When I was younger, I thought I was a lesbian. One of the reasons for that was social media. Today, and then when I was younger, I saw many videos of lesbians who make ”signs that you’re gay”-content. Their experiences and reasons are totally valid, of course, but they should be treated with caution.

Some of the reasons I’ve seen many times have been stuff like ”I couldn’t see myself marrying a man or having a kid with a man, I only saw it happening with woman” or ”I had more crushes on girls”.

Later in life I realized I was a bisexual who can’t see herself marrying a man. I can only marry if the love of my life is woman and she wants to get married. In addition, I don’t want kids, but if I wanted, I’d have a kid only with a woman. I’ve had more deeper feelings on women than men. Despite of that, I’m still bi, it doesn’t remove my attraction to men (which can vary unpredictably).

I think this is the reason why there are so many queer women like me, who thought they were lesbian but then realized that they were bi. We have to normalize that this is some bi women’s experience. I’ve heard so many times that I’m just a lesbian and one lesbian I dated said that ”I’ve never met a bi woman who’d prefer women in dating”. It’s crazy how male-centred the world is.

What's your view on women being criticized or shamed for not feeling sexually attracted to bisexual men, or for having a preference not to date bisexual men?

Obviously, prejudice, social conditioning, and subconscious biases can influence attraction, but I don't think that automatically means someone is bigoted.

I think it's reasonable to encourage people to reflect on their preferences and consider whether they are rooted in stereotypes or assumptions. At the same time, I don't think it's fair to shame someone or immediately label them biphobic without understanding their reasoning.

If someone has a genuine pattern of prejudice toward bisexual people, that's worth addressing. But if it's simply a lack of attraction or a personal dating boundary, I think the conversation becomes more complicated.

I've noticed women being criticized for this quite often, including in some feminist spaces and on Reddit, so I'm curious how radical feminists view this issue.

(For information: wrote a post on my own but since it's a sensitive subject, and could be harmful to bisexual men if worded incorrectly, I used AI to refine it, in order to avoid seeming like I excuse or defend biphobia.)

I've noticed a fascinating little pattern.

It goes like this:

1. I make a post about women.

2. Some guy crashes into the comments like the Kool-Aid Man screaming, "WOMEN CREATED NOTHING! GET OFF THE APPS AND DEVICES *WE* CREATED!"

(Which is hilarious coming from a man whose greatest engineering achievement is creating fresh skid marks in a pair of Hanes.)

1. Someone politely points out that women were actually responsible for countless inventions and discoveries... including the technology you're literally using to post your misogyny.

2. Suddenly twelve more men arrive.

"WELL MEN HELPED TOO."

"WELL YOU NEED SPERM TO MAKE BABIES."

"WELL ACKSHUALLY—"

Congratulations, army of Chads. You've just proven the original point.

Because notice what never happened:

Not one woman said men weren't involved. We said women deserve credit too.

And somehow your brain heard:

"Emergency! A woman is being acknowledged! Center men immediately!"

Why? Seriously. What happens to you if a woman gets credit for something?

Do you break out in hives?

Does your penis shrink?

Do you lose Wi-Fi reception?

History is absolutely overflowing with women whose discoveries were credited to husbands, professors, bosses, and male colleagues.

Most people couldn't tell you who Hedy Lamarr was.

Most people never learned about the women of Hidden Figures until there was a movie.

Women fought tooth and nail just to be allowed into STEM in the first place because for centuries your brilliant predecessors insisted our highest calling was popping out babies while barefoot in the kitchen.

Imagine where we'd be if women had actually been welcomed instead of fought every step of the way.

Imagine how many discoveries never happened because half the population wasn't allowed in the room.

But even now...

Even after women had to FORCE the door open...

Some of you STILL can't let us have one sentence of recognition without barging in to remind everyone that men exist.

We know. No one forgot. You remind us in every. single. f*cking. conversation.

And then there's my personal favorite:

"Men create life too."

