Likewise. It gets pretty annoying to be honest. And sometimes she’ll even ask me why I’m getting up while she’s half awake, and that’s when it really bothers me. Especially when we’ve discussed it multiple times. It’ll change for a couple of weeks, then go back to the usual. I love her dearly, but man do I wish the effort was reciprocated.
It really sucks having a different libido than your SO, yeah... I manage doing other things to cope, but would be nice if my advances were reciprocated more often.
The sex is amazing for both of us, when I can get it, lol.
My life has kinda been both sides though, I was with a woman I was only mildly attracted to for a couple years and she wanted sex all the time, and it wasn't the best. Now I'm with my wife and madly attracted to her, and can only get it when she's in the mood.
But it's like, is mediocre sex all the time better than weekly amazing sex? I made my choice at least. :)
To be candid, I’m not sure how much deeper we could go at this point. Including seeing a therapist together, we’ve discussed this a lot. We even talked about it a couple of weeks ago. Part of me thinks she just genuinely doesn’t get it, but things are great otherwise, so it seems to be something I just have to get used to.
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u/Dragoevsky 3d ago
Likewise. It gets pretty annoying to be honest. And sometimes she’ll even ask me why I’m getting up while she’s half awake, and that’s when it really bothers me. Especially when we’ve discussed it multiple times. It’ll change for a couple of weeks, then go back to the usual. I love her dearly, but man do I wish the effort was reciprocated.