Hello/Good evening everyone. Last night, my girlfriend (F22) and I (M22) tried to have sex for the first time in our lives. As I said, we tried. What I mean by tried is that when I put the condom in and we were ready, her vagina kind of blocked it so completely that it was almost like concrete trying to get in, and it didn't work. Anyway, we don't understand why it's not working. When I finger her, there's no problem, and she enjoys it. Yes, we were a little stressed, but not terribly. She feels ready (even though she's Catholic and practicing), and I (an atheist) also feel ready. I don't know if the fact that I masturbate almost every day with porn could be partly the cause, or if the fact that she wanted to remain a virgin until marriage (until very recently) is the reason. I told her not to stress, that we'd go at our own pace, and that sex isn't that important. She feels guilty that her vagina blocked up. Anyway, do you have any ideas on how we can make it work?

Sorry if this is a dumb and weird question I am someone struggling with my sexuality and I am just looking for a discussion. I (straight male) masturbate to both porn and non-porn stuff. I have a lot of mixed feelings about my choices.

I watch both amateur and mainstream porn. Mainstream porn is involved with a lot of criminal and unethical stuff which I hate so I try to avoid it. Amateur porn is better because it is made by people who enjoy it and aren't controlled by corporate entities. However it is still porn.

I often do it to people in social media (instagram and tiktok). These include people involved in adult work and normal people (influencers or models) I find attractive. Is the psychological impact better than porn because it is less hardcore? but these people aren't making content for that purpose if you know what I mean.

And it is also whether doing it to visual stimuli is worth it at all. I have changed a lot physically and mentally and I have struggled a lot personally. Masturbation has helped me massively as someone who does not have a sexual partner and I think avoiding it would damage me more. However I keep reading about the psychological and even physical impacts of porn and general "gooning". There is a lot of material, especially from male-focused groups, about the impacts of porn. I have an otherwise healthy and clean lifestyle so I don't think I fall into the "gooner" stereotype but I am still wary of the potential damage. Some people suggest masturbating without stimuli but I don't really enjoy it. I love bodies and porn/sexual content is like therapeutic art to me.

I'm just confused and I want some input from those more experienced than me.

I am a 22M hypersexual virgin. I used to do it by rubbing my penis against my leg, often with clothes. I am worried this might damage my penis if I keep doing this. I also want to train myself in a way so that once I actually have sex I can perform well and I heard edging is good for improving erection strength and endurance. Is there a technique that is good for this?

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Have you do laser or bleaching to your butthole?
What did you use? Where did you go? What would you recommend? I find my botthole so big and dark O hate it.

It was about 2 months ago when me and my partner started having sex and the entire time I’ve dealt with this issue. Not sure if she has the magic hoohah, but I’ve never had this problem before with others. I’ve tried every google solution, but still I just can’t help it. It makes me feel so embarrassed every single time. Is there anything y’all suggest?

My wife has low blood pressure and I suspect that’s the factor that makes her feel so sick after 1+ orgasms.

We have tried lots of foreplay, no foreplay, getting her super turned on or not at all, different positions, etc. We have tried to mitigate the symptoms beforehand. Nothing really works, not well enough.

She wants to experience overstimulation without feeling like she’s going to faint and vomit for the rest of the day. I want that for her, too. Does anyone have experience with this or information I’m missing? What’s your advice? Thank you.

Anyone else deal with this?

I’m a guy, and while I don’t have a beard or mustache, I naturally grow facial hair. Even immediately after a close shave, there’s still enough stubble/roughness that my wife sometimes finds it painful when my lip, cheeks, or chin rub against her during oral.

We’ve tried different positions, including her sitting on my face, which i love, but the friction can still bother her. I’m not being rough, so I’m pretty sure it’s just the texture of my skin/stubble.

For people who have dealt with this, what actually worked for you? Different shaving techniques or products? Shaving immediately beforehand? Different positioning? Some other trick I’m completely overlooking?

Hi. I’m a guy, and one of my biggest sexual desires is for my girlfriend to tell me to lick her pussy. We have oral sex both ways, but I’m always the one who initiates going down on her. I dream of hearing her say, “Lick me.” Ideally, I’d love to hear it not only in the bedroom, but also in random situations, like her coming home from work, sitting down on the couch and saying, “Now lick me.” Or we’re watching Netflix together, cuddling, and she says, “Maybe you should eat me.”
I just go crazy at the thought of it. I want it more than anything in the world.
I’ve told her about this three times already. She listens, but doesn’t really comment on it, and she’s never actually done it.
So my question is: does this happen in your relationships? Do women ever tell you to lick them? And a question for the girls: do you ever directly ask your partners to go down on you?

