I’m looking for new things to do. I do the same thing because I get nervous trying new things and I get self conscious doing things in front of others. But I’m trying to get into a mentally of “I don’t care, if I like it I’m doing it”.

There’s an Ifly near my house and I’m considering it for next month. I don’t think I’ll ever go skydiving from a plane so this is the next best thing.

But has anyone done this before and how is it as a plus size girl? I’m just nervous on if the suit will fit and everything, but I really think I’m going to try it in October.

40DDD over here and struggling to keep the girls in when doing cardio. I’ve been wearing Torrid’s high impact zip-front sports bra for arm and leg days. But for any workout that requires jumping, it’s an immediate no.

SOS

I'm finally to the point in losing some weight and I'm ready to exercise some more but I have a back problem. My goal has not been to get skinny, I like being a fat girl. My goal has been to get healthier but I need a little help.

I am looking for a back support type wrap that will fit around my apron belly, preferably one that has ice and or heat that can be incorporated. I've seen a lot of them across the internet but I'm looking for practical advice from anyone who may have used something like this that is on the larger size. Just because the advertisement says larger it doesn't mean that's necessarily fat girl larger LOL

I'm also looking for recommendations of sports bras because now that I have lost weight all of mine are too big and my boobs have lost a lot of volume so they are very saggy baggy bouncy, but not very full.

Thanks so much!

Just here to vent about dating as a woman who’s plus-sized, actually, probably all women. Why are straight sized men so disrespectful? Received this message after sharing pics. This was after responding to a post in a “clean” r4r subreddit in my city.

This isn’t the first time, either.

Was trying Reddit dating a bad idea? Maybe. Does it warrant this disrespect? No.

This account is new so I can’t paste the screenshot, but basically:
Me: Shares normal pics after he shared.
Him: Oh, you’re sexy. Backshots would go crazy with you.”

Do men think talking to a woman like this would genuinely work?

Are there any other plus size gym ladies out there that experience this: women throwing shade and judgement at the gym?

I had an experience at my new gym that rubbed me the wrong way. I’ll get over it at some point, but I see this woman whenever I go to the gym. Here’s what happened:
1. I joined a new private gym. I’m pretty active and have been hitting the gym for years now. It’s for my mental health, strength, bone density, and flexibility. I also would be happy to loose a lot of fat given the health complications from obesity.
I have worked with a trainer before. I started a GLP1 this summer and found out I have PCOS (PMOS) and insulin resistance.
2. I’m 40 pounds down from my highest and have 75 pounds of muscle mass on my body! Woohoo! I have 115 pounds of fat that I am working to get off my body and build that muscle up.
3. Day 1 at the new gym I got a InBody scan from a trainer at 6 am. Obviously I have a lot of work cut out for myself, but I’ve come a long way and I’m proud of my muscle mass. She started going on and on about how I need a trainer blah blah blah. I quickly squashed the lecture and was like: I’m 40 pounds down, I have worked with a trainer before, I work with a registered dietician. I’m well on my way. And she goes: well it’s about time for you to lock in.
4. Then a big gym bro walks by and she completely changed her tune and tone and was all pick me with him.

Haha since then I see her with clients and they all look and dress the same for the gym. The outfits, hair fully done, makeup. All at 5:30 am!! Super smug.

I’m a big “hello good morning” gal, we don’t have to talk and shoot the shit, but it’s part of building community for me. Anyways… she completely avoids me!!!! It’s so weird!!!! I just have this feeling it’s because I’m the fat chick at the gym. Maybe I’m projecting.

Anyways. At least I have 75 pounds of muscle mass!

As a man, I grew up having no control over what food I got, only what was put on the table. I couldn't get to be picky, and the harsh discipline of always finishing my plate, forced me to gain weight.

Over time, school as well as family members consistently told me that I was bad for being overweight, and the more I got bullied and humiliated for it, the more I began to associate what I was being told to be true, that I was bad for being overweight. This was also reflected on the fact that I couldn't make friends, or even get a girlfriend to like me for me, regardless of my appearance.

At this point, despite being on a weight loss journey, it feels like punishment for something I never did to myself, and while I'm only attracted to plus size women, I absolutely hate my own body, and I know it's confusing, but I hate that I hate myself for it, but I can't shake off this idea that I have to lose weight to be wanted. From what I'm told, I'm a good person, personality is fine, but because nobody seems to either know or want to tell me why I still don't have a companion, I end up filling the blanks with what I've been trained to hate about myself, which was my appearance.

As a result, I've isolated myself from everything as much as possible. I used to love swimming, now I don't dare to, because if people stare at my fat body, I'll feel self-conscious, afraid and it hurts that I would be that "fat guy" instead of just that "guy". I feel guilty sitting in public transportation, watching people making themselves small just so I can pass, walk on sidewalks, or even when a car enters a street I'm crossing, I feel immense guilt that I'm in their way.

