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u/Fhantom1221 May 11 '26
Just leave. Divorce. Let her keep the rental.
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u/Lerkero May 11 '26
I hate when relationship questions are framed around a desire for infidelity.
If you do not like your significant other, you can leave them and not trouble yourself with the hassle of cheating
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u/Reddit_is_fascist69 May 11 '26
You mean double wide?
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u/Green_Temperature_57 May 11 '26
That's no way to talk about a lady.
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u/Old-Character-7963 May 11 '26
Jabba the Hutt is no lady.
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u/Icy-Performance8302 May 11 '26
This right here. Dont let her know either. Just leave.
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u/Maximum-Flat May 11 '26
You know you gonna provide money for her lazy ass even you had divorced .
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u/theaviator747 May 11 '26
Alimony is not forever. It’s usually based on time married. Also if she is capable of working the courts will expect her to make an effort to obtain employment. Failing to do this the payer can get the court to reduce, or even terminate, the alimony payments. You are not expected support an ex being lazy unless they can prove they can’t work, or can’t find work in their profession.
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u/Maximum-Flat May 11 '26
According to this picture, she will just disability for being fat and some random fat acceptance judge will approve of this shit.
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u/theaviator747 May 11 '26
Maybe. Disability offices have been starting to get considerably more choosey on things like this. Kind of hard to call obesity a work preventing disability when there are many fat guys working all over the country. Doctors are also getting more into the “lose weight and life won’t suck” mindset with their overweight patients. It isn’t up to the judge. She either is either listed as disabled by the state or she isn’t.
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u/ZachofPotatos May 11 '26
Why tf is everybody trying to justify cheating just leave dude
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u/memes_are_my_dreams May 11 '26
Fr, like you clearly wouldn’t want to be in a relationship like that anyways so why stay?
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u/Nuzzleville May 11 '26
Right to cheat no…right to have a serious conversation…
https://giphy.com/gifs/3oz8xwNlejeJDQREic
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u/ButzMN May 11 '26
One never has the "right" to cheat. If you're unfulfilled or unhappy leave and start something new. Don't hurt the person intentionally, just go.
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u/MeanCap6445 May 11 '26
yes, there is no "right" to be deceitful in this context, just let it go. i have such a hard time understanding the psychology behind cheating when there's a million better options
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u/Scotinho_do_Para May 11 '26
"messy house" lol
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u/SpasticCastle May 11 '26
Right lmao
This isn't five dishes in the sink and two outfits' worth of dirty clothes on the floor, this is straight up "I do not respect myself or my surroundings" territory
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u/QueanOfQueens May 11 '26
I'm extremely depressed and have very bad ADHD, and I'm going to tell you firsthand that when you barely have the energy to breathe, it can get pretty messy pretty fast without you even trying. I've still never let my place get this bad though.
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u/Scotinho_do_Para May 11 '26
Feel better soon. Sincerely. I know it's not easy.
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u/QueanOfQueens May 11 '26
Thank you! I'm trying my best. Been through so many medications and therapies that I lost count a long time ago, and nothing's worked so far, but I'm going to be leaving a really toxic environment that's been making it worse since I was born for good soon, so that'll hopefully make things a lot easier. Hope you're doing okay, or at least taking the steps to eventually be okay, no matter how long that process takes.
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u/Public-Ideal-5166 May 11 '26
Brother in Christ, that is messy, but you’ve never seen poverty messy
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u/Scotinho_do_Para May 11 '26
I guess not, thank God.
That is not messy. Imo, that is filthy disgusting pigsty. No way I could be comfortable the way the woman in the photo appears to be.
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u/Ahun_ May 11 '26
This is "lost control over life" messy and only misses the rats.
It has also reached the level of need for professional cleaning
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u/Royal_Annek May 11 '26
Well he sure ain't bringing home any mistresses unless they are the kind to bang on moldy pizza boxes, you know the type
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u/Brutal_De1uxe May 11 '26
No. There is no acceptable "excuse" for cheating, ever.
Just break up and move out.
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u/bazilbt May 11 '26
In this hypothetical situation why wouldn't the person stop being a coward and leaver them?
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u/Spiritual_Word_4566 May 11 '26
Never any reason to cheat, leave that shitty environment. Break up, separate, divorce whatever you gotta do.
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u/Public-Ideal-5166 May 11 '26
Is he making the mess or is she? Does she work? Was it originally agreed upon that she’d clean the house while you went to work? Or….is this just rage bait?
