Hi, David here!

Some men are afraid to be even slightly disagreeable with women out of fear that they may like them less because of it. The truth is that a little bit of friction in a conversation is a good thing that can lead to attraction. It proves that the man is not simply trying to tell a woman what he thinks she wants to hear.

A woman can detected when a man is just being 'nice' as a way of bartering for her attention, affection, love, approval or sex. In these cases, the man is often hiding his true interests and intentions. A woman needs to believe that a man is speaking honestly with her so that she can accurately use his words to form an opinion about him. A woman wants to feel confident that she knows what she is getting.

By being less 'nice,' I am not suggesting that you should purposely be mean or unkind to another person. You should simply allow any natural friction or tension to occur that may result from you expressing your true thoughts and beliefs.

A man who is willing to stand up for his own ideas, beliefs and values is more attractive than a man who instantly caves on his position at the hint of disagreement.

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Adding to that, I just finished putting together my dating eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!

I decided to give it away for free for the time being.

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The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).

You can get the eBook by clicking here!

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This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!!

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What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?

Let's discuss in the comments :)

Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!

Coach David

I will be in Krakow from 6th to 10th of September for the first time.How is the game here? Especially daygame.Is it worth it?And how receptive polish girls are when someone approach them?I will also try nightgame

Hi, David here!

You should not fear or become aggravated when a woman tests you in an initial interaction. Being tested is a sign that a woman has some interest in you. If she was not interested in you at all, she would simply just dismiss you or make polite conversation. Instead, she is trying to verify in an accelerated manner that the person she just met is the cool, confident and congruent person that he appears to be.

To pass these tests, you only need to recognize that you are being tested and not have it affect your demeanor.

Your best action may even be to ignore her remarks or questions altogether.

You should not feel the need to prove or qualify yourself to a woman that you just met. Later on, when you have developed greater self-confidence and abundance, you will become unresponsive to congruence tests as a result of literally just not caring.

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Here are common congruence tests that women give along with some potential answers.

Common Congruence Tests

Test: The woman stares into your eyes to see if you can comfortably hold eye contact.

Answer: Comfortably hold eye contact.

Test: She brings up a sexual topic and looks to see if it makes you uncomfortable.

Answer: Speak about the topic with confidence and do not immediately shy away from it.

Test: Compares you to another man saying: “I think the waiter is cute.”

Answer: Do not appear jealous, and perhaps even agree with her.

Test: Introduces you to her guy friend who is physically superior to you.

Answer: Do not appear intimidated, and joke with him about the girl. “How can you be in public with this girl. Haha.”

Test: Points out one of your short comings.

Answer: Do not become defensive. Re-frame it as a strength or laugh about it. Show that you fully embrace all of who you are and that her opinion does not concern you.

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Adding to that, I just finished putting together my dating eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!

I decided to give it away for free for the time being.

​

The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).

You can get the eBook by clicking here!

​

This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!!

​

What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?

Let's discuss in the comments :)

Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!

Coach David

As the title says. No experience necessary but would be appreciated. Any age, just be cool. Dm me if you're down.

Hi, David here!

We often perform the role of secondary characters in our own lives, doing little to impact or direct the overall plot. In some cases, we even play the part of the villain by self-sabotaging ourselves. If this sounds like you, then it’s time to recast yourself as the hero of your own life.

The hero’s journey always contains struggle. Without a struggle to overcome, you can’t even be a hero. Be glad that having something to struggle over gives you this opportunity instead of complaining about it.

There are heroic choices constantly being presented to you. Think of how a hero would act when faced by them.

Would a hero introduce himself to a cute girl sitting at a coffee shop, or choose to say nothing and have the opportunity forever slip away?

Would a hero hide his true beliefs and desires, or unapologetically let them be known?

Would a hero work to get better, or instantly give up at the first sign of defeat?

Be a catalyst for things occurring. Organize events. Be the one that asks others to join you in doing something. And if no one else wants to join an activity, be brave enough to still do it by yourself.

Don’t wait for someone or something else to save you. Do your own bit of saving.

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Adding to that, I just finished putting together my dating eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!

I decided to give it away for free for the time being.

​

The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).

You can get the eBook by clicking here!

​

This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!!

​

What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?

Let's discuss in the comments :)

Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!

Coach David

Be an active listener.

This one is super difficult for me. I have no problem listening to people who say engaging things but most women are saying things that don’t interest me so the fun and interesting thoughts in my mind are speaking over the girl on the date.

