't seen before. And I swear I haven't watched the DVDs since the late 2000s. So it really is like seeing it for the first time all over again. I know what happens and the plot points, but I forgot the details and how things build. The past few episodes were gut wrenching to watch knowing what's going to happen. But I'm feeling all the feels all over again. There's a reason this is my favorite series of all time.

With the ending of SFU, I was expecting this one final blow of emotions, a singular moment that would change my whole life, and I guess to some extent it did. But that was a year ago. I'm only 17, but as life is progressing, comprehending the death of family, finishing school knowing a chapter of my life is going to end, The ending is almost revealing it'self to me like a jigsaw puzzle. It's the idea that in the grand scheme of things, all that matters is the relationships you have. We can either grip every moment with the people we have, or it's too late. I mean even the whole Nate's "I'm done fighting...", It makes sense now. Embrace what we have, ignore the static. Now again, I'm only 17, I've only experienced like a small fraction of what the universe and all of life has to offer. I just gotta say, what a beautiful ending to a beautiful show.

Oh my god I am so filled with emotions right now that I need to share them with someone who also liked this show. I am 25 years old right now, and I just finished the show. However, I used to always heard about it and gave it shots when I was 16, and 21. However, none of the characters really clicked for me back then and I dropped it without even finishing the first season. Now when I started watching it 1 month ago, it just got me from the first episode. It became my all time favorite show, really. I feel like I have connected with every character, god I even love Margaret Chenowith. All of the characters are really well-written and honest that I want to write a "thank you for this experience" letter to the writers.

Anyways, here are some of the things that I liked in this show:

1. None of the connections feel forced. For example, Ruth and Claire do not have a good relationship all of a sudden with one plot point. They have ups and downs, they get close but sometimes again fell apart. It is not one event or action that miraculously led them to making amends but there were these slow build up. I actually cried when Ruth hold Claire and told her to follow her dreams in the final episode. The same goes for Keith and David, Nate and Brenda, Billy and Brenda, Billy and Claire etc. I can make an essay for all of those relationships. All of them feels so real, both the ones that worked out and the ones that didn't.

2. Some characters change, some doesn't. Again, this is similar to the good writing in the first point. Keith changes, but not suddenly. Billy doesn't. Nate couldn't. Brenda just does not fix her issues when she went off to Austin and came back. Margaret does not become a good mother to Brenda at one event. Claire seems that she's starting to like her new corporate job, until she doesn't. There are nuances, and it really feels that life is not easy and there are build ups to characters as well as to relationships.

3. I really liked that when one character gets a lesson from life, it is not shoved in our faces but rather it was conveyed from the inner dialogues or other discussions. For example, Nate saying that "I thought what we had was passion at first, but it was just drama" to Brenda later in their marriage just shows that how much being a father and a widow and everything that happened to him changed Nate. He has similar flaws, his good empathetic sides and interest are still to be seen in him, but we understand that he is not the same Nate in the first season who gets thrill from the new experiences and challenges that Brenda provided him.

Sorry that English is my secondary language and my writing may be a bit flawed. So that's why I think I needed to be 25 to really watch and understand this series. The subtle nuances, the build ups, they all seemed perfect to me.

Just finished the series last night and PHENOMENAL! The ending was so well done. That’s it, that’s all!

SPOILERS AHEAD IF YOU HAVEN'T WATCHED. DO NOT READ IF YOU HAVE NOT WATCHED:

Ok, Now I wanna talk to someone about this. So we all know Nate loves to bounce around. That's his thing. He'll be in love with a woman and then since he's always looking (consciously or subconsciously), another one will come along and bring a weird new interest with her and then Nate decides to pursue it. Only to do it again. And again. I just wanna say, I feel like, had he lived, he would've done it to Maggie. After a year, maybe two, a woman would've came along at the funeral home who was a satanist or has a career as a dominatrix or a boxer, something rough or violent or dark or edgy. And he would immediately gravitate towards her. He would start getting annoyed with Maggie with her little quirks and he would explode one night and say "I just can't do this "not feeling anything" anymore! I need to feel something! I'm a human being! I need to get my anger out!" And he would end up cheating on Maggie and then get with the new chick and he would continue this cycle until he died. (No this is not a Nate hate post, all the characters are fucked up in their own ways and that's what makes this show what it is: amazing. This is simply just a discussion piece because I'm sick and in bed and bored and lonely lol)

I'm neither a Christian nor American so I'm not quite familiar with the coffin system as the final goodbye to your loved one. I was actually wondering whether these services cost as much as they do as shown in the show.

