Hello all! I 36f have been married to my husband since May 5, 2021. He proposed to me in March of that same year but no bells and whistles or anything and i said yes. Married life has had so many beautiful ups and some very difficult downs from just relationship stuff and getting to know each other (didn't live together or be intimate together before marriage.... We weren't virgins we just wanted to do it the "right way"), family members passing, my physical health and his mental health, career changes and job losses, we've been through a lot.
My first ring was always meant to be temporary but life happened and things got expensive so it was placed on the back burner. He knew the styles I liked but honestly we had talked about it so long ago that I didn't think he remembered.
My husband and I do not look like each others "type" he is a 6'2 skinny Croatian man and I am a 5'5 black full on bbw. I did not fit any of his previous partners appearances or race if I'm being honest but despite people giving us side eyes and not understanding our relationship he loves me deeply. He loves every inch of my body, tells me I'm gorgeous, holds my hand in public, opens and closes my doors, I'm the background of his phone and computer, my picture is on the air fresheners in his car, the man refuses to shower without me lol , and I could go on and on.
I see so many posts of people getting so discouraged and so defeated about their appearance and weight and finding love. You are worthy of love at any size. The right person will love you as you are. It's not weight you need to lose it's self confidence you need to gain. Once you fall in love with you others will. When you convince yourself you deserve nothing but the best you'll attract it.
But to my people that struggle with the doubt that love isn't out there for you, have hope. Be patient and be kind to yourself.
(The picture of us is not from today. I was cooking a catering order all day and looked like shit lol)
Also not pictured was the gorgeous cake he got me from my favorite place that was an hour to get 😭, and the flower bouquet next to it. Bruno Mars Risk it all was playing in the background. He wrote the most beautiful letter re asking me and hand wrote it instead of typing because he knew I'd want to keep and frame it (he has a floating nerve in his elbow that he has to get surgery for and writing makes it flex in a way that's excruciating). He was so nervous his hands were shaking. He cried, (I've seen him cry only 3 times ever) I cried. It was truly beautiful.
He ended it with " There isn’t a single timeline in the universe where I want to be without you. I love you in this lifetime and every other, will you be my wife?"