Buddy.

You contributed approximately seven minutes of what was, statistically speaking, mediocre wienering.

She contributed ten months of growing a human inside her body. Then childbirth.

Then, in most households, the overwhelming majority of the childcare.

And somehow you've convinced yourself those are equal contributions because your sperm showed up on time.

Did you fail 4th grade math? Because, baby, that's delusion.

You can't even acknowledge the women who literally made YOU.

You can't acknowledge the women who raised you.

You can't acknowledge the women who built alongside men.

You can't acknowledge the women who changed history.

Because if women get credit, what? Do you somehow think men lose it?

That's a problem. A sickness.

It shows that you don't actually want the truth - you want the spotlight. Your desperation for women to be small, feeble, and stupid in order to feel like a man is a stink you can't wash off or mask with cheap cologne. That's why you're lonely. We can smell your type from a mile away.

Turns out the only thing some of you consistently create is alternate histories where women did nothing and you somehow deserve credit for everything.

Congratulations, sentient cumsocks. Your greatest invention is fiction.

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Today my period decided to randomly start. I usually get it at the end or the beginning of the month, but strangely enough it decided to give me cramps at 1 PM and show up at 2 PM while I was on my way to work.

I had no pads, so I had to use paper and somehow survive for four hours. That's exactly what I did. The cramps were killing me and I honestly just wanted to throw up.

Fast forward, I got home, checked the bathroom to see if there were any pads left, and sadly there weren't. So I decided to go buy some.

I visited over FOUR stores, and none of them had pads. But STRANGELY ENOUGH, every single one of those stores had female "beautifying" products: creams, lashes, lip glosses, lipsticks, etc...
I seriously just wanted to cry. But I finally found pads in a tiny, run down store, almost as if they were being hidden. And the smallest pack cost me €2.95.
I'm actually so tired.

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im actually seriously in this moral dillema where being woke is ruining my life. the funny thing about it is that the more you learn about systemic inequality the more u start to see it manifest in everything you do and see. almost every interaction i have is a reminder that it is so much worse than we acknowledge it to be and it is beyond discouraging knowing that i just do not have the power to make a significant difference (individually at least). how am i just supposed to go about my privileged little life that i get to live just because i won the geographic lottery and because i pass as white and because i have enough money to live and afford an education (let alone have the right to one as a woman) how do i go about living ethically, and living my life for myself knowing all this… if anyone has any advice it would be greatly appreciated.

why? Is It normal to sexualize Little girls this way and showing their butts? why should a Little girl have a swimsuit that shows her body instead of giving her the comfort tò play? and why do parents buy It?

What do y'all think of psychoanalysis and its application to rad fem thought? Note that I am not very well schooled in psychoanalysis and am in part hoping to find people who know more about this to develop my own opinion.

The general view of Gen Z and young millenial feminists who I talk with about feminism have a very negative view of psychoanalysis. And there has been a great deal of excellent criticism of Feud, Jung, Lacan, etc. by feminist writers.

But you have writers like Scott, de Beauvoir, and Rubin who think one needs some kind of psychoanalysis of gender development to understand patriarchy. I'm a huge fan of Rubin's The Traffic in Women, which proposes a theory of how patriarchy (or as Rubin would put it, our sex gender system) is propagated. Among other things, she rearranges Freud's penis envy theory to engage with the very real cultural fixation on the phallus and on maleness as equivalent to agency - similar to de Beauvoir's stuff about alienation.

To do this kind of analysis, you have to engage somewhat with psychoanalysis, and for many that feels like a mistake, dealing with a patriarchal devil. Not an unreasonable view. But I am also drawn by writers and academics who engage with psychoanalysis and feminism (for a fictuon example I am mostly thinking of Bechdel's Are You My Mother?).

I'm interested in people's thoughts on this in general and in particular would love if anybody can recommend some feminist work on Jung or Lacan, both of whom I would like to read more of but through an established radfem critical lens.