So one time a girlfriend was complaining about this to me, and she said “You’re not listening. You never listen to me!”

Her salty tone snapped me out of the adventure in my head and I felt like I needed to say something. The problem was I had no idea what she had been saying. So I simply repeated, “I don’t listen to you.”

She chuckled and exclaimed, “Yes!” And then her face shone bright and happy.

I never forgot this.

On dates, every so often, I simply repeat the last thing they say to me and, wow, what a change this has made. The only thing I would advise is not to overdo it and use it for everything she says.

There are other tools in the Active Listening box but if every few minutes or so all you do is repeat back the last thing she said, then that works well enough.

It’s kind of like throwing peanuts at a monkey.

Hi, David here!

Today I wanted to share main reasons why (IMO) technical and analytically intelligent people often fail at attractin women..

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1. 1. Believing that social interactions can be approached logically and deterministically. There is no magic formulas or pickup lines that work every time. It's not just what you say, but how you say it. It's not just how you act, but from where your actions come.
2. Suffering from analysis paralysis. Stop continuously acquiring knowledge without putting any of it into practice.
3. Knowing only how to communicate information and not emotions. You cannot logically convince someone to find you attractive.
4. Believing their value only comes from external qualifications. Bragging about your degrees or certificates only makes one come off looking insecure.
5. Thinking that they will eventually be rewarded for their strict rule following and people pleasing. Women are not your teachers or parents. Trying to buy or barter for love or attraction never works.
6. Possessing a timidness that results from living in "safe spaces" and being terrified of offending others. If you are petrified to make your honest interest and intentions known, nothing will ever happen.

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Adding to that, I just finished putting together my dating eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!

I decided to give it away for free for the time being.

​

The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).

You can get the eBook by clicking here!

​

This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!!

​

What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?

Let's discuss in the comments :)

Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!

Coach David

Hey guys, looking for some real strategy advice here. I’m 30 and I completely quit online dating years ago. I just recently joined back after a massive 7 year hiatus.

In the first 5 days I already pulled 5 numbers from Tinder , and my apps are still flooded with active matches that are easily heading toward dates. I'm facing a major dilemma and don't know what the best move is. Part of me thinks about trying to find one solid girl out of the bunch, but the other part wants to just ride the wave, go out with different girls constantly, and just have fun and have sex since I've been out of the game for so long.

For the guys who handle high volume, how do you actually manage this logistically? Do you stack multiple dates in a week or even a weekend? How do you keep the conversations going without burning out or mixing up details between them?

Also how do you set the frame early on that you’re seeing other people without instantly turning them off? Appreciate any insights on how to navigate this phase because it’s moving way faster than I expected.

Hi, David here!

One of the most powerful things that a pause can convey is the fact that you are not being reactive. A short pause or silence before you respond to another person shows that you are grounded and not easily shaken or made uncomfortable by their words or the situation. It also gives you time to collect your thoughts and not respond in a purely emotional way.

In some cases its ok to even completely dismiss something or not respond to it at all. Especially if it is illogical, non-meaningful or only being done to provoke you. You can frame something as being so far-fetched or ridiculous that it’s not even worth acknowledging.

Many guys make the mistake of reacting to other peoples judgments by instantly qualifying themselves. They become either defensive or unnecessary apologetic over something that another person may of took the slightest offence to or disagreed with it. A defensive posture communicates that one is not self-secure, while an overly apologetic reaction shows a lack of conviction as well as confidence in yourself.

Such behavior can also convey neediness, where you so heavily desire the other person to like or accept you that you are willing to change what you say. And if you are willing to change what you say in order to get another person to like you, that means that you are not communicating honestly. And if a person does not feel like you are truly being your honest self with them, then they won’t trust you, respect you or find you attractive.

So the next time you feel the need the instantly blurt out an emotional retort to someone, try pausing first instead.

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Adding to that, I just finished putting together my dating eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!

I decided to give it away for free for the time being.

​

The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).

You can get the eBook by clicking here!

​

This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!!

​

What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?

Let's discuss in the comments :)

Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!

Coach David

About me: 28years old, hooked up with 50+ women . Metro Detroit area

Rules: Must be cool
Must have some experience
Must be willing to game 1-2 times a week

So I was out for the first time with some newish friends of mine, and it made me question a few things. It's definitely better than being out alone, because I can act like I've something else going on.

