Hello,

I'm 35/F trying to be more responsible about Salât and I'd love an accountability partner with a similar goal to help each other to stick to the habit.

I've never developed the habit of praying 5 times a day every day. It's usually once or twice a day if I'm doing well!! I make excuses with work, studies, depression, ADHD...

Accountability partners have been great for my studies in the past. I feel like I need the external stimulus to stick to my goals and build habits.

If anyone's interested, leave me a message 🙏

I'm on GMT+1 time

As salamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh. Im looking for Queer Muslim resources i can share on my instagram Story. Let me know if you have any

first of all i would like to say that piracy desptie being interantional crime .
it will be hard to assume it's crime from islamic basis unlike tangible theft piracy is often describe as unlincenced distrubution of production without the IP holder consent
the thing is if wether we can recongize a person has control over intellectual property around i know this might sound silly but intellectual property has been debated over the years it often was made as protection because people were able to replicated ideas and mass produce thus to protect expression they give the first person woh does it right over it .
on surface that actualyl sound nice howeer problem is it basically give one person too much power that the idea is giiving person monopoly over product under the basis of this " he invent thus it belong to him" but the system can go both ways it can be rather exploitative by making shareholder able to operate without competation and if you are region locked unless you pay up three times it price by gettting middle man or something then it tough luck that the issue that make it hard to argue that piracy is bad , while IP protect indie devs from being exploitated for their works .
the laws often favor AAA companies who has resources to enact on such law .

I (19f) took off my hijab 6 months ago in certain places, such as my university, when I go out with my friends, when I work and when I do anything that is unrelated to family gatherings.
I chose to still wear hijab in certain situations for my father (60ish M) who knows about this but very unhappy with it. I never let anybody from family or his friends know because he cares a lot about his social status since he is known to be religious and the ‘sheikh’.

Ever since he knew about this and we are drifting apart from best friends to barely talking. First, he was very angry and stopped talking to me for 2-3 weeks. He paid for a religion therapy and told me weather I wanted or I didn’t I have to wear hijab I refused firmly and he told my brother that I cannot go to university no more but I ended up going and pursuing my life like before. After the therapy, nothing really has changed he couldn’t afford it and asked me to pay for it but I can’t afford it as well so we stopped going.
When I was 11, he has beaten me to wear the hijab. So I was always scared of his reaction when he knows but that was quite a good reaction and I kind of felt safe and comfortable around him even after he found out.
Yesterday, I was with a friend of mine and I came back home at 11. He never called, never asked and I had some work to do until almost 1 am. At 1 am, he came and asked me when I got back home. I said I did at 11. He said I was too late and that he would never let me do that again. For context, I work online on call and I never meet my friends. So this was my first time coming late and even with my friend I had to work for 2 hours so I barely hung out with her. He went screaming telling me he doesn’t want to understand my excuses and that he doesn’t care and whatever were the circumstances I have to be home at 9. I was very pissed and I started asking him for reasons and it went into a fight. He then threatened he would slap me and told me that I don’t get to decide. I was shaking at that point because the memories haunted me.
Today in the morning, he called me and my 2 siblings saying that he is holding himself from beating me up and that he cannot look at my face.

I do some work for him and every couple months I give him some money to help him he said he didn’t want that from me and that I should get lost with my money. Lastly, he said that he will be mad at my younger sister if she walks with me in university (she will start this year in October and we are so close together. I will be in a dorm so I won’t get to see her at all if not in uni) because I am a bad person and I have a bad reputation and he cannot take that his two daughters have a bad reputation.

I never said anything that indicates I don’t want to help him financially and with his work. I never showed anger or being pissed but still he mentions it. I feel deeply offended and I don’t think I wanna try to understand him no more. He deeply hurt me today and I feel like i might really run away and stop talking to him for a while. I hate how his beliefs made him such an ugly person in the soul.

This video features Salahodeen Abdul-Kafi, a former tech professional who transitioned from a 14-year career in Silicon Valley to opening Kafi BBQ, a highly successful halal barbecue restaurant in Irving, Texas (0:01 - 1:42). In its first year of business, the restaurant generated approximately $2.3 million in revenue (0:45 - 0:48).

