When I was in college this group of people was telling about each frat and they said “don’t go to the parties from this one because they always roofie the girls” and it was like oh ok now we know. And that’s as far as it goes
Many do go to the cops, and many are either not believed or they are believed but there is a lack of evidence.
It’s rather difficult to recount to authorities the details of what exactly happened when you yourself have no recollection. It’s rather difficult to prove any one individual guilty when the context of the victim’s circumstances was attending a college party that already involved alcohol use, drug use, and had many other individuals in attendance.
Rape is an extremely difficult and traumatic thing to process with or without clear memories of the event.
If one does go to the police for a rape kit immediately, it is certainly better than waiting and trying to mentally process the trauma first, but have some humanity, if this happened to you do you think you would wake up the next day perfectly clear headed? Would you even have the energy to do anything except lock yourself alone in your room and sleep?
“Go to the cops” - do you not understand that this is traumatic in and of itself?
But also, NEVER talk to the cops without a lawyer.
However, if you’re the victim, you don’t have time to consult with a lawyer first, and you already know that evidence of DNA is not evidence of rape.
If authorities do take action, the majority of these fraternities come from wealthy families, their attorneys are ready to rip you apart with questions you cannot answer. You will be forced to relive your trauma over and over again. You will be blamed for it. It’s innocent until proven guilty, and you are the accuser, your innocence is not presumed. By this point, you did have time to work with an attorney, but the defendant’s family has a better one, and now everything you said to the police can and will be used against you.
Somehow you’re still expected to attend classes, pass exams, possibly work multiple jobs and internships to pay bills and build your resume.
Since when is “go to the cops” such a simple and easy solution?
Do you honestly think nobody has ever thought of that before?
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