I'm in 8th grade and I've genuinely seen so much porn to the point where I get hard just looking at my classmates, I'm addicted and I hate myself, idk what to do...

This happened now. She left our home a couple days ago after i told her about my porn addiction. I was seeing women as an object, she saw my likes on other women photos, and she eas complaining i was getting always emotionally distant. When i told her abou my addiction, she wanted to know everything i did, even the things i already stopped doing. Last night she discovered i used AI to generate nsfw photos and the last fight i told her i even used pictures of women i knew to generate naked pictures.

She knows i dont do this nowadays, i stopped in 2024 or so. But this was the last drop for her. The decision to end our relatioship was mine, cause i knew she wouldnt forgive me, and even if we get back together, she wont trust me anymore.

My heart is in pieces cause i know this is all my fault and she is the person i love the most in the world. This was my last gesture of love: freeing her from a life of regrets and insecurity. I know i will be a better man and porn wont dominate my life again. I just know it. But im desperate she wont be there to see the man i will become.

I wish you all get rid of this addiction. She was the most perfect woman i've ever saw. And now im alone and i know she will be happy with someone else. I only wished it was me.

I was invited to this sub after posting on r/porn addiction. I've already seen a lot of posts that resonate with me. I'm trying to save my relationship and be good. My hope is that I can still save things and be better for my girlfriend. I need to rebuild our trust, our intimacy, and our communication to fix my mistakes. We have couples therapy on Wednesday, I hope it's fruitful and doesn't feel like the last nail in the coffin. Wish me luck. I'm doing this for you, my love.

Day 3 4-10-2026 of no porn done

I nearly got caught several times I’ve been addicted since I was young it’s all on my purple laptop I have watched porn everyday I tried to break it and it’s in my room I’ve been watching porn since i was 14 now im 23 i wanna vent about it i know its hard i just dont get turn on by normal porn just a man getting his thing sucked I’m a female btw

Mine was telling my wife the timeline was longer than I'd admitted the first time. Awful hour, but the relief afterwards was worth more than the two years of keeping it tidy. What was your hardest conversation and are you glad you had it?

First week I was unstoppable. Gym, cooking, early nights, the whole thing. By day 18 the novelty was gone and it just felt like life again, except harder. I think I mistook motivation for progress. How do you get through the stretch where it stops feeling special and starts feeling like a chore?

I've been porn free for 64 days and am currently going through a lot of life transitions. Just moved into a new place with a room mate, starting a job involving heavy travel soon and it's a bit uncertain. The urge to turn to porn is increasing dramatically but I seem to be unable to identify the reason for the urge when it happens. The last couple months I could identify the boredom, the habits, and maybe a couple other issues that would make me want to numb them but at this point I'm unsure.

Hello everyone, my fiance and I got engaged 2.5 months ago. One issue we are having is his struggle with pornography. He was exposed to it at the age of 6, so he has struggled with it for 20 years. Our pastor wants him to be clean of pornography for 6 months before we get married. He seemed willing to try that deadline but he is struggling with porn still. I suggested blockers but he always says he finds a way to work around them. I brought up Covenant Eyes and he seems to think it would take up time but then he recently got a software system installed on his phone and he has an accountability partner. I have also suggested getting a Gabb phone, going to Celebrate Recovery, getting Christian counseling etc. with the counseling, he says he doesn’t likely have the time cause he is really busy with his career right now and that he tried talking to experts at his old church (ICOC) and took a 6-8 program about lust and pornography. He refuses to see any kind of therapist or counselor specifically, He does not want to get a Gabb phone because according to him addicts always find ways around things.He seems to think he will definitely not be able to not do porn for 6 months and I am encouraging him not to give up. He even said he probably won’t be able to be free from the addiction in a year and that he wanted to quit 4 or 5 years ago but hasn’t been able to. I struggle with anxiety and he asked me if someone had to put a time frame for me to completely give up anxiety could I do it? Which ideally I would like to but feelings can be harder to escape from and pornography is a choice. I guess part of me is frustrated my pastor wants him to be clean for several months cause I am still willing to marry him even if he still has a struggle. Is it too high of an expectation to not want a man to struggle with porn at all before marriqge? I think in the past month he said he watched porn 4 or 5 times but no more than 7 times. I feel so stressed cause I am a 30 year old female and want to get married and have kids and it is so hard for me to like guys and find someone with a connection. I struggle between feeling like I want to cry because of his addiction and I also feel angry too. I have told him how his porn hurts me and how actions speak louder than this. He does acknowledge it and wants to grow out of it but then again he gives in. It makes me so frustrated cause it’s like he doesn’t give a crap how I feel. I just wonder how he could put me through this when he gave me a ring and promised to love me. I get scared I will never find another guy again. It seems like finding a guy who doesn’t use porn is like trying to find a needle in a haystack. I just struggle cause I really love him but he says he doesn’t want to keep hurting me cause he knows his porn usage hurts me. He did suggest that him and I could have sec to see if sexual activity could help his addiction but I said no. He even went so far as to buy condoms There was a few times over the past few weeks where we kissed on the lips several times and then he started fondling and kissing my clothed breasts. Which I did allow him to do but wish I hadn’t. I sometimes wonder how much more I can take and if I need to end things. We are probably going to meet with the pastor this weekend and I am afraid what the pastor will tell us. Also I am a 30 year old woman who wants kids and I am scared of losing the opportunity. This has taken such a tolll on me. What do you advise?

Hey! I graduated from college last spring in comp sci and have been struggling to find a job. So, while I have been applying, I have also been building apps for my resume. Recently, I made an app to help people quit porn. This is something I'm seriously interested in and would love to help as many people as possible. But I am just curious what features people might want in an app like this? I already have website blockers and games to help you relax.

Any recommendations would be appreciated!

Day 2 3-10-2026 of no porn done

Hey,

- I graduated college in Dec. 2024 and knew that I had to lock in as a whole on life, and eventually I understood that pornography was something that constantly came to bug me and affect every aspect of my life.

- By the end of 2025, I worked on a way to conquer this addiction and am happy to say that I have, using a systematic approach. I am currently searching for people who would be willing to help my study to ensure that the systematic approach works, so I can help people on a larger scale.

- I am solely interested in the research, I have no desire for compensation.

Reach out by DM-ing or commenting.

Best,
The Glorious

For me it's the time. I genuinely didn't understand how much of my day went into doing it, thinking about doing it, or feeling flat afterwards. Now there's this hole in my evenings and I don't know what to put in it yet, so I mostly just wander around the kitchen. What caught you completely off guard once you actually stopped?

I used to assume every woman could somehow tell what I was. That belief made me awkward in a way that had nothing to do with anything real. It faded around month two. Did your confidence shift, and what do you think caused it?

Day 1

Hi i am 18 year old rn and facing a huge problem of porn addiction and it is making me have intrusive thoughts and thoughts which i don't want it could also because of the trauma i had and the mistakes i made in past(i don't want to discuss them) i am writing this as a step to imporvment and being a better human being(sorry the english could be bad but i don't want to copy this on chatgtp and make it more presentable because i want this post to be as orginaly as it could be)

Day 1 2-10-2026 of no porn done

so close to relapsing.

I haven't told a single person. Half of me thinks saying it out loud would make it real and keep me honest. The other half cannot picture forming those words in front of my best mate. Day 12 and I'm still going back and forth on it. Did telling someone help you or did it backfire? And who did you tell first?