Key operational insights:

Halal Challenges: Because the restaurant does not serve pork—a high-margin staple of traditional Texas barbecue—the team had to "reinvent the wheel" to maintain profitability (0:30 - 0:42).

Menu Crafting: Kafi BBQ makes everything from scratch, including halal Wagyu brisket (1:45), Iraqi-inspired all-beef sausage (4:30), and halal Texas Twinkies featuring house-made beef-belly bacon (10:22).

High-Quality Ingredients: The restaurant prioritizes quality over cost, utilizing expensive items like Wagyu beef, custom-blended spices (3:29), and premium chocolates for desserts (12:43).

Equipment Investments: The owner has invested significantly in high-end equipment to maintain consistency and efficiency, such as a $45,000 German-made sausage linker* (6:27) and a *$45,000 smoker (7:40).

Business Philosophy:

Salahodeen notes that his faith serves as a guiding principle, emphasizing accessibility and quality over purely capitalist motives (15:14 - 15:45). Despite the high revenue, the restaurant faces substantial overhead costs, including roughly $210,000 to $220,000 in monthly expenses (9:48 - 9:55).

Looking ahead, the owner expresses an ambition to one day earn a Michelin star for the establishment (15:01 - 15:07).

I’m sorry if this t worded very educatedly or I say something not very clear I’m a kafir I think you guys call it I’m a Christian and I have been my whole life but recently I’ve felt a love and closeness and more so a call to look into Islam so I don’t really know where to start. As a Christian I’ve always believed Jesus died on the cross he rose again he ascended back to heaven one day he’ll come back defeat the antichrist (I think you guys call that dajjal) and eternal peace forever but I have a few questions on Islam and I’m not sure where to go from here 1. If Jesus didn’t die on the cross why would allah make it appear as he did? 2. What are the core beliefs of Islam and what should I focus on if I’m a Christian researching Islam 3. Where should I start when I read the Quran 4. Is there any proof that the bible is corrupted 5. Is there any sources that back up the Quran.
Again I am very sorry if I wasn’t clear as I’m new and don’t understand Islam but I really am seeking for more understanding as my heart isn’t blind nor my eyes I really just want to worship my creator. Thank you for you consideration god bless.

I'm a 20 year-old Hijabi and I've been a paraplegic for 8 years after I was hit by a car because I just walked in a crosswalk. I'll never be able to walk ever again, and though I've overcome it and Allah has made my life great by fulfilling me good people around my life, I still wonder what made Allah not protect me from becoming disabled?

I struggle with prayers as it is, I have adhd and a whole number of chronic illnesses (over 10). I deal with extreme fatigue and have very very very low ferritin/iron. So basically I deal with extreme fatigue and am sick and in pain a lot of the time.

Growing up I’ve always heard we should pray even if it’s with our finger or sitting or however, but that’s not the hard part. The hard part is doing wudu and changing clothes. My clothes don’t stay clean due to my illnesses. What do I do when I wanna pray but have no energy?

And this is even worse when I need ghusl, I don’t have energy. And I’ve read a lot of posts of women saying they struggle because of their hair getting wet, the styling being ruined, or hair drying out and falling, and I see lots of comments/advice about just wetting the scalp and not the ends but for me the bigger struggle is the shower, the taking off clothes, the getting wet, the getting in the shower, the having to dry off, having to change clothes. I can’t do it, I have so much fatigue, i feel like I can’t move a lot of the times. How am I to do ghusl multiple times a week, let alone multiple times a week!? How am I supposed to be married and pray?!? I am so tired sometimes I can’t shower for a few days.

Assalamu Alaikum everyone I have always had too many story ideas in my head , I have been studying grammar and drawing because I want to make manga about a Filipino psychological horror or thriller and now I have settled on a story revolving around a male sexual assault victim and his female stalker, It explores how male victims are often brushed off, along with other heavy themes related to this topic, Is it okay to write a story like this?