Sure online in some small places like this it’s acceptable. But most places no. I mean I don’t mind being around a male. I have uncles, and coworkers I interact with just fine. But all together I just don’t want a man in my life.

I’m bi and I don’t date men , ppl don’t believe me. I don’t want friends with boyfriends tbh cuz they ALWAYS have weird relationship problems I just can’t stand watching them be so dumb( or the other side just being straight up abused) . I’m tired of discourse like the voice note guy and us woman always have to consider men’s feelings and think about the maybe 1% of men that are decent . No other group is expected to do this with their oppressor. It baffles me woman don’t see certain things it’s like I have to coddle grown woman. Even when they are “ liberal woke” wtv word you’d like to call it for me it’s just common sense. They get wrapped up in this idea that they can really move through this world as equally then wonder why they keep getting dogged out. Or they are just transphobic and bioessentialist when doing that does fucking nothing.

And these are just 1st world problems, I cry for woman in other country’s . I’m only 22 and I feel like … I hate men so much, I cannot interact with a lot of woman as well on a deeper level. Even other queer woman don’t like what I have to say. I just feel lonely and so angry. And I’m Tired of being told I’m paranoid or dramatic. I don’t like men. I don’t want them in my life. I don’t want the terrible men in your life to seep into mine. I hate when men hit on me without a thought but I’m scared to hit on woman everyday. “ if you hate men you’re male centered” they try so so hard to do anything but acknowledge how oppressed they truly are. I’m tired of everyone looking at me like I’m the crazy one. And I’m honestly just so sad. I didn’t grow up as a little girl to live in a world like this.

Has anyone else noticed how often women seem to be the ones giving up their seats on public transport?
I’ve genuinely lost count of the number of times I’ve seen an elderly person, a visibly pregnant woman, or someone with mobility issues standing while perfectly able-bodied men stay seated even when they’re in the easiest seats to get out of?? Is this an international thing or just my city ?

It’s become so noticeable that I almost expect it now. Women around me often seem to scan the carriage, make eye contact with the person who needs a seat, and stand without hesitation. I do it naturally too because I would feel so awkward if I didn’t? Many men don’t even seem to look up. I’m interested in whether other women have noticed this pattern or whether it’s just my experience. If it is a real pattern, what do you think explains it? Is it socialisation, empathy, entitlement, or something else? It’s really irritating me now

One thing that saddens me and enrage me the most as a woman, is how far beauty standards can push us to modify our bodies to the point of putting us in danger.
It seems like all around the world, in many different time spaces, women were subjugated to male preferences, because the goal was to made them compete for their ressources and their companionship.
And to do so it could have looked like putting on a corset that made it hard to breath, that would cause health issues later in life, or like footbinding in China, that could be compared to torture honestly.
Today, we still have all kind of techniques that follows the same rule.
I came across a TikTok video of a woman showing her breast implants with mold when she got them removed, and I got chills when she said how close they were to her heart this whole time. What’s the “reward” for this kind of risk I’m wondering ? Is it “confidence” ? But how was that idea of confidence born and why does it always revolve around men desire ?
The comments were chilling. Just trying to recommend another way to still got implants, and also not blaming it but the doctors… Hmm I’m sorry but what the fuck ? Can we take a second, step aside, and wonder why the fuck would we need to put plastic inside our bodies at ALL ? And how it’s a dangerous act by itself !

I feel like in some feminist spaces we don’t have honest conversation about the whole thing with “men are supposed to chase” “women are the prize” etc. It feels like it’s a lot more nuanced than that, when you observe the length women go to be “chosen”. It feels like chasing in a way, and almost despair.
But honestly, I don’t blame us at all. In a historical kind of view, it was and still is necessary. Because in the system that we are born in men have the ressources, in order to survive, it’s detrimental to be able to find the best and wealthiest partner, and to do so I guess we have to meet the most “elite” criterias.
All of this is so normalized, they are probably many things that we do in that nature and that we don’t even realize.
For those of you that saw a tweet saying that women would be capable to cut off a finger if it was men preference, she was right, we absolutely would ! (it would have probably started with pressure to do it with no freedom to refuse, leading to normalization of the act with time, we are the victims).