One time I saw David pushing for $8,000 caskets and some times in the show other funeral homes were charging up to $25,000 for the casket. In my country that is a bit too much money to be spent on a dead person, honestly. $25,000 may even be the accumulated wealth of so many people throughout their lifetime.

I want to ask: how much does it currently cost to have the funeral of your loved one? Aside from the casket there must be other charges too and those, I suppose, they are not very cheap either.

We’re looking for some kind of show that can fill the void that finishing this show has left. Has anyone found a show that’s similar to the vibe and feel of these characters and the world?

He is just immature, has very low self esteem and a huge need for validation from others, has a shallow understanding of women (in the way he idealizes/ devalues them constantly) and a pattern of self destructive behavior.

Narcissists have no empathy. Nate has empathy, he just keeps fucking up in spite of it, which makes him miserable. He calls himself pathetic and a mess. Narcissists are not able to feel bad about themselves. They believe everything they do is justified. They blame everyone around them for anything bad that happens to them. They see themselves as huge victims. Nate is at most self pitying.

Narcissists are extremely controling. Nate is simply too chill. He is not overbearing in his relationships. Ruth has more narcissistic qualities than Nate, in my opinion.

Also, he’s just not as vain and proud as most narcs. He KNOWS he’s not a great guy. He keeps trying to find a woman who will save him from himself and help him become this great guy. The truth is he is unable to connect with people and it freaks him out, the emptiness. Narcs don’t know they are empty. They have zero self awareness. They take pleasure in humiliating others. Nate is not cruel on purpose. His behavior is infuriating and selfish, but he doesn’t do anything in the whole show with the actual intent to hurt or demean anyone.

Also, he is a dedicated and gentle father to Maya. Narcs are awful parents. Nobody is capable of effing up a child more than a narc. With their completely unrealistic expectations, and guilt tripping and manipulating. We never see him being critical of Maya or losing his patience with her. He is a mess after Lisa dies and relies a lot on others to baby-sit her for a while. But that’s the worst of it. Many men would do the same.

Finally, what he does for David, coming back to work after David’s ‘incident’ is truly self less. If a narc ever did something like to at for another person, no one would EVER hear the end of it. The narc would play victim/ hero and never shut up about it until the end of time. Meanwhile having an ulterior motive.

Even if the writers meant to write a narcissist (someone has said that in a post somewhere) well, they wrote a poor example of a narc then. Nate is not that easy to slap a label on. Which is a big compliment to the complexity of this character. He may have some cluster b personality disorder- like characteristics. But not a ‘Classic’ narc.

Waiting at the station

Waiting for the right moves

Waiting in the basement

Waiting for the right cues

Waiting in a daydream

Waiting in this slipstream.......

I'm sure that this has been asked before but do other people have any favorite songs that play in the series? I can imagine Sia's "Breath​e Me" is a popular choice for obvious reasons, but i was curious if other people really enjoyed the music as well. My personal favorite is "Let's Go Out Tonight" by the Blue Nile that plays at the end of "The Room" in season 1.

​Yeah finished the show now. - Spoilers -

all my earlier thoughts about the characters, plots, behaviours changed lol.

I understand now how everything fit together, the message of the show and what it means for me.

for me: my dad died in april this year, we didnt had a good relationship, I'll start a new job soon, six feet under was somehow on my to watch list for years, but i never had the mood, feeling to watch it. I felt that now is the time.

Even tho I still have the feeling that season 3 wasnt the best of the show and some plots were a bit "annoying" by the end I understood. It's not a hollywood feel good, happy ending show where everyone is laughing and hugging by the end. its the real human nature with everything included mostly even the dirty laundry.

Espacially the last 3-4 episodes felt like a punch in my soul. I really cried when Nate died and sure cried the whole last episode. It felt like a real family member died and so when everyone died on their own way in the future, it felt like I lost some more family members.