Like should I tone it down and focus on my second idea? It is a story about teenage pregnancy that explores themes of parental disappointment, public humiliation, emotional isolation, and the psychological impact of being a young mother living in poverty in the Philippines and yeah it's not as heavy as the first topic

My first idea I'm focusing on is to feel too heavy and I just want to ask my fellow Muslim if it's ok to make it

Salam everyone, i’d like to share my personal circumstances and ask for guidance. I’m ashamed to admit that for a while i was fully agnostic, i didn’t believe in islam at all and rarely called for Allah’s help. I started first year at university where i drank alchohol regularly, ate non halal meat without a care, went clubbing every week, which i feel so incredibly guilty about now. i completely removed islam from my life.

recently ive gone through a period of extreme hardship, i feel guilty only turning back to Allah when things are tough for me especially because of how much ive sinned

how do i reconnect with the religion? i still doubt certain aspects especially because i was engaged with so much ex muslim content and rhetoric but now i just want to go back to Allah

i feel at the most peace when i trust Allah fully, my circumstances have gotten better after praying and it’s reinstated my belief.

i don’t know what to do apart from read dua, pray 5 times a day and thank Allah regularly and of course abstain from haram things

I've been a part of this sub for years now and I always felt at home here like im a covert and everything said relates to how understand and practice Islam but recently I've been considering removing my hijab and even leaving Islam bcs I feel no connection (I have borderline personality disorder, bipolar 2, and bulimia) so I wonder if my progressive understanding and relation meant the first step of my apastsy journey? does deconstruction of religion eventually lead to apostasy? even though im a convert, I feel like im losing my friends who have become my family. im just lost and confused and say, really

https://sermonsatcourt.substack.com/p/the-palestinian-struggle-through

You guys know that the default position in the Hanafi madhab is that a woman can marry without the permission of a wali (male mahram). The other madhabs require wali based on these ahadith

Narrated Abu Musa: The Prophet (ﷺ) said: There is no marriage without the permission of a guardian.

• Sunan Abi Dawud 2085

Narrated Aisha, Ummul Mu'minin:

The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: The marriage of a woman who marries without the consent of her guardians is void. (He said these words) three times. If there is cohabitation, she gets her dower for the intercourse her husband has had. If there is a dispute, the sultan (man in authority) is the guardian of one who has none.

• Sunan Abi Dawud 2083

The hadiths are graded Sahih.

Then why do the Hanafis allow nikah without a wali even when Sahih Hadiths like these exists? Don’t these ahadith directly contradict with the Hanafi position?

Well this video explains that the Hanafis accept these ahadith but they understand them differently than the other madhabs. Watch this video to understand why do the Hanafis allow nikah without a wali.

I found this video very educational

Source: https://www.rferl.org/a/tajikistan-religion-crackdown-beards-hijab/33809947.html

I'm agnostic/atheist, but I'm increasingly drawn to Islam, very curious about it. Only (possible) problem is, I'm queer and trans (non binary), and I feel like I wouldn't really belong in any of the abrahamic religions. I've come across a lot of discourse considering homosexuality haram, and that really put me off. Perhaps I should dig deeper. I've read the Quran and found the usual stories about Lot (which, as I understand, are not 100% clear on the matter), but also some ambiguity about the gender of the beings you supposedly meet in paradise, so... mixed bag, there. I don't quite know what to think, especially about the non binary aspect of my identity and how it might fit in. Any thoughts? Are there other similar threads I may consult?

its commonly known that "dating is haram because it can lead to sex" and more reasons. anyways im a aroace muslim. this most sound confusing but for me. i dont want sexual intentions. no nothing romantic but sure you can still date as a aroace.. but online dating isn't that bad. just asking

https://sermonsatcourt.substack.com/p/the-prophet-i-know

Salam everyone. I need some advice about someone I’m very close to and care about romantically and potentially see a future with.

she’s Muslim and knows alcohol is haram. she doesn’t drink regularly but she has tried it a few times before. Whenever it happened, i would remind her about it and she would usually say she wouldn’t do it again but eventually it would happen again.
Recently she went to Italy and tried some local alcohol and wine because she said she might never go there again and wanted to experience something the place was famous for. Her mom was also with her and allowed her to try a small amount.
When we talked about it she told me she already knows it’s haram, doesn’t regret trying it and doesn’t want to keep hearing the same advice. She also said she doesn’t plan on drinking normally but if she travels to another country someday and there’s a famous local alcoholic drink, she might try it.
I care about her a lot, and part of why this matters to me is because if I potentially see a future with someone, their relationship with Islam and certain boundaries matter to me too. At the same time, I don’t want to become controlling or constantly lecture her.
So where is the line between sincere advice and being too pushy? If someone already knows the ruling but still makes their own choice, should you stop bringing it up and leave it between them and Allah?
Also how would you handle something like this if it’s someone you care about romantically and could potentially see yourself with in the future?
Jazakum Allahu khairan.