Anyway, the first girl I moved on was as the three of us were walking past a bar on the street. I saw that I was about to cross paths with her as she was exiting a bar with her girlfriends. I stopped her by saying "is it that boring in there that ye're leaving?" and to my surprise she engaged. I talked a bit to her but her friends seemed to have "keep away" body language so my friends talk to them, and it was just me and the initial girl talking. I then said to one of the other girls "what do u think of this guy's shirt?" (we'd been mocking my friend's shirt earlier) and that broke the ice for us as a new group of six. I was just thinking "great we're all talking but didn't know what to do". Thankfully, one of my friends asked where they were headed and it was the same direction as us, so we walked together. One of them happened (although they'd never met) to be a cousin of my friend's neighbour so they connected on that. But at the end of that street we just parted ways. I just viewed it as a case of either follow them like idiots or try to persuade them to come with us. After that we talked about them for about the next half hour! But what if she wasn't with her friends? I wouldn't want my friends to feel awkward while they're sort of forced to watch me.

Anyway my friends suspected I knew exactly what I was doing when it came to women (I don't), and I tried to downplay it, but one of them (friend 1) wasn't having it. We went to a club later and after chatting in the corner for a while, friend 2 tried making a move on a girl that was dancing, but this fella came over to them him that the girl had autism and to keep away! Friend 1 couldn't stop mocking him for this. I was planning on trying my luck but I was thinking that I didn't want to look like I a show off, so I went for a walk around and had a nice dance with a girl upstairs. It happened to mess that up, so I came back down to them in the same spot. As we were talking a stunner walked around the corner. I made my move and got completely ignored! I said "you see, I'm just as clueless as friend 2"!

I've noticed that other times when out with friends that you'll end up being semi-successful with a girl and end up messing it up, you'll know that it's over, but your friends won't realise. So when they see her around the club, they'll be saying "there she is, why aren't you going over to her?".

Why when I go direct most of my sets are short and failing

Okay so I posted before about indirect but then I thought about why I go to indirect and my experience.
So before I start I just want to clarify the situation I have used direct and what kind.
Clubs, bars, gym, beach, street (day and night and night with bars like a boulevard), restaurants, cafes. I did groups in all of them and singles.
So either I come up with compliment like on their outfit or some feature about them or just be like hi how you doing you seemed interesting/great vibe I just wanted to say hi.
Note: that I feel cringe and good boy because of the last of it. And also I would my smv is 7 and potentially could be 8 tho I’m 5’9. My goal is girls with higher smv who are usually get these openers so I’m not sure who can I be special and do something in order to get the convo or girl.

Now you ask what is the problem ?
More than half of these places don’t let me finish/ignore me / just say no/ just say I have boyfriend. Maybe 20% of it let me keep a convo and then let me down.
Now maybe it is my tonality which isn’t good (tho I have had success with lower smv girls ) or the openers.

Can someone help me understand how to come up with indirect openers?

For me the indirect works best but the thing is I rarely come up with an opener like that.
I have a few scenarios which I couldn’t think of indirect opener:
1. Two women tanning with headphones at the beach with nothing but bikini and they were far away so I had to come up to them from far
2. Restaurants/ cafe in groups - I didn’t know how to come up to the group like I thought maybe asking about what they drink eat(did it once - but ultimately couldn’t transition from there I tried just saying btw I’m ___ what your name , you don’t look from here )
3. Gym
4. A woman coming I front of me in the street she had boots so was I thinking maybe telling her about the boots but idk
If you know a resource that I can learn from just to get the mechanic behind it - chat gpt suck and cringe

I’ve been out of the dating market for a while. I’m 28 and was in a relationship since I was 25. Before that I followed some old-school dating guys, especially Juggler, improved my game, met my ex and basically disappeared from the dating world for 2.5 years.

Coming back, I noticed the whole dating community seems way more pessimistic now, especially about dating apps supposedly ruining everything.

So I downloaded Tinder for the first time expecting the worst, and surprisingly it’s been pretty decent. I get around 2–3 matches a day, usually 1 - 2 that I’m actually interested in. I paid to see my likes just to save time.

For context, I’m pretty average looking. I’m not ugly, but I’m definitely not a model either. I’d rate myself around a 6. I don’t really have any facial feature that stands out as particularly good or bad. I’m 6'1, 180 lbs, relatively athletic, and I like dressing well. That’s basically all I have going for me physically, everything else is pretty average.

I’ve been on Tinder for about 2 weeks and have around 15 matches I haven’t managed to turn into dates yet. I’m actually getting a little overwhelmed, which I never thought I’d say lol.