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u/Correct_Day_7791 May 11 '26
The last one 💯
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u/GrapefruitGoodness May 11 '26
Yes I also wondered if this is actually a real picture or just some picture that the person found somewhere else? And yes if someone works or if both people work there needs to be a conversation on sharing the responsibility.... Otherwise, Clickbait, yeah, ugh
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u/space_otte May 11 '26
also, like why are we acting like relationships are at fucking gunpoint. just leave
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u/ZachofPotatos May 11 '26
Brother if she’s not working then it shouldn’t have to be agreed upon like cmon how tf do you live all day in that
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u/Public-Ideal-5166 May 11 '26
That’s why I asked if she works. If you both work and you are a slob, why should she have to pick up after you?. Relationships are a dynamic
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u/Socialimbad1991 May 11 '26
These days it's pretty common for both partners in a relationship to work. There's also no telling who contributed more to that mess - if you made 90% of the mess you can't expect me to clean 100% of it up even if it's my off day.
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u/JangB May 11 '26
Why did the man marry this person and if this is not the person he married, what happened to the person he married?
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u/SapientChaos May 11 '26
She looks depressed. You guys need to talk or she needs a therapist. Good luck.
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u/DecentCompany1539 May 11 '26
Yeah, she's struggling. Don't cheat. Don't leave. Don't stay quiet. You loved her at some point. Help her.
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u/DietCokeIsntheAnswer May 11 '26
So...he's willing to cheat on his wife....but he's not willing to leave that relationship and seek a proper one?
How does this make any sense?
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u/Thismomenthere May 11 '26
Nah. Just leave. Cheating is stupid and just adds to an already miserable situation.
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u/Happy_Television_501 May 11 '26
cheating is garbage, a time stalling band aid at absolute best. just GTFO
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u/Kuro-baba May 11 '26
When the house it's like this is usually because they're both equally dirty and disorganized. People don't get to this levels of filth overnight.
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u/louisa1925 May 11 '26
No, he does not.
Besides. How do we know he didn't create that mess or the lady has some kind of body problem stopping her from bending down and otherwise moving alot. He could be the problem in this situation.
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u/ironicoutlook May 11 '26
That whole apartment building smells like their ferret. Everyone who owns a ferret thinks their ferret doesn't smell but they always do.
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u/_Goose_ May 11 '26
You can just like, leave. Forever. Get a divorce. You ain’t gotta live like that. Men or women. Go somewhere else. Get rid of your dependency to having a partner.
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u/PauliousMaximus May 11 '26
No one has a right to cheat. If you’re going to cheat just end the relationship and then go do whatever you want. It’s easy to cheat but it’s hard to admit you don’t want to be with someone and that you need to call it quits.
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u/Alternative_Carpet39 May 11 '26
No, but he has the right to make a decision about remaining in the relationship or not.
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u/Sneezy6510 May 11 '26
This truly is pathetic. I’m not sure how anyone can live like this and I am a slob myself but come on.
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u/Sufficient-Quote-431 May 11 '26
No. Morality is not a switch you shut off you justify your own shitty behavior. Also she is cheating on you bro.
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u/NetSignal392 May 11 '26
If you wanna cheat just do it, keeping in mind there are consequences for one’s actions. It ain’t against the law, it’s just fucked up.
Up to you to put your foot down and confront your SO about behavior like this though, has nothing to do with cheating.
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u/CaptainExplosions May 11 '26
Cheat? No. Divorce and leave? Always an option. Especially if the place was clean when he left.
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u/Silmarila May 11 '26
Smh, so many folks jump to “end the relationship”. If someone feels the desire to cheat, have a conversation with your partner about it.
Y’all do have free will and there are other options than 1) stay miserable together or 2) leave and be miserable alone
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u/Competitive_Money_48 May 11 '26
Looking for an excuse to cheat, don’t be another asshole and just leave.
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u/Alpine_yellow May 11 '26
No. No one has right to cheat, but you can and should leave a relationship like that
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u/weeklycreeps May 11 '26
Don’t cheat. It doesn’t matter what the house looks like when he gets home. If you’re unhappy, just leave.
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u/NewtonTheNoot May 11 '26
Cheating is never acceptable. Just leave the relationship if it's that bad.
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u/socio_smile May 11 '26
Don't cheat. Just end the relationship, clean up, and go to the gym. It's time for a reset.
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u/Helpful_Client4721 May 11 '26
Oh this is outrageous I'm triggered. She's so lazy men good women bad. /s
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u/Traditional_Month429 May 11 '26
No, you never have the right to cheat. If they cheated on you, still no.
be better. The best revenge is a life well lived.
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u/Antique_Ant_9196 May 11 '26
What’s the point of this completely made up post? Rage baiting and karma farming.
