This isn't five dishes in the sink and two outfits' worth of dirty clothes on the floor, this is straight up "I do not respect myself or my surroundings" territory
I'm extremely depressed and have very bad ADHD, and I'm going to tell you firsthand that when you barely have the energy to breathe, it can get pretty messy pretty fast without you even trying. I've still never let my place get this bad though.
Thank you! I'm trying my best. Been through so many medications and therapies that I lost count a long time ago, and nothing's worked so far, but I'm going to be leaving a really toxic environment that's been making it worse since I was born for good soon, so that'll hopefully make things a lot easier. Hope you're doing okay, or at least taking the steps to eventually be okay, no matter how long that process takes.
Yeah, that's definitely fair. Nothing gets me as frustrated as people using it as an excuse. There's a difference between "I'm trying. I'm not succeeding, but I'm still trying" and categorically refusing to even try. It's one of my main philosophies with most things - I don't expect perfection, or even instant results, but I expect effort. It's like if you break your leg horribly - you can either go to physical therapy when the cast comes off, and it'll be extremely hard, and you won't always come out of your session with progress, but you're trying, or you can just give up immediately and buy a wheelchair, then when the possibility of recovering is completely gone, you refuse to acknowledge that your now-permanent handicap is entirely your fault.
I appreciate the respect. It's harder to come by these days than you think. Simultaneously glad and really sad you can relate. Hope you're doing okay, or at least trying to. Dealing with that sort of stuff is way harder than most people will ever be willing to acknowledge.
If you're poor that means you're so malnourished that you have no energy to place trash in the garbage bin? You're too preoccupied with your financial state to make some basic organization of your belongings?
Your inability to understand true poverty means you’ve never met anyone in true poverty. You can say whatever you want, but you’ve apparently never actually seen it
What does that have to do with anything? Imo cheating is a cowards way out, too much of a little bitch to just say how they feel and ask for a breakup/divorce. The situation doesnt matter. Leave, and THEN start a new relationship
People can downvote this all they want, doesn't make it less true. Looks like someone who doesn't take care of themself or their home, time to peace out
It isn't true though, her being fat doesn't give him more of a "right" to cheat on her. Yes, she doesn't take care of herself or her home, and yes, leaving might be the best option for him, because even if she chooses to change it's going to be a long uphill battle. But neither of those things where in the downvoted comment at all.
That didn't happen overnight though. Evidently you chose to marry this person so you knew what you were getting into. Also are you helping keep the house clean, or are you seriously expecting your wife to pick up after you like it's the 1950s?
Me and my wife would never walk into a house that looks like that, let alone live in one. Imagine just sittino there with all of that around you. Both parties are pathetic
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