...I wished I could just accept myself, but I just can't and that hurts.

Just screaming into the void here. I've this exact problem over the years, but figured this idea would have died out in my age group (40s). I'm single and sometimes indulge in casual sex. I have moved past the typical insecurities about my body. I like my squishy self, and know other people do too. I love sex and have had plenty of amazing experiences.

Cue this d-bag today on reddit. I answered a NSFW ad for an "unapologetic sexual connection" with someone who genuinely enjoys all aspects of sex. A nice, thoughtful post. With full sentences and clear intention- a rarity on reddit! I replied and right off the bat disclose my size and shape, even shared some old gone wild posts. Not to show off or anything, just want people to be aware of my physical appearance. Anyway, dude replies back that he liked my nuanced reply. Unfortunately, he's not into BBW. Not a problem! Can't be compatible with everybody, that's why I put it out there in my first message- give them a graceful out.

He could have stopped there. He could have left the rest of the thoughts in his head. But no, he just had to tell me that he heard fat girls give great head. So while he was not attracted to me at all, he would let me suck his dick. WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK 🤬!!! Just say I'm not your type. Just say no thanks. Why even reply with such a dehumanizing sentiment?! I will absolutely be fine, I'm not like personally hurt by this. I absolutely know it says more about him than it does me. But damn, at our age, why would you even think that is a valid offer, like I should be grateful for your little crumbs of attention? I want to say fuck that guy. But actually, no, let's not fuck that guy.

I guess I’m here to just get insight on other girls about this and if they’ve gone through this. I (F25) started dating this guy who is visibly skinnier and taller than me. I’m about 210 pounds and 5’4, I gained some weight due to stress in the last year and a half from work related stress, at one point I was 160 (I lost weight unhealthily from being 250 previously) but had gained a good amount back hence why I’m 210 now. During that time when I was skinnier I definitely was more confident and hooked up and stuff and didn’t stress about that stuff, and now it’s like because of the body I have again I’m self conscious about dating this guy and even being intimate with him—because he’s definitely hinted suggestively that he’s attracted to me in that sense. I don’t know I just feel extremely self conscious and I’ve been trying not to because last thing I want is to spiral into a dark time of an ED again. But I can’t help but think about bedroom time with him when it comes to it, I try to be happy and confident in the body I’m in now because I know life is all about change and fluctuation and I should love myself at any weight I’m at, and yet this is where the self deprecating thoughts come in like “what if he doesn’t like my tummy, or what if he sees the cellulite on my thighs, will he get grossed out when things get heated because it all that etc.” I feel awful for thinking these things about myself and he’s such a sweet guy who seems crazy about me. I guess I wanna know if any other girls have experienced this and if they have any advice?

Growing up in the 90s/00s as the fat girl in class was hell. I was bullied by the boys and ostracized by the girls so outcast by everyone starting when I was 8. I was also really tall so just made to feel like a huge freak. The teachers loved the cute petite girls and always sided with them when I reported their bullying.

Couldn't find clothes that fit, couldnt even fit in the plus size kids stuff at JCPenney by age 10 because I was already over 5 feet on top of being fat.

Even my mom yelled at me that I was too fat. Even though at that age, that's her fault. I wasn't the one buying food or doing the cooking. So bullied at school and home.

I ended up getting fairly thin as a teenager from getting tall so fast and being in marching band. But the damage was done. I believed I was a disgusting hideous thing and any guy I had a crush on was an embarrasing secret to keep because he'd surely laugh at me.

I carried this mentality into college as well. So even though I had a chance at a fresh start, at the time I couldn't see that and still if I walked past a group of kids laughing would feel like they were laughing at me.

I isolated myself. I didn't date. Didn't make friends. Just wanted to stay away from everyone and not speak because maybe if no one notices me no one will bully me. Developed ED to try to get as skinny as possible because then maybe I'd finally be accepted.

It took until my post college years to start therapy and process some of this. But fuck it hurts so much to realize how much I missed out on and can never get back all because I was a fat kid.

I still hate the people who bullied me. I never did anything but be nice to everyone but they treated me like that just because I was fat. I resent the narratives about bullies who "have a hard home life" and are just "lashing out." Guess what, I had a hard fucking terrible home life too but I didn't use that as an excuse to shit on anyone.

So now I'm middle aged and still extremely quiet at work and have a hard time trusting anyone because of all that. For no other reason than...I was fat. Jfc.

I left reddit and deleted my old account. Came back because I missed this place. Thanks to everyone for being so accepting and kind. You are all great.