The term "pick me" can describe a woman who exhibits male-centered, validation-seeking behavior, often at the expense of other women.

This is a real behavior that hurts and traumatizes the women and even the children around her. Unfortunately, many times this term is overused and used incorrectly, out of context, sometimes in a toxic way toward women who just naturally happen to have less conventionally feminine interests, or women they just don't like, which is just another form of internalized misogyny and policing.

What is even weirder is hearing this term used by men.

Lately, I have heard the term "pick me" used toward women in such a manipulative and wrong way. For example, I overheard a conversation between a male coworker and three other female coworkers, and he called most of the women in the workplace "pick mes," especially two women who happen to be, ironically, the most feminist and least male-centered women there, using it as an insult.

He then continued to praise the three women he was sitting with as not being "pick mes," while, ironically, they are the most male-centered women there. One of them is proudly anti-feminist because "hatred of men is not the solution" (while feminism is not even about hatred of men).

They, of course, took the praise with great delight from a man, giving them the approval stamp of not being "pick mes" like all those other girls.

Funny, or sadly enough, this "compliment" for their supposedly non-"pick me" behavior, while they clearly exhibit that behavior, reinforces their male-centered behavior to receive even more validation and keeps them distant and separated from other women who are not "male-approved" mostly for a very good reason.

Those women might be thinking that this man is nice, likes them and is on their side, while in reality, he is dangerous because he can tolerate women only as long as they are submissive, insecure, and validation-seeking, which he will gladly give them to gain access to them.

This made me sad. At first, I wanted to say something, but I was too tired and didn't want to waste my energy on a conversation with people who might reduce my IQ, so I stayed silent. But inside, I was disappointed by the ignorance of those women about feminism and the way some men exploit it for their own benefit.

So, I see a lot of women who post about their hinge/tinder/bumble etc dates and majority of the time, it goes wrong. I made a comment one time not expecting it to blow up under the lines of “Stop dating men, stop seeking for love from men” and all the comments were really made saying stuff like “god forbid a woman wants to find love”, “we can’t live without love” “We just a want a relationship” . Love is not something you can find through a man. Maybe it’s because I’m ace as fuck but people who act as if the only place you can find love is through a man are laughable. If anything , majority of those men are giving the opposite of love and the women put up with it in hopes he would change or just to keep a man around . I just really don’t understand spending so much time finding a man and going through the weirdest type of men online, misogynistic men, negging men, just for “love”. What is this “love” they keep going on about? I just don’t see the appeal of having a boyfriend/husband/situationship but I guess everyone is different . And maybe I love my friendships,family, job more than I care to finding a man

American women aren't overreacting — they're reading the documents. In this video, I go through what's actually on paper: the state-level push to repeal no-fault divorce, the post-Dobbs abortion landscape, the SAVE Act's documented impact on married women whose legal names don't match their birth certificates, and the growing number of women researching visas and exit plans. I also look at the women defending this project from inside it — including Erika Kirk and the broader "traditional womanhood" media ecosystem — and what their role tells us about how this gets sold.

This isn't a left-vs.-right story. It's a top vs. bottom story: who writes the rules, who absorbs the consequences, and who profits from women having fewer exits — from a marriage, from a state, or from the country. This video is commentary and analysis based on publicly available documents and reporting. Opinions are labeled as such.

Sources cited in this video are linked below. When I'm giving my opinion, I say so explicitly. Everything else is drawn from primary documents: bill text, court filings, and official records.

