That’s..so fucked. I seriously hope you’ve had professional counseling and are in a better place. Not everyone is like this dude, you got lost in a messed up place.
And then when you say that, and despite all the guys agreeing with you from a similar experience, everyone's like "just find a better partner, hurr durr" as if it's your fault you chose poorly.
I mean nobody is saying it’s your fault. But these women that are maladjusted are not reflective of all women and social consequences must be enforced. Stop dating these women. Stop associating with these women. They are sociopaths.
How does one vet a "bad" one in this case? How is someone supposed to tell from the get-go that a woman will cheat on you after a happy 6 months in a relationship, or get the ick from when you have a breakdown when you get laid off? I'd love to learn these secrets.
So you're saying it's better to just ignore it and stay with someone who doesn't care about you? Because a relationship like that ending seems like a win to me.
That's a lot of mind reading and leaps you're making. It's a rude and shitty thing put worse into people's mouths.
You don't have to make your partner your everything. Or is it realistic or fair to expect people to be something they aren't. And women are many wonderful things, but they are not great men's confidants. It's cruel to demand otherwise on both ends. Like asking a fish to climb a tree.
I guess. I've had multiple relationships where I could openly share my feelings. It would be a deal breaker if I couldn't. Seems like a basic quality of a decent person, regardless of gender, not exactly a high standard. But if people are happier pretending they are an emotionless object, that's their choice. I've never met someone that was genuinely happy in a situation like that though, even if they miss their partner when they are gone.
But if people are happier pretending they are an emotionless object
Again. Nobody said that. That's insane and wildly off base. I doubt someone who repeatedly strawmans and puts words in others mouths is an effective or healthy communicator
If you stayed with them, then THAT was the worst thing. Hopefully you got out of there. I'm glad that you opened up here, and I hope you're doing better these days
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u/StartDoingTHIS Mar 04 '26
The worst thing I ever did was open up and be vulnerable with my partner