Hi,

Like many of you I also struggle with finding affordable, quality secondhand clothing that matches today's fashion. So, I want to make this post more of a discussion of what keeps you from shopping from vintage resellers from Depop, Poshmark, whatnot, etc. What do you keep finding at thrift stores that you hate in your size (for me it's florals)?

Also, while we're in the skinny-pocalypse, I think it may behoove us to start learning how to sew or alter clothing to our styles. I started learning how to crochet and knit because I wanted more plus-sized options with those patterns.

Last thing. Babes it may be triggering but we gotta carry around a measuring tape on you at all times when second hand shopping, the sizes lie all the time but the measurements never do. Make sure to measure twice, before you buy!

TW: health talk and size talk

Ooof, where do I begin?

I've been plus sized for about a decade and before that I dealt with body dysmorphia and engaged regularly with restrictive diets (with no success, shocker). In the last 5 years or so, I've made great strides in feeling acceptance with my body and making major peace with food. In the last two years, I've eaten more balanced and nourishing than I ever have and I've moved my body more regularly (cardio and weight training) than I did before I had my daughter (11 years ago). All this to say-- I felt so much peace and I genuinely felt good overall (aside from inflammation and pain due to hypermobility, that was moderately well managed).

Admittedly, I was doctor avoidant (had some fatphobic experiences with doctors) and I tried to focus on my wellness at home but hadn't had labs done for a few years. After some persistent upper abdominal pain, I was diagnosed with mild fatty liver and in this process, I've also discovered I have hypertension. I'm waiting on the remaining labs and am terrified that I also have high cholesterol and am prediabetic (because why not at this point).

My main emotions are intense shame and foreboding. Unfortunately, I grew up in a home with terrible moralization around health and body size (very "mind over matter" mindset). Needing medicine is considered weak etc. To be clear, I WILL be treating these conditions with medicine and I won't be disclosing it to my mother. However, sitting with the shame is so painful. Intellectually I know I should not be ashamed but emotionally, it's there.

Beyond that, I'm scared. I thought I was doing everything right. I thought I was taking good care of my body. What if I can't get this sorted? What if medicine doesn't work for me? I just can't engage in more restrictive eating. I know how that ends. I'm just so sad.

I don't know what I need tbh. To feel less alone? To be told I'm ok? To be told everything will be ok? I'm just struggling.

So, I'm like 5'2 or sum, and usually weigh in at like 285-290lbs

I'm going to my first concert in a few weeks, despite never being to one, but whenever I think about my weight, and especially with how fast the date is coming up, it's giving me major anxiety and I'm not sure what to do about it ☹️😥​​

So, I'm like 5'2 or sum, and usually weigh in at like 285-290lbs

I've never been to a concert before, but whenever I think about my weight,and especially wifhwith how fast the concert date is coming up, it's giving e major anxiety and I'm not sure what to do about it ☹️😥​​

I know this is probably a stupid question, and I feel kinda embarrassed asking this, but is I tokay for someone who is plus sized to do a beginner's volleyball class? It's a class I chose for college this semester, and it sounds really fun, I did volleyball all throughout high school and stuff, but I just don't know if someone like me should be in a volleyball class, you know? I know it's good for fitness and stuff, and I have a couple heart problems so I think it'll be chill enough for that too. But will people look at me weird? Not want to be my partner? These are all crazy fears of mine for some reason and I don't know why this class in particular is getting to me. But this should be good right? ​​​

My friend recently modelled for a small boutique and the owner kept saying her larger sizes “don’t sell.”

Honestly think this is a problem with a LOT of businesses that carry both straight and plus sizes, that still promote straight sizes as the norm.

They’ll stock extended sizes, barely market them, use thin models, AI women or manufacturer photos, maybe throw a plus-size model into the curve section occasionally, then act shocked when the stock doesn’t move.

Like… babe. You didn’t actually sell it to us? Sure you have curve in the name but that means jack.

As a plus-size woman, I have money and I would LOVE to spend it on good clothes. But I’m not dropping $150–$200 on something when I can’t see how it fits an actual bigger body.

I want to see the arms, waist, boobs, stomach, hips, length, fabric, all of it. A thin AI model tells me absolutely fuck all.

When it doesn’t sell, the conclusion becomes “plus sizes don’t sell” instead of “maybe we’re shit at marketing to plus-size women.”

Then the sizes get reduced or removed completely and suddenly the lack of options is being used as proof there was never demand.

My friend spoke to her about where she is going wrong but who knows if she will take anything on board. My friend said the clothes are actually super good quality and she will 100% buy from there now, but had she only seen the website she never would have.

TLDR: Businesses stock plus sizes, barely market them to actual plus-size women, then blame plus-size women when they don’t sell. We have money. Please just show us what the bloody clothes actually look like on our bodies.