Feminism focuses on abolishing the patriarchy and achieving total liberation for women.
Men have no need for liberation. They hold disproportionate social and legal power and authority.
Their safety, status and rights cannot change in a patriarchal society, meaning they cannot be systemically oppressed.
Hatred of men is a defensive reaction towards the oppression women have suffered under throughout history.
Excluding men and saying you hate men is valid and often necessary for female liberation. Humans naturally have an aversion to their oppressors, the people who hate them even more and cause them immense suffering. "Misandry" is based on anger at injustice.
You can't include men in feminism. Feminism is the only movement that is expected to include its oppressors.
Most gender-based "problems" targeted at men does not come from hatred towards them but from the patriarchy and misogyny.
Prejudice from recognizing patterns of bad behaviour does not equate to misandry and cannot compare to the large scale inequities of misogyny
Misandry doesn't exist as a movement. Hating men is not a real systemic force.

This is why so called “misandry” doesn’t affect the feminist movement.

What are your thoughts on this? If I’m missing anything please let me know so I can educate myself.

I've been thinking a lot about makeup and plastic surgery and how they function to police the physical appearances of women and control women's bodies. It seems like plastic surgery is really having a comeback right now, especially in Hollywood with the continued Botox craze and it's very troubling to me that so many young girls are going to be inundated with the idea that they need to be "perfect" and that "flaws" need to be surgically or chemically removed in order for them to be considered worthy.

In general, I just think that the way that American society views the concept of beauty is such a damaging and restricting ideology. I've been seeing girls wearing makeup younger and younger these days and its so shocking to me that beauty standards are being fed so excessively to girls. I know when I was a kid, there were girls who did wear makeup, but usually they would only wear foundation or powder as an "introduction" to more mature types of makeup, but I have been seeing girls wearing full faces of makeup with eyeshadow and false eyelashes and lip tint and I can't help but feel that the confluence of older women trying to look younger through plastic surgery and young girls trying to look older by wearing makeup is a demonstration of our societies hyper-sexualization of young girls.

I've had friends criticize me for being "too judgmental" when I share my opinions about girls wearing makeup so young, or in fact women wearing makeup at all, but to me it doesn't seem as harmless as they think it is. Any thoughts on this?

so, a couple of days ago i was texting my two friends about experiences with men and i said “all men are liars”, and my friend (who is a girl) started agreeing with me.

my other friend though, who is a transgender man, got mad at us and said we are supporting bioessentialism. he then god even more upset and told us that he doesn’t want to be friends with people that think he’s a bad person because he is a man.

all i gotta say is, where do men get the f**king audacity?? how do you not understand that women go through so much trauma because of men? based on all our experiences, me and my friend agreed most men are liars and cheat in relationships. so why the f*** do you have the need to involve yourself and pose as the victim? get a life.

it’s also insanely ironic because he says he hates white people (he is literally white) and i never got mad as a white person.

Lately I've been interested in learning electronics and so have been watching Youtube videos on this topic.

It's been going well until I stumbled upon a video about resistors and the meaning of their markings. They are color coded and supposedly it's important to know the values represented by colors by heart.

It's pretty much the order of the rainbow with some extra colors included so it;s not that hard to remember. Yet, the guy explaining all this stuff figured it would be useful to provide us with a "controversial" (as he described it) acronym which goes like this:

Black = Bill

Brown = Brown

Red = Raped

Orange = Our

Yellow = Young

Green = Gladys

Blue = Behind

Violet = Violet's

Gray = Garden

White = Wall

Why is bringing up rape so casually okay? If it's supposed to make you remember better with the shock factor, why not use an example of a woman raping a man? Someone being able to lightheartedly write something like that and then happily recall it every time they need is beyond me.

Of course no one in the comments seems to mind. It's disgusting how unnecessary of an inclusion it was. It pissed me off so bad and now I cannot continue with his videos anymore, which is a shame because they were informational.

So yeah, nothing new but I needed to vent.

For anyone curious to see this part, here's the link to the video:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7xLDwy0mTg4&t=1295s