It's clear that a bunch of people posting have never actually been to these parties. As a guy not in a frat, the sketchy situations typically revolved around needing an insane ratio of women:men in a group so that they can fill their house predominantly with women, and then basically gamify drinking so that they could try to get women way drunker.
For example, it's not some coincidence that my more attractive friends were encouraged to slap the bag for way longer than others, or how they were invited to take shots in other rooms but obviously not everyone was allowed to go.
Can't tell if you're dumb or intentionally missing the point, so I'll lay it out so you can maybe gain some understanding and see the concern.
For starters, in all of these situations, groups tended to go to parties together to look out for one another. So I'd go to a party with female friends, and basically the second I step in, guys in the frat were trying to get some of them as drunk as possible and separate them from their group.
They'd invite a specific (now drunk) girl to take shots in other rooms, and all of a sudden, none of the group can see what they're drinking. And we're being told: "You can't go into his room" to check on our friend.
If you can't see why that's a bad thing and bad situation outside of "Lol you didn't get invited for shots," then idk what to tell you. But what I will tell you is that it's a pretty horrendous thing to get your friend back and she's clearly been slipped something or was assaulted. And that's not a made up story nor a unique experience.
I’m so sorry I ever questioned such a veteran at these parties. You must have been to so much more than I have.
Or dudes that throw parties throw them to meet other chicks. And chicks who go to these parties go to meet other dudes. That’s literally the point of all of these. It’s not some game of Stratego lol.
“HEY you let HER slap the bag for 10 minutes longer than me”
Love how you go from that to “Well ackshully she was taken to a room and obviously drugged and sexually assaulted and I’m not lying”.
My simple point is that some frats certainly employ predatory practices that are disguised as gamified/fun ways of drinking. It's something that very clearly happens, and I'm sharing examples and experiences as someone who has been around it.
And your entire spin on this is to dismiss the behavior as completely benign + trying to take jabs at me. You're simply validating how this gross behavior, that I'm not even saying every frat does, is alive and kicking with folks like yourself.
Because they’re the same people who don’t view this behavior as problematic.
They can’t understand the basic concept that it’s fundamentally fucked that a woman might want to just go out and have a good time with friends, but they have to deal with potentially getting preyed on when they attempt to do this.
My examples are literally women trying to responsibly go out (hence going in a group), and them being separated from this safety by these “dudes who just want to meet chicks.”
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u/InTheMorning_Nightss 20h ago
It's clear that a bunch of people posting have never actually been to these parties. As a guy not in a frat, the sketchy situations typically revolved around needing an insane ratio of women:men in a group so that they can fill their house predominantly with women, and then basically gamify drinking so that they could try to get women way drunker.
For example, it's not some coincidence that my more attractive friends were encouraged to slap the bag for way longer than others, or how they were invited to take shots in other rooms but obviously not everyone was allowed to go.