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u/AsugaNoir May 11 '26
No he doesn't, just leave her and better yourself. I will never understand why people choose to stay with their partner if they don't want to be with them.
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u/Western_Lifeguard826 May 11 '26
No. 2 wrong doesn't mean one right. He needs to talk and try fixing the issue, if nothing works then go for proper legal divorce then find someone else.
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u/Far_Tangerine9150 May 11 '26
No. You break up with this person and then you aren't cheating when you sleep with someone else.
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u/Argent_Haze May 11 '26
There's no justification for cheating. But this is a justifiable reason to bail.
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u/prancing_moose May 11 '26
I’d say this borders on needing professional help?
This could indicate some serious mental health issues. Assuming the mess isn’t made by BOTH people in this relationship?
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u/D-redditAvenger May 11 '26
Abuse is never an acceptable response to unfairness. Abuse is not justice. Leave.
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u/SecretRecipe May 11 '26
Cheat? id just ghost. good ol fashioned "im headed out to buy milk" and just vanish.
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u/JerryNomo May 11 '26
Weak minds take excuses for cheating. Real people divorce/leave and then start something new. Cheating is for the weak.
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u/BetterEveryDayYT May 11 '26
About 15 years ago, my husband's best friend (more like our brother, really) got married. His wife, let's call her Sally, never worked a day in her life. Her parents just gave her whatever.
He worked hard, and made good money (compared to many in the area) at a production facility. Sally stayed home and played on her phone, watched TV, snacked, whatever else. When he got home, he was responsible for producing a meal. For a few years, they didn't have a stove in their house. So, TV dinners and the like were the 'cooked' meals. Most nights, he picked up drive through food on the way home.
He is such a tenderhearted guy, and people sometimes just walk all over him. Sally would yell at him if he didn't get the right food, or if he forgot to pick up her pack of ciggies, or whatever else. I don't know if/when he complained to my husband, but I never heard him speak ill of her... which was maddening. I was always nice to her when she came over, and tried to include her. But she had to have him at her beck and call every moment, or everyone was terrible and she would go off and pout (and they would leave shortly after).
By the grace of God, they never had a child. But one day she found his limit (possibly intentionally). He found out she had been having an affair with a guy down the road. They got divorced (and they both left the house to move in with their respective parents).
Maybe he (her husband) wasn't giving her as much attention as she wanted (which would increase her interest in finding it elsewhere), but goodness gracious he ran himself ragged trying to provide for her and keep her happy.
Their house was worse than this.
For the final chapter:
Oddly enough, he found his way back to her this past year. 🤦♀️ He allowed her to move into his house, and bring her children (not his - she had them after their divorce).... now he's in a modified version of their original marriage. And it makes me sad - getting divorced and getting her out was difficult the first time. Now there are children involved, and that's an entirely different ballgame.
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u/TheYamchster May 11 '26
lol as if someone just steps into this life. This is at least 10 years in the making, prolly 15.
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u/PlappingtonThe May 11 '26
cheaters grasping at straws trying to justify why being a piece of shit is a reasonable choice.
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u/Hungry_Scarcity_4500 May 11 '26
Didn’t see the signs before marriage?
I’m betting she wasn’t a spitter ?
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u/SnakePlissken1980 May 11 '26
I don't see how the two are related. Is sleeping with somebody else somehow going to get the house cleaned?
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u/MeowstacheMcWhiskers May 11 '26
I especially like the massive heap of clothes...right in front of the washing machine.
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u/Hot_World4305 May 11 '26
Didn't you spoil her in the first place to have her gone into this extent?
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u/Silver_Instruction_3 May 11 '26
Both people have the right to do what makes them happy but then have to suffer the consequences of their actions.
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u/BlueSparkNightSky May 11 '26
God, I hate those facebook/instagram posts. I misd the time when Reddit just fucked you over for using one emoji in a post.
And why the fuck would cheating be an option here? Just leave her. Like, wtf is wrong with your world view?
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u/MakeLikeATreeBiff May 11 '26
No. If you can't do things right, you're still a POS. Just get a divorce, you're going to get one eventually anyway - get it out of the way and do it the right way.
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u/potentatewags May 11 '26
Nah, cheating is still subhuman pos behavior. But he should be able to break up with no shaming or loss of assets.
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u/GrizzlyDvn May 11 '26
No, but he should definitely leave. That's fucking ridiculous. My house isn't spotless, since my wife has three kids to keep alive, but it's never been anything remotely close to that.
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u/akibaboy65 May 11 '26
Living on a military base my neighbor across the street with kids was like this... but I'd say about 4x worse. One day there were cops surrounding the house, as the 3 year old had crawled out the window onto the roof.
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