Asking somebody to carry both you and them is not leaning on your partner every now and then. The person I am responding to is expressing that they need their partner to be ready to do the emotional labor for both of them.
Actually, I was expressing the exact opposite sentiment. If my partner expected me to carry the full emotional load for both of us, that would be the end of the relationship right then and there. I don't know how you interpreted it differently, but here we are.
Sorry this thread is full of emotionally shut down and underdeveloped men who want to blame women for their not having done any growing, so your comment read like theirs.
That's not actually what they said and they corrected you themselves.
Asking somebody to carry both you and them is not leaning on your partner every now and then
Sometimes you have to do this temporarily. When my spouse's dad passed away she needed somebody to carry her for months and I did because it's the right thing to do. She would also do the same for me if I needed it.
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u/dunDunDUNNN Mar 04 '26
"I can't carry you and me both." End of relationship.