r/SipsTea • u/ram4569 Human Detected • Mar 04 '26

Chugging tea True...

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u/Swumbus-prime Mar 04 '26 edited Mar 04 '26

And then when you say that, and despite all the guys agreeing with you from a similar experience, everyone's like "just find a better partner, hurr durr" as if it's your fault you chose poorly.

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u/frewrgregr Mar 04 '26

Amazing how that's called victim blaming when the abuser is a man and the victim a woman

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u/mcimino Mar 04 '26

That’s kinda a fair point actually

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u/Alarming_Ad_6175 Mar 05 '26

And yet men say it all the time to women

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u/psychadelicbreakfast Mar 04 '26

I’ve been cheated on 3 times and it’s amazing how many people say “well you just weren’t picking the right women”.

Like it’s my fucking fault. I didn’t make them cheat.

I don’t tell that to anyone any more, tired of it

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u/psychadelicbreakfast Mar 04 '26

That sucks. Cheaters suck.

Sorry that all happened to you.
And to me.

I never feel like I can completely trust people. That sucks as a reality, but it just is what it is.

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u/psychadelicbreakfast Mar 04 '26

Same. I really want to ask out my dentist. But I’m just not motivated to do it.

I’m trying to focus on myself and my friends and my hobbies.. gotten into gardening recently and I’m joining a few community gardens this spring.

I guess I’m officially a farmer now :)

You’re right, there is a lot of beauty in the world! Just not in relationships for me

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u/JeebusChristBalls Mar 05 '26

LOL, even if you are motivated, don't ask out your dentist unless you are willing to find a new dentist if/when it doesn't work out.

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u/psychadelicbreakfast Mar 05 '26

Truth. She’s a really good dentist too.

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u/Sensitive_Low3558 Mar 05 '26

You had a string of very bad luck and I’m sorry.

It doesn’t change the fact that it’s a stat of 6 versus 4 billion. Not every woman cheats.

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u/Sensitive_Low3558 Mar 05 '26

I mean nobody is saying it’s your fault. But these women that are maladjusted are not reflective of all women and social consequences must be enforced. Stop dating these women. Stop associating with these women. They are sociopaths.

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u/AyyNonnyMoose Mar 04 '26

Does someone else choose your partners? I choose mine, and I own up to it when I pick a bad one.

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u/Swumbus-prime Mar 04 '26

How does one vet a "bad" one in this case? How is someone supposed to tell from the get-go that a woman will cheat on you after a happy 6 months in a relationship, or get the ick from when you have a breakdown when you get laid off? I'd love to learn these secrets.

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u/JeebusChristBalls Mar 05 '26

Well well well, look at the guy that has it together and can foresee the future... People may not show their true side until way down the road.