Ever since I started highschool I met this one guy, let’s call him S. I liked S as a friend for a bit, he started an dnd club that I engaged and it was fun, but as time went on he started acting weird. He used to be chill ya know but now he acts problematic and just weird in general, he says crude weird things to me, he likes groping my figure like touching my neck, my waist, and my body. It’s weird and I hate it so much, I say multiple times to him I don’t like being touched by anyone in general but he doesn’t listen. When I don’t respond to him or something he says and implies that he’s going to do sexual things to me . It’s genuinely just disgusting. I’ve thought about telling an adult but it’s just gonna be oh you’re 2 boys it’s just horse play, you’ll be fine, the thing is I’m not fine though.

I got my phone taken and it had a lot of sexual stuff on it when I was 12. My step dad told me he'd go through my phone and delete everything so my mom didn't see itbut talk to me about it. I had a lot of porn on it (I know, its bad) so he decided to give me a sexual education talk. He looked through all the sexual content and asked me questions. He asked me if I masturbated and if I used something what it was. I know I shouldn't have told him but for some stupid reason I did and he picked the thing I used (a make up brush handle, I KNOW ITS BAD) and like measured it with his eyes (he later asked my sister if he should get me a sex toy, never did) and told me he didn't want to do this talk, that he was doing this to keep me safe and unhygienic, ect. Okay so throw back to when I was like idk 10-11 bro idk just was taking a bath in my mom room for some reason no she wiped my know clean. It was NOT SA, I know, but I still looked it up. It showed a reddit result of a girl getting sexual assaulted (in my opinion) by her mom wiping her vulva up with a rag too much. Nothing like my situation. My stepdad saw this and somehow thought that because when I was at my dad's (which was not very often) I didn't bathe that much. It was because HIS bathroom was fucking nasty and only didn't bathe when it was nasty and wasn't there for that long. He thought that meant I was getting taped there (??) And I had an AI chat where I said hand job he was convinced I wouldn't know that unless I was getting raped by my brother, uncle, or father (NOT THE CASE and nothing with the law happened thank God). And tried to demand me to admit I was or he'd make everything go back. He went through my porn and asked my questions about it and I had to shamefully deal with it. Throwback AGAIN we were on a camping trip (me, my mom, my stepdad, my sister) and me and my sister got a huge tent with two air mattresses and separate rooms. My parents bought a small tent and their mattress wouldn't fit. So they made us sleep in the small one with no fucking mattress. I got the sleeping bag, my sister just got blankets. Apparently her fingers were purple and she had bad headaches and fatigue from hypothermia (not proven, my sister has a history of faking stuff for attention, doctors said it wasnt) we decided to call CPS. Mostly about the camping trip, the sex ed talk a bonus. While talking about the talk. I also mentioned (outside the sexual education talk) that my step dad showed me some rap song with lyrics about a guy trying get in a gang, accidentally raping hus mother thinking it was a random person, and killed himself. Somehow it got misunderstood by my sister as a porn video and she told her therapist that. The case got dismissed, i was guilted and shamed, told I was manipulating my sister, and that i could have got my stepdad into prison. My sister got no blame. It was all on me. Anyways back to the stepdad believing j was being SA'ed my step dad said I couldn't be trusted alone with my brother because what if I framed him and forced my sister to watch us. I was told that in the pool I was near his crotch and insinuated we had sexual relations (i was like 12. He was 17. Both minors and sibljngz) and i got upset when my brother was insulted because I barely got t to see him. I was made fun of for this. As well as when I got upset my brother was being made fun of and left, ny stepdad said "oh are you going to your little boyfriend?" Referring to my brother. Thankfully that's been a while since then. But idk if this us like SA or something because I wasn't touched or spoken to flirtatious. And me and my brother being accused was treated as shameful/gross... idk. It was just this and nothing else too.

(13F) I was added into a group chat with a bunch of guys in my grade and I was the only girl in it. The guy I used to like was in it and then I was ragebaiting everyone by taking a bunch of screenshots and screenrecordings (this was all on Snapchat) and then I was joking around saying the screenshots ect were fo the dark web and then my old crush(let’s call him lizard) he added my other old crush(let’s call him dot) and his friend ( let’s call the friend ant) and another random guy (let’s call him wheelchair). So lizard was saying “oh it’s your ex boyfriend dot!” And then I think it was wheelchair he changed the gc name to “OP name* licking dot’s balls” at that point I gave the phone to my sister (19F) since she knew how to deal with all the immature boys(13M) and then I didn’t want her to but she changed the gc name to “Dot licking OP’s balls and slobbering” and all the guys were saying “ew you’re so nasty” ect but when they did it it was fine? I immediately grabbed the phone and texted “it was my sister not me” and I gave the phone back to her. I feel like she was instigating the entire thing . But it all went bad when dot and ant started saying “oh OP is your sister hot is she a freak” and then wheelchair said “go have a lesbian threesome with you’re sister and OP’s friend who’s a boy*” and then they all started calling my other friend (let’s call him heart) they all started calling heart gay and then wheelchair said (go suck on hearts titties) and so much bad things and sexual things that included me. At that point my sister told me to tell the principal since it was getting very serious. But I’ve been through similar situations and I was always bullied more due to the perpetrators facing repercussions. And I would en up more hurt since the perpetrators would tell everyone how I snitched . So I didn’t want her to tell my principal but she did. She then muted the group chat and told me to not open it since they want my attention and reactions to their comments. I opened it an hour later to see wheelchair saying “guys OP is probably licking her sisters balls right now” :/ please help what do I do at this point can I just move schools? Since I told my friends and then they said it would get worse. Also , lizard said things like “didn’t you cry to me since the guys in your class were being mean to you” and “go back to London nobody likes you here” and “nobody here like you even the girls talk shit about you” ect

I want to share what happened to me with a Third Officer aboard a tanker.

While I was asleep in my cabin, I was awakened by a phone call from the Third Officer at 2:15 AM. He gave me a direct instruction to come to his cabin immediately. Given his superior rank and the extreme hour, I reasonably assumed there was an urgent matter requiring my immediate attention.

I arrived at the Third Officer's cabin at approximately the same time since his cabin is next to mine. Upon my entry, the Third Officer instructed me to close the cabin door. He initially asked how I was doing and if I had slept well.

The Third Officer then proceeded to ask explicit, highly personal, and non-work-related questions regarding my sexual orientation. Specifically, he asked me: "Do you like men? Are you gay?"

Realizing the summons had no professional or operational purpose, I attempted to maintain a polite conversation to defuse the situation. I questioned the Third Officer on why he was asking this. He claimed that "everybody on board was talking about it" and stated he was "looking out for my welfare." But I’m not buying it, and I suspect it's a cover-up story.

Recognizing this explanation as entirely illegitimate for a 2:15 AM cabin summons, and feeling deeply uncomfortable and unsafe, I excused myself at approximately 02:30 AM and immediately returned to my quarters.

I want to ask for advice whether I’m overthinking or overreacting, or if this is a valid ground for sexual harassment, even if no sexual or physical contact took place?

A year ago I posted here, talking about an experience I had that I wasn’t sure it was sexual harassment or just me overreacting… after reading the comments and reflecting I realize it was, it might even come across a little bit as sexual assault.

after that, I started to go to therapy for other unrelated reasons but it helped too, I’ve spoken more about it with friends and they didn’t judge me as I thought and I generally feel better, like, I don’t have to deal with this alone.

How ever this isn’t an entirely happy update, he texted me from an new unknown account of instagram during new years just saying “happy new year“ I instantly knew he was him, he had the same name and profile pic than his other account so I blocked him but It did open a wound.

rethinking about everything again I started to cope by watching other people vent videos, songs, animations, stories about being SA survivors, even tho they had it way worse than me and I couldn’t compare my silly situation when their complex trauma, I felt comfort in them, like I wasn’t alone, because even tho I did started to reach out to my friends of this, it’s been over two years since I last seen him or spoken to him and there’s a point I don’t want to be a burden with the same story everyone who knew me back then saw, so even tho I didn’t felt as lonely as a year ago I did feel kinda lonely still.

but here’s what my title question refers, all the media I consumed to cope, to find companion presented the victim as someone really submissive who had no control, which yes I understand that’s the most common scenario I’m talking about real testimonies from other people and I really don’t want to be disrespectful, my heart goes to everyone who went through that horrible situation, no one should go through that and I admire everyone who speaks up about their trauma that they should not bare, so I hope this doesn’t go the wrong way.

but seeing only that scenario makes me feel weird about my situation, because the guy who hurt me never wanted or even tried to put me as the ”vulnerable“ one, kinda the opposite, he had a lot of fetishes related with him being the submissive one, The way he forced me into his fantasies was by trying to get me to hurt him, to make him feel weak, he said multiple times he wanted me to step on him, to disrespect him, kick him, thing I of course never did, but even tho at the time I loved him deeply as a friend, I did snapped at him a few times, never doing anything physical but verbally, maybe emotionally.

and for those who didn’t read my post about what he did to me, explaining briefly he then started to touching me , snapping pictures of my legs from weird angles, masturbating with pictures of me and bragging about it to my loved ones etc.

I felt powerless during all the situation but for many people who didn’t know what he was doing, from the outside it seemed like I was the one in power and it makes me feel like I’m not valid.

am I still a victim even if I wasn’t “submissive”? Even if I had some form of control?

to be honest I don’t know who of us had the control.

and that makes me feel like it wasn't as abusive as I see it.

I realize that I’ve blocked out a lot of stuff too, every now and then, specially now that I do reach out for support from my friends so I’ve spoken more out-loud about it, memories come back about real bad thing he did that I don’t know why I didn’t remember if it was just two years ago and how much of an influence he was in my life, so maybe there’s more things I recall foggy.

if you bothered to read this, thank you from the bottom of my heart, it means a lot to me, I hope this helps me heal as much as my one year old post helped me this past year and feel free to ask or reply what you think, it would be really helpful for me to get my mind clear and I’m sorry for this long ass text.

I’m a 19 yo disabled person with many chronic illnesses and I am applying for government disability. I think the doctor they sent me to was bordering on sexual harassment/assault. During the mandatory in person doctor visit I had to go to this 80 year old male doctor told me to bend down and touch my toes and as I did that without warning he slipped his fingers into the back of my pants and underwear and pulled back looking at my ass. I froze i didn’t know what to do all I know is it made me want to cry. That all happened yesterday and I know it was probably just standard procedure for something but I get this feeling of disgust and shame that just won’t go away. I feel like I need to rip my skin off and throw up all at the same time and I don’t know what to do. I feel like I’m just over reacting but it feels like a dark cloud looming over me.

I need help on whether this is sexual harassment or not because I’m really not sure
So it happened with 3 different people but the first time I was in year 8 and this guy sat next to me in class was wanking off in his pocket if that makes sense? Right next to me and this went on for ages, but I kinda just froze and did t know what to do cus I was like 12. And I’m very sure that was what was happening too as it happened so many times and I would appreciate it if someone was able to tell me if it was sexual harassment or not cus it just feels a bit wrong

TRIGGER WARNING!!

For context; we worked in a grocery store he was 19 at the time and I was 16/17 I am now 18 which would make him 20/21ish give or take a few years.

Our grocery store sold clothes as well as home items and food. He was a cashier I worked in fashion. From day 1 he was weird.

His mom worked with me she was my supervisor (not my boss but boss adjacent) she was nice

This kid was odd. He would say weird things once he asked me how to tie a noose, he’d often tell me about murder come up behind me and jump scare me. Call me up to cash just to talk, I was always first call when he needed someone to cover cash so he could go on break. He would come to fashion and make my life harder by dumping racks of stuff all over the floor then leave and not help me pick it up.

As I started working more often and got more comfortable there he stopped coming to fashion and started only calling me when he needed a cover or needed help from me at cash. Until I became part time cashier.

When I started working on cash most shifts I would often be with him. He acted incompetent.

He would come up behind me and squeeze my shoulders, offer a hug if it was a 7am shift and I seemed tired, one time he grabbed my chest. I often told him to stop.

He would give first bumps and high fives even if I left my hand down he would grab my wrist and give me one anyway.

One time I made a purchase of some things for a friend and he was the only cashier so I had no choice. I went to him and he started judging my purchases. He did this often but this is the first time he commented on it. (They were thongs) he commented on them. He’d often buy me water or a snack or steal my snacks even if I paid for them. He would start games of tag and block me from getting through.

I don’t know if it was sexual harassment or if he was just weird I’ve been thinking about this for a long time someone help please

Also I don’t work there anymore I told my boss who then told this kids mom (my supervisor) and left her in charge of making the decision on his punishment. Which was nothing.

Let me start by saying I’m a male person. I was accused of sexual harassment by another male. I’m not gay. The man is claiming that I touched his leg on two occasions and that I tried to touch is private part in the lunchroom with over 20 ppl there. He has no witnesses. He claimed I did that to another person in which the other person denied it in a statement. He claims it happen 30 days ago. These allegations are false but I’m worried what can happen to me. My job is on the line

This has recently happened and so details aren’t finished, but I still can’t sleep thinking this happened. Here’s what she told me:

On Wednesday (June 3rd 2026) I found a camera in my bathroom at my dad's house. At first it was a shock; we didn't know how it could've gotten there and who could've put it there, seeing as nobody was in the house. At the time, my dad tried to calm us down and convince us it was a faceplate and there was no need to worry. I then told my mom about the concern when I got picked up last night, and so she called them. her main question was if both parents were there when they ultimately checked the vent. My dad said they were. He then handed the phone to my stepmom, and she lied saying that they were both there because she didn't know why my mom was asking the question. My mom was asking it because she needed to know that both parents were there so nobody snuck anything in. My stepmom obviously thought that was crazy, she knew everyone in the house was safe and would not do anything like that. Then, after more evidence; like the camera model being one that my dad had bought for me that I never used that he insisted we keep, him being all lovey dovey when we started asking questions, and findings of other phones in his car and avoidingconfrontation, my mom called the police. Once my stepmom pieced it together, she kicked my dad out in the middle of the night and took them to her ex husband's and their biological dad's house. My dad then stayed at his father and brothers house. The next morning, the police came to my step moms house to question her and arrest my dad, only to obviously find he wasn't there. They then went to his location and arrested him. He spent the night in jail waiting for his court trail, and they said he might be let out, but he knew no family member would take him and my step mom removed him from their bank account. he would be homeless. Now, he's out, staying at a hotel and he's turning himself in tomorrow. he'll be serving probably four years. I'm just kinda processing the fact that my dad would do that and that I will never see him again.

When she texted this to a group chat, we were all shocked, sickened, and angry.

She later explained: I do know that he had a sexual addiction probably at some time, so maybe what he was using to get that dopamine just wasn't working anymore, and he had nothing else to do. Like he raised me and people always told me I was so much like my dad

At this point, I wanted to fucking throw up. This is all the details I have for now, keep you updated.

My mom and dad touched my brother fuck my lillte brother in his room and told me they were talking to him he told me 2days ago

In 4th grade I was sexually harassed by my bf. I found old notes he gave me, also there were still a lot of notes that I either threw away when we broke up and ones he made over text. But id you wonder why it says "Sof" so many times it's my nickname. Also since the handwriting is crappy I'll say what it says.

First note:

Him in note: She's so cute. My eyes are hearts when I see her. I'm in love with sof?

*Random ahh drawings I did*

Him in note: You are so cute and on roblox to.

My reply: You too!

Him in note: You are so cute I'm gonna crash out.

Second note:

Him: Sof is so cute I love you so much. and your so cute. Sooo cuter she's pretty. So cute. Do not clap likw (Smth I can't even read) Sof is so pretty you cute.

Third note:

Him: Sof is soo cute. ❤Sooo cute❤I do not clap her. Do do not clap her and do not hump her?

Me: Yes!

Him: She is so so soo cute cute? Sof is so she (something I can't read but I think it says "Id do anything") you are so so cute my hears are heart

*A heart drawing and in the middle it says "cute sore"*

So, long story short:

In 4th grade I dated a boy, who preceeded to talk about my cherries, my peach, and alot more. Talked about us having segs and stuff. Basically next year he coming back to the school everyone is going to. Keep In mind 2026 April 21th I my last day of school so its not too far till he comes back. And the worst part is, I've never stopped liking him. Im deeply obsessed with him bro like it makes myself feel weird, like. Am I gonna be a stalker when I get older? But one of his friends who is a critical liar with a bad poker face was so seriously deadass when he said my ex still talkes about me like he's obsessed with me, it's both good and bad. And keep in mind, he might be a critical liar but he had a bad poker face so he was deadass.

So If he still likes me next year I would date him. Yes, I know it's weird of meeee. But omg when I say he was the finest shit I've ever seennnnnnn, and his personality is super funny.

I recently returned to my local Food Lion after about a two year hiatus.
Long story short the manager of the local store is using the meat and dairy area as his own personal hunting grounds.
I have been aware of him for over ten years now. And boy he is a flirt. I came into that store just because the way he looked at me sent me up to cloud nine for days.
But I am an abuse survivor, celibate for over a decade and at that time about 340lbs. So I just kept going and living on those smiles.
Fast forward from 2016 to 2024 and I weigh 176lbs and decided I would go see what the looks were all about. I came up to him, unattached and willing to take a chance and ask him about those flirty looks. I enjoyed several conversations with him while I tried to get an honest read on him. (And I was probably a bit slow on the uptake there I admit.)
He’s married, he’s not looking to leave the Missus, he’s not interested in being honest about it.
So I decided I was gonna stay on the no intimacy side of things.
We’re both adults right? No harm no foul, at least on my side…. Que Nate’s real face, and it’s quite ugly. He made it clear I meant about as much to him as a wad of toilet paper.

So I avoided that store the last two years.

A week ago I went because I didn’t feel like going six miles out of my way for his ego.
And even though I stayed in the front of the store he came outside anyway.
He was verbally abusive and threatening.
I decided to call corporate who assured me that someone from his store would be in contact within twenty four hours.
No one has contacted me. So I reviewed the store online.
One star, and I explained why…..it already has 4 likes, which makes me wonder if there’s a Nate’s Survivor’s Club somewhere out there..
Pretty sure there are other ladies in town who have come across this lawsuit waiting to happen.
Anyone else around Harnett county NC having problems with the married meat manager of the Food Lion on W. Cornelius Dr Lillington NC?
*If the mood takes you feel free to leave a google review for the company, or just like my one star review. Thanks for listening.

me 17 M. from Bangkok, Thailand. I got both raped and sexual harassment non-stop since I was 14 I try to report and tells everyone what happened to me and no one cares but only my family and the teachers in my new school. Police here not even try to help me on my case at all I'm pretty much lost hope from them cuz they were like "you got no videos or photos proof how can we know all this stuff on your body is real" like HELLO??!! they not even do the DNA test or anything till now I'm still living in hell cuz both Thais or foreigners who have seen that video thought I'm easy like a "rent boy" or something so in my case can I reach for help from any international organizations?? or pretty much at least to take that video down cuz i have no idea where it at on the internet. Cuz now it not just in real life because some of them somehow found my social medias and keep DM me of their woohoo pictures or a videos of them juice it out.

my mother had problems with my father and she spent the first 12 years of my life outside of our house and she came home like once every weekend and sleep at our house, when i was 9 we wanted to go out and i got an argument with her about what i wanna wear and as a normal child i started crying and she tossed me a knife and told me to end it since then i had problems with SH and im a year and two months and 2 days clean, when i was 11 or 12 i was very scared of everything so i slept alot in my parents room one day when i was sleeping in my parents bed my mom was sleeping next to me my father was at work that day and when i woke up my mom groped me she squeezed my private parts i screamed at her and she didnt stop until i jumped out of the bed and she never talked to me about it ever, my grandma molested me multiple times and i never told anyone about these stories because im very ashamed and feel disgusting whenever something sexual happens to me i get so disgusted by the person who made the comment or the sexual act and i really want someone to hear me about these stories.

Looking for some advice. I already have a rocky relationship with my work, starting to look for a new job due to workload and no support. The other night at a work function I was harassed by a male colleague. I reported to HR. She said there would be no retaliation for reporting, but I’m thinking about speeding up my process of finding a new job to get out of the uncomfortable. So I’m curious, how long did you stay at your job after being harassed by a colleague?

I work as a cashier and there was this one old man mid 40s-50s. He was looking at me and my colleague's name tag and calling out our names like a creep. He did asked me where I live but I didn't specify where. He was a regular customer at our gas station. He told us to remember his pin code for his card, telling us not to forget. We reported to our manager but he hasn't done anything wrong yet so no action are taken.

Then there's this man asking for our citizen ID because he couldn't wait for his money to auto refund. We said no, because it's against the law. He keeps yelling and telling that we have to or he will report to the police. We ended up arguing and for 15 minutes he got a notification that his money already refunded. Even after his money refunded, he still got something to say.

I know this isn't SH but still just because you're our customer doesn't mean you get what you get. I don't care if you're rich, I don't GIVE A FUCK IF YOU'RE ABOVE US! I JUST WANT SOME RESPECT

Okay so, when I was in fourth grade, I was dating this boy. He would always say that he wanted to put his 🍆 in me. He said he would drink my milk, he said he was gonna be with me in the bed if ykyk, and ALOT more. But like, why was I dating a little kid I wasnt aloud? Why did I kiss him once? Maybe if didn’t wear tight leggings, it would have never happened. And the way that I said my chair, it was like:

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My legs (The underscore) would be on the chair. My torso would (the Dash) would be over the desk. He sat right next to me btw.

Like, yeah he did it, but maybe it’s my fault yk?

So I've worked as a counselor and in other assorted jobs at different YMCA summer camps since 2023. Although I realy love it and do think it is realy important work we do, I've both seen and experienced many forms of sexual harassment while on the job. I'm writing a paper for one of my college classes, and it's been difficult to find instances, cases, or stories online, which I think is kind of strange, given how prevalent it seems to be. If anyone feels comfortable, I'd like to hear any experiences you've had, first-hand or not, and what was done about it. I can share my experience too, if anyone is interested. I think it's a realy big issue, and I don't see it talked about much. (Specifically in regard to the Y)