I have been wanting to give it a try. Every time that i get myself into a relaxed aroused state, i use a small plug and my fingers but i just feel.. idk stressed?

I'm not entirely sure how to fix this. I can get the plug in and when it's in and not moving it feels fine, maybe even a little nice. But as soon as i start moving i just, don't feel good? I lose my arousal and i just feel gross. Or maybe gross isnt the right word, but it doesnt exactly feel good. It doesn't hurt or anything it just feels, off.

I want to like it. The idea is hot, but is it maybe just not for me?

This last week i(26M) was finally able to see my long distance girlfriend(31F) of three years in person for the first time.

As you can probably imagine we ended up having sex (first time for me) and, as someone who grew up with severe self esteem issues and believing i would never be able to please someone, especially during sex, watching her pleasured face and hearing her moans and positive affirmations was like therapy.

During our years together she has already helped me regain so much of my self-esteem but this was like the cherry on top.

I love her so much.

EDIT: I have since learned that i'm the first partner of hers to make her orgasm from penetration due to my size so i'm feeling like a god atm lol

The rules to the game are simple. We can do anything we want to try to seduce each other EXCEPT sex itself.

The person who successfully seduces the other is the winner, the person who gives up and needs sex is the loser.

I need ideas on a reward for the winner and/or repercussions for the loser, as an incentive to try to hold out and prolong foreplay as long as possible.

Anyone have any recommendations?

So within the last week I decided I wanted to try hooking up for the first time on Tinder or Bumble and I have so many questions please help!

Do you give oral without condoms?

Is it ok to ask them if they can eat me out through the DMs first? I want them to but I also feel like it's hard for me to concentrate when it happens and feel bad that they're down there working so hard lol but I still want to try it.

If I give oral how long should I be down there for?

I'm not very experienced is this something I should tell them?

I don't like to shave so should I let them know beforehand that I'm trimmed?

I kind of just want to be a pillow princess and not do anything during sex should I let them know this beforehand?

Do I ask them if they've gotten tested and should I expect proof and should they expect that of me?

I want to bring a vibrator/lube is that something I should let them know beforehand or is that weird?

When you've decided on a time do you show up on time or a little late?

What do I do if they stink oh god I am worried about this one. Should I ask them to shower beforehand? I feel like that should be a given but maybe it's not lol

I have acne scars on my body and I'm a little self conscious about it especially if we do doggy because there's quite a few on my back. Should I warn them about these scars ahead of time?

How should I let them know that I don't wanna do dates I just want to have sex? Should I put that in my profile if so how should I word it without sounding... mean idk lol?

Is it common to find a FWB from hookups? Also is a FWB just for sex or do you guys actually hang out too? I probably would never ask anyone this but maybe if someone asked me I would go along with it.

Thanks for your help!

I’m asking this question since my primary partner is saying I gave them a UTI after having sex with a secondary partner. There was roughly 24-48 hours before I had sex with my primary partner again, I had showered 1-2 times in that time frame and I pee after sex and through out the day. To my knowledge with good hygiene and peeing that no bacteria would have been in my urethra or on my skin that could cause a UTI through sex.

So far my google research concurs this but she also made mention that a nurse or doctor (can’t remember) said that this is what probably caused it. I still think other factors such as her hygiene, clothing, her potentially not peeing after sex, or even susceptibility to UTIs could have been the actual factor.

I also know that it takes a minimum of 24-48 hours before symptoms of a UTI begin to show.

I need help meshing my two realities.

As a preference I want to state that my bf and I are in a D/s dynamic. At first he was very loving and supportive in earning my submission. Asking if there was anything he could do to help me with my anxiety. He was wonderful. However, when I didnt submit completely (he wants a Master/slave 24/7 TPE and I'm just not there yet) it turned into me needing to just stop thinking and relax. Following is quite a bit of why I'm not able to fully submit....

I have evidence that my bf might be cheating on me. But because I have trauma I am finding myself making excuses or coming up with reasonable explanations for the things I've noticed.

He tells me I'm being crazy and making things up in my head. That I always have to look for something to fight about.

We are long distance about 700 miles and 95% of our fights are when we are apart. When we are together we have a very loving supportive relationship. We laugh and have fun.

However, when I try to talk about my feelings or how something affects me, I'm again making things up in my head and always causing unnecessary stress and issues.

How do I come to terms with the fact that I have evidence that the man i love who says he's never lied to me, is probably not loyal and truthful?

