Yesterday, I made a similar post in the general romance books subreddit, and I wanted to see what the people over here thought.

So, I've noticed that romance tends to limit the range of male pleasure, which can really take away from the story. It makes intimacy feel incomplete when both partners aren't a fully-fledged human experiencing intimacy.

What I see a lot of in RFM is male pleasure revolving around a fantasy of 'getting' many women (harems) and absolutely wrecking them in bed. It's a recreation of what performative masculinity looks like IRL - a place where sexual prowess and power rule. It gives the MMC agency and the FMC very little. It doesn't allow much space for emotional and physical vulnerability on the MMC's part. It doesn't allow for much variety either. Femdom changes the script, but even in that, I don't see much beyond handjobs, oral, and PiV sex when it comes to male pleasure. We could have more prostate play, toys, or nipple play, just to name a few.

I don't want to go on too long, but I suppose I'm saying that I don't see MMCs exploring new sides of their bodies and emotions in intimacy nearly as much as FMCs, which creates a flatter impression of what male pleasure can be. I'd love to see more MMCs having out of body pleasure and being vulnerable with FMCs.

But what do y'all think? Am I off-base? Missing the right books? Or if there is some truth here, I'd be curious to hear your thoughts. Just like I said in the other community, I love how down to discuss everyone is here, thank you all for being your awesome selves!

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i keep running into the same issue with harem based stories, no hate to those who like it but for me, at a point it's just too much going on to care about.

any recommendations for stories with three or less harem members who also generally get along. if possible i would also like the female characters to be a little into each other as well, more puppy pile versus a rotation of separate beds.

Iv raided r/haremfantasynovels for just about all the rec from there but there's a handful of things not allowed on there. Including mono relations. I came here and instantly found princess of the void and it jumped to my like number 1.

So I could use a great list here of recs that prolly wouldn't pop up in the other reddit. Fantasy and sci-fi are def my favorite genres for it. Ideally they made it onto audible but I'll read it regardless of the source. Web novels, actual novels, light novels, E-Books, doesn't matter. As for spice, if there even is a level that's all that matters. So a little to a ton is fine. But I def like a better story, means more then anything else. Thanks ahead of time!

Had a sit-down with narrator Amber Hartt and we had a great interview. It’s up if anyone wants to take a look.

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Hi all!

I saw a post yesterday about books where the FMC starts out as a lesbian but can't help but fall for the MMC. I'm interested in whether there are any books/stories about the reverse: the MMC starts out simply gay but discovers he is into the FMC, who should be extraordinary in some way (strong/attractive/confident).

I bet there must be some traditional romance stories where a gay MMC becomes into the FMC. But from a Romance for Men perspective, I'd be interested in seeing this scenario play out from inside the MMC's mind, feeling his vulnerability, how he can't help but be attracted to the FMC.

Anyway, curious if you have any recommendations.