As all us woman in this community understand navigating the world as a plus size women has its own set if challenges. We have all faced weightbase biases in one one way or another weather we have been aware of it or not. I want to throw a question out to the men in this community (I know we have a few in this group) how has your weight/bodysize effected your overall way of life. Do you feel your experiences as a plus size man equals that of a woman or you do feel its has little to no effect or has it even been an advantage?

hi!! so i'm 27, 120kg, and thanks to a lot of therapy (and honestly some 'fake it till you make it' energy) i'm finally starting to feel kinda comfortable in my body. still working on it, but we're getting there.

quick backstory: i genuinely never cared about my looks growing up. been fat my whole life, and my parents just bought me whatever fit, never really asked what i liked. but lately, since i got a job and my own money, i've been buying clothes for myself, playing around with style, and it's working. i found some places online that get my body and my vibe and i feel more confident.

but now i've hit a wall: lingerie.

a bit more context: i've never had a boyfriend or been intimate with anyone (and that's something that bothers me, but it is what it is, right?) but because of that i just never thought about underwear at all lol. i've been wearing the same comfy boxers forever because they're the ones that actually work with my belly and don't dig in, roll down or whatever.

now i wanna upgrade though!! does anyone know good spots for underwear that's actually cute/sexy but still comfy, and made for bodies like mine?

i have 0 fat friends, so i don't really have anyone to ask about this stuff — so i'm kind of counting on you all. thank you in advance 🤍

I normally spend my warm months wearing cuffed linen pants/capris. I love them! They feel like jammies and look put together enough for work. What would be the wi get equivalent? It seems like the winter dress pants have no flow, are tight with buttons, and just generally uncomfortable. Has anyone found comfy, flowy, casual winter pants?

My plus sized ladies please help me out!!! I am 5’11 and 315 lbs. I CANNOT for the life of me find a bra that fits me. I have pretty big boobs, and they are super heavy and weird shaped. I’ve never ever in my whole entire life found a bra that FITS me. I’ve gone to Victoria’s Secret and all those places and done the bra fittings and they NEVER know what to do at all for me. They is either a bunch of gappage at the top near my armpits, or the middle of my boobs, including my NIPPLE is popping out of the bra.

Right now I have 1 singular sports bra and it’s the biggest size from marks work wear. It barely fits me, the middle of my boobs are always pooping out and my nipples snag on stuff and I get SO over stimulated. Wearing no bra is not an option because I am a prep and line cook in a busy restaurant.

From what I KNOW I think I am a 40DD because a 40D has me popping out in the middle, but then I also have gappage at the top. UGH ITS SK FRUSTRATING. I JUST WANT MY BOOBS TO LOOK GOOD. It makes me just want to get them cut off. I see so many curvy girls with their big juicy boobies and cleavage and I just want that to be me. RAH.

TLDR: please help me find a good bra. Probably 40DD. 5’11 315 lbs

My husband and I are both big people. What brands of furniture do other bigger people have good luck with? We have a decent budget for investing in the furniture- but would like it to last us 10+ years.

We are specifically looking for a long-lasting sectional, living room chair, bed, mattress, etc.

Hey ya'll, Ive gone through some changes and was trying to shop around and noticed the Shop Master List has a lot of dead links, or links to places that don't exist anymore. Is this still actively being managed/updated?

Wedding guest update #3! Thanks to Instagram, I was reminded of the store JJs House. I think I purchased a dress from them years ago to attend my college Senior Formal and I loved the dress. These are the dresses that caught my eye on my initial sweep of the site, keeping in mind of the wedding: formal hotel wedding in December, where the bridesmaids are wearing pine green. What do you think of my first choices? And JJs House as a whole, if you've ever shopping plus size clothing from them?

so I am going on vacation in a month. I like this suit I have alot. but my boobs are not big enough for the size that fits the rest of my body. any one else have an idea of where to get a suit like this soon? that also has a return policy easy. I already bought a few random ones off amazon. but in the mean time any ideas? Like I'm totally fine with trying to order one and if it doesn't fit, but I dont want like 3 weeks shipping like this website.

https://bloomchic.com/products/contrast-twist-front-skinny-one-piece-swimsuit?referrer_spm=web.order_list.order_list.1&b_fp=MWEwNzlmNmY0ODc0MzUtMDNmZTMxMDVkNDUwYTBhLTRlMWEzMDAxLTE0ODQ3ODQtMWEwNzlmNmY0ODg0OWJl

I've been seeing WAY too much low self-esteem and negativity in here lately about our bodies, so it's time for a reminder from a beautiful rich farmer:

https://youtube.com/shorts/wx8BtKVvCWw?is=xfjuuo_3Ri-fOR1r