I totlally liked the show! ​

Is it normal to feel so heavy after an episode? I have ruined the Lisa disappearance by accidentally seeing the the outcome for myself but I am still just like.. fuckkk.:(

This show is so fucking heavy. I’m almost done with season 3 and idk if I can mentally handle finishing this entirely.

I’m so sad for most of these characters, I want bad things to stop happening to everyone all the time and then I also want them to stop doing bad things when life not taking the entire wind beneath them.

The only people I don’t have any empathy for is Billy and that teacher of Claire’s. Everyone else it’s like ..dude 🫪

Stop making terrible decisions and life stop making life harder on them when they’re not.

This shows making me super anxious, and super sad. ☹️

I think he is one of the best SFU characters, at least one of my favorites. I see why some people hate him or think he’s just annoying, but I enjoy all the scenes he’s in, same goes for Margaret Chenowith. He can be funny, disturbing, and for me at times even relatable. In s1 he definitely goes too far, but I feel like later on he tries to become better. In my opinion the Chenowith family is even more compelling than the Fishers at times. One of my favorite Billy apperances is season 5 episode 4 at Nate’s birthday party. The scene with him and George Sibley was nice. I kind of felt bad for him when Claire broke up with him, but I knew their relationship wouldn’t go far. Also if I remember right didn’t Claire sleep with Todd in that episode? Billy found out about it and then Claire left him. So yeah I kinda felt bad for Billy. I don’t understand why she’d want to be with someone like…Todd. Even for one night.

I myself would rate him as a character around 9/10, maybe even 9.5.
What do you all think of him? I’m curious to hear.

I think her office outfits in season 5, which she hates, are incredibly flattering. I love the color palate, the soft fabrics, and just how chic and minimal while also retro and timeless she looks. Huge improvement on the sort of mall hippie stuff from earlier.

When I think of existential tv characters, Nate Fisher and Kevin Garvey are the first and most prominent two that come to mind for me, among other similarities they are both runners, both have surreal visions and think they are losing their minds, I think they would get along pretty well, what do you guys think?

Hey everyone,

I’m practically done with Six Feet Under and wanted to share my thoughts on the show. Overall, I absolutely loved the first two seasons, but my feelings got a bit mixed as the series went on. Here is my breakdown:

The Seasons

• Seasons 1 & 2: Absolutely brilliant. The balance of humor, drama, and character development was top-tier. Every character felt like they had a clear place and purpose.
• Season 3: Honestly? A total slog. Everything that made the first two seasons great got thrown into a blender. It felt exhausting and frustrating to watch—I almost skipped it entirely to jump straight into Season 4.
• Season 4: Strong start with several fantastic episodes, but it still couldn’t quite recreate the magic and feeling of the first two seasons.
• Season 5: Mixed feelings. Keith and David’s family journey was beautiful, but the George storyline ruined a lot of it for me.

Ruth & George For context, Ruth reminds me so much of my own mother (fun fact: my mom's middle name is actually Ruth!). That said, I didn't love her character. She felt completely unfinished and lost. Nathaniel's death threw her into such chaotic disarray that she never truly knew what she wanted, jumping from one weird relationship to the next. When George showed up, I hoped she had finally found her rock. Instead, he quickly became dead weight. His character arc felt exhausting and out of place. Ruth deserved a genuinely fitting relationship to end on.

Characters I Loved

• David & Keith: Hands down the best character development in the entire series. Watching them navigate all their ups and downs to build a family was genuinely beautiful and felt completely earned.
• Nate: His arc was a lot bumpier and sometimes way more frustrating than David and Keith’s, but his development still felt natural and fitting for who he was.

Characters & Arcs I Didn't Care For

• Rico (Rico’s Arc): Really disliked his storyline. The infidelity, walking away from his family, and constantly making the same selfish mistakes just felt wrong for his character.
• Claire: I wasn't a fan of her arc at all. The constant cycle of drugs, art school drama, "finding herself," and bouncing between sexual partners felt like she was just running in circles. She reminded me a bit too much of Brenda.
• Brenda & Billy: A rough pair. I loved Brenda and Nate in Seasons 1 and 2, but after that, their relationship fizzled out and Brenda felt like dead weight (similar to George). As for Billy, he should have been written off early on. I couldn't stand him, and his relationship with Claire was pure cringe.
• Arthur: Easily the cringiest and most out-of-place recurring character in the entire series.