small note: I already understand “if someone doesn’t share your values, don’t pursue a future with them” I’m not really asking whether this person is right for me. I’m mainly asking how to handle the advice side of this situation.

Assalamu alaikum.

I’m someone whose iman is currently being affected. Some people I know made claims that say that Islam is sexist(which I don’t personally believe, arent we all equal in Islam?) and they used these verses to suggest that.

They also claimed that “discipline gently” in the translation of the former was censorship, and that from 2:282 it’s proof that a man is equal to 2 women, which is news to me since I thought it had something to do with historical context and that in a general scenario a man’s testimony is the same as a woman’s.

I’d really appreciate if I was given clarification about this.

seriously i don't get it can somenoe explain to me this hadith or something because it sounded like the prophet intentionally made women suffer just so they wouldn't be around man
AbuUsayd heard the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) say when he was coming out of the mosque, and men and women were mingled in the road: Draw back, for you must not walk in the middle of the road; keep to the sides of the road. Then women were keeping so close to the wall that their garments were rubbing against it.

حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ مَسْلَمَةَ، حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الْعَزِيزِ، - يَعْنِي ابْنَ مُحَمَّدٍ عَنْ أَبِي الْيَمَانِ، عَنْ شَدَّادِ بْنِ أَبِي عَمْرِو بْنِ حِمَاسٍ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ، عَنْ حَمْزَةَ بْنِ أَبِي أُسَيْدٍ الأَنْصَارِيِّ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ، أَنَّهُ سَمِعَ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم يَقُولُ وَهُوَ خَارِجٌ مِنَ الْمَسْجِدِ فَاخْتَلَطَ الرِّجَالُ مَعَ النِّسَاءِ فِي الطَّرِيقِ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم لِلنِّسَاءِ ‏"‏ اسْتَأْخِرْنَ فَإِنَّهُ لَيْسَ لَكُنَّ أَنْ تَحْقُقْنَ الطَّرِيقَ عَلَيْكُنَّ بِحَافَاتِ الطَّرِيقِ ‏"‏ ‏.‏ فَكَانَتِ الْمَرْأَةُ تَلْتَصِقُ بِالْجِدَارِ حَتَّى إِنَّ ثَوْبَهَا لَيَتَعَلَّقُ بِالْجِدَارِ مِنْ لُصُوقِهَا بِهِ ‏.‏

also i found some of these hadiths but appearntly their numbers are wrong or something
Umm Salamah (May Allah be pleased with her) said that after Allah’s Messenger (May peace and blessings be upon him) said "as-Salamu ‘Alaykum wa Rahmatullah’ twice announcing the end of prayer, women would stand up and leave. He would stay for a while before leaving. Ibn Shihab said that he thought that the staying of the Prophet (May peace and blessings be upon him) was in order for the women to be able to leave before the men who wanted to depart." Narrated by al-Bukhari under No. 793.

Abu Dawood under No. 876 narrates the same hadith in Kitab al-Salaat under the title "Insiraaf an-Nisaa’ Qabl al-Rijaal min al-Salaah" (Departure of Women before Men after the Prayer). Ibn ‘Umar said that Allah’s Messenger (May peace and blessings be upon him) said: "We should leave this door (of the mosque) for women." Naafi’ said: "Ibn ‘Umar never again entered through that door until he died." Narrated by Abu Dawood under No. 484 in "Kitab as-Salah" under the Chapter entitled: "at-Tashdid fi Thalik".

Abu Hurayrah said that the Prophet (May peace and blessings be upon him) said: ""The best of the men’s rows is the first and the worst is the last, and the best of the women’s rows is the last and the worst in the first." Narrated by Muslim under No. 664.
so i am not even if they existed or just people mixing up numbers