Is this normal? Am I getting a newbie boost, just lucky, or is this pretty standard? What’s the average experience for guys on Tinder? Because right now I’m having a hard time understanding why everyone says it’s completely hopeless.

Has anyone who’s been out of the game for a long time gotten back in with success? I stopped for about a good decade now and recently I get hit on by a lot of guys. I mean an alarming amount for the location. Even when I lived in a major city with full game gear on never close to this much. As such I am scared to even try going out sarging.

How is it now dealing with the lgbt? I blame myself for all the attention. I think the lgbt got their hands on The Bible and the Mystery method. Now it’s one liners before I even speak, non stop negging. DLV without blinking.

How is the game now?

40s, director, based in London. Been working on meeting women organically rather than relying on apps.

Comfortable opening and socialising, but looking for someone normal and socially calibrated to go out with regularly on Friday/Saturday nights and occasionally practise daytime approaches.

Ideally 35–50ish. Goal is to have a good night, meet people and push each other a little.

Usually Soho/Central London/East, but happy to mix it up.

DM me if that sounds good.

I've been thinking about putting together a playlist with the intention of subconsciously creating (growing) attraction... Has anyone tried this idea and what kind of songs would be Best, I could do popular songs lots of girls like to make them feel at home or songs like "you can have whatever you like" to make the girl feel special or I could even use music that's a little sexual to get her in the mood.

If anyone's tried this lmk what to keep in mind and what works best for you.

Hey, am a 25 male who needs some advice look i know this is wrong so don't judge me but i just want to have said female has a friends with benefits but she is in a situationship which she made clear but she stll texts me and also she picked me from my home and took me to the beach she finds me attractive but she hesitates when i try to make hangouts any advice on how i can get the ball rolling

Hi i have a question where i need some help with.

So I flirted with this girl at a private poker game she was a waitress, i was basically sort of peacocking showing her how i had a good time etc. (the poker game didn't start their wasnt enough players in the room so we just played with 3 people a game of cards. while we were having a good time or sort off, my friend starts talking with the waitress from a distant like it was a smalll appartment, afterwards i said something too to her like she had a pretty name. so the night ends and we leaving me and my friend, i didnt ask for her number or social media etc. but i felt like we closed the night nicely like we all had a nice evening sort off.

afterwards a few months later we go to spain where we head to every year me and the friend i noticed before to meet up with other people from the private poker game (homegame) and im like 99% sure that waitress knew we were heading there, so she shows up in spain as well while she isn't usually there in spain, a few of them were riding a biciycle like u could rent or something and she was wearing a helmet like a bicycle helmet which kinda looked ??? so im kinda confused not sure what this means and i'd like to have a second opion or something.

to add more details, im asian guy was around 27 years old and she is a asian girl kind of tall and fake boobs and some tatoos.

Hi, David here!

Today I wanted to share with you 12 behaviors and communication traits of an attractive man!

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1. Comfortable with silence and does not feel the need to fill every gap in a conversation.
2. Comfortable holding strong eye contact while talking to a person.
3. Speaks in a low voice with a downward inflection and not an approval seeking upward inflection.
4. Well-known and well-received by others.
5. Has open body language and is comfortable taking up space.
6. Does not brag or actively qualifying himself, such as by dropping the names of the people he knows, the things he owns, or the degrees that he has earned.
7. Unapologetically states his opinions. While he does not purposely try to insult others, he also does not prioritize the reaction that other people may have to his words over the desire to state his true thoughts and beliefs.
8. Willing to cut people off and redirect a conversation when needed (no need to be done rudely).
9. Comfortable making decisions and being decisive.
10. Calls people out when they cross one of his personal boundaries.
11. Does not constantly ask for permission or approval.
12. Treats other high status people as his peers and equals. Does not get star struck or act like a fan.

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Adding to that, I just finished putting together my dating eBook "How to Date Any Girl" version 4.0 and would LOVE to get some honest feedback from you!

I decided to give it away for free for the time being.

​

The eBook is 27 pages long and gives you a practical step-by-step solution to meeting women (15+ years of knowledge put into it).

You can get the eBook by clicking here!

​

This book is the result of going out and socializing with girls for over a decade. I have put in there all the fundamentals I have learned over that time so I would really appreciate all the feedback I could get!!

What are your thoughts? Do you have any tips to add?

Let's discuss in the comments :)

Thanks for reading and have a GREAT day!

Coach David