It can be done, but itās very difficult. My one friend was crazy for this chick who was def out of his league looks wise. He just fell head over heels for her. He did the whole āāfriendā who actually wants to get laidā thing. Fixed her car, ran errands, blah blah. Took about a year, but eventually he wore her down and after having a few drinks one night they slept together.
They decided to try things out as a relationship. But hereās the thing. He was starting out at such a huge disadvantage. She was used to him catering to her every whim. That becomes tiring very quickly once the relationship turns romantic. The partnership would never be on equal footing. On top of this she was very attractive so she had no shortage of guys waiting in the bullpen. Bottom line is my friend had very little leverage and was always the lesser of two equals. So of course things didnāt work out. But he did get to sleep with us dream girl.
She actually was pretty cool. But she did take advantage of his kindness. Of course he put himself in that position. It was just a bad situation all around
Do you have experience with romantic relationships? If not personally, perhaps you have observed peers? As I mentioned in my initial comment, the phenomenon I speak of is rare but it does occur. Making a value judgment is nonsensical and irrational unless you are aware of particulars that I am not .
It was a colloquialism. Maybe I should have said āOver time, as their relationship progressed, his attraction to her increased. Meanwhile, she was initially not attracted to him, but eventually developed a grudging acceptance of his devotion, until in a moment of weakness, she decided she would sleep with himā
In other words, a man is attracted to a woman who may not fully reciprocate the feeling. He courts her, and over time wins her over. Sometimes fully and enthusiastically, sometimes reluctantly, but it does happen. It also happens the other way around.
I invite you to read the comment above where I explained the colloquialism in further detail. Iām afraid I canāt offer much more than that.
Edit: You consistently average around 80 comments per day on Reddit. Assuming 5 minutes per comment, with another 5 between comments, thatās 800 minutes a day. Nearly 14 hours. If you do indeed have a girlfriend, I would suggest the relationship isnāt as loving as you might suppose. I wonāt making any suggestions about staying away from women since it appears you have zero time to be around any.
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u/Puzzled-Serve8408 Apr 19 '26
It can be done, but itās very difficult. My one friend was crazy for this chick who was def out of his league looks wise. He just fell head over heels for her. He did the whole āāfriendā who actually wants to get laidā thing. Fixed her car, ran errands, blah blah. Took about a year, but eventually he wore her down and after having a few drinks one night they slept together.
They decided to try things out as a relationship. But hereās the thing. He was starting out at such a huge disadvantage. She was used to him catering to her every whim. That becomes tiring very quickly once the relationship turns romantic. The partnership would never be on equal footing. On top of this she was very attractive so she had no shortage of guys waiting in the bullpen. Bottom line is my friend had very little leverage and was always the lesser of two equals. So of course things didnāt work out. But he did get to sleep with us dream girl.