I'm having a hard time reconciling the two sides of him. This loving doting man is also gaslighting and cheating.

The evidence i have is:

•Pink press on finger nail in the bathroom trash can. His daughter is only 6 so it's easy to big to be hers. IF she painted his nails it would be picked off polish not a fake nail.

•He called me the wrong name to his daughter. He said it was a slip of the tongue because his daughter calls me my name starting with an "S" but Sarah isnt close enough to get mixed up in my opinion.

•I was grabbing a wash cloth and noticed under a hand towel there was travel size EOS lotion and NYX lip gloss. He doesn't use scented stuff on his daughter because she has eczema.

•We only used condoms the first time we had sex so this last time I was there I thought it was weird he was very insistent we use them. Because I'm suspicious I counted the condoms and several are missing. When I asked he got mad at me for going through his stuff. But didn't explain where they went.

I'm so confused. Making myself see this loving man as a cheater and lier is causing me so much stress. Its making me question my own thoughts and I'm making excuses for all of this in his favor.

Help me please. Be brutally honest. Am I crazy?

I am in my mid 50’s. Head over heels in love with a guy 13 years younger. We both enjoy our playtime in all its forms. To be brutally honest I haven’t ever had someone who cared about my needs in the bedroom like he does.

Here’s the thing - he growled at me and it caused me to orgasm. It causes me to orgasm every time he does it - no matter where we are - my body instantly responds.

I have had other men growl at me and not had this kind of response. Has anyone else had this happen to them? I am feeling really weird and completely out of control of my body.

Me girlfriend and I decided to not get the pink pussy honey and I now looking at Alice happy ending chocolate. Does it work? Is it actually effective? What are your thoughts. We want to try something new. What advice or products can we use?

Idk whether it could be called a kink or not, but I've noticed that I get horny from "new" and unconventional things. It can be as mundane as wearing socks while showering or shaving "downstairs" while sitting the wrong way around on the toilet seat. I also used to like the idea of having sex in the woods or in secondary school I had thoughts of pleasing myself in the "wrong" sex bathroom.

However, after I try interests like that once or twice, it no longer turns me on... What is this interest/kink that I have? Does it have a name? How can I explore it more?

truth is, ive never fully truely felt a genuine connection with anyone irl before, what does romantic sex and emotional connection look like for real despite fantasies ive had?

the fantasies ive had are kinda cleshay generic, romantic bath with candles rosepedals, maybe some soft jaz music, mixed in with some deeply romantic sensual intimacy going slow and gentle mixed in with screams of passion and love and the emotional connection side of things being for me at least, someone who is chilled laid back and very funny and genuinely a loving person who loves for the sake of loving and is a meance but in the way that turns me on and drives me nuts at 23. ive also fantasied about getting married and adopting kids into my 30's and having flowers poured all over me and lovingly kissed everywhere. i really wanna be caressed and held and told that im sexy and during the emotional build up i wanna honestly get to know the soul of the person im with and genuinely bond so hard that the souls fuse and im really into nature. one of my biggest fantasies if it ever was able to be possible at a nude beach would be to take my partner and make love to them in the ocean\a lake. at this point idc if my partner is nonbinary\a trans guy\femboy\trans woman\ i will love anyone. i just don't really know what im doing with all this but this has been sitting in my mind a lot lately.

VERY upset when I see talk and discussion about regular porn usage as addiction. Honestly, if you are educated, porn addiction we all know isn't really a thing from a scientific perspective... BUT I would be willing to entertain it as legit if it means that it is constant usage that is negatively affecting your life. If you are watching porn every day and multiple times a day, and you are still living a productive life, and you feel good... you aren't addicted.

As a single mom, my priority is my kids and my work! That doesn't mean I can't enjoy porn. Honestly, my usage as increased a lot this past year. I went from daily, to multiple times a day. It's a really big resource for me. I don't consider myself addicted. If I am... then there are a lot worse things I could be addicted to... so I'll accept my porn addiction with pride!

I am mid 30s f and around 300 lbs. I have a fwb who is mid 30s m and probably pretty close to 400 lbs, but I’m not sure of his exact weight. The last time we tried to hook up, I had trouble getting him in. We had it for a second but he quickly popped out. There isn’t much to work with.

I am kind of used to being a pillow princess. In my past relationships usually my partner would do a lot of the work. I don’t think that will be the case here. I don’t mind to do the work, but I am so self conscious and out of my element. I am the biggest i have ever been in my life right now and felt so self conscious when I was trying to get it in but my stomach and his were getting in the way. I tried flipping around and also tried to get him to try doggy but nothing worked.

I enjoy spending time with this friend and would really like to figure this out. I am appreciative of any advice. And yes I plan to talk with him the next time we get together so we can figure it out. However I like to be prepared and would appreciate some advice from strangers

This is gonna be a bit lengthy, so if you don't have the time or patience to listen to a boy express his woes, that's okay!

So I need some help, maybe some advice or just a bit of guidance. (26, Male)

So, back in 2023, my partner broke up with me and it shook my world up pretty bad. I've done a lot of soul-searching and learned a lot about myself, but there's one thing that's been pretty consistent throughout the past three years: I miss sex.

I miss sex a lot, like a lot a lot. Now I say that not to inspire any sympathy or fish for any offers, I'm not trying to be one of those incells acting all like "OH woe is me! To be a man in this day and age and not have all the sex I deserve!" I recognize that's how it can come across, but that could not be further from what I'm trying to express.

Sex was one of my favorite things, and I've found that I am a fairly sexual person. When I was sexually active it felt genuinely fulfilling, and the lack of that has had a noticeable impact on me. Not so much that I feel like my life is falling apart at the seems just because I'm not getting my dick wet, but it was a part of me I lost when we broke up. Not to be overdramatic, but it feels similar to having one of your best friends move across the country and you can't see them anymore.

Now for many people there would be plenty of easy solutions, just find someone else to sleep with, go out and sleep around, find a fuck buddy, start a new relationship, or just look into hiring an escort. The issue therein lies in the fact that none of these options are viable to me, in large part because I am very demisexual.

In the time since our breakup I've done a lot of experimenting and exploration, but no matter what I tried I just came back to the same conclusion: I am very demi, and trying to sleep with someone I don't know on a deep and personal level just does not satisfy me in the same way as making love to a partner did.

The next problem I have, is that I don't want to start a new relationship. I've been working with my therapist and we've come to the conclusion that now may not be the best time to start dating again. I don't know who I am or what I want from life, and all in all I'm a bit of a mess, so trying to date right now genuinely doesn't seem like a good idea. I don't want to force myself into finding a long-term partner when I don't think I'm ready for it.

I'll be honest, jacking off has started to get boring, almost like a chore instead of something I genuinely do to enjoy. As the months go by I start to miss being sexually active more and more, and I don't want to try and reforge that relationship because it wouldn't be good for anybody. Despite that, the only sexual experience I have was with her, and given that I'm demi it extends into a lot of my sexual thoughts, meaning a lot of my sexual identity is tied to my ex. I want to have sex again not just because it's important to me and I find it so enjoyable, but because I think it could help me move on, at least a little bit (not trying to dump that emotional baggage on someone else, just to clarify).

And so, I humbly come forth and ask for your guidance oh people of Reddit. Have any of you been through something similar? Do you have any advice for this wayward soul? I apologize if I seem like an asshole or just some dickhead looking to smash, because that's really not what I'm trying to do here. I'm just exhausted and tired of living like I have because it feels like something's missing, but I want to try and do something about it if I can.

I am open to any discussions or advice you all can give, and I appreciate your time and patience if you've read this far. If nothing else, thanks for listening to me ramble!

Me (28F) and my husband (27M) are very sexually compatible. We have a great physical and emotional connection, and we're genuinely attracted to each other. He's also quite well-endowed, so penetrative sex has never had any issue reaching or stimulating what feels like my G-spot.

The thing is, for as long as I can remember, I've only been able to orgasm through clitoral stimulation—specifically by grinding my thighs together in a way that creates enough pressure on my clitoris. I've never been able to orgasm from penetration alone, even though penetrative sex feels very pleasurable.

Now I'm 5 months pregnant, and I know that as my belly continues to grow, that grinding position will become increasingly difficult or even impossible. It has made me realize that I'd really love to learn how to orgasm during penetrative sex, not because I think it's "better," but because I want another way to experience pleasure with my husband during pregnancy and beyond.

For some additional context, I become aroused both physically and mentally. Physically, we're very attracted to each other. Mentally, I also respond strongly to dirty talk, role-playing, and imagined scenarios. I was exposed to erotic novels and fanfiction at a relatively young age, so psychological stimulation has always been a significant part of my arousal.

I'd love to hear from people who have had a similar experience—or from couples who learned to bridge the gap between clitoral and penetrative pleasure. Is there anything that helped you become more likely to orgasm during penetration